people with imaginary Bf's/Gf's

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:23PM

HondaSami wrote: »

Do you know something about her he doesn't?

I know she wasn't exactly in a relationship with him before she left? (but they had been together once or twice) I also know she's working abroad and has no definite plans on returning any time soon.

amacca · 17-03-2013 06:23PM

ashers222 wrote: »

He seems to use it as an excuse a lot though. (like at events with a lot of +1s for why he's alone)

I hate feeling like I have to somehow excuse myself for being single at events like these sometimes

I'm soooo sorry normal people!.....Its my fault that anyone I ever loved just didn't feel the same way and I cant quite bring myself to just pick someone and pretend for the sake of not being the odd one out.

Just to break the monotony I have occasionally made up an imaginary OH that couldn't make it as i'm single more than I'm with someone - other times I haven't mentioned someone I was going out with as I just didn't care what people thought of me (or was trying to convince myself i didn't)

I often wonder if I'm the problem or this idea that everyone absolutely must be in a relationship all the time to be considered successful/normal the problem - it gets me down at times that I've not had much in the way of LTRs

Then I wonder how many people out there are faking it to conform, how many people out there essentially just picked what they could get and tried to make the best of it......given the large number of marriage breakups/problems etc I wonder If I'm actually the abnormal one here for not wanting to waste my time with people I feel only a mild liking for and then try and pretend my way into a LTR with them or are those that try to pretend to conform the ones behaving abnormally.

Then I wonder wtf is the point of it all.....then i think to myself if there is an afterlife and i get a chance to communicate with a higher power the one question I will want to ask is Why? fcuking why? what the fcuk was the point of that continuous disappointment?

Gongoozler · 17-03-2013 06:23PM

Why concern yourself with things like this op? unless you're jealous why get involved? Let him be.

BillyMitchel · 17-03-2013 06:24PM

foxinsox wrote: »

Only the other day I was.in work when a guy asked me to go for a drink with him..

I smile at people in my job, I try to help them, it's my job!

But he kept asking, I told him my husband wouldn't like it at all at all!

I don't even have a boyfriend, let alone a husband! So I imagined one up to save myself from the strange stalker like man.

I know the truth now!

Want to go for a drink?!

Fr_Dougal · 17-03-2013 06:24PM

ashers222 wrote: »

that's what I thought. But no..he's pretty sure he's in a relationship.

Maybe he just doesn't fancy you and by saying he has a g/f he figured he's letting you down gently.

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:26PM

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Maybe he just doesn't fancy you and by saying he has a g/f he figured he's letting you down gently.

maybe, but he knows I'm not interested in him either so that's a bit confusing.

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:28PM

amacca wrote: »

I hate feeling like I have to somehow excuse myself for being single at events like these sometimes

I'm soooo sorry normal people!.....Its my fault that anyone I ever loved just didn't feel the same way and I cant quite bring myself to just pick someone and pretend for the sake of not being the odd one out.

Just to break the monotony I have occasionally made up an imaginary OH that couldn't make it as i'm single more than I'm with someone - other times I haven't mentioned someone I was going out with as I just didn't care what people thought of me (or was trying to convince myself i didn't)

I often wonder if I'm the problem or this idea that everyone absolutely must be in a relationship all the time to be considered successful/normal the problem - it gets me down at times that I've not had much in the way of LTRs

Then I wonder how many people out there are faking it to conform, how many people out there essentially just picked what they could get and tried to make the best of it......given the large number of marriage breakups/problems etc I wonder If I'm actually the abnormal one here for not wanting to waste my time with people I feel only a mild liking for and then try and pretend my way into a LTR with them or are those that try to pretend to conform the ones behaving abnormally.

Then I wonder wtf is the point of it all.....then i think to myself if there is an afterlife and i get a chance to communicate with a higher power the one question I will want to ask is Why? fcuking why? what the fcuk was the point of that continuous disappointment?

this actually. All of it. (well most of it up until the communicating with the dead bit)

HondaSami · 17-03-2013 06:28PM

ashers222 wrote: »

I know she wasn't exactly in a relationship with him before she left? (but they had been together once or twice) I also know she's working abroad and has no definite plans on returning any time soon.

Fair enough but that does not stop them having a relationship. I'm not sure what your motive is in all this, are you concerned about him or laughing at him.

BillyMitchel · 17-03-2013 06:29PM

HondaSami wrote: »

Fair enough but that does not stop them having a relationship. I'm not sure what your motive is in all this, are you concerned about him or laughing at him.

Jealously?

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:31PM

HondaSami wrote: »

Fair enough but that does not stop them having a relationship. I'm not sure what your motive is in all this, are you concerned about him or laughing at him.

a bit of both really. But mostly because of what Amacca posted. concerned because he feels the need to fit in. I thought AH would have funnier forever alone stories though.

amacca · 17-03-2013 06:33PM

ashers222 wrote: »

this actually. All of it. (well most of it up until the communicating with the dead bit)

Ah in fairness and for the sake of accuracy I was imagining communicating as a dead person with some godlike higher power as opposed to communicating with the dead

Not much of an improvement I'll grant you though!

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:33PM

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Jealously?

far from it

I think it's sad that people need to go that far to conform with what society expects of you.

HondaSami · 17-03-2013 06:34PM

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Jealously?

That was my first thought but I felt the op needed a chance to explain herself.

ashers222 wrote: »

a bit of both really. But mostly because of what Amacca posted. concerned because he feels the need to fit in. I thought AH would have funnier forever alone stories though.

I'm not sure he is the problem, he seems to be handling the situation it's you who is having a problem with it.

AH's is never alone :P

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:37PM

HondaSami wrote: »

That was my first thought but I felt the op needed a chance to explain herself.

I'm not sure he is the problem, he seems to be handling the situation it's you who is having a problem with it.

AH's is never alone :P

by creating an imaginary girlfriend? OK.

amacca · 17-03-2013 06:38PM

ashers222 wrote: »

far from it I think it's sad that people need to go that far to conform with what society expects of you.

Indeed and society gives not one sh1t about what i expect of it and rarely if ever shows any sign of conforming to my expectations.

Gongoozler · 17-03-2013 06:39PM

ashers222 wrote: »

by creating an imaginary girlfriend? OK.

But how is she imaginary??

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:41PM

amacca wrote: »

Indeed and society gives not one sh1t about what i expect of it and rarely if ever shows any sign of conforming to my expectations.

I have the solution to all your problems. Marry yourself. I hear it pis$es off the minions in their masses and when you get the +1 invite you get two meals for the price of one. (at weddings anyway)

HondaSami · 17-03-2013 06:42PM

ashers222 wrote: »

by creating an imaginary girlfriend? OK.

It's only you who thinks she is imaginary tbf, you admitted she does exist, he did have a fling with her so how is she imaginary?
You don't think he is having a relationship with her but you don't know for sure do you?

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:45PM

HondaSami wrote: »

It's only you who thinks she is imaginary tbf, you admitted she does exist, he did have a fling with her so how is she imaginary?
You don't think he is having a relationship with her but you don't know for sure do you?

She is a real person but she is an imaginary GF. How do I know? Because I know the guy and that's enough for me.

(but yeah, if it fits I'm jealous of his imaginary gf, wish I had one

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GalwayGuy2 · 17-03-2013 06:45PM

"Eh, I've got with someone, don't be havin' a laugh...who? Well, you know, it was on holiday..."

Pretty sure we've all heard something like that when we were younger:P

foxinsox · 17-03-2013 06:45PM

FGR wrote: »

I was about to say fair play to the guy for asking you out foxinsox - but being that he isn't irish it's obviously commonplace in his own culture to ask people when not blinding drunk!

I just get the impression that a lady would think you're the creepiest thing going if you asked them out in a place other than the pub/club.

Eh, I didn't mention the fact that he stank of drink and didn't seem to be taking several polite and cheery no thanks. I was in work so I couldn't walk away from him.

I don't think it's creepy at all to be asked out in a place other than pubs/clubs.

herisson · 17-03-2013 06:46PM

There was a girl in my year in school and she made up a boyfriend. She was weird to begin with. As in she used to write letters to Harry Potter, as in the actual character with the address of Privet drive and all that and wear wigs in with her natural long hair exposed to make a statement.

When it came to the Debs she made up this boyfriend. Went on and on about him so we asked if she had a picture of him. She did on her phone. And it was a picture of a guy stepping out of a swimming pool. It was clear she just took the picture on her phone from a random picture on the internet. We knew then he was defiantly made up. But she went on and on about him going to the debs with her so she bought 2 tickets which were €110 in total. Then she just turned up alone to the debs. It was really sad to be honest.

Truman Burbank · 17-03-2013 06:47PM

ashers222 wrote: »

relationships with yourself are perfectly ok though.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bYKZQEEUbQg

Gongoozler · 17-03-2013 06:47PM

ashers222 wrote: »

(but yeah, if it fits I'm jealous of his imaginary gf, wish I had one )

So you're a girl and jealous of him having an imaginary girlfriend? Wow things must be tough for you.

orestes · 17-03-2013 06:50PM

ashers222 wrote: »

I thought AH would have funnier forever alone stories though.

Why do people have this idea that AH is full of people that like to point and laugh at others? Bigotry, political insanity, the desire to kill people who can't type properly, and casual discrimination, yeah, but when it comes to people as individuals I've always found it to be quite the opposite, taking the p1ss out of people who deserve it and with a pretty healthy disdain for bullies.

17-03-2013 06:51PM

He's in a LDR, I don't see the reason for starting a thread making fun of his relationship and calling it imaginary

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:51PM

Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

There was a girl in my year in school and she made up a boyfriend. She was weird to begin with. As in she used to write letters to Harry Potter, as in the actual character with the address of Privet drive and all that and wear wigs in with her natural long hair exposed to make a statement.

When it came to the Debs she made up this boyfriend. Went on and on about him so we asked if she had a picture of him. She did on her phone. And it was a picture of a guy stepping out of a swimming pool. It was clear she just took the picture on her phone from a random picture on the internet. We knew then he was defiantly made up. But she went on and on about him going to the debs with her so she bought 2 tickets which were €110 in total. Then she just turned up alone to the debs. It was really sad to be honest.

oh the dredded debs. I remember that well. I didn't want to go (I was unacceptingly gay and my best friend was very straight) My mother wanted me to go so I asked a guy in school and he laugheded at me

I decided there and then to not conform to the expectations society had of me and my best friend and I went out together that night instead

I'd rather be alone and aloof than with someone for the sake of it.

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:52PM

Gongoozler wrote: »

So you're a girl and jealous of him having an imaginary girlfriend? Wow things must be tough for you.

if the shoe fits and you like it.

ashers222 · 17-03-2013 06:52PM

orestes wrote: »

Why do people have this idea that AH is full of people that like to point and laugh at others? Bigotry, political insanity, the desire to kill people who can't type properly, and casual discrimination, yeah, but when it comes to people as individuals I've always found it to be quite the opposite, taking the p1ss out of people who deserve it and with a pretty healthy disdain for bullies.

because it is?

Praetorian Saighdiuir · 17-03-2013 06:53PM

ashers222 wrote: »

I decided there and then to not conform to the expectations society had of me

You seem to say this a lot.

people with imaginary Bf's/Gf's

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