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  • 12-07-2002 2:47pm
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    Registered Users Posts: 2,648 ✭✭✭


    Charter

    (For info regarding posting as Unregistered, please see below in this post and also posts #6 and #8 below in this thread)

    Right, well combining up a lot of the threads that have been stickied.
    Welcome to Personal Issues.
    Hello firstly let me extend a warm welcome to the Personal Issues forum. The post below will outline some basic guidelines on how to use the board.

    Any suggestions (sensible) are welcome.


    So here are a few guidelines.

    Reply to threads in a civil and well phrased manner, remember being a Personal Issues board the contents of some threads may be very close to people's hearts.

    Think carefully about what you're posting, remember it is the interweb after all and you may not be as anonymous as you think.

    Trolling will not be tolerated.

    Petty differences with other boards members will not be tolerated.

    Do not post links to Youtube, it is banned in this forum.


    - SheroN

    This forum is for Personal Issues of all sorts, it is *not* a medical forum and see the links bit for links to medical stuff online, but feel free to post up problems as people may have personal experience, but don't expect miracle cures.
    Only post on this forum if you have an actual problem, the more detail you give, the more accurate the advice will be.
    Polls are not allowed as they are useless to a personal issue.

    There is zero tolerance for muppetry here, and trolls etc. will not be treated lightly.
    Suggesting violence as a problem solver is just not on in this forum and will result in an instant banning.

    Any advice given should be mature, contructive and non-abusive. Opinions are welcome. Ridicule and nastiness are not.

    If you have a problem you're embarrased about, then feel free to use the "Guest" option to post. You can do this by logging out and then posting. Abuse of this will not be tolerated.
    Originally posted by Gordon:Anyone can post anonymously by logging out (if registered) and posting a reply. If you are not registered you may still post, your nickname would be seen as "Unregistered". Also, your name and IP address will not be shown to the general public. However, this cannot be abused, please. The owners/Administrators of boards.ie do have the powers to view any post's IP address but only as a last resort.

    Anonymity is sacred but trouble making is most definately not.
    What you say and what you do are all possessions of yours.

    If you are a regular user posting as unregistered you cannot edit your unregistered post. And the Mods on Personal Issues cannot guarantee to edit your post the next morning if you have any regrets about what you posted. As we cannot guarantee that you are the original poster.

    Therefore - please be careful about what you post as it may remain for all eternity

    If you login and see that some posts are missing from a thread and/or edited, this generally means the posts were:
    a) Abusive
    b) Trolling/Flaming
    c) Off-topic

    Trollers will be warned and banned (without warning if necessary). Check the recycle bin for the waffle that we remove.
    Any problems with the moderators then feel free to PM us or take it to the Help Desk or Feedback Forum, we do not want threads taken off topic.

    Originally posted by Beruthiel If you have been banned for x amount of time and we have neglected to un ban you due to us having lives/forgot/decided you should be banned for longer feel free to PM one of us

    DO NOT set up threads in this forum specifically so you can complain that your thread had been deleted/moved to recycle bin or edited – this will result in you being banned
    there was a reason we did this and if you have a problem then PM one of us and we will deal with it accordingly.

    You only need to start one thread.
    Starting numerous threads over a short period of time will be considered attention whoring and they will be closed.

    Dragging up old threads is a no no and we will close them.

    most of all, if you have nothing relevant to add to the topic, please refrain from posting anything at all.
    Off topic behaviour will result in a ban.


    *** WARNING: STUPIDITY IS A BANNABLE OFFENCE ***

    Text Speak is possibly the most annoying thing EVAR to try and read! It makes you sound 14, and as such, people are likely to view your post as some teenage angst post. Hence your use of txt spk may result in incorrect advice due to misunderstandings from illegibility (if the post is your first post of the thread), unintentionally annoying posters and causing lingual aggravation, and in the worst case scenario it can get your post binned. Continue to flaunt against this rule and txt spk can get you banned from PI.

    Any problems with people here? Feel free to use the "Report this post to moderators" option. If there is a general attitude from someone you've a problem with and it's not just a single post then PM/email a moderator with the details and we'll see what we can do.

    Thanks to all who I have paraphrased from the different threads to try and get something short and sweet!

    Any suggestions are welcome

    << Fio >>


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  • Registered Users Posts: 35,524 ✭✭✭✭Gordon


    This isn't a medical forum. Any medical problems really should be discussed with your GP.
    There are a wide range of supports and services that can help in a crisis, including:

    The local GP or family doctor.
    GP out-of-hours co-operative services
    Accident and emergency departments of general hospitals
    Health
    • STD tests - List of clinics available on http://www.hivireland.ie/home.html Free STD tests are available from the clinic at St James's Hospital, tel: 014162315/01-4162316 for more information.
    • Main Known Modes of HIV Transmission

      http://www.hivaidscare.com/hivtransmission.php?acode=na

    • Alcoholics anonymous - www.alcoholicsanonymous.ie
    • Bodywise - http://www.bodywhys.ie Phone:01 283 5126. For help on many subjects including Bulemia and anorexia.info@bodywhys.ie
      alex@bodywhys.ie (Support) Lo Call 1890 200 444
      (see website or call the office for Helpline opening hours)

    • Drugs first aid (boards.ie does not condone the use of illegal drugs but wishes to provide this link to improve knowledge on how to spot overdose/problems when one may be under the influence) http://www.urban75.com/Drugs/drugfirst.html
    • Giving up Cannabis http://www.edas.org.au/docs/cannabis.pdf[/b]
    • Also VHI medical advice online. Handy thing about the VHI site is, if you're a member, and have your member number (or whatever they like to call it there), you can also e-mail in queries to the "nurse", for general advice: www.vhihealthe.com or phone 1850 247724
    • Dublin Rape Crisis Centre http://www.drcc.ie/ Freephone 1800 788 888
      They deal with all forms of sexual assault and related issues, not just rape.
    • One in Four http://www.oneinfour.org/ [/b] 01 662 4070
      This group for survivors of sexual abuse is best known for their advocacy work, but also provide help and advice.

    • www.irishhealth.com - It's an independent medical site run by a number of Irish doctors. There are quite a few articles on health matters, the facility to ask a medical question and a weekly newsletter. (requires log-in)
    • The Diabetes Federation Of Ireland website at http://www.diabetes.ie. It will provide you with help, information etc. on diabetes.
    • Lose weight! or gain weight? http://www.ivillage.co.uk/dietandfitness/wtmngment/0,10276,,00.html gives good advice.
    • The Irish Council for Psychotherapy offers information on those wishing to know about Psychotherapy and using the services of a Psychotherapist. http://www.psychotherapy-ireland.com/
      Go here for a directory fo Psychotherapists around Ireland.
    • The Breast Cancer site is having trouble getting enough people to click on it daily to meet their quota of donating at least one free mammogram a day to an underprivileged woman. www.thebreastcancersite.com
      It takes less than a minute to go to their site and click on "donating a mammogram" for free (pink window in the middle). This doesn't cost you a thing. Their corporate sponsors/advertisers use the number of daily visits to donate mammogram in exchange for advertising.
    Think of the children
    Birth Control Adoption: Adopted and looking for a Birth Parent?
    General Info.
    • The Samaritans are a well trained group of volunteers available to talk to youabout any problems or life grievances you wish to talk about. www.samaritans.org or email jo@samaritans.org to get trained samaritan help via email. Alternatively dial 1850-609090 to speak in privacy and confidentiality. This is a link showing local samaritans in Ireland
      http://www.samaritans.org/talk_to_someone/find_my_local_branch/ireland.aspx

    • Oasis is a site set up by the eGovernment initiative to deal with a number of social issues ranging from divorce, adoption, noise regulations to consumer advice, employee rights and moving to Ireland. http://www.oasis.gov.ie/ Check it out, it’s a fount of knowledge.
    • The Citizens Information Database is an electronic database produced by Comhairle which covers all aspects of civil and social rights and entitlements in Ireland. It was developed as a common resource for all information providers in the independent and statutory sectors. http://www.cidb.ie
    • Focus Ireland deals with homelessness http://www.focusireland.ie/
      See also Threshold http://www.threshold.ie/ for advice and help concentrated on more general housing issues.
    • Don't know how to do something? anything at all? Well these people seem to know it all... http://www.tellmehowto.net
    Mental Health / Depression Help
    Depression help:
    • Grow
      http://www.grow.ie/
      If you would like information on GROW or the location of your nearest GROW group, please do not hesitate to email us (info@grow.ie) or contact our National Information Line (1890 474 474).
    • Pieta House
      http://www.pieta.ie/
      Pieta House is open 9.00 - 17.00 Mon - Fri. (01) 601 00 00

    Depression fora:
    Providing support to those bereaved by suicide.

    Console
    Helpline: 01-8574300 , 1800 201 890 www.console.ie info@console.ie

    Living Links
    Phone: 087-9693021 www.livinglinks.ie

    General support links to many groups:
    Listening services
    Stammering:
    Marriage & Relationship Counselling Services
    http://www.mrcs.ie/



    Domestic Abuse:

    womensaid.ie
    hse.ie
    National Network of Womens Refuge
    For Men



    Thanks sceptre, Victor, Rufus T Firefly, smccarrick, Saruman, koneko, Thaed, Ruu, Kali, dahamsta, Unreg123, Minesajackdaniels, Winters, qwertypheobia, Shewhomustbe... and Saint Something

    << Fio >> & SheroN & Gordon & Beruthiel


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,281 ✭✭✭DeadBankClerk


    A general pointer to all posters:

    I do not know if she fancies you.
    The only person that knows if she fancies you or not is her - ask her.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    http://www.ipu.ie/

    http://www.imd.ie

    these may be helpful links to information for a lot of support groups.


  • Registered Users Posts: 78,333 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    eircom Malicious Calls Bureau - 1800 689 689 or 1800 475 475 (handles all malicious calls to/from all providers)


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    due to the amount of muppetrous threads of late, we have decided to do some preemptive modding (if it’s good enough for George…)
    Anyway, if you are posting unregistered one of the mods will be having a look at it first to see if it’s a valid post or not. Please bare with us on this one and apologies in advance if it takes some time for one of us to have a look at it. We will of course make an extra effort to keep an eye on un reg posts as much as possible.


    please note

    there is no need to re post your thread under the assumption that it got lost somewhere, it didn’t – we just haven’t checked it yet

    Beruthiel & PI Mods


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 318 ✭✭qwertyphobia


    http://www.freedoms-shop.com/

    Was set up by one of the UK health authoritys to provide a wide range of different types of condoms and lubes at the cheapest possible price. They sell condoms in all different ammounts but you can get realy huge savings if you are buying in 50's or 100's

    If you are regularly having sex the expense of paying the over the odds prices that shops charge here for condoms can quickly become a problem. (They are also taxed in Ireland as luxuary goods buts thats a whole seperate argument)

    They also sell both extra large and narrower condoms which can be difficult to source in Ireland.

    :mad:, this could probably be posted on the "rip off Ireland" board as well

    xx
    r


  • Registered Users Posts: 35,524 ✭✭✭✭Gordon


    Also please note that even if you are registered with an account on boards.ie you may have to wait to be validated to post here. I will explain why and how you can stop this from happening forthwith toute suite etc etc

    If you have not logged in and you decide to go to a thread and reply to the thread you will be asked to log in. If you do this then your post will get put into "wait for validation" mode. Therefore to stop this you will have to post after you have logged in. Sorry, it may cause you hassle but otherwise you'll have to wait until it gets validated by us lowly mods.

    We are waiting for an admin solution to this but as we all know - admins are even lowlier than mods therefore they don't really do much around here but scrape up the cash from the bottom of the lift shafts. You know the deal.

    Anyway, please log in before you post and everyone will be happy. Unless you are posting because you are not happy which is normally the case on this board of personal issues. If this is the case, I am sorry, hopefully you will find an answer here. But after you log in remember.... oh of course, unless you are unregistered.

    !


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Typedef - you've become famous! :D

    for all those who need an explaination to the term Typedef

    Main Entry: typedef
    Function: intransitive verb
    Inflected Forms: typedeffed; typedef; typedef·fing

    Meaning: to engage in sexual relations with an individual out of malicious intent for a somehow related third party, and ensuring said third party finds out, resulting in their emotional anguish. Can be used in several contexts, see below.

    eg. "you ever cheat on me and I'll typedef you, I know your sisters up for it"
    "the missus is being a bitch, should I typedef her sister?"

    explanation brought to you by curtsey of Fitz


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,811 ✭✭✭✭billy the squid


    http://www.emigrantadvice.ie

    Handy link for returning Irish emigrants who are iin a vulnerable situation.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    Dublin Rape Crisis Centre http://www.drcc.ie/ Freephone 1800 788 888
    They deal with all forms of sexual assault and related issues, not just rape.

    One in Four http://www.oneinfour.org/ 01 662 4070
    This group for survivors of sexual abuse is best known for their advocacy work, but also provide help and advice.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 27,645 ✭✭✭✭nesf


    Just thought I'd pop up some of the links I've found good, as well as those I can see as being useful for people. Hopefully these might prove to be useful to the curious and those who suffer depression alike.

    http://www.theblackdog.net

    It's mentioned in the charter, but I thought I'd talk a bit about it here. Very good articles on depression, it focusses mostly on depression in Irish males, but is not restricted to that. It deals with a variety of issues that effect people who suffer from depression in Ireland, such as weight gain, how to help a friend/family member with depression and other useful and interesting articles.

    http://my.webmd.com/content/tools/1/quiz_depression.htm?z=3628_81000_0000_12_01

    This link is to a good depression screening test. If you are worried you might have depression, or are just curious this test might help you make that decision to go see your GP about the issue.

    http://depression.webmd.com

    A useful collection of articles and advise here, with good short pieces on advice for newly diagnosed people, depression in different age groups and some information for parents on children with depression.

    http://depressionfallout.com/

    A fantastic site for people who have someone close to them suffering from depression. It has some excellent articles on how depression effects relationships and the best means to support a loved one who has depression.

    http://depression.about.com/od/drugdatabases/

    Some useful links to drug databases and the like, allowing you to get more information on the drugs you have been prescribed. Some of the sites include alot of information on possible side effects and things to avoid when on the drugs, useful information to have imo.

    http://www.icpty.ie/

    The Irish Council for Psychotherapy Website. This should prove very useful for anyone who's thinking about going to therapy. It has good descriptions of the main approaches used so you can judge which would interest you before you attend and pay for therapy. It also has a full directory with addresses and contact numbers of psychotherapists in Ireland, which is very useful if you are looking to find a therapist in your area.

    http://www.maledepression.com

    Another site focussing on depression and mood disorders in men. This time its from an American stand point though. The articles on it are an interesting read.


    I hope the above links can be useful to people who have mentioned depression recently on this board. There is plenty information there for anyone who's interested in knowing more too :)


    I felt that this thread would more constructive than me deciding to rant about depression and the misconceptions about it in Ireland that I was planning on writing originally. ;) See I'm channeling my energy in a semi-constructive fashion.

    There are alot of other good sites out there, you can find links to them on most of the sites I recommended. I'm just too tired to go through all of them. Please add any good sites you've found to the list. I'm very interested in finding more information :) Oh and if you can't find the exact site you want from the above short list, remember google is your friend... ;)


  • Registered Users Posts: 78,333 ✭✭✭✭Victor




  • Registered Users Posts: 24,176 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    As a suggestion: can we include a ban on 'txt spk' into the charter?


  • Registered Users Posts: 35,524 ✭✭✭✭Gordon


    As a poster on PI I am not for such a proposal.

    As a mod on PI I am open to the possibility of such a happenstance but do not see it as being a problem for the community of the PI forum thus far*. However please feel free to embelish by way of links as to when and how such posts have been damaging to the forum and/or posters of PI.

    *whether or not my fellow mods agree or not is another matter.


  • Registered Users Posts: 78,333 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    Threads can and will be locked when they degrade into bickering, mass quoting, abuse and / or after "a certain time". Denigtating users, or their problems, being inappropriately judgemental, thread hogging, post tennis, using PI as a soap opera and demanding updates or other disruptive or non-constructive behaviours are not acceptable.

    Posters are requested to leave fonts at the default settings unless there is a specific reason to change, e.g. for emphasis. Changing font, font size, colour, boldness, etc. makes it difficult for some users to read posts.


  • Registered Users Posts: 35,524 ✭✭✭✭Gordon


    I've updated the handy links post. If anyone has any links they wish added please post them here. And if you think some links should be removed, let us know also.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    Listening service.

    http://www.niteline.org/ Aimed at secondary-level students. 1800 32 32 42

    http://www.niteline.tcd.ie/ Aimed at third-level students in UCD, RCSI and Trinity 1800 793 793


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    While PI is for the dicussion of Personal Issues,
    it is not for angsty blog style/soap opera type posting.
    Threads that turn into this will be moved to Afterhours or deleted.


  • Registered Users Posts: 35,524 ✭✭✭✭Gordon


    As some of you may know, there is a new forum Sex and Sexuality that is only available to subscribers and moderators. (to subscribe check this thread for details)

    As has always been the case with PI, this forum is not for freeflowing discussion of general sexual topics, just as it is not for any other topics that are not of one's Personal Issues. As always, topics of a sexual nature that are concerning ones personal well being are welcome on PI. By that I mean;

    A topic asking for advice on how to broach the subject of an*l sex with ones girlfriend would be welcome on PI.
    A topic looking for peoples experiences with an*l sex is a discussion, and hence would be better off in S&S.

    Please read the Sex and Sexuality forum charter (in particular section 9) to get an understanding of what defines the forum from the PI forum. Threads will be moved at the PI mod's discretion, however, due to the fact that unregistered posting is not possible on S&S forum, we will try to reserve the right of the Unregistered poster's access to PI. Unfortunately, however, if the topic is more of a discussion than PI can allow; the thread will be moved and unregistered users will not be able to access the thread.


  • Registered Users Posts: 33,519 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    Some updates.

    Irish Council for Psychotherapy
    It has been brought to my attention that the old link for the Irish Council for Psychotherapy doesn't work anymore, so here's a new one.

    Irish Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
    As taken from their website
    We provide a comprehensive telephone referral helpline to potential clients throughout Ireland. This service is for individuals, couples, children, teenagers, families, professionals, and organisations and involves providing the caller with the details of the counselling service that is provided by our Accredited Counsellors nearest to them.
    Irish Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

    The Psychological Society of Ireland
    Search for a registered psychologist that meets your needs, from amongst the database of Psychological Society of Ireland Registered Members
    Psychological Society of Ireland

    Self-Injury
    The following site contains lots of information on self-injury, but please remember that it is not a medical site, and people should always seek proper advice from a professional


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    http://www.edas.org.au/docs/cannabis.pdf

    Giving up using cannabis


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    Just browsing through this thread. As much as I hate 'txt' style posting, is it worth giving people flak for this? Not everyone has had the same level of education- on other boards I subscribe to there are people who post like this all the time. It annoys me, but I think it's unfair to make it part of a charter. It runs the risk of excluding people. For what it's worth, I'm a bit of an apostrophe nazi, but I keep my judgements to myself, because it just pi**es people off.
    There's a big difference between missing an apostrophe or having difficulty remembering when they are or aren't used and deliberately mkng tings mposble 2 read bcause u think ts k00l 2 do so.


  • Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Twice now I've seen 'dragging up old threads is a no-no' on this forum, and once a threat to ban someone if they do it again. Maybe include that rule in the charter? It's not obvious to me that one shouldn't do it: some might think it would be good to keep same issues on same thread. (No, I am not the dragger up).


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,891 ✭✭✭Stephen P


    For information and advice on Stuttering please see the following websites:

    http://www.stammeringireland.ie/
    http://www.hsenorthernarea.ie/news/article.php?id=70


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 53 ✭✭fifly


    Stammering/stuttering - The McGuire Programme


    www.mcguireprogramme.com

    www.stammering.ie


  • Registered Users Posts: 81,223 ✭✭✭✭biko




  • Registered Users Posts: 78,333 ✭✭✭✭Victor




  • Closed Accounts Posts: 92 ✭✭jellycopter


    Suicide support and awareness in Ireland

    Sosad (Save Our Sons And Daughters)


  • Registered Users Posts: 153 ✭✭hupyago


    This sites is run by my cousin, covers all topics relating to health and life/personal issues ,especially for youth
    http://www.spunout.ie


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  • Registered Users Posts: 4,882 ✭✭✭JuliusCaesar


    http://www.psychologicalselfhelp.org/

    has downloadable booklets.


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