What do men really want look for in a woman

someone who is easy going is by far the most important imo

SineadMarie wrote: »

A wise friend once told me let them miss you...they cant miss what they can have when they want!

Havent even gotten a vals day text from him i guess its blowing cold week!!

I can tell you categorically that anyone who plays hot and cold with you is not interested. It really is very simple. If they're playing head-fcuks with you and you never know where you stand then they really couldn't care less. I'd be getting my coat if I were you.

And in answer to your question, I think most people want very basic things like:

Kindness
Hot Sexual attraction
Honesty
A shared sense of humour/someone to have a laugh with

And then you have more specific needs based on what appeals to the individual. Intelligence, for me, gives me fizzy knickers. Simple as. While some women wouldn't care if their partner were as thick as pig sh1t. A man who is very bright and educated and well-read is a big thing for me and thankfully my husband is just that. But that's just my thing. Everyone has more specific things that they go for - I'm sure you tick all the boxes for thousands of boys out there so don't be disheartened.

Also, there's no definitive "list" people use. There's a shared expectation that people will be attractive to them and that they'll like them as a person but apart from that everyone is different.

Don't believe all the nonsense people say trying to sound deep and original.

Men are animals filled with testosterone, they want boobs and butt. Nice body, nice skin, etc....

Look at the women that get attention on nights out.

Wendolene wrote: »

That is truly the most bizarre collection of random words I have ever read.

Makes perfect sense to me

howamidifferent wrote: »

Makes perfect sense to me

Clearly, I'm not very familiar with the grammatical rules of your native language.

Wendolene wrote: »

Clearly, I'm not very familiar with the grammatical rules of your native language.

Twas tongue in cheek!

adkinstoreturn wrote: »

but i bet he doesn't have big biceps,6 pack,broad shoulders,a nice car,big shlong and lots of $$$$ now does he?

OK:
Huge biceps check from all the sailing and surfing he does
6 pack - did have but has become a 4-pack since we got married because I feed him too much yummy food
Very broad sexy shoulders....hmmmmm
Nice car - An absolute banger but he loves it
Big shlong....it's bloody massive, and he sure knows how to use it too, why do you think I married him?
Not lots of money but we're pretty comfortable

So yes. You don't have to compromise and make do. I've struck gold and I realise that but I was terminally single for ages because I refused to do just that. It paid off. Don't see yourself short!

Kettleson wrote: »

Men take a lot longer to wise up...try and spot one who isn't a male bollocks and one who has genuine respect for women and the good sense to know how lucky he is to have found you.

If this was a thread about women and you were a man there would have been several posts calling you bitter already, and with good reason.

SineadMarie wrote: »

No i havent and yea i think maybe he knows i don't like the day in general cos its also the day my dad passed away suddenly 5 years ago..just need some advice on how to play this. i am nice pretty we get on but i have no time for games from either side.

So you expect him to acknowledge the day, yet you said he knows you don't like it. So which is it? You haven't acknowledged it to him either, Valentine's day is supposed to be for COUPLES, not just for one half of the couple!

Send him a Valentine's Day Text - chase him.

And if nothing comes from it - no harm, no foul

Don't be a doormat though

Be yourself, if he doesn't like it then it's unfortunate but it's not going to work. Also, out some effort in, send him a Valentine's text if you want to celebrate Valentine's day - don't just wait for him to do all the work.... but don't be his puppy dog either.
And despite what some of you are saying, not all guys are the same.

OP, you've got me thinking

SineadMarie wrote: »

Hi,

Looking to start a new thread to help me and any other single ladies. Guess feeling a bit down in the dumps lately and being that dreaded V day also doesnt help.

Basically is it all about the chase with men, do they not want a nice girl that is pretty good to them funny..so confused lately by a certain someone playing hot and cold and would be nice to get peoples opinions on it

The "playing hot and cold" thing need not be the dislikeable game it appears. Sometimes a guy will just be be struggling a bit with how he feels for a woman, and that may manifest itself simply as inconsistency in how he behaves towards you. Alternatively, it may be that he's "playing hot and cold".

The former isn't really a problem. The latter is a problem. Either way, I think you need to establish for yourself which one it is. A mutually sincere, honest chat will go a long way to resolving this in your own mind, and help you clear up your thoughts on it ( & him ).

SineadMarie wrote: »

No i havent and yea i think maybe he knows i don't like the day in general cos its also the day my dad passed away suddenly 5 years ago..just need some advice on how to play this. i am nice pretty we get on but i have no time for games from either side.

Ah. Is he aware that today is your Dad's anniversary? If so, then he may be very reticent indeed to send a comparitively trite V day text. He may be trying to be sensitive towards feelings which he suspects/knows you already have about the day.

If he's not aware of the significance of the day for you, then maybe he's just not into texting on V day.

Again ... either way ... I think you need to establish this for yourself ... and this is where sincere, honest, direct communication comes in. Trying to 2nd- or 3rd-guess him ( with or without help from AH ) will simply turn you into a neurotic ninnie. Talk to him, see what you get back, and trust your instincts - not the Bridget Jones School of Relationship Psychology.

FWIW, I don't text Mrs. W ... or send her cards ... or buy her flowers on V day ... or any other day, for that matter. She's not into token gestures and dislikes them greatly when they're made by anyone. Judging someone by their token gestures really only gets you a token understanding of their feelings/opinions about something/someone.

She has to have a sense of Humor , Intelligent (Able to have good debates about subjects she's passionate about) , Independent , Happy in her own skin , lovely eyes and good teeth lol.

Oh and playing mind games is instant grounds for being dumped.