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What do men really want look for in a woman

SineadMarie

Hi,

Looking to start a new thread to help me and any other single ladies. Guess feeling a bit down in the dumps lately and being that dreaded V day also doesnt help.

Basically is it all about the chase with men, do they not want a nice girl that is pretty good to them funny..so confused lately by a certain someone playing hot and cold and would be nice to get peoples opinions on it

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Plumpynutt

someone who is easy going is by far the most important imo

SineadMarie

tin79 wrote: »

Sarcastic wit eh. I do like that in a woman.

Also:

Intelligence to some degree (no Daily Mail or blame the gubbernment types)
Nice eyes
A pretty smile
Sense of humour
Not an alcoholic or bad drunk
Breasts (gotta love em!)
And lastly an accent that does not rile up the blood (Australian, NZ, Norn Iron or D4 for example would drive me mad)

Thanks

Yes it is a bit thrown together hate new phones!

SunnyDub1

SineadMarie wrote: »

I'm looking for some advice not smart comments think thats fair enough. Sorry for the poor grammer also i'm sending this via my phone and didnt think to proof read it!

You posted in AH.. what do you expect!:rolleyes:
As I said in my previous post, you are gonna get smart comments :rolleyes:
If it's bothering you that much and you want advice.... personal issues this way -->

Wendolene

Sarky wrote: »

What I want look for in a woman is having been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like.

That is truly the most bizarre collection of random words I have ever read.

Merkin

SineadMarie wrote: »

A wise friend once told me let them miss you...they cant miss what they can have when they want!

Havent even gotten a vals day text from him i guess its blowing cold week!!

I can tell you categorically that anyone who plays hot and cold with you is not interested. It really is very simple. If they're playing head-fcuks with you and you never know where you stand then they really couldn't care less. I'd be getting my coat if I were you.

And in answer to your question, I think most people want very basic things like:

Kindness
Hot Sexual attraction
Honesty
A shared sense of humour/someone to have a laugh with

And then you have more specific needs based on what appeals to the individual. Intelligence, for me, gives me fizzy knickers. Simple as. While some women wouldn't care if their partner were as thick as pig sh1t. A man who is very bright and educated and well-read is a big thing for me and thankfully my husband is just that. But that's just my thing. Everyone has more specific things that they go for - I'm sure you tick all the boxes for thousands of boys out there so don't be disheartened.

Also, there's no definitive "list" people use. There's a shared expectation that people will be attractive to them and that they'll like them as a person but apart from that everyone is different.

naughtysmurf

If I may ask the OP, how bendy are you?

Ush1

Don't believe all the nonsense people say trying to sound deep and original.

Men are animals filled with testosterone, they want boobs and butt. Nice body, nice skin, etc....

Look at the women that get attention on nights out.

D1stant

SineadMarie wrote: »

A wise friend once told me let them miss you...they cant miss what they can have when they want!

Havent even gotten a vals day text from him i guess its blowing cold week!!

Wow you have low expectations. I like that in a woman

howamidifferent

Wendolene wrote: »

That is truly the most bizarre collection of random words I have ever read.

Makes perfect sense to me

SunnyDub1

Merkin wrote: »

Intelligence, for me, gives me fizzy knickers. Simple as..

That's something I've never heard before :pac::pac:

Wendolene

howamidifferent wrote: »

Makes perfect sense to me

Clearly, I'm not very familiar with the grammatical rules of your native language.

SineadMarie

Wendolene wrote: »

Clearly, I'm not very familiar with the grammatical rules of your native language.

ditto

howamidifferent

Wendolene wrote: »

Clearly, I'm not very familiar with the grammatical rules of your native language.

Twas tongue in cheek!

orestes

Nerd/rocker/goth/gamer/geek/writer/artist/singer/musician/quirky/weird ladies = win.

Merkin

adkinstoreturn wrote: »

but i bet he doesn't have big biceps,6 pack,broad shoulders,a nice car,big shlong and lots of $$$$ now does he?

OK:
Huge biceps check from all the sailing and surfing he does
6 pack - did have but has become a 4-pack since we got married because I feed him too much yummy food
Very broad sexy shoulders....hmmmmm
Nice car - An absolute banger but he loves it
Big shlong....it's bloody massive, and he sure knows how to use it too, why do you think I married him?

Not lots of money but we're pretty comfortable

So yes. You don't have to compromise and make do. I've struck gold and I realise that but I was terminally single for ages because I refused to do just that. It paid off. Don't see yourself short!

MiseryMary

smellslikeshoes wrote: »

Not being an absolute bitch is usually a good start. I've known women who complain about being single then when a guy approaches them that doesn't meet their exact parameters they put him down in the harshest way possible and then laugh about it after.

I also thought it was the other way around

mackg

Kettleson wrote: »

Men take a lot longer to wise up...try and spot one who isn't a male bollocks and one who has genuine respect for women and the good sense to know how lucky he is to have found you.

If this was a thread about women and you were a man there would have been several posts calling you bitter already, and with good reason.

tin79

Merkin wrote: »

Intelligence, for me, gives me fizzy knickers. Simple as.

Come on over to mine and we can roll around in the printed results of that online IQ test I took :P

Does 140 do it for ya! I also play scrabble.

ibarelycare

SineadMarie wrote: »

No i havent and yea i think maybe he knows i don't like the day in general cos its also the day my dad passed away suddenly 5 years ago..just need some advice on how to play this. i am nice pretty we get on but i have no time for games from either side.

So you expect him to acknowledge the day, yet you said he knows you don't like it. So which is it? You haven't acknowledged it to him either, Valentine's day is supposed to be for COUPLES, not just for one half of the couple!

smash

SineadMarie wrote: »

I'm looking for some advice not smart comments think thats fair enough.

Ah come on... this isn't Dear Deirdre, it's after hours!

Queen-Mise

Send him a Valentine's Day Text - chase him.

And if nothing comes from it - no harm, no foul

Don't be a doormat though

CruelCoin

SineadMarie wrote: »

Hi,

Looking to start a new thread to help me and any other single ladies. Guess feeling a bit down in the dumps lately and being that dreaded V day also doesnt help.

Basically is it all about the chase with men, do they not want a nice girl that is pretty good to them funny..so confused lately by a certain someone playing hot and cold and would be nice to get peoples opinions on it

There are a lot of girly girls. Those who put a lot of emphasis on appearance, money, etc.

Putting this as nicely as i can, but maybe you've set your standards too high?

Ripped, wealthy, successful, outgoing managers are few and far between, yet this seems like a criteria for an awfull lot of girls.

Stick in there. I'm in a long-term relationship now for 2 years, and have been in a 7 year one before that. I ****ing hate valentines day..... It's ok, to not like the day.

MomijiHime

Be yourself, if he doesn't like it then it's unfortunate but it's not going to work. Also, out some effort in, send him a Valentine's text if you want to celebrate Valentine's day - don't just wait for him to do all the work.... but don't be his puppy dog either.
And despite what some of you are saying, not all guys are the same.

SineadMarie

ibarelycare wrote: »

So you expect him to acknowledge the day, yet you said he knows you don't like it. So which is it? You haven't acknowledged it to him either, Valentine's day is supposed to be for COUPLES, not just for one half of the couple!

Very true thanks

Wendolene

OP, you've got me thinking

SineadMarie wrote: »

Hi,

Looking to start a new thread to help me and any other single ladies. Guess feeling a bit down in the dumps lately and being that dreaded V day also doesnt help.

Basically is it all about the chase with men, do they not want a nice girl that is pretty good to them funny..so confused lately by a certain someone playing hot and cold and would be nice to get peoples opinions on it

The "playing hot and cold" thing need not be the dislikeable game it appears. Sometimes a guy will just be be struggling a bit with how he feels for a woman, and that may manifest itself simply as inconsistency in how he behaves towards you. Alternatively, it may be that he's "playing hot and cold".

The former isn't really a problem. The latter is a problem. Either way, I think you need to establish for yourself which one it is. A mutually sincere, honest chat will go a long way to resolving this in your own mind, and help you clear up your thoughts on it ( & him ).

SineadMarie wrote: »

No i havent and yea i think maybe he knows i don't like the day in general cos its also the day my dad passed away suddenly 5 years ago..just need some advice on how to play this. i am nice pretty we get on but i have no time for games from either side.

Ah. Is he aware that today is your Dad's anniversary? If so, then he may be very reticent indeed to send a comparitively trite V day text. He may be trying to be sensitive towards feelings which he suspects/knows you already have about the day.

If he's not aware of the significance of the day for you, then maybe he's just not into texting on V day.

Again ... either way ... I think you need to establish this for yourself ... and this is where sincere, honest, direct communication comes in. Trying to 2nd- or 3rd-guess him ( with or without help from AH ) will simply turn you into a neurotic ninnie. Talk to him, see what you get back, and trust your instincts - not the Bridget Jones School of Relationship Psychology.

FWIW, I don't text Mrs. W ... or send her cards ... or buy her flowers on V day ... or any other day, for that matter. She's not into token gestures and dislikes them greatly when they're made by anyone. Judging someone by their token gestures really only gets you a token understanding of their feelings/opinions about something/someone.

ITS_A_BADGER

i want a woman to be sound, smart and nice butt!

seriously tho, he might be trying not to make a big deal out of valentines because of the sudden loss of your dad, Id probably try to keep the day low key for you aswell if you were my gf, You have to make the first move if you want him to know you are interested in valentines day and ket him know that you want to celebrate it, be flirty and that should be enough, id say hed get the message

ruthloss

"If a man really wants you he will do whatever it takes to get you, no matter what.
If you have to do all the work then there is something seriously wrong".

I read that somewhere, sounds about right to me.

Ihatecuddles-old

ruthloss wrote: »

"If a man really wants you he will do whatever it takes to get you, no matter what.
If you have to do all the work then there is something seriously wrong".

I read that somewhere, sounds about right to me.

My friend gave me that advice when I couldn't tell if a guy liked me. Turns out he didn't

muppetkiller

She has to have a sense of Humor , Intelligent (Able to have good debates about subjects she's passionate about) , Independent , Happy in her own skin , lovely eyes and good teeth lol.

Oh and playing mind games is instant grounds for being dumped.

mackg

ruthloss wrote: »

"If a man really wants you he will do whatever it takes to get you, no matter what.
If you have to do all the work then there is something seriously wrong".

I read that somewhere, sounds about right to me.

I think I read that too, uttershite.com was it?