Would you take her pain?

Itwasntme. · 01-02-2013 12:10AM #1

Would you volunteer to take it if it was possible to do a transfer and give your partner a pain free delivery? I don't mind a certain amount of pain but I am not sure I would do this. How do women do this again and again?!!

Ihatecuddles-old · 01-02-2013 12:12AM

I thought it was grand.

Ghandee · 01-02-2013 12:13AM

No no no no nope.

Cuttin my own toenails is barely below my max-pain threshold.

greenflash · 01-02-2013 12:24AM

My wife went through labour and delivered our daughter naturally without so much as a paracetamol for pain relief. I have never felt so in awe of anyone in my life. Were it possible to transfer the pain, I would take it next time as I definitely owe her one.

The Road Runner · 01-02-2013 12:27AM

in before it cant be all that bad if they do it again and i never heard of someone wanting to get kicked in the balls twice

2rkehij30qtza5 · 01-02-2013 12:27AM

greenflash wrote: »

My wife went through labour and delivered our daughter naturally without so much as a paracetamol for pain relief. I have never felt so in awe of anyone in my life. Were it possible to transfer the pain, I would take it next time as I definitely owe her one.

I did this with my first and learned not to go through this hardship for my second. Epidural was amazing. No point in going through pain when there are drugs out there to ease it - nobody gets any brownie points for being a martyr to pain and the end result is still the same with the drugs only a less-stressed and less sore mother!!

woodoo · 01-02-2013 12:28AM

That was funny.

I wouldn't fancy it though.

Ihatecuddles-old · 01-02-2013 12:33AM

Santos Crooked Twilight wrote: »

I did this with my first and learned not to go through this hardship for my second. Epidural was amazing. No point in going through pain when there are drugs out there to ease it - nobody gets any brownie points for being a martyr to pain and the end result is still the same with the drugs only a less-stressed and less sore mother!!

I didn't want pain relief, not to be a martyr..I managed fine. I was completely mobile and virtually pain free straight after. Whereas other mothers who had the epidural were in bed for hours. Just my personal reason for not wanting it.

Also it reduces the chances of having to use vacuum or forceps.

MadsL · 01-02-2013 12:35AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-wcFU5fZwY

Tombi! · 01-02-2013 12:36AM

No problem! I'll gladly take it.
Sure women complain about everything, don't they?
Back pain, foot pain, pregnancy pains, all sorts of pains.

I'm allowed to drink myself to the point I can't feel anything, right?

Shouldn't be a bother at all.

castletownman · 01-02-2013 12:38AM

Pffft. Try losing an accumulator with a last minute equaliser.

I've never felt pain like it.

Itwasntme. · 01-02-2013 12:40AM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I didn't want pain relief, not to be a martyr..I managed fine. I was completely mobile and virtually pain free straight after. Whereas other mothers who had the epidural were in bed for hours. Just my personal reason for not wanting it.

Also it reduces the chances of having to use vacuum or forceps.

:eek::eek: I am sorry but WTF?!! The thought of them anywhere near my lady parts makes me want to vomit from fear.

Jaxxy · 01-02-2013 12:42AM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I didn't want pain relief, not to be a martyr..I managed fine. I was completely mobile and virtually pain free straight after. Whereas other mothers who had the epidural were in bed for hours. Just my personal reason for not wanting it.

Also it reduces the chances of having to use vacuum or forceps.

Plus it also reduces the risk of tearing and other damage. When you're all numbed up sometimes you can't feel just how hard you're pushing. Happened to my mother. Still though I've never experienced it so I can't say for sure, but I'd probably take whatever drugs I could get my hands on to help.

naughtysmurf · 01-02-2013 12:45AM

My missus reckons it's all in the head, delivered two naturally, had pethidine towards the end, no wailing etc, my sisters who have both had two and are a little on the dramatic side :rolleyes: at the best of times had significantly more difficult births so I reckon there is something in it ok, if you go in to give birth full of fear etc your body isn't going to relax, but I'm a guy so wtf do I know, would I swop places, you must be joking

bluecode · 01-02-2013 12:46AM

My wife nearly died when giving birth to our first child. She had pre eclampsia and spent two weeks in hospital prior to the birth. On the day she was in pain and even with drugs was in severe distress. At one point she was screaming in pain to the extent she crushed my fingers against the bed. It just went on for hours. The midwife told me to get some rest in another room which of course I didn't. Then it all went crazy with an emergency caesarian. The whole ER thing.

We had a beautiful little boy but I was exhausted.

Later my wife told me she remembered nothing until two days after the whole event. She thinks the whole thing was magic. That is not what I remember.

I remember the terrible fear of losing my my wife and child. It was that close. I didn't suffer her pain but it wasn't nice.But I remember her screaming. She remembers nothing.

Would I swap? I think so.

It wasn't so bad with the second child but maybe I was ready. She remembers nothing either.

Yeah, us men have it easy.:mad:

Ihatecuddles-old · 01-02-2013 12:46AM

Itwasntme. wrote: »

:eek::eek: I am sorry but WTF?!! The thought of them anywhere near my lady parts makes me want to vomit from fear.

Yeah, don't Google them. Honestly the fear is that It's so unknown and once it starts, you can't stop it.
Don't let the fear of pain put you off having children. Educate yourself, knowledge is power. It honestly isn't that bad, its different for everyone though. For me it was like someone was tearing my spine apart, while having really bad cramps.

A lot of women poo as well. :P

Tombi! · 01-02-2013 12:47AM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

For me it was like someone was tearing my spine apart, while having really bad cramps.

I like how you casually say that.
Kinda like: for me, it was like ordering the destruction of a few million civilians and then having a nice brandy.

greenflash · 01-02-2013 12:49AM

Santos Crooked Twilight wrote: »

I did this with my first and learned not to go through this hardship for my second. Epidural was amazing. No point in going through pain when there are drugs out there to ease it - nobody gets any brownie points for being a martyr to pain and the end result is still the same with the drugs only a less-stressed and less sore mother!!

She wasn't being a martyr, the nurses fkucked up in pre-labour and she was 9cm upon arrival in the delivery room after completely skipping the labour ward. Nurses kept trying to do traces and she wasn't examined for five hours. By the time they realised what was going on it was time to push. Her recovery and healing was extremely quick as everything was natural but I'm fairly sure she'd take the epidural next time.

naughtysmurf · 01-02-2013 12:49AM

bluecode wrote: »

My wife nearly died when giving birth to our first child. She had pre eclampsia and spent two weeks in hospital prior to the birth. On the day she was in pain and even with drugs was in severe distress. At one point she was screaming in pain to the extent she crushed my fingers against the bed. It just went on for hours. The midwife told me to get some rest in another room which of course I didn't. Then it all went crazy with an emergency caesarian. The whole ER thing.

We had a beautiful little boy but I was exhausted.

Later my wife told me she remembered nothing until two days after the whole event. She thinks the whole thing was magic. That is not what I remember.

I remember the terrible fear of losing my my wife and child. It was that close. I didn't suffer her pain but it wasn't nice.But I remember her screaming. She remembers nothing.

Would I swap? I think so.

It wasn't so bad with the second child but maybe I was ready. She remembers nothing either.

Yeah, us men have it easy.:mad:

How are your fingers now? :P

tan11ie · 01-02-2013 12:51AM

Women are programmed to forget the pain, sure we would have to be...why else would you put yourself through it again and again.

Itwasntme. · 01-02-2013 12:52AM

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

I like you casually say that.
Kinda like: for me, it was like ordering the destruction of a few million civilians and then having a nice brandy.

Haha. My thoughts exactly. Her first post was, "I thought it was grand." If your spine being torn with a side of bad cramps is grand, then excuse me but I think I will discard your advice on the whole 'don't let the fear put you off kids' bit

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Crea · 01-02-2013 12:57AM

You can't compare peoples reactions to labour. I did my first 2 drug free. The pain was tough but manageable. The 3rd was horrendous and the epidural was a God send. It turned what would have been a traumatic experience into a quite relaxed experience. Positive for me.
I don't think women who have natural births are martyrs but if they insist on doing it natural please don't go on about how horrendous it was afterwards (exceptions those where someone nearly dies).

bluecode · 01-02-2013 12:59AM

naughtysmurf wrote: »

How are your fingers now? :P

Yeah good thanks, but the it's not the fingers that wake me up at night every now and then.

She gets a nice hug every now and then and she doesn't always know why.

I was terrified of losing her, not that she'll ever know that.

Bipolar Joe · 01-02-2013 01:03AM

I have had a soccer ball full force to my cock so I pissed blood, and also pissed out several stones. After that, I can take it.

2rkehij30qtza5 · 01-02-2013 01:04AM

Itwasntme. wrote: »

:eek::eek: I am sorry but WTF?!! The thought of them anywhere near my lady parts makes me want to vomit from fear.

I had vacuum when I had no pain relief and had no help with the delivery when I had the epidural!

2rkehij30qtza5 · 01-02-2013 01:09AM

greenflash wrote: »

She wasn't being a martyr, the nurses fkucked up in pre-labour and she was 9cm upon arrival in the delivery room after completely skipping the labour ward. Nurses kept trying to do traces and she wasn't examined for five hours. By the time they realised what was going on it was time to push. Her recovery and healing was extremely quick as everything was natural but I'm fairly sure she'd take the epidural next time.

Pretty much exact same thing happened to me. I wasn't talking about your wife when I said the word martyr...I was more using it in a general sense about people not wanting pain relief.

As for being immobile after an epi - yes but you are in bits after a baby anyway so even if you had no pain relief it's not like you are going to be off running around the place straight after having your baby! With the epi you don't even need to get up to go to the bathroom, it's all taken care of...so you can sit back, pain free, and enjoy your baby. I'm just comparing my experiences as I've been through natural no-drugs labour and epidural labour. No comparison!

seven_eleven · 01-02-2013 01:18AM

Why in the name of flying f**k would I want to experience such pain? You'd want to get mentally tested if you did.

RDM_83 again · 01-02-2013 01:47AM

Its a complete myth thats often repeated by people that are critical of other homespun wisdom that woman have a higher pain threshold than men. Its simply not true (see links I grabbed quickly).
That said if going to the jacks with a wide load can be uncomfortable I don;t think hours of pushing is really appealing

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0304395902003305

http://europepmc.org/abstract/MED/7771417/reload=0;jsessionid=kAPkmRmqiaXws1sMgpJq.30

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0304395901004274

01-02-2013 02:11AM

bluecode wrote: »

She gets a nice hug every now and then and she doesn't always know why.

I was terrified of losing her, not that she'll ever know that.

That brought a tear to my eye. She's lucky she has someone who loves her like that.

And you're lucky your fingers recovered.:P

bluecode · 01-02-2013 02:20AM

Candie wrote: »

That brought a tear to my eye. She's lucky she has someone who loves her like that.

And you're lucky your fingers recovered.:P

I don't know if they ever did.:D I'm nobody she did it all. I'm lucky not her. I'm no fecking hero. She is. I think you know what I mean. I am nothing, no false modesty. Why do you think I married her?

poeticseraphim · 01-02-2013 02:46AM

I am female I don't want to do this..no kids for me.

But it is the whole pregnancy for nine months as well.

As regards taking her pain......why not go halfsies??? And both get doped out of your heads with an epidural ???? Then neither of you remembers it anyway.

I think unwanted pregnancies would go down too and there would be state of the art maternity wards.

Would you take her pain?

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