When all the weddings dry up, it's a good thing

starlings · 24-01-2013 03:40PM

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Doc Ruby wrote: »

Aye, cementing them and dropping them in the bay.

Mammanabammana · 24-01-2013 03:45PM

AnonoBoy wrote: »

And use a fake name/card and don't pay for the room either.

Everyone's a winner!

.....except the hotel who you've stolen room and board from and for that you should be ashamed of yourself keithob.

I wouldn't worry too much about ripping off the hotel. Couple of years ago a friend of mine got married. Hotel presented them with the bill when they checked out. So my friend and his wife told the hotel that the bill was way too high and went through every single item on it. They were able to produce email receipts for all the things they'd already paid for so the hotel amended the bill and removed all the things that were already covered. The new bill was nearly €5,000 less! I can't help wondering how many people would have just looked at it, thought "Yep that's fine" expecting that it would be a hefty amount anyway, paid and left without knowing they'd just been ripped off.

Grayson · 24-01-2013 03:50PM

When I hit my 20's I used to like weddings. But then after going to 10 of them I realised that hot bridesmaids only exist in films and generally they're the brides married ugly friends.

Now I don't like weddings any more.

Thwip! · 24-01-2013 04:27PM

lazygal wrote: »

Why don't you just decline the invitations?

Because a lot of them have free bars :P

April O Neill · 24-01-2013 04:32PM

IMO 50 euro is fine for a person on their own. 100 Euro for a couple. And if the couple has a problem with those amounts, they're greedy feckers, TBH.

ibarelycare · 24-01-2013 05:04PM

I'm 27. I've only ever been to family weddings before but I have two friend's weddings this year. I guess this is the beginning. Although that's all out of my friends who are engaged. None of my childhood girl friends are engaged, even though 4 of them are in 5+ year relationships. I'm really looking forward to the two I'm going to this year but they certainly are expensive occasions and I'd find it difficult to have a few in the space of a couple of months. Luckily the two I have this year are in March and September so there's a good gap between them

ITS_A_BADGER · 24-01-2013 05:08PM

Jesus they only want you to come to their wedding and celebrate their marriage. They obvisously consider you to be a friend somewhat because not every wedding couple can afford to have everyone they want to attend, If you dont want to go say so and give your place to someone else they want attend and who actually want to be there.

Electric Sheep · 24-01-2013 05:20PM

SunnyDub1 wrote: »

Sounds like fun but also very pricey fun, not everyone is financially comfortable to pay to go to Vegas for 4 night for a hens, as well as pay for accomadtion for a wedding etc.
If she had of gave us some notice (months) I would have reconsidered,saved up and looked upon it has a lil Holiday as well as a hens but to expect 8 girls to pay for a trip to Vegas in 2 months time is a bit much.

Anyways we all laughed off the idea and she soon came back to reality

That kind of self centeredness seems to come out in a lot of brides. They think other people should go into debt to give the bride the wedding/hen party/honeymoon they desire.

Electric Sheep · 24-01-2013 05:31PM

ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

Jesus they only want you to come to their wedding and celebrate their marriage. They obvisously consider you to be a friend somewhat because not every wedding couple can afford to have everyone they want to attend, If you dont want to go say so and give your place to someone else they want attend and who actually want to be there.

Sometimes that is why they invite you. Other times, they invite every Tom Dick and Harry they have an aquaintance with in order to get as much cash as possible.

SunnyDub1 · 24-01-2013 05:43PM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

Sometimes that is why they invite you. Other times, they invite every Tom Dick and Harry they have an aquaintance with in order to get as much cash as possible.

I wouldn't say that is necessary the case has the bride and groom aren't gonna want to be paying for every "tom Dick and Harry's" food, drink etc.

Larbre34 · 24-01-2013 05:52PM

I'm holding off on my wedding to leave a decent gap after the last one of my friends/family get hitched, when mine comes around itll be such a novelty again that I'll f***in coin it in!!

ITS_A_BADGER · 24-01-2013 05:57PM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

Sometimes that is why they invite you. Other times, they invite every Tom Dick and Harry they have an aquaintance with in order to get as much cash as possible.

But it costs money to wine and dine the guests at a wedding so whats the point if it would cost em? Shur they might only break even lets say if they did invite every tom dick and harry, i dont see the point

April O Neill · 24-01-2013 06:03PM

ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

But it costs money to wine and dine the guests at a wedding so whats the point if it would cost em? Shur they might only break even lets say if they did invite every tom dick and harry, i dont see the point

You should only have the wedding you can afford.

ITS_A_BADGER · 24-01-2013 06:06PM

ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

Jesus they only want you to come to their wedding and celebrate their marriage. They obvisously consider you to be a friend somewhat because not every wedding couple can afford to have everyone they want to attend, If you dont want to go say so and give your place to someone else they want attend and who actually want to be there.

April O Neill wrote: »

You should only have the wedding you can afford.

I agree, thats what i said in this this post

Cienciano · 24-01-2013 06:18PM

Rabidlamb wrote: »

Anyone here in their mid 30's will have spent the last decade attending their friends weddings.
Finally the last of the bunch get hitched & that's it, no more invites, no more +1's, no more €150 in a card & €180 a room for 4 hours.

While weddings on their own can be fun getting hit with 4 or more a year is a real ballache.

It's not a ballache, don't go if you can't afford it! I couldn't go to my mates wedding abroad cos I couldn't afford it. I doubt anyone would be offended

Leftist wrote: »

I reject invitations. Couldn't give two sugars about some attention seeking religious ceremony dedicated to celebrating some relationship I don't care about.
It's a woman's thing anyway. Massive burden for blokes.

Massive burden for blokes?

Froyo wrote: »

Irish weddings (well the 6 I've been to!!) are boring and monotonous as hell!

Same church ceremony, just different wedding dress. Same old speeches with a few choice words thrown in...in you're lucky.

On to the reception at some hotel. Pre dinner drinks before you're ushered into the dining room.

You'll be seated at a table with some friends and friends of friends where the conversation starts with 'do you work with...or...'

Speeches sometimes before the dinner, sometimes after.

There'll be a bet at most tables as to how long the speeches will last. The 'winner' usually has to buy a round for the table with his/her winnings. What's the frackin' point!?

Bride and groom dance to a crap song that has nothing to do with their relationship eg. 'Every Breath You Take' - it's about a break up you f*cktards!

Few tunes and everyone loosens up a bit more and inevitably gets hammered...onto the residents bar...dying the next day!

When it's my turn, it'll be abroad somewhere nice, somewhere quiet with family and actual friends and it'll be carried out as though it actually means something.

Sure, it's the "wedding" that's boring, not you? And having one abroad will be pretty much the same except it'll cost your guests a lot more.

Electric Sheep · 24-01-2013 06:21PM

SunnyDub1 wrote: »

I wouldn't say that is necessary the case has the bride and groom aren't gonna want to be paying for every "tom Dick and Harry's" food, drink etc.

The cash gift usually well more than covers the cost of the food and drink. That's why, after a certain tipping point, the gifts turn to profit. Hence the recent popularity of ridiculously large wedding guest lists. If the bride thought she was going to get small kitchen appliances as wedding gifts, the guest list would be halved.

Cienciano · 24-01-2013 06:52PM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

The cash gift usually well more than covers the cost of the food and drink. That's why, after a certain tipping point, the gifts turn to profit. Hence the recent popularity of ridiculously large wedding guest lists. If the bride thought she was going to get small kitchen appliances as wedding gifts, the guest list would be halved.

You'd have to be a bit weird to invite people just to get money. The whole wedding list, or cash makes sense. Back in the old days people moved in to a house together right after their honeymoon. These days people are living together for 5-6 years before they get married. It's pointless getting them kitchen appliances and house stuff that they already have.
I always give cash, much easier. The only non cash gift I've given was something off a wedding list.

Electric Sheep · 24-01-2013 07:00PM

Cienciano wrote: »

You'd have to be a bit weird to invite people just to get money. The whole wedding list, or cash makes sense. Back in the old days people moved in to a house together right after their honeymoon. These days people are living together for 5-6 years before they get married. It's pointless getting them kitchen appliances and house stuff that they already have.
I always give cash, much easier. The only non cash gift I've given was something off a wedding list.

Indeed, I didn't mean to imply that they needed small appliances. Just that if they did not expect a cash gift, the guest list would be much smaller.

Roadtrippin · 24-01-2013 07:46PM

Froyo wrote: »

Irish weddings (well the 6 I've been to!!) are boring and monotonous as hell!

What kind of Irish weddings have you been to? I think most of them are great fun! Then again I only ever had to sit through one ceremony so it kept the boredom to a minimum

Lovetochill · 25-01-2013 01:38PM

Madam_X wrote: »

Normal people are grateful for either. Only a handful of weirdos write "Cash gifts only" on the invitation; they're not representative of most people who get married.

When I was living in Japan, I got an invitation to a friend's wedding with a note: " No ¥, $ or gift but your well wishes and smiles ". I bought a couple a wedding card. I saw plenty of smiles on that day. If I ever get married, I would like to do the same. It's great that guests are there for the wedding, pay for their own travel expenses and accommodation, never mind a gift or money.

thier · 26-01-2013 10:14AM

starlings wrote: »

bit mean... not every couple want the fuss of a big wedding, and it's their day. And thier's day and I'm sure it'll be lovely for them.

It's not even meant to be fun... The fun comes after, when I'm spending the money I would have spent if I had had a wedding with all the bells and whistles.

SafeSurfer · 26-01-2013 11:03AM

Balmed Out wrote: »

Love weddings but yeah it can be a bit much when you get a rake of them together. Had 9 one year 8 of which were in the summer which is annoying.

I had 24,527 weddings one year. Serves me right for having friends in the moonies.

steddyeddy · 26-01-2013 01:56PM

seamus wrote: »

Yeah, my mates aren't the marrying kind. And if they are, they're the eloping kind. My wife's mates though are. And there are ten of them unmarried, so I expect quite a few weddings over the next five years.

I do love weddings though. Short holiday in a hotel, eating, drinking, stupid dancing, hotel hangover breakfast the next morning. I can't see how someone doesn't like them.

I'm not getting at you by replying to this. It's just a few people cant understand how some people dont enjoy weddings. A few possible reasons are lack of money, lack of time of from work, pressure from work and or wedding's abroad ect.

The bit you mention here:

Short holiday in a hotel, eating, drinking, stupid dancing, hotel hangover breakfast the next morning.

is fantastic I love things like them and cant get enough of them. I also generally like weddings if these conditions are met: Money, time of work/study and people who apreciate the effort you make.

Ability to enjoy weddings is relative to how easy they are for you to attend. I've been asked to weddings as a best man and regular guest at various weddings and at I have always went out of my way to make an effort from friends and would never want to let a friend down. At times though before I became a PHD student and had to rely on just a grant any wedding I went to was extremely difficult for me to afford on top of rent, food, books and other study materials. Even now when I'm slightly better off I still have a massive amount of research to do and very little time.

As I say it's all relative and I mostly enjoy weddings once I have saved for them and got my research out of the way but a lot of the time people can seem to understand that some people have more or less money than others. So weddings are more difficult for some than for others. It's not M-theory or rocket science.

Wanderer2010 · 26-01-2013 02:28PM

150euros in a card?? Really, 150? The last 3 weddings I was at I just threw 50euros in a card and left it at that..paying 3 times as much seems very excessive to me. If they all got 50euro each from their guests they are doing well.

When all the weddings dry up, it's a good thing

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