When all the weddings dry up, it's a good thing

Rabidlamb · 24-01-2013 11:20AM #1

Anyone here in their mid 30's will have spent the last decade attending their friends weddings.
Finally the last of the bunch get hitched & that's it, no more invites, no more +1's, no more €150 in a card & €180 a room for 4 hours.

While weddings on their own can be fun getting hit with 4 or more a year is a real ballache.
Couples trying to outdo each other with greater expense being carried long into their married lives.
I for one celebrate the final passing of my generations weddings.

lazygal · 24-01-2013 11:20AM

Why don't you just decline the invitations?

kneemos · 24-01-2013 11:21AM

Funerals next op.

Beruthiel · 24-01-2013 11:24AM

It's a real burden having friends.
Ditch them all OP and become a hermit.

Where To · 24-01-2013 11:27AM

I'm in my mid thirties and have only been at two weddings in the last ten years. It's not that I don't have friends, I just don't like most of them.

BraziliaNZ · 24-01-2013 11:27AM

I think funerals are far more spiritual and meaningful than weddings. They really make you appreciate life more. Can't stand weddings and would never inflict one on anyone else.

dr.bollocko · 24-01-2013 11:35AM

Time off work... Friends and family... Booze... Food... Nice surroundings....
What's not to like?

Leftist · 24-01-2013 11:38AM

I reject invitations. Couldn't give two sugars about some attention seeking religious ceremony dedicated to celebrating some relationship I don't care about.
It's a woman's thing anyway. Massive burden for blokes.

4zn76tysfajdxp · 24-01-2013 11:38AM

dr.bollocko wrote: »

Time off work... Friends and family... Booze... Food... Nice surroundings....
What's not to like?

You've changed, man.

Rabidlamb · 24-01-2013 12:00PM

lazygal wrote: »

Why don't you just decline the invitations?

Leftist wrote: »

I reject invitations. Couldn't give two sugars about some attention seeking religious ceremony dedicated to celebrating some relationship I don't care about.
It's a woman's thing anyway. Massive burden for blokes.

Problems is if you were one of the first married & they came to yours they expect the favour returned.
There was one couple where we couldn't make it as my wife was close to her due date but we still felt obliged to stick the €150 in the card.

starlings · 24-01-2013 12:00PM

Lucky my friends mostly aren't the marrying kind and those that are are sound. I've only been to two weddings and in both cases the brides were anxious that the guests would think the party was too simple, when, being the lovely women that they are, they threw the most joyous, lively shindigs that had us all smiling for days.

Balmed Out · 24-01-2013 12:02PM

Love weddings but yeah it can be a bit much when you get a rake of them together. Had 9 one year 8 of which were in the summer which is annoying.

thier · 24-01-2013 12:04PM

dr.bollocko wrote: »

Time off work... Friends and family... Booze... Food... Nice surroundings....
What's not to like?

You're probably male. If you're a woman, you've to spend a fortune on an outfit. Having several weddings to go to in a year would bankrupt you.

AnonoBoy · 24-01-2013 12:04PM

Leftist wrote: »

I reject invitations. Couldn't give two sugars about some attention seeking religious ceremony dedicated to celebrating some relationship I don't care about.

What about civil ceremonies? :pac:

BillyMitchel · 24-01-2013 12:05PM

I for one feel your pain OP, I have 5 this year and one of them is abroad.. Which also means 5 stags...

Great craic, cant wait

thier · 24-01-2013 12:05PM

Rabidlamb wrote: »

Problems is if you were one of the first married & they came to yours they expect the favour returned.
There was one couple where we couldn't make it as my wife was close to her due date but we still felt obliged to stick the €150 in the card.

I won't be having a wedding with more than 5 people at it (including myself and himself) for this very reason.

seamus · 24-01-2013 12:06PM

Yeah, my mates aren't the marrying kind. And if they are, they're the eloping kind. My wife's mates though are. And there are ten of them unmarried, so I expect quite a few weddings over the next five years.

I do love weddings though. Short holiday in a hotel, eating, drinking, stupid dancing, hotel hangover breakfast the next morning. I can't see how someone doesn't like them.

AnonoBoy · 24-01-2013 12:08PM

thier wrote: »

I won't be having a wedding with more than 5 people at it (including myself and himself) for this very reason.

You, your intended wife/husband, the registrar, 2 witnesses.

Some craig dude. Some craic.

AnonoBoy · 24-01-2013 12:09PM

100 in the card

100 for the room

whats the problem

you dont have the money .. dont put money in the card ..

And use a fake name/card and don't pay for the room either.

Everyone's a winner!

.....except the hotel who you've stolen room and board from and for that you should be ashamed of yourself.

BillyMitchel · 24-01-2013 12:10PM

100 in the card

100 for the room

whats the problem

you dont have the money .. dont put money in the card ..

Fock , i've only been putting 50 in but its just been me. Is that too little?? Stags, gargle, hotels, coke and brazzers dont come cheap and I've no one to split the cost with

Froyo · 24-01-2013 12:11PM

Irish weddings (well the 6 I've been to!!) are boring and monotonous as hell!

Same church ceremony, just different wedding dress. Same old speeches with a few choice words thrown in...in you're lucky.

On to the reception at some hotel. Pre dinner drinks before you're ushered into the dining room.

You'll be seated at a table with some friends and friends of friends where the conversation starts with 'do you work with...or...'

Speeches sometimes before the dinner, sometimes after.

There'll be a bet at most tables as to how long the speeches will last. The 'winner' usually has to buy a round for the table with his/her winnings. What's the frackin' point!?

Bride and groom dance to a crap song that has nothing to do with their relationship eg. 'Every Breath You Take' - it's about a break up you f*cktards!

Few tunes and everyone loosens up a bit more and inevitably gets hammered...onto the residents bar...dying the next day!

When it's my turn, it'll be abroad somewhere nice, somewhere quiet with family and actual friends and it'll be carried out as though it actually means something.

Madam_X · 24-01-2013 12:11PM

thier wrote: »

You're probably male. If you're a woman, you've to spend a fortune on an outfit.

No you don't. That's entirely a choice. So is the self inflicted thing of "I can't wear the same outfit to two weddings" some women, bless 'em, go on with.

I love weddings when they're those of friends and family. Even the weddings I've been to as a +1 where I didn't know people that well were still a laugh.

The "I hate weddings and I don't care about the people getting married and religious entity derp derp derp" stuff just sounds like whiny teenagers/people with few or no friends. Some of the weddings I've been to may not have been done in the way I'd do it, but so what? It's their day, not mine. If it's the wedding of someone you really don't care about, grow a spine and don't go, or if you really have to, don't make a massive effort. I always find it's the people who complain the most about weddings are the ones who seem to think you "have to" spend a fortune. No you don't. At all. Stop worrying about whether other people whom you don't know will think you're stingy for not spending a fortune/poor.

I'm the same age as you OP and it's only starting for me.

Boombastic · 24-01-2013 12:12PM

I just give an empty unsealed card and write on it 'Enjoy spending the dosh'

24-01-2013 12:14PM

Aw I'm sad that almost all my friends are married.

I love the day out, the getting dressed up, the food, the laughs with my friends - some of who only come home from abroad for special occasions, the dancing, the sing songs in the residents bar, the meeting for brekkie the next morning!

I love ALL of it. And none of the weddings I've attended were "trying to out-do the other", maybe I'm just not friends with people who try to out-do friends!!

starlings · 24-01-2013 12:17PM

thier wrote: »

You're probably male. If you're a woman, you've to spend a fortune on an outfit. Having several weddings to go to in a year would bankrupt you.

I don't... but then the weddings I've been to were full of friends who don't care how much dresses cost. You can look a million dollars in an inexpensive frock, as long as you're enjoying yourself at a happy occasion.

BUBBLE WRAP · 24-01-2013 12:18PM

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Fock , i've only been putting 50 in but its just been me. Is that too little?? Stags, gargle, hotels, coke and brazzers dont come cheap and I've no one to split the cost with

I will go with you...

I always wanted to go to a stag where I didn't know anyone.. :cool:

24-01-2013 12:20PM

thier wrote: »

You're probably male. If you're a woman, you've to spend a fortune on an outfit. Having several weddings to go to in a year would bankrupt you.

Rubbish. That's a choice.

The last wedding I went to the dress was from Penneys. €17 and gorgeous. The wedding before that was a dress I already had. Before that I got a dress for €13 in a summer sale.

You learn pretty quickly that you don't need to spend a fortune to look nice.

jester77 · 24-01-2013 12:21PM

I wouldn't me so joyful OP, I enjoyed going to all my friends wedding. Now it's their parents funerals that I am attending

gobnaitolunacy · 24-01-2013 12:23PM

Froyo wrote: »

Irish weddings (well the 6 I've been to!!) are boring and monotonous as hell!

Same church ceremony, just different wedding dress. Same old speeches with a few choice words thrown in...in you're lucky.

On to the reception at some hotel. Pre dinner drinks before you're ushered into the dining room.

You'll be seated at a table with some friends and friends of friends where the conversation starts with 'do you work with...or...'

Speeches sometimes before the dinner, sometimes after.

There'll be a bet at most tables as to how long the speeches will last. The 'winner' usually has to buy a round for the table with his/her winnings. What's the frackin' point!?

Bride and groom dance to a crap song that has nothing to do with their relationship eg. 'Every Breath You Take' - it's about a break up you f*cktards!

Few tunes and everyone loosens up a bit more and inevitably gets hammered...onto the residents bar...dying the next day!

When it's my turn, it'll be abroad somewhere nice, somewhere quiet with family and actual friends and it'll be carried out as though it actually means something.

Coming by yourself, you get shoved into the table with children and other dateless wonders.

'Sweet Caroline' guaranteed to be on the DJ's playlist. Without fail.

Das Kitty · 24-01-2013 12:23PM

OP, just wait til the second marriages roll around! There's one in the offing amongst my group of friends. I was bridesmaid at the first wedding... doubt I'll be asked a second time!

Two weddings coming up in February, I'm looking forward to one of them, the other I'm dreading, but I can't let my husband go on his own. That would be just cruel.

BillyMitchel · 24-01-2013 12:25PM

jester77 wrote: »

I wouldn't me so joyful OP, I enjoyed going to all my friends wedding. Now it's their parents funerals that I am attending

Man thats depressing as fock.. Can you not tell us stories about how you shagged the brides maid or done the helicopter on the dance floor or something??

When all the weddings dry up, it's a good thing

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