Would you move to a new town on your own?

Godot. · 30-12-2012 03:52AM #1

Where you know no-one and your workmates too busy/other commitments (kinds etc) or they have their own social groups so aren't actively looking to become friendly on a more than skin-deep basis?

I've joined a couple of social clubs (jiu jitsu, tae kwon do) but the minute they finish practice, they all act like they have busy lives and they have no time for anyone.

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

MrStuffins · 30-12-2012 03:55AM

Yes.

I've done it before and would do it again.

If you are an adult and aren't afraid of people, there is no excuse for someone NOT to be able to do this TBH!

Witchie · 30-12-2012 03:55AM

Totally. I really want to do this but am stuck due to kids in schools they like.

Its a freedom. A chance to make a new life. Go for it!

BillyMitchel · 30-12-2012 03:57AM

I've done it twice and it is hard at the start but eventually it gets better.

Pints are usually a good start! No need to turn into an alco but drop down the local for some sports and get chatting with the locals and you'll be grand in no time!

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy · 30-12-2012 03:57AM

Larry Murphy had to.

Where To · 30-12-2012 03:58AM

Godot. wrote: »

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

Sub aqua swingers club.

Israel_Dagg · 30-12-2012 03:59AM

I think I'd like it.

3hn2givr7mx1sc · 30-12-2012 03:59AM

Godot. wrote: »

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

Pints and a few vodkas. Caused many a great bond between the harshest of men.

Wee Willy Harris · 30-12-2012 04:05AM

Godot. wrote: »

Where you know no-one and your workmates too busy/other commitments (kinds etc) or they have their own social groups so aren't actively looking to become friendly on a more than skin-deep basis?

What? .. you shameless extrovert, what do you mean?? Would I.. put my nuts in a blender. Why?!

MrStuffins · 30-12-2012 04:07AM

Wee Willy Harris wrote: »

Would I.. put my nuts in a blender.

Did they just call you "Harris" before you did this?

Stheno · 30-12-2012 04:08AM

Toastmasters is a great way to get to know people.

Godot. · 30-12-2012 04:08AM

BillyMitchel wrote: »

I've done it twice and it is hard at the start but eventually it gets better.

Pints are usually a good start! No need to turn into an alco but drop down the local for some sports and get chatting with the locals and you'll be grand in no time!

That would feel awkward as hell, esp if people are congregated in little groups talking to their mates! Although I have to start somewhere, I suppose.

Lyaiera · 30-12-2012 04:10AM

I wouldn't mind doing it. I don't see the point though. Being unemployed in a city where I have no support doesn't sound as good as being unemployed in a city with my friends and family about.

Godot. · 30-12-2012 04:11AM

MrStuffins wrote: »

Yes.

I've done it before and would do it again.

If you are an adult and aren't afraid of people, there is no excuse for someone NOT to be able to do this TBH!

Well, how did you do it then?

ITS_A_BADGER · 30-12-2012 04:16AM

go down to the pub and you'll meet people and socialize, you"ll get to know the barperson at least

BillyMitchel · 30-12-2012 04:16AM

Godot. wrote: »

That would feel awkward as hell, esp if people are congregated in little groups talking to their mates! Although I have to start somewhere, I suppose.

Obviously dont sit on top on their lip!! Show your boat around the local and sit at the bar and in no time you'll be grand, especially if its a town in Ireland! I'd give my left ball to do it again!!

Wee Willy Harris · 30-12-2012 04:20AM

did so when a teen, Glasgow n London but wouldn't be bothered now I don't reckon

MrStuffins · 30-12-2012 04:22AM

Godot. wrote: »

Well, how did you do it then?

It was in a different country where I didn't know the language. I went to language exchanges and met oter English speakers. Went to bars, went to wher epeopple hung out (like beaches in my case).

Met cool people, had little gatherings (involving alcohol) in my apartment inviting the cool people I met, they would bring other peopple, then i' get invited to parties in other peoples' houses......... kinda went from there.

Godot. · 30-12-2012 04:50AM

BillyMitchel wrote: »

I've done it twice and it is hard at the start but eventually it gets better.

Pints are usually a good start! No need to turn into an alco but drop down the local for some sports and get chatting with the locals and you'll be grand in no time!

What if I go in to drink orange juice but like watching sport and socialising... would that 'work' or do drinkers not like being around non-drinkers?

Seaneh · 30-12-2012 04:59AM

Godot. wrote: »

Where you know no-one and your workmates too busy/other commitments (kinds etc) or they have their own social groups so aren't actively looking to become friendly on a more than skin-deep basis?

I've joined a couple of social clubs (jiu jitsu, tae kwon do) but the minute they finish practice, they all act like they have busy lives and they have no time for anyone.

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

Yes, have done and would do again if needs be.

ireland is small enough that you're never that far from home and can go whever you want to.

areyawell · 30-12-2012 05:04AM

Godot. wrote: »

What if I go in to drink orange juice but like watching sport and socialising... would that 'work' or do drinkers not like being around non-drinkers?

Nah need to be drinking.

What age are you OP? It all depends on your age!

BillyMitchel · 30-12-2012 05:11AM

Godot. wrote: »

What if I go in to drink orange juice but like watching sport and socialising... would that 'work' or do drinkers not like being around non-drinkers?

If you are a bit of craic and can talk to people, it will be fine! Do it!!

Godot. · 30-12-2012 05:43AM

areyawell wrote: »

Nah need to be drinking.

What age are you OP? It all depends on your age!

Why is that? I'm well of legal age like.

MadsL · 30-12-2012 07:47AM

I know this will be taken the wrong way, but move out of Ireland. I and others have found that a lot of people hold their social circle from school, college etc and it is very difficult to make new friends. Most of the new friends I made in 15 years in Ireland were not Irish.

uberalles · 30-12-2012 08:25AM

What county / country are you in OP?

There are some regional forums on boards.

sunflower27 · 30-12-2012 09:50AM

I moved to Ireland on my own in 2000. Turned up at the Dublin airport with two suitcases to my name and no idea what I was doing.

12 years later, Ireland is my home and I couldn't be happier.

Was a scary time alright, but the experience was the making of me. You have to learn to rely on just yourself and it is also really liberating when you know you can

kfallon · 30-12-2012 11:27AM

Stheno wrote: »

Toastmasters is a great way to get to know people.

Mmmmmmmm toast *drools*

JohnMearsheimer · 30-12-2012 11:36AM

I've done it 4 times. I enjoyed the first 3 times but I moved to Galway a few months ago for work and I still don't really know anyone there.

Pilotdude5 · 30-12-2012 12:19PM

Yes but if I had work lined up first. I'm currently planning a move to a city in a continent I've never been to.

Biggins · 30-12-2012 12:37PM

Godot. wrote: »

Where you know no-one and your workmates too busy/other commitments (kinds etc) or they have their own social groups so aren't actively looking to become friendly on a more than skin-deep basis?

I've joined a couple of social clubs (jiu jitsu, tae kwon do) but the minute they finish practice, they all act like they have busy lives and they have no time for anyone.

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

Moved to a number of cities/towns, even countries on my own.
Usually ended up tracking down any Irish pubs - and made friends there besides doing a bit of networking.

dd972 · 30-12-2012 02:03PM

Think it's easier to move to a large town or city on your own where's there's lot of people in the same boat.

Spent a couple of years living in a town with just 60,000 inhabitants and the pubs had the same people in them every day of the week, the smaller the place the better you fit in if your're born there or are married with kids there, unfortunately these types of places also produce casualties who don't have the means or wherewithal to get out and end up being ''village idiots'' of a type.

Would you move to a new town on your own?

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