Would you move to a new town on your own?

Godot.

Where you know no-one and your workmates too busy/other commitments (kinds etc) or they have their own social groups so aren't actively looking to become friendly on a more than skin-deep basis?

I've joined a couple of social clubs (jiu jitsu, tae kwon do) but the minute they finish practice, they all act like they have busy lives and they have no time for anyone.

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

MrStuffins

Yes.

I've done it before and would do it again.

If you are an adult and aren't afraid of people, there is no excuse for someone NOT to be able to do this TBH!

Witchie

Totally. I really want to do this but am stuck due to kids in schools they like.

Its a freedom. A chance to make a new life. Go for it!

BillyMitchel

I've done it twice and it is hard at the start but eventually it gets better.

Pints are usually a good start! No need to turn into an alco but drop down the local for some sports and get chatting with the locals and you'll be grand in no time!

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

Larry Murphy had to.

Where To

Godot. wrote: »

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

Sub aqua swingers club.

Israel_Dagg

I think I'd like it.

3hn2givr7mx1sc

Godot. wrote: »

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

Pints and a few vodkas. Caused many a great bond between the harshest of men.

Wee Willy Harris

Godot. wrote: »

Where you know no-one and your workmates too busy/other commitments (kinds etc) or they have their own social groups so aren't actively looking to become friendly on a more than skin-deep basis?

What? .. you shameless extrovert, what do you mean?? Would I.. put my nuts in a blender. Why?!

MrStuffins

Wee Willy Harris wrote: »

Would I.. put my nuts in a blender.

Did they just call you "Harris" before you did this?

Stheno

Toastmasters is a great way to get to know people.

Godot.

BillyMitchel wrote: »

I've done it twice and it is hard at the start but eventually it gets better.

Pints are usually a good start! No need to turn into an alco but drop down the local for some sports and get chatting with the locals and you'll be grand in no time!

That would feel awkward as hell, esp if people are congregated in little groups talking to their mates! Although I have to start somewhere, I suppose.

Lyaiera

I wouldn't mind doing it. I don't see the point though. Being unemployed in a city where I have no support doesn't sound as good as being unemployed in a city with my friends and family about.

Godot.

MrStuffins wrote: »

Yes.

I've done it before and would do it again.

If you are an adult and aren't afraid of people, there is no excuse for someone NOT to be able to do this TBH!

Well, how did you do it then?

ITS_A_BADGER

go down to the pub and you'll meet people and socialize, you"ll get to know the barperson at least

BillyMitchel

Godot. wrote: »

That would feel awkward as hell, esp if people are congregated in little groups talking to their mates! Although I have to start somewhere, I suppose.

Obviously dont sit on top on their lip!! Show your boat around the local and sit at the bar and in no time you'll be grand, especially if its a town in Ireland! I'd give my left ball to do it again!!

Wee Willy Harris

did so when a teen, Glasgow n London but wouldn't be bothered now I don't reckon

MrStuffins

Godot. wrote: »

Well, how did you do it then?

It was in a different country where I didn't know the language. I went to language exchanges and met oter English speakers. Went to bars, went to wher epeopple hung out (like beaches in my case).

Met cool people, had little gatherings (involving alcohol) in my apartment inviting the cool people I met, they would bring other peopple, then i' get invited to parties in other peoples' houses......... kinda went from there.

Godot.

BillyMitchel wrote: »

I've done it twice and it is hard at the start but eventually it gets better.

Pints are usually a good start! No need to turn into an alco but drop down the local for some sports and get chatting with the locals and you'll be grand in no time!

What if I go in to drink orange juice but like watching sport and socialising... would that 'work' or do drinkers not like being around non-drinkers?

Seaneh

Godot. wrote: »

Where you know no-one and your workmates too busy/other commitments (kinds etc) or they have their own social groups so aren't actively looking to become friendly on a more than skin-deep basis?

I've joined a couple of social clubs (jiu jitsu, tae kwon do) but the minute they finish practice, they all act like they have busy lives and they have no time for anyone.

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

Yes, have done and would do again if needs be.

ireland is small enough that you're never that far from home and can go whever you want to.

areyawell

Godot. wrote: »

What if I go in to drink orange juice but like watching sport and socialising... would that 'work' or do drinkers not like being around non-drinkers?

Nah need to be drinking.

What age are you OP? It all depends on your age!

BillyMitchel

Godot. wrote: »

What if I go in to drink orange juice but like watching sport and socialising... would that 'work' or do drinkers not like being around non-drinkers?

If you are a bit of craic and can talk to people, it will be fine! Do it!!

Godot.

areyawell wrote: »

Nah need to be drinking.

What age are you OP? It all depends on your age!

Why is that? I'm well of legal age like.

MadsL

I know this will be taken the wrong way, but move out of Ireland. I and others have found that a lot of people hold their social circle from school, college etc and it is very difficult to make new friends. Most of the new friends I made in 15 years in Ireland were not Irish.

uberalles

What county / country are you in OP?

There are some regional forums on boards.

sunflower27

I moved to Ireland on my own in 2000. Turned up at the Dublin airport with two suitcases to my name and no idea what I was doing.

12 years later, Ireland is my home and I couldn't be happier.

Was a scary time alright, but the experience was the making of me. You have to learn to rely on just yourself and it is also really liberating when you know you can

kfallon

Stheno wrote: »

Toastmasters is a great way to get to know people.

Mmmmmmmm toast *drools*

JohnMearsheimer

I've done it 4 times. I enjoyed the first 3 times but I moved to Galway a few months ago for work and I still don't really know anyone there.

Pilotdude5

Yes but if I had work lined up first. I'm currently planning a move to a city in a continent I've never been to.

Biggins

Godot. wrote: »

Where you know no-one and your workmates too busy/other commitments (kinds etc) or they have their own social groups so aren't actively looking to become friendly on a more than skin-deep basis?

I've joined a couple of social clubs (jiu jitsu, tae kwon do) but the minute they finish practice, they all act like they have busy lives and they have no time for anyone.

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

Moved to a number of cities/towns, even countries on my own.
Usually ended up tracking down any Irish pubs - and made friends there besides doing a bit of networking.

dd972

Think it's easier to move to a large town or city on your own where's there's lot of people in the same boat.

Spent a couple of years living in a town with just 60,000 inhabitants and the pubs had the same people in them every day of the week, the smaller the place the better you fit in if your're born there or are married with kids there, unfortunately these types of places also produce casualties who don't have the means or wherewithal to get out and end up being ''village idiots'' of a type.

PhoenixParker

Godot. wrote: »

Where you know no-one and your workmates too busy/other commitments (kinds etc) or they have their own social groups so aren't actively looking to become friendly on a more than skin-deep basis?

I've joined a couple of social clubs (jiu jitsu, tae kwon do) but the minute they finish practice, they all act like they have busy lives and they have no time for anyone.

So what are good social groups that can cause human beings to bond on a deeper level?

Everyone does always disappear quickly after sports and other activities. I discovered a trick with this a few years ago though.

The trick is to show up fifteen minutes early.

Then you get talking to people as they arrive and prepare for the session, it's far far easier to strike up a conversation then and keep it going naturally later than it is to try to get talking to people after the session when they have one eye on the time.

Stheno wrote: »

Toastmasters is a great way to get to know people.

and I'll confirm this one.
Toastmasters is great for meeting people, you get such a range of people at meetings that's it's usually interesting, and even if you don't strike up real friendships it's a cheap evening out of the house.

I'm guessing you're probably not in Dublin, but I know Hellfire are looking for new members if you are.

http://hellfire.ie/

nice_very

ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

go down to the pub and you'll meet people and socialize, you"ll get to know the barperson at least

I think the barman is the way in, when the regulars see him chatting away to you, they will befriend you faster than if you just started trying to chat to them

Micky Dolenz

Done it a few times and will be doing it again soon.

Bars are a great place to meet people, British or Irish ones until you get to grips with the language . Well, it suits me anyway.

Pottler

Have you tried joining the Freemasons OP? I hear they are a great bunch of lads.

Cheerful Spring

People are really brave to move on their own to a new town or city. Personally, i would only feel comfortable doing this if i knew i had job close by and was able to support myself. Pretty confident with a few drinks in me and will chat to anyone. So i probably meet new people fairly quickly.

hattoncracker

I have done, twice!

It's hard, I'm in my second city a year and a half and its starting to get easier...

Boards has Been great since I moved here!!! I found out loads of places and things to do through it.

The regional forums are great.

shauna8494

I wish I could do things like that but tbh I think im way too shy :rolleyes:

Azureus

Would love to give it a go!

The tip on showing up early to sports/clubs/classes etc. is the best one here imo-great way to get chatting to people who have common interests and while I have never (yet) been in a city where I know nobody, it would be my first port of call. Made some great friends that way in Dublin, why not elsewhere.

Moved to a new country on my own several times. Never thought it was odd until I opened this thread. When I was 23, I broke up with my boyfriend who I lived with and just wanted to get the fck out of Ireland. Gave a week's notice at work, booked a Ryanair flight and moved to Brussels. Didn't know a soul. Stayed in a hostel for a week and had found a flat and job by the end of that week. It wasn't all plain sailing, I was horribly lonely at times but I made some really good friends there because I was forced to either get out and meet people or sit in my room. I think it was great for me.

Killer Wench

I've moved to a different country on my own. I have driven more than 2000 miles to relocate om my own (same country). I think it is fun.

first58

maybe you should join a team sport like footy or something, ive always found ireland a tough place to make friends outside of work but when i started playing rugby and got involved in the club, i had plenty of friends in no time at all...

rebel girl 15

I moved to a different country, got a job on a whim and went with it! Get involved in a team sport rather than individual sports and you will have plenty of friends in no time

Fox_In_Socks

Yep, have lived in 2 cities and 3 different towns since college without knowing anyone.

Tonyandthewhale

Jaylen Orange Sunglasses wrote: »

Never thought it was odd until I opened this thread.

Yeah, same here. I've moved a couple of times for work and college. Plan on moving to Madrid for a few months to work and then to Holland for college all in the next year. Meeting people isn't that hard once you get used to it.

byhookorbycrook

Moved a lot when I first qualifed, didn't have a car or anything. It's no biggie and sometimes good to go somewhere where you are on your own merit and not X's daughter.

minidazzler

PhoenixParker wrote: »

http://hellfire.ie/

I think we just crashed their website :pac:

newmug

dd972 wrote: »

Think it's easier to move to a large town or city on your own where's there's lot of people in the same boat.

Spent a couple of years living in a town with just 60,000 inhabitants and the pubs had the same people in them every day of the week, the smaller the place the better you fit in if your're born there or are married with kids there, unfortunately these types of places also produce casualties who don't have the means or wherewithal to get out and end up being ''village idiots'' of a type.

A "town" with 66,000 people:eek::eek::eek:???? And you got around all the pubs?

The nearest town to me has less than 10,000 people, and half of them are blow-ins. It has 19 pubs, and I can honestly say I've never walked into one and known every face in the place. And idiots, village or otherwise, are idiots. Just because you choose to stay in your home town doesn't put you into that bracket, no matter what your means, wherewithall, relationships, or any other circumstances dictate:mad:

PhoenixParker

minidazzler wrote: »

I think we just crashed their website :pac:

It's working fine for me, but if anyone else is having problems please PM me so I can let them know.