No hen party?

HellFireClub · 04-12-2012 05:28PM

beltzar wrote: »

Hi Vojera

We had a big BBQ where the company came in, put up a BBQ, supplied the requested food and then cooked it onsite.
http://www.fireworx.ie

Then we hired a small marquee http://partytent.ie/, the guys came to our back garden the day before put up the tent, speakers (we hooked up our stereo), lights, heaters chairs and tables. I had two old white bed sheets, put them on the tables with flowers and BINGO.

We invited both families a few friends and the neighbours - all of these were coming to the wedding.

The night was a great success (I think due to the BBQ to be honest) and the best part was most people had met before our wedding and were able to relax and chat away.

My husband and I are so glad we had this party instead of a hen (and instead of a stag, instead of a big birthday and also a slightly late house warming).

Good luck! I hope the above helps.

Sounds like a great idea! I'm planning on getting married within the next 18 months, I'm not having a stags because I just don't want to have one and put my mates to an inconvenience, especially financially as I know how hard pressed some of them are at the moment, where they wouldn't be able to afford to travel or take 100 Euro from a family budget just to go on the p*ss with me for a weekend or a night. If I have anything, it'll be along the lines of the poster above I've just quoted, it'll be low cost (especially for guests) & it'll be low key and I'm hoping the OH will be up for something similar. I just don't think people can set aside money for stags and hens parties at the moment, it's hard enough affording to attend a wedding without the excess of a stag or hen party to factor into the equation I think.

pooch90 · 05-12-2012 11:43AM

clint_silver wrote: »

As you need skyfest proportions to make them work as a spectacle, Id advise not getting them. waste of money. even if the hotel allow you set them off, you cant be guaranteed the weather and you need to spend hundreds if not thousands from a certain market outside of newry to get anything decent.

then you have to get all the guests to go outside which will take 15 minutes while the worse for wear best man tries to set them off. 10 minutes of fake oohing and aahing, and then 10-15 minutes to get everyone back in again . That's all Ive ever seen with fireworks.

Best avoided. just an opinion though.

fireworx is a catering business not fireworks!:)

clint_silver · 05-12-2012 11:49AM

pooch90 wrote: »

fireworx is a catering business not fireworks!:)

I'll get back in me box so.

Ronan|Raven · 14-12-2012 04:30PM

Do what you feel like doing Vojera, I am getting married in a few months and I am determined to not have a stag

68Murph68 · 17-12-2012 01:24AM

I would imagine a fair few people have hens/stage due to the feeling that its expected.

Best "stag" I was ever at was when my best friend was getting married. He had zero interest in the standard stag night.

Groom, his brother and myself went for a round of golf, nice meal and a few drinks. Great day out. His missus had a small hen with 3 of her best friends.

Duvetdays · 17-12-2012 01:41AM

I didn't have a hens hate them all the tacky dressing up and the stupid games. Also they can be costly as they usually involve a night in a hotel, dinner then a night of drinking. My OH didnt have a stag either not his scene. What we did was reserve a corner down the local and ordered platters and was just close family and friends had a great night and I'm glad we didn't listen to people saying oh you have to its tradition.

beltzar · 19-12-2012 06:16AM

pooch90 wrote: »

Neither myself nor my OH want a hen/stag. Our plan is to just have a big party out in our house with both sides of friends, much better to let everyone meet before the wedding we reckon.

@beltzar, did fireworx end up expensive? Half thinking of them for the actual wedding now rather than stag/hen.

Hi Pooch
Just see your message now -
As far as I can remember we choose the €20 or €25 a head menu. The guy (Tobias) said if we were having 50 people, to order for food for 40. Of course, I ignored him and ordered food for 55 people (or whatever it was) and there was WAY too much food.

The only downside was, they used large wooden logs for the BBQ and this smoked a bit so people had to move around the garden every time the wind direction changed. BUT the BBQ grill was still sh%t cool and people still make reference to it. And it was a great ice breaker at the wedding when people met up again.

Good luck. Tobias was very nice to deal with, arrived on time, was very polite to the guests etc. They also provide catering staff etc if you want.

Wonkagirl · 26-12-2012 05:45PM

I abhor hens too. If I do have one it'll be a low key long lunch or something with my close friends. Lots of them pushing for a hen, ****in eejits:). I'm getting married in Spain so would be loathe to inflict the hassle on people really.

If you do something have a joint party- why not? **** tradition

No hen party?

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