The social acceptance of violence from women

Ares · 16-12-2012 04:31PM #1

I had a look at this video here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6iNxHxwT-b4

Essentially, this video is where two people, a man and a woman, pretend to be doing a Christmas survey and ask about the 'kissing under the mistletoe' tradition. Then after they ask the question a piece of mistletoe is hung just above them with the idea being to see would they would then kiss the random stranger.

At about 30 seconds into the video however a woman slaps the man very forcefully across the face. Personally I'm appalled by this kind of behaviour. In society it is accepted that woman may strike or slap a man and nothing is considered of it. Yet were a man to do the same to a woman they would be vilified.

Why is this? Why is women violence not considered the same as the fairer sex? What's worse is the fact that in the video the man laughs as if it's perfectly ok and the people around him also laugh. I can't help wonder what would happen were it the other way around.

Anyway After Hours, what are you're opinions on this topic.

joydivision · 16-12-2012 04:34PM

Ah sure men have skin that can take a slap and women dont hit very hard .

Gummy Panda · 16-12-2012 04:37PM

joydivision wrote: »

Ah sure men have skin that can take a slap and women dont hit very hard .

I have a feeling this will not end well for you

Sunnyisland · 16-12-2012 04:40PM

Domestic violence has traditionally been understood as a crime perpetrated by domineering men against defenceless women,Part of the reason that this problem is widely ignored lies in the notion that battered males are weak or unmanly.

woodoo · 16-12-2012 04:40PM

Absolutely it is rampant in TV soaps. Women just whacking men across the face and its seen as a reasonable response to feeling slighted.

I can't understand how this is acceptable.

joydivision · 16-12-2012 04:41PM

Gummy Panda wrote: »

I have a feeling this will not end well for you

Nah ill just pretend to be a woman on this thread itll be cool.

woodoo · 16-12-2012 04:41PM

joydivision wrote: »

Ah sure men have skin that can take a slap and women dont hit very hard .

Men should hit back equally as hard and there should be no complaint about it then so.

franktheplank · 16-12-2012 04:42PM

joydivision wrote: »

Nah ill just pretend to be a woman on this thread itll be cool.

D'oh

Max Power · 16-12-2012 04:43PM

He should have done her for assault. Horrible cow.

El Guapo! · 16-12-2012 04:44PM

It's the usual double standards when it comes to men.
Nothing new there.

joydivision · 16-12-2012 04:44PM

woodoo wrote: »

Men should hit back equally as hard and there should be no complaint about it then so.

But ye cant hit the girls jaysus man . Restrain them if ye must they have pretty little delicate faces how could you hit them ?
Turn the other cheek two wrongs dont make a right eye for an eye wed be all blind .

Dave0301 · 16-12-2012 04:47PM

I don't see how it is acceptable for anyone to resort to violence to express themselves.I would have no respect for any man or woman who feels the need to lash out like that.

dark crystal · 16-12-2012 04:53PM

woodoo wrote: »

Absolutely it is rampant in TV soaps. Women just whacking men across the face and its seen as a reasonable response to feeling slighted.

I can't understand how this is acceptable.

There's actually a pretty good storyline in Coronation St. at the moment about a guy being physically and mentally abused by his female partner. Just as harrowing to watch as a woman being the recipient and I suspect it's made a lot more people aware of the issue.

joydivision · 16-12-2012 04:57PM

Yer wan that used to bash damo in fair city was great tv .

EDDIE WATERS · 16-12-2012 04:57PM

dark crystal wrote: »

There's actually a pretty good storyline in Coronation St. at the moment about a guy being physically and mentally abused by his female partner. Just as harrowing to watch as a woman being the recipient and I suspect it's made a lot more people aware of the issue.

That was in Fair city before that

dark crystal · 16-12-2012 04:59PM

EDDIE WATERS wrote: »

That was in Fair city before that

Aah, ok. Don't watch Fair City, so didn't know that :P

Fair play to them for highlighting it so.

Killer Wench · 16-12-2012 05:00PM

I think it is due to the deeply ingrained puritanical values that were passed down through generations. We are talking about a kiss and the woman reacting to a forward advance from the man. She slapped him to protect her virtue. People laugh because deep in our minds (and reinforced by what we see and read), our perceptions of men are as aggressive, sex-crazed individuals who will steal a woman's virtue and her reaction was an appropriate correction to his naughty behavior. It isn't so much that we tolerate her violent reaction; it is more that he deserved it for being such a horny toad.

Yes, yes, we are talking about medieval, Victorian, etc. values and we should have moved way beyond them, but we really haven't.

IvyTheTerrible · 16-12-2012 05:03PM

I don't know about anyone else, but it always sickens me when a woman slaps a guy on tv.

Apart from the violence, which is the main reason I'm sickened, it just seems like some women use a slap when they are losing an argument. I don't like the idea that tv shows it as ok to slap a guy when they do something wrong.

Irish Guitarist · 16-12-2012 05:27PM

In older films you often see a man slapping a woman around the face. The woman then falls for his roguish charm and kisses him. It happened in a lot of 1940s films and also early James Bond films.

Czarcasm · 16-12-2012 05:43PM

Irish Guitarist wrote: »

In older films you often see a man slapping a woman around the face. The woman then falls for his roguish charm and kisses him. It happened in a lot of 1940s films and also early James Bond films.

The OP should probably never watch "Gone Slaps With The Wind"-

http://50yearstoolate.blogspot.ie/2010/01/slaps-with-wind.html?m=1

Truncheon Rouge · 16-12-2012 05:47PM

Irish Guitarist wrote: »

In older films you often see a man slapping a woman around the face. The woman then falls for his roguish charm and kisses him. It happened in a lot of 1940s films and also early James Bond films.

007's pimp hand strong.

Anyway, gentlemen learn boxings cross guard/philly crab, lower one hand to guard the coin purse and we need never speak of women up beating men again.

keith16 · 16-12-2012 05:52PM

Irish Guitarist wrote: »

In older films you often see a man slapping a woman around the face. The woman then falls for his roguish charm and kisses him. It happened in a lot of 1940s films and also early James Bond films.

*Slaps Irish Guitarist

Now shut up and kiss me ya filthy animal.

GRMA · 16-12-2012 06:25PM

Part of it I'm sure is because women are far weaker than men, a full force hit from a typical woman would do far less damage than one from a man.

Violence against women, even in justified situations is frowned upon. I've only punched a woman once and that was when she went to glass another woman at the bar when she had turned away, I stopped her with a punch before she could. She was fairly messed up but nothing compared to how her would be victim would have been. Now I think she deserved that but drunken white knights, they were normal guys, not scumbags, started making trouble with me because I hit a woman. Bouncers threw them out, I'd say that's cause they know what glassing someone can do.

Mal-Adjusted · 16-12-2012 06:37PM

Obligatory meme...

http://t.qkme.me/3onap0.jpg

GRMA · 16-12-2012 06:39PM

Knockout_91 wrote: »

Love the way men say "if she's up for it on the first night she's not girlfriend material".

Well guess what lads, you aren't my type either!

What's this, a ****e attempt at whataboutary ?

Czarcasm · 16-12-2012 06:39PM

Knockout_91 wrote: »

Love the way men say "if she's up for it on the first night she's not girlfriend material".

Well guess what lads, you aren't my type either!

Aside from the username, I'm struggling to find the context of your post in relation to the subject of the thread?

YellowFeather · 16-12-2012 06:46PM

Having worked with men who have been domestically abused by their partner, I can tell you that the biggest issue for them in seeking help is the shame of coming clean to their family / friends. Society seriously needs to change it's views, as it's more common than people realise, and there's a definite perception out there that men who are abused by their partners are weak or not able to handle themselves.

GRMA wrote: »

Part of it I'm sure is because women are far weaker than men, a full force hit from a typical woman would do far less damage than one from a man.

Problems is, women often hit with more than just fists.

joydivision · 16-12-2012 06:50PM

Id never marry a girl who looks like she d be able to beat me up .

okedoke · 16-12-2012 07:09PM

how can you slap??

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HS9OqubRZXo

spurious · 16-12-2012 07:18PM

What a strange video - I'm thinking there must be something else going on to merit his strange leer before she hit him - and the complete non-reaction from the other guy? Was it all staged?.

He hit her with a lot of force than she hit him - emphasised even more by the replays.

Anyway, both scummers for hitting anyone. Thankfully I don't move in social circles where it's acceptable for anyone to hit anyone.

Sunnyisland · 16-12-2012 07:24PM

spurious wrote: »

What a strange video - I'm thinking there must be something else going on to merit his strange leer before she hit him - and the complete non-reaction from the other guy? Was it all staged?.

He hit her with a lot of force than she hit him - emphasised even more by the replays.

Anyway, both scummers for hitting anyone. Thankfully I don't move in social circles where it's acceptable for anyone to hit anyone.

That was a game

show on live TV in India, After that the man was set upon and beaten

Reality TV Indian style.

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