Couples sleeping in separate rooms, is it weird?

Scanlas The 2nd · 11-12-2012 05:27PM #1

I know of a couple in their 20's who sleep in different bedrooms, they get in fine like any couple. Is this a common occurrence and what do you think of it. At first I thought it was weird but the more I think about it the more I like the idea of having my own room again.

Tabnabs · 11-12-2012 05:29PM

Sounds like one of them might be struggling to come to terms with their sexuality??

jester77 · 11-12-2012 05:30PM

It's common where one person is a heavy snorer. Don't think too many people would stay in the same room with such a person.

upstairs for coffee · 11-12-2012 05:33PM

So they are housemates who sometimes have sex?

Dodge · 11-12-2012 05:34PM

Ah it is weird.

Imagine walking up and not having the missus to rub your morning glory against, and then receive the 'get away from you fat pig' glare off her?

Just wouldn't be right

Shenshen · 11-12-2012 05:35PM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

I know of a couple in their 20's who sleep in different bedrooms, they get in fine like any couple. Is this a common occurrence and what do you think of it. At first I thought it was weird but the more I think about it the more I like the idea of having my own room again.

Sounds reasonable to me. I sometimes grab my pillow in the middle of the night and wander off to the guest bedroom when my hubby wakes me with his snoring...

Hurricane Carter · 11-12-2012 05:35PM

This is actually quite common....where one of them is gay!

1ZRed · 11-12-2012 05:37PM

No I think it's weird. Isn't all that 'intimate stuff' the deal with a relationship anyway even if you're not having sex?

If I was going out with someone and all we did was share a bed to have sex they'd seem like a glorified fuck buddy to me.

Where To · 11-12-2012 05:38PM

Anyone who loves B&W movies will know that married couples never shared a bed until the 1960s.

Access Denied · 11-12-2012 05:38PM

Some european hotels have two single beds you have to shove together to sleep in.

I can see the attraction of separate bedrooms but you'd have to wonder why...maybe they just both need thier own space...but again..why?

Unless one is a loud snorer or just stinks.

Gummy Panda · 11-12-2012 05:40PM

jester77 wrote: »

It's common where one person is a heavy snorer. Don't think too many people would stay in the same room with such a person.

They're not snores but sleep growls!

Strawberry Fields · 11-12-2012 05:40PM

In fairness if either one of them pulls a one nighter they need their space to get jiggy.

lukesmom · 11-12-2012 05:42PM

Well my husband and I share separate rooms and always have. We are in our early 30's. He snores too loudly for me and I guess I'm intolerant of it and love my own space. It hasn't hindered intimacy levels though as we have 3 children together, one just 4 months old. People think it's weird or odd but it works for us.

SunnyDub1 · 11-12-2012 05:42PM

Just because a couple sleep in separate rooms doesn't mean they don't do the business (have sex) or aren't in love....

Many of reasons why they might sleep in separate rooms...
- One is up earlier then the other and doesn't want to wake them.
- Heavy snorer
- Doesn't sleep comfortable with someone spooning them

thier · 11-12-2012 05:42PM

I don't think it's weird at all. Some people snore very loudly and if my partner was a loud snorer I just would not tolerate it. Sleep is very important.

Plus I think heavy snoring is a dealbreaker in a relationship but that's another story.

philologos · 11-12-2012 05:42PM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

I know of a couple in their 20's who sleep in different bedrooms, they get in fine like any couple. Is this a common occurrence and what do you think of it. At first I thought it was weird but the more I think about it the more I like the idea of having my own room again.

Depends on your perspective. For married people it would be strange to me, for unmarried not really strange. It seems wise in many ways, but that depends on what your philosophy is.

Celly Smunt · 11-12-2012 05:42PM

that'd be great,loads of blanket and space.

minidazzler · 11-12-2012 05:43PM

http://www.cracked.com/article_19230_the-5-least-romantic-keys-to-happy-relationship.html

It can lead to happier marriages apparently.

girl in the striped socks · 11-12-2012 05:44PM

I've often done it after a night out. His snoring after drink would drive a saint mad.
But under normal circumstances? No.

whatdoicare · 11-12-2012 05:44PM

My mam and dad sleep in separate rooms purely coz my dad is riddled with arthritis and has two fake hips and a knee replacement. He was actually making himself worse before as he needed to move about at 4am or similar and was afraid to do so in case he woke my mam so would stay as he was suffering and be completely crippled the next day.

My friends in their 30s who have been happily married for ten years sleep in separate rooms too as the wife sleep walks and flails about in her sleep.

I don't see a problem with it. Couples have to do what works best for themselves.

Where To · 11-12-2012 05:45PM

minidazzler wrote: »

http://www.cracked.com/article_19230_the-5-least-romantic-keys-to-happy-relationship.html

It can lead to happier marriages apparently.

I like the idea of the 'marry an ugly, stupid man' one.

Larbre34 · 11-12-2012 05:45PM

Its far better for a relationship to have 2 well rested people to interact during their waking hours. They could be having very healthy intimate relations in the living room, the shower, the woods! But theres any number of medical or practical reasons to actually get their sleep in another bed or room and it not to affect the intimacy of the relationship as such

I remember taking a couple of weeks in the spare room after herself had a big knee op and the best thing about it was the morning she decided she was feeling better and dropped in around dawn to invite me back

SunnyDub1 · 11-12-2012 05:46PM

philologos wrote: »

Depends on your perspective. For married people it would be strange to me, for unmarried not really strange. It seems wise in many ways, but that depends on what your philosophy is.

Why is it strange for a married couple but not for an unmarried couple ?

"You have a ring on your finger so you must sleep in my bed even if you do snore like a loud pig and I don't sleep properly"

Idjit · 11-12-2012 05:48PM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

I know of a couple in their 20's who sleep in different bedrooms, they get in fine like any couple. Is this a common occurrence and what do you think of it. At first I thought it was weird but the more I think about it the more I like the idea of having my own room again.

I don't think that's weird. Y'know those days when you're alone for the night for whatever reason and it's just wonderful because you get all that bed-space to yourself? Imagine that every night

I think these people have the right idea; as another good consequence, you don't have to see the unattractive pillow-druelling, snoring, sleep-farting aspects of your other half!

thebigbiffo · 11-12-2012 05:52PM

normally manage about 1 hour in bed beside the Mrs (normally trying in vain to get me leg over) before i up sticks and move to the spare room...the reason: 2 kids that dont sleep through the night and come to visit.

we tried being better parents but didn't have the energy for supernanny crap at 1am and with me being the biggest biffo in the room, it falls to me to create space.

that's my story, deal with it :cool:

lukesmom · 11-12-2012 05:52PM

Trust me when I say it's brilliant sleeping in your own room

eviltwin · 11-12-2012 05:54PM

My husband often sleeps in a different room to me. Nothing weird about it at all.

Malari · 11-12-2012 05:57PM

It would be weird for me. I like the body heat and the cuddling

Madam_X · 11-12-2012 05:57PM

It's not remotely weird. If every night of a relationship was one of making love and cuddling, it might be weird, but that ain't always the reality - even in the happiest of couplings. There are still the mundanities of everyday life - getting up for work, being wrecked, needing a decent unbroken sleep... and then multiply all that when children enter the equation.

When a couple gets "they" time they'll share their bed.

My parents are retired and share their bed most of the time but still occasionally sleep in separate rooms if they want a good night's sleep. Well more specifically: if my mother wants a good night's sleep. After over 40 years of marriage, she still isn't fully used to his snoring and flailing about the place. :pac:

1ZRed wrote: »

No I think it's weird. Isn't all that 'intimate stuff' the deal with a relationship anyway even if you're not having sex?

If I was going out with someone and all we did was share a bed to have sex they'd seem like a glorified fuck buddy to me.

You're 18 - how are you such an expert on sex and relationships?

dave1982 · 11-12-2012 06:01PM

My neighbours sleep in seperate rooms they have 2 kids a boy and a girl 5 and 7.

They girl sleeps in the mothers and the boy in the fathers room so ****ing weird.

Can't see the logic behind it at all :rolleyes:

eviltwin · 11-12-2012 06:03PM

Malari wrote: »

It would be weird for me. I like the body heat and the cuddling

We still have that too but its nice when we sleep in our own beds. He tosses and turns so much that the nights he is in the bed with me I never get a decent nights sleep plus he snores so if he was in with me every night I would be a total wreck

Couples sleeping in separate rooms, is it weird?

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