Age difference in relationships

ProfanityURL · 01-12-2012 03:24AM #1

I recently heard of a couple that have a 15 year age difference between them. They are both in their later years now but at the time they were married I believe he was in his early 30s so she would have been late teens, maybe 20 when they got together.

Has anyone ever heard of some questionable age differences between people in relationships that made you feel weird? What is the acceptable age difference for relationships to occur? And is it worse if a older man is with a young girl, ie. teenager compared to an older woman with a young boy, assuming the age difference is the same in both examples?

Washington Irving · 01-12-2012 03:25AM

Half your age plus seven

Esoteric_ · 01-12-2012 03:27AM

As long as they're both adults and on the same wavelength, who cares?

ProfanityURL · 01-12-2012 03:29AM

SaulGoode9 wrote: »

Half your age plus seven

Old reliable! What if your age is an odd number, eg. 25 then the acceptable age is 19 and a half years old. Do you round up or down?

Max Power · 01-12-2012 03:29AM

I'm 25 and have been with a few 18 year olds. As long as it's not illegal I don't see the problem, it's mostly others that have the problem IMO.

Fr_Dougal · 01-12-2012 03:30AM

It was acceptable in the 80's.

4zn76tysfajdxp · 01-12-2012 03:30AM

ProfanityURL wrote: »

Old reliable! What if your age is an odd number, eg. 25 then the acceptable age is 19 and a half years old. Do you round up or down?

You round down to 15.

Washington Irving · 01-12-2012 03:32AM

Terrence Big Tricycle wrote: »

You round down to 15.

I can confirm.

AlmightyCushion · 01-12-2012 03:34AM

LyndaMcL wrote: »

As long as they're both adults and on the same wavelength, who cares?

They're people not radios.

ProfanityURL · 01-12-2012 03:39AM

LyndaMcL wrote: »

As long as they're both adults and on the same wavelength, who cares?

Mammy and Daddy of the younger party I would say.... Also consider the fact that while lots of couples are genuinely in love (awwwwwww) and the age isn't really relevant, some guys use their age and experience to manipulate younger girls because they make easier targets

Where To · 01-12-2012 03:42AM

The day I stop chasing after eighteen year olds will be the day I stop breathing.

Esoteric_ · 01-12-2012 03:42AM

ProfanityURL wrote: »

Mammy and Daddy of the younger party I would say.... Also consider the fact that while lots of couples are genuinely in love (awwwwwww) and the age isn't really relevant, some guys use their age and experience to manipulate younger girls because they make easier targets

If the younger party is an adult, it shouldn't matter what Mammy and Daddy say. I'm not gonna lie and say they were delighted about the few age gap relationships I've had (they see more than 3 years as a huge gap :pac: ), but they pretty much leave me to my own devices. If an adult woman is in a place emotionally where she is likely to be manipulated, I can guarantee you it's not only older men who take advantage of that.

01-12-2012 03:42AM

So age of consent only applies if the person is within a few years of your own? If the person is any older, you automatically become an underage bumbling idiot again who can't make decisions.

gammygils · 01-12-2012 03:45AM

Let me see. I've been with a 27 year old when I was 21.

That lasted nearly a year. And I've been with an 18 year old at 28.

That lasted a couple of months. Both were great.

Age difference is not a problem. Either Way

Chuck Stone · 01-12-2012 03:47AM

I was kinda paranoid when I started seeing my last serious GF I had because there was a 6 year difference between us - she was 26 and I was 32.

Turned out she was far more mature than me.

B.A._Baracus · 01-12-2012 03:47AM

Age gaps dont matter. If two people wanna be together who the hell cares

But within saying that if I heard of an 18yo girl being with a 48yo man... Of course I would raise an eyebrow and think to myself "she's using him" - But my opinion dont matter. Live and let live.

humbert · 01-12-2012 03:50AM

Given the naive attitude teenaged girls have toward older guys I find guys in their mid to late twenties dating such girls seedy and manipulative.

ProfanityURL · 01-12-2012 03:52AM

I was with a 23 year old when I was 18. She felt kind of guilty but sure I thought it was awesome... Saying that it was defo more of a physical relationship than anything I'd had before that and I think her age played a factor in that because she was much more experienced than me. Now I'm nearly 23 and well 18 is definitely as low as I would go, I would feel too guilty if she was any younger.

1ZRed · 01-12-2012 03:55AM

FionnMcCool87 wrote: »

I'm 25 and have been with a few 18 year olds. As long as it's not illegal I don't see the problem, it's mostly others that have the problem IMO.

I'd be the opposite and go after the 25 year olds. If it's for the laugh and a bit of fun,fuck all harm in it

LoonyLovegood · 01-12-2012 04:10AM

I'd be willing to go ten years up, but not under 18. So anyone 18 - 29 is ok for me, I guess.

Red21 · 01-12-2012 04:12AM

1ZRed wrote: »

I'd be the opposite and go after the 25 year olds. If it's for the laugh and a bit of fun,fuck all harm in it

so you're 18

Piliger · 01-12-2012 04:22AM

ProfanityURL wrote: »

Has anyone ever heard of some questionable age differences between people in relationships that made you feel weird? What is the acceptable age difference for relationships to occur?

You really do give away your lack of years. "Feel weird" ? that sounds like something my 14yo nephew might say. And who on earth are you referring to when you say 'acceptable' ? Acceptable to who ?

A couple of years ago when I was 53, I dated a 28yo professional business lady for about a year. Age is a only a number. People don't come off a production line and are as different from each other as chalk and cheese. One person can be old at heart before they get to 30, while others can still be young at heart at 65.
Short and long relationships are also very different. Being able to share cultural experience is more important in a long term relationship, and a 53yo has little in common with a 28yo when it comes to sharing life's cultural experiences such as music, movies, politics, history etc.

1ZRed · 01-12-2012 04:23AM

Red21 wrote: »

so you're 18

Yeah

BillyMitchel · 01-12-2012 05:04AM

Had two. I love the older women. One was 16 years older and the other was 21 years older! Was never going to last but I've memories that will last a life time from them.

I think my love of older women stems from watching to much mature porn when I was a spotty horny teenager!

01-12-2012 05:06AM

I'm 24 and I live in Ireland so I think 17 is both the legal and socially accepted age I can go after.

Rabies · 01-12-2012 05:08AM

SaulGoode9 wrote: »

Half your age plus seven

Pile of sh!te.

If you're happy with the person (and they're of legal age) then enjoy it and have fun.

01-12-2012 05:10AM

Rabies wrote: »

Pile of sh!te.

If you're happy with the person (and they're of legal age) then enjoy it and have fun.

Over 17 you're saying then.

Rabies · 01-12-2012 05:27AM

Deleted User wrote: »

Over 17 you're saying then.

18+
What is legal age in Ireland? Is it 17 or 18?

Once both parties are adults, let them go nuts. Not many relationships with a big age gap go the full haul, but let them have fun while they're at it.
Especially for us old men

01-12-2012 05:28AM

Rabies wrote: »

18+
What is legal age in Ireland? Is it 17 or 18?

Once both parties are adults, let them go nuts. Not many relationships with a big age gap go the full haul, but let them have fun while they're at it.
Especially for us old men

It's 17 so that's coo.

uck51js9zml2yt · 01-12-2012 06:04AM

My wife is 14 years younger and my ln laws are 9 years older.
neither is a problem.

horsemaster · 01-12-2012 06:41AM

As long as the person is not underaged, then it shouldn't be a problem. Its up to the individual. Its others who are outside the relationship who will have a problem. But is there any relationship where the outsiders are ever satisfied about? Life does not go on forever. Live it to the fullest without nay sayers demoralizing you. Enjoy your relationship and forget about the age.

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