Age difference in relationships

ProfanityURL

I recently heard of a couple that have a 15 year age difference between them. They are both in their later years now but at the time they were married I believe he was in his early 30s so she would have been late teens, maybe 20 when they got together.

Has anyone ever heard of some questionable age differences between people in relationships that made you feel weird? What is the acceptable age difference for relationships to occur? And is it worse if a older man is with a young girl, ie. teenager compared to an older woman with a young boy, assuming the age difference is the same in both examples?

Washington Irving

Half your age plus seven

Esoteric_

As long as they're both adults and on the same wavelength, who cares?

ProfanityURL

SaulGoode9 wrote: »

Half your age plus seven

Old reliable! What if your age is an odd number, eg. 25 then the acceptable age is 19 and a half years old. Do you round up or down?

Max Power

I'm 25 and have been with a few 18 year olds. As long as it's not illegal I don't see the problem, it's mostly others that have the problem IMO.

Fr_Dougal

It was acceptable in the 80's.

4zn76tysfajdxp

ProfanityURL wrote: »

Old reliable! What if your age is an odd number, eg. 25 then the acceptable age is 19 and a half years old. Do you round up or down?

You round down to 15.

Washington Irving

Terrence Big Tricycle wrote: »

You round down to 15.

I can confirm.

AlmightyCushion

LyndaMcL wrote: »

As long as they're both adults and on the same wavelength, who cares?

They're people not radios.

ProfanityURL

LyndaMcL wrote: »

As long as they're both adults and on the same wavelength, who cares?

Mammy and Daddy of the younger party I would say.... Also consider the fact that while lots of couples are genuinely in love (awwwwwww) and the age isn't really relevant, some guys use their age and experience to manipulate younger girls because they make easier targets

Where To

The day I stop chasing after eighteen year olds will be the day I stop breathing.

Esoteric_

ProfanityURL wrote: »

Mammy and Daddy of the younger party I would say.... Also consider the fact that while lots of couples are genuinely in love (awwwwwww) and the age isn't really relevant, some guys use their age and experience to manipulate younger girls because they make easier targets

If the younger party is an adult, it shouldn't matter what Mammy and Daddy say. I'm not gonna lie and say they were delighted about the few age gap relationships I've had (they see more than 3 years as a huge gap :pac: ), but they pretty much leave me to my own devices. If an adult woman is in a place emotionally where she is likely to be manipulated, I can guarantee you it's not only older men who take advantage of that.

So age of consent only applies if the person is within a few years of your own? If the person is any older, you automatically become an underage bumbling idiot again who can't make decisions.

gammygils

Let me see. I've been with a 27 year old when I was 21.

That lasted nearly a year. And I've been with an 18 year old at 28.

That lasted a couple of months. Both were great.

Age difference is not a problem. Either Way

Chuck Stone

I was kinda paranoid when I started seeing my last serious GF I had because there was a 6 year difference between us - she was 26 and I was 32.

Turned out she was far more mature than me.

B.A._Baracus

Age gaps dont matter. If two people wanna be together who the hell cares

But within saying that if I heard of an 18yo girl being with a 48yo man... Of course I would raise an eyebrow and think to myself "she's using him" - But my opinion dont matter. Live and let live.

humbert

Given the naive attitude teenaged girls have toward older guys I find guys in their mid to late twenties dating such girls seedy and manipulative.

ProfanityURL

I was with a 23 year old when I was 18. She felt kind of guilty but sure I thought it was awesome... Saying that it was defo more of a physical relationship than anything I'd had before that and I think her age played a factor in that because she was much more experienced than me. Now I'm nearly 23 and well 18 is definitely as low as I would go, I would feel too guilty if she was any younger.

1ZRed

FionnMcCool87 wrote: »

I'm 25 and have been with a few 18 year olds. As long as it's not illegal I don't see the problem, it's mostly others that have the problem IMO.

I'd be the opposite and go after the 25 year olds. If it's for the laugh and a bit of fun,fuck all harm in it

LoonyLovegood

I'd be willing to go ten years up, but not under 18. So anyone 18 - 29 is ok for me, I guess.

Red21

1ZRed wrote: »

I'd be the opposite and go after the 25 year olds. If it's for the laugh and a bit of fun,fuck all harm in it

so you're 18

Piliger

ProfanityURL wrote: »

Has anyone ever heard of some questionable age differences between people in relationships that made you feel weird? What is the acceptable age difference for relationships to occur?

You really do give away your lack of years. "Feel weird" ? that sounds like something my 14yo nephew might say. And who on earth are you referring to when you say 'acceptable' ? Acceptable to who ?

A couple of years ago when I was 53, I dated a 28yo professional business lady for about a year. Age is a only a number. People don't come off a production line and are as different from each other as chalk and cheese. One person can be old at heart before they get to 30, while others can still be young at heart at 65.
Short and long relationships are also very different. Being able to share cultural experience is more important in a long term relationship, and a 53yo has little in common with a 28yo when it comes to sharing life's cultural experiences such as music, movies, politics, history etc.

1ZRed

Red21 wrote: »

so you're 18

Yeah

BillyMitchel

Had two. I love the older women. One was 16 years older and the other was 21 years older! Was never going to last but I've memories that will last a life time from them.

I think my love of older women stems from watching to much mature porn when I was a spotty horny teenager!

I'm 24 and I live in Ireland so I think 17 is both the legal and socially accepted age I can go after.

Rabies

SaulGoode9 wrote: »

Half your age plus seven

Pile of sh!te.

If you're happy with the person (and they're of legal age) then enjoy it and have fun.

Rabies

Rabies wrote: »

Pile of sh!te.

If you're happy with the person (and they're of legal age) then enjoy it and have fun.

Over 17 you're saying then.

Rabies

Deleted User wrote: »

Over 17 you're saying then.

18+
What is legal age in Ireland? Is it 17 or 18?

Once both parties are adults, let them go nuts. Not many relationships with a big age gap go the full haul, but let them have fun while they're at it.
Especially for us old men

Rabies

Rabies wrote: »

18+
What is legal age in Ireland? Is it 17 or 18?

Once both parties are adults, let them go nuts. Not many relationships with a big age gap go the full haul, but let them have fun while they're at it.
Especially for us old men

It's 17 so that's coo.

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My wife is 14 years younger and my ln laws are 9 years older.
neither is a problem.

horsemaster

As long as the person is not underaged, then it shouldn't be a problem. Its up to the individual. Its others who are outside the relationship who will have a problem. But is there any relationship where the outsiders are ever satisfied about? Life does not go on forever. Live it to the fullest without nay sayers demoralizing you. Enjoy your relationship and forget about the age.

tonycascarino

I am 27 and my gf is 20..no problems

sam34

I spent a year seeing a man who was 23 years older than me, i was 27 and he was 50. when it ended, it wasn't because of the age gap, it was for other reasons. and it wasn't a rich sugar daddy scenario, as I was earning a lot more than him.

the longest and most significant relationship I've had was for 5 years with a man 11 years older than me.

Heroditas

Celine Dion's husband is 26 years older than her.
They started going out when she was 19.
It just seems a bit creepy to me. They first met when she was 12. At what point did he stop seeing her as a child and started seeing her as someone he could have a sexual relationship with?

Apart from that, age shouldn't matter. If people are happy and "connect", then good luck to them.

girl in the striped socks

When I was 19 I was going out with a man who's 16 years older than me.
The only problem with it is that I was far too immature to be honest. He was little more than a bum & bled me dry for money. I obviously didn't see that for quite a while so I was made to look like a proper fool. But to be fair that was my problem & not his. I should have copped on much sooner so in a way I deserved to be made a fool out of. First & last time it happened.
Age is only a number in my book, if two adults are happy & consenting then its really no one else's business but their own.

darrcow

i meet the wife when she was 16 and i was 26. the wife had our first child when she was 17 and now 2 more kids and 16 years later we are still going strong. age is just a number

Madam_X

humbert wrote: »

Given the naive attitude teenaged girls have toward older guys I find guys in their mid to late twenties dating such girls seedy and manipulative.

Depends on the girl, the motivations, etc - but yeh, the "I chase after young ones" bravado on leaving cert night etc is pathetic.

Micky Dolenz

Age is only a number.

Nothing better then an experienced woman with no teeth.

smash

In the words of Jimmy Saville:
"If she's old enough to crawl, she's in the right position"





*Jimmy Saville may or may not have actually said this.

endofrainbow

age ain't a number - it's a word :P

Conrach

My husband is 18 years older than me and we are very happy.(10 years later) When we met there were rumours that I was after his money. Yeah right!! I had more at that time.
I was the right side of younger that people didn't think of me as a trophy wife for him. I was early 30's.

Mum and Dad expressed some concern at the age difference because he was only a few years younger than them. They were reminded that my paternal grandparents were 20 years apart and my maternal grandparents 18 years apart and they were very happy and very close. Mum and Dad, who were the same age, only stayed together long enough to conceive 3 children.:)
I think a teenager and a much older partner would give me cause for concern but outside of that it doesn't matter.

getz

darrcow wrote: »

i meet the wife when she was 16 and i was 26. the wife had our first child when she was 17 and now 2 more kids and 16 years later we are still going strong. age is just a number

sure is my wife is 12 years younger than me,they said it wouldent last, yet still together and married for over 40 years

Celly Smunt

SaulGoode9 wrote: »

Half your age plus seven

the sex is better if you half your age and subtract 7.

getz

pmcmahon wrote: »

the sex is better if you half your age and subtract 7.

whats sex ?

Micky Dolenz

getz wrote: »

whats sex ?

Google it, loads of educational videos on the subject

Madam_X

I agree two people who really like each other should go for it, feck the age gap. The age gap could cause issues down the line though, in terms of different life stages (e.g. one might want children, the other might feel too old to have children and may already have children) but it's worth giving it a try and seeing where it goes.

Anyone who'd actually see the meaningless "half your age plus seven" thing as something to abide by needs their head checked btw...

humberklog

The half your age plus 7 is a silly nonsense, but fun. Most people I think use it to see who falls into their window of opportunity.

It's more fun conversely using the equation to see whose window of opportunity you fall into. I'm fair game for 70 year olds...woohoo!


Also notice that the only people hung up on age difference are young prople not in a relationship where the age difference is larger than the norm.

Grown ups, or people with a grown up attitude don't seem to mind it.

Please Kill Me

ProfanityURL wrote: »

Has anyone ever heard of some questionable age differences between people in relationships...

Define questionable! I'm 42 and my fiancee is 27. We're together over 4 years and couldn't be happier. We have 2 kids and another on the way. Is there something wrong with that?

Age is just a number, doesn't mean anything. Yes it's different if a 25 year old is seeing a 10 year old, but in my case (and many others I'm sure) the gap doesn't mean anything.

Roadtrippin

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

But within saying that if I heard of an 18yo girl being with a 48yo man... Of course I would raise an eyebrow and think to myself "she's using him" - But my opinion dont matter. Live and let live.

She is using him? Really now? I'd say he is using her just the same. Probably taking advantage of a couple of daddy issues...

jaffacakesyum

On the one hand, I agree with a lot of other posters on here who say age is just a number and if two people love each other than who cares what anyone else thinks? Clearly there is a lot of cases of "questionable" age gaps where it's worked out and the couple are happily married etc.

However, I'm not going to lie. I still initially think it's creepy when I see a 30+ year old with an 17/18 year old. Especially in pubs/clubs when older men/women specifically go after young uns. I certainly would be apprehensive if my son or daughter seeing someone twice their age.

ProfanityURL

Piliger wrote: »

You really do give away your lack of years. "Feel weird" ? that sounds like something my 14yo nephew might say. And who on earth are you referring to when you say 'acceptable' ? Acceptable to who ?

Do I? Oh how embarassing.

Weird: Odd, bizarre, curious, peculiar, strange, unusual, inscrutable. Are any of these more appropriate?

I shall contemplate the folly of my youthful naivety over a bowl of coco pops during dora the explorer...