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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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  • #8192
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,784 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    Siuin wrote: »
    I was rather creeped out by how quickly everyone jumps on new members... especially the oldies and scumbags who can't spell...


    Unfortunately newbie pouncing is NOT unique to POF.

    Think it happens on just about every site.


  • #8193
    smallgarden
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,007 ✭✭✭smallgarden


    miamee wrote: »
    Everything or just POF?

    pof and okc,was strongly thinking about it and a polite pfo message was final straw


  • #8194
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,784 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    Ah ffs!!

    I say I'm gonna stop and start getting messages from a fully paid up member of the cutie tribe!


  • #8195
    Meauldsegosha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,688 ✭✭✭Meauldsegosha


    My quiver matches on okcupid today one hasn't been on the site since June 2011 another since Aug this year. Not going to have any luck with them.


  • #8196
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Ah sweet Quiver robot, always recommending me girls whom I have mailed previously and been ignored by.


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  • #8197
    manafana
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,488 ✭✭✭manafana


    A note

    - ANyone who doesnt want put up pictures, should send them once initial contact has been made, no later.

    - The newbie pouncing is bad, but i find they havnt grown annoyed yet and less likely to have massive character flaws , than people who have gone on loads of dates and still not found someone they might like

    Loast of all my first online date since deciding give it another go, lovely girl, mixed photos on profile which is good and honest, but conversation has flowed, and felt like getting know each other rather than the investigation some woman seem to do.


  • #8198
    Cianan2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,713 ✭✭✭Cianan2


    So, after having an inactive account for probably over a year, decided to rejoin the creepzone that is POF... May as well have never made a profile before, if I'm honest! Any advice on what to say to catch any girls attention would be much appreciated?


  • #8199
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,784 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    manafana wrote: »
    less likely to have massive character flaws , than people who have gone on loads of dates and still not found someone they might like

    Seriously??

    Just because someone hasn't met someone and doesn't want to settle DOES NOT automatically equate massive character flaws.


  • #8200
    zarazoe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5 ✭zarazoe


    Anybody have any experience of parship? Is it true it's for "serious" people? Or just as "bad" (you know) as pof and other free ones?


  • #8201
    GrumPy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,566 ✭✭✭GrumPy


    Rejoined the aul' online dating scene tonight. Went for OKCupid this time round.
    POF has a lot more traffic, but the layout and content is little off!


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  • #8202
    manafana
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,488 ✭✭✭manafana


    knucklehead6 wrote: »
    Seriously??

    Just because someone hasn't met someone and doesn't want to settle DOES NOT automatically equate massive character flaws.

    less likely not automatically, alot moe likely to get responses too, very hard filter profile on pof to people that might suit you so many poor profiles


  • #8203
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 13,128 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    knucklehead6 wrote: »
    Ah ffs!!

    I say I'm gonna stop and start getting messages from a fully paid up member of the cutie tribe!
    Well, did you crumble and log back in? :D


  • #8204
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 13,128 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    zarazoe wrote: »
    Anybody have any experience of parship? Is it true it's for "serious" people? Or just as "bad" (you know) as pof and other free ones?
    Oh I used Parship a few years ago. I never met anyone from it but I don't think I was fully committed to dating at the time. Definitely give it a whirl anyway, has to be better than POF.


  • #8205
    sarah42012
    Closed Accounts Posts: 38 ✭sarah42012


    After reading this through this thread I tried pof earlier about 2 months ago I think for about a month.

    I didn't get too many weirdos and chatted to a few sound attractive lads. My problem is that I tend to be quite formal when meeting ppl, it takes me awhile to 'loosen up' and be myself. Most ppl think I'm quiet and reserved and my friends think this is hilarious as I'm the complete opposite! I would be worried that a date would end up being a horrible awkward interview-esque type meeting cos I can be so quiet :(
    Anyone else the same?


  • #8206
    Sparky85
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 120 ✭✭Sparky85


    Any recommendations for something fun to do on Sunday for a few hours ?? I've a 4th date. In north Kildare but city centre is easily got to if anyone has any ideas ? Weather is supposed to be a bit sh*te so that rules out most outdoor things.


  • #8207
    Mince Pie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,901 ✭✭✭Mince Pie


    Sparky85 wrote: »
    Any recommendations for something fun to do on Sunday for a few hours ?? I've a 4th date. In north Kildare but city centre is easily got to if anyone has any ideas ? Weather is supposed to be a bit sh*te so that rules out most outdoor things.

    This looks kinda cool and you can get something to eat?

    http://www.dublinflea.ie/dublin-flea-market-gallery-photos.html


  • #8208
    smileyj1987
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,325 ✭✭✭smileyj1987


    sarah42012 wrote: »
    After reading this through this thread I tried pof earlier about 2 months ago I think for about a month.

    I didn't get too many weirdos and chatted to a few sound attractive lads. My problem is that I tend to be quite formal when meeting ppl, it takes me awhile to 'loosen up' and be myself. Most ppl think I'm quiet and reserved and my friends think this is hilarious as I'm the complete opposite! I would be worried that a date would end up being a horrible awkward interview-esque type meeting cos I can be so quiet :(
    Anyone else the same?

    The best thing you could do in that situation is to just pretend they are a friend you could also look through all your mails and find things to talk about by doing that . Like if they have a hobby ask have they been doing it lately or ask them how the likes of work is going . I would say the best form of date for you would be something along the lines of bowling because you are playing a game while having a laugh so it will help you come out of your shell quicker .


  • #8209
    Mr_Spaceman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭Mr_Spaceman


    Larianne wrote: »
    Well I don't wear a lot of make-up usually anyways. Must be the dark rimmed glasses so.

    The bohemian, bookish 'look' is much more attractive than a heavily made up image for many...

    So, definitely stick with the glasses if they work for you!


  • #8210
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,784 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    miamee wrote: »
    Well, did you crumble and log back in? :D


    Yep. Conversation lasted 4 mails before she got bored!! Someone edit in the embarrassed smiley there please.


  • #8211
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 13,128 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    knucklehead6 wrote: »
    Yep. Conversation lasted 4 mails before she got bored!! Someone edit in the embarrassed smiley there please.

    Ah she might have just had to go to bed or do something, you never know. But just for you :o:o :pac:


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  • #8212
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    Someone with no pic just asked me out in their very first message to me. You'd have to wonder what kind of success rate he has with a modus operandi like that.


  • #8213
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,215 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    Someone with no pic just asked me out in their very first message to me. You'd have to wonder what kind of success rate he has with a modus operandi like that.

    Bit like the ones who send their phone number in the first message!


  • #8214
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    sarah42012 wrote: »
    After reading this through this thread I tried pof earlier about 2 months ago I think for about a month.

    I didn't get too many weirdos and chatted to a few sound attractive lads. My problem is that I tend to be quite formal when meeting ppl, it takes me awhile to 'loosen up' and be myself. Most ppl think I'm quiet and reserved and my friends think this is hilarious as I'm the complete opposite! I would be worried that a date would end up being a horrible awkward interview-esque type meeting cos I can be so quiet :(
    Anyone else the same?

    I can be the same for about half of a first date, because I'm extremely shy until I get to know someone. I just warned anyone I went on a date with and it all worked out fine, so don't worry! If you think you'll be a bit formal, just tell the guy you're very shy at first. :)


  • #8215
    Jimmy Bottlehead
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,942 ✭✭✭Jimmy Bottlehead


    Quite attractive girl messaged me today, chatting away and after just 3-4 messages back and forth she says "Cool that you like dating, I do too. Sure you never know who you meet. So let's do it, excited now lol!"

    Had to explain to her than I prefer to chat just a little longer before meeting someone... I know it's ridiculous but I can't help but wonder if it's legit! :)


  • #8216
    Dermo73
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 45 ✭Dermo73


    Jimmy Bottlehead wrote: »
    Quite attractive girl messaged me today, chatting away and after just 3-4 messages back and forth she says "Cool that you like dating, I do too. Sure you never know who you meet. So let's do it, excited now lol!"

    Had to explain to her than I prefer to chat just a little longer before meeting someone... I know it's ridiculous but I can't help but wonder if it's legit! :)

    It's quick but I don't see any reason why it might not be legit. There could be a few reasons for the speed.
    1) You made a great first impression :D
    2) She dislikes endless mails and wants to meet quickly to find out if there's real attraction
    3) She likes dating and you'll do for this one.

    Whatever her reasons I think your should take it at face value, approach it in a positive manner and just see how it goes.


  • #8217
    Beefy78
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,166 ✭✭✭Beefy78


    Dermo73 wrote: »
    It's quick but I don't see any reason why it might not be legit. There could be a few reasons for the speed.
    1) You made a great first impression :D
    2) She dislikes endless mails and wants to meet quickly to find out if there's real attraction
    3) She likes dating and you'll do for this one.

    Whatever her reasons I think your should take it at face value, approach it in a positive manner and just see how it goes.

    Yeah. I've come round to the way of thinking that it's better to jump into these things early rather than spend a few weeks exchanging messages and texts. Just go for it.


  • #8218
    msg11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,572 ✭✭✭msg11


    Jimmy Bottlehead wrote: »
    Quite attractive girl messaged me today, chatting away and after just 3-4 messages back and forth she says "Cool that you like dating, I do too. Sure you never know who you meet. So let's do it, excited now lol!"

    Had to explain to her than I prefer to chat just a little longer before meeting someone... I know it's ridiculous but I can't help but wonder if it's legit! :)

    Well once no one has asked for credit card details you should be ok ..


  • #8219
    Jimmy Bottlehead
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,942 ✭✭✭Jimmy Bottlehead


    msg11 wrote: »
    Well once no one has asked for credit card details you should be ok ..

    You're assuming I don't charge for dates :P


  • #8220
    msg11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,572 ✭✭✭msg11


    Jimmy Bottlehead wrote: »
    You're assuming I don't charge for dates :P

    Cash in hand my friend, Revenue are sniffing out the undeclared income from that service..


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  • #8221
    Tchaikovsky
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,185 ✭✭✭Tchaikovsky


    What's the deal with the Favourites List? I'd say about 90% of the girls that added me on that have never messaged me. It doesn't make sense.. unless they're waiting for me to make the move. (note that some of these girls have no photos on their profile :confused:)


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