Public Display of Friendship?

Balmed Out · 19-11-2012 01:56PM

Maybe

I remember getting a bus from the airport at nigh in Cairo. The bus had no women and had a few empty seats. Most on the bus had either an arm around another guy or were sitting on each others laps.

I found it quite surprising how a country I expected to be very conservative seemed to run a special gay bus airport connection.

Lyaiera · 19-11-2012 01:58PM

In fairness, lads do get very cuddly after a few beers. Walking down the street, singing songs to each other, arms over each others' shoulders. The occasional chip lovingly flung at each others' head.

ash23 · 19-11-2012 02:00PM

Maybe

I'd link arms with my sisters or close female friends.
I hold hands with my daughter or my boyfriend but I wouldn't be comfortable holding hands with my friends.

demakinz · 19-11-2012 02:09PM

We are merely exchanging long protein strings. If you can think of a simpler way, I'd like to hear it.

1stimpressions · 19-11-2012 02:12PM

Its common in rural Thailand especially in the Northern parts but in Bangkok I mostly only see it between elderly men or far more frequently girls or women and female members of the same family. I can see its has been on a steady decline but you will see two boys holding hands with each other from time to time.

ItAintMeBabe · 19-11-2012 02:58PM

No

My best friend and I would hold hands a lot of the time, we think nothing of it

Two girls by the way!

Ellis Dee · 19-11-2012 03:55PM

Seans_Username wrote: »

You said yourself, it's a local custom. There's no need to go insulting the majority of Irish people.

If you're going to go on like that sure I may as well call the people in the middle east 'backwards' cos they don't tour about in Honda Civics at night, drifting around the roundabout.

It's their custom. We have ours. Just cos we don't all of a sudden take up their culture doesn't mean we're 'petty-minded'.

Don't shoot the messenger! And who has appointed you to speak for the majority of Irish people?:rolleyes::rolleyes: Maybe you should read Myles na gCopaleen's book, especially the bits about TIPAAW!:D:D

If you read my original post, you will see that I referred to many Irish people being insular, pass-remarkable and often petty minded and bigoted. Naturally, there are also many who are the opposite. They are the ones I prefer to associate with as much as possible.

I never suggested you take up foreign people's cultures, but think it might not be a bad thing at all for those who gawp at anything out of the ordinary to just accept it. Even in Ireland, where there are far more foreign people than was the case when I was young.

It is my perception that many Irish people are far too quick to comment on people's dress styles, mannerisms and way of life generally. I believe I have a right to express that view, and you can express yours. It is also the view of my Finnish-born wife, who finds a lot of Irish people narrow-minded and parochial to the point of absurdity, but she takes it in good humour and prefers to use the world "whimsical" where I would use "weird".

My daughter, who has lived in Dublin for nearly 20 years, is still regularly appalled at the "casual racism" and "lack of cop-on" that she finds sadly common in everyday life in Ireland.

Actually, and maybe it has been done already, someone should start a thread where foreigners living in Ireland could honestly express their view of us.

Do you think you'd be up to a bit of criticism? Who knows, there might even be some praise as well.:)

kowloon · 19-11-2012 04:12PM

im invisible wrote: »

We must move forward, not backward...

...and always twirling, twirling, twirling towards freedom.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AO43p2Wqc08

Conall Cernach · 19-11-2012 04:17PM

Lyaiera wrote: »

In fairness, lads do get very cuddly after a few beers. Walking down the street, singing songs to each other, arms over each others' shoulders. The occasional chip lovingly flung at each others' head.

Once while staggering home with a mate of mine we ended up supporting each other at my front door. When I went to put my hand in my pocket for my keys I accidentally put my hand in his pocket instead. It was one of those pokerface moments and we never mentioned it again.

pablomakaveli · 19-11-2012 04:18PM

Ellis Dee wrote: »

Don't shoot the messenger! And who has appointed you to speak for the majority of Irish people?:rolleyes::rolleyes: Maybe you should read Myles na gCopaleen's book, especially the bits about TIPAAW!:D:D

If you read my original post, you will see that I referred to many Irish people being insular, pass-remarkable and often petty minded and bigoted. Naturally, there are also many who are the opposite. They are the ones I prefer to associate with as much as possible.

I never suggested you take up foreign people's cultures, but think it might not be a bad thing at all for those who gawp at anything out of the ordinary to just accept it. Even in Ireland, where there are far more foreign people than was the case when I was young.

It is my perception that many Irish people are far too quick to comment on people's dress styles, mannerisms and way of life generally. I believe I have a right to express that view, and you can express yours. It is also the view of my Finnish-born wife, who finds a lot of Irish people narrow-minded and parochial to the point of absurdity, but she takes it in good humour and prefers to use the world "whimsical" where I would use "weird".

My daughter, who has lived in Dublin for nearly 20 years, is still regularly appalled at the "casual racism" and "lack of cop-on" that she finds sadly common in everyday life in Ireland.

Actually, and maybe it has been done already, someone should start a thread where foreigners living in Ireland could honestly express their view of us.

Do you think you'd be up to a bit of criticism? Who knows, there might even be some praise as well.:)

This isnt an irish thing. You'll find people like that in any part of the world.

FullblownRose · 20-11-2012 09:37AM

Ellis Dee wrote: »

Don't shoot the messenger! And who has appointed you to speak for the majority of Irish people?:rolleyes::rolleyes: Maybe you should read Myles na gCopaleen's book, especially the bits about TIPAAW!:D:D

If you read my original post, you will see that I referred to many Irish people being insular, pass-remarkable and often petty minded and bigoted. Naturally, there are also many who are the opposite. They are the ones I prefer to associate with as much as possible.

I never suggested you take up foreign people's cultures, but think it might not be a bad thing at all for those who gawp at anything out of the ordinary to just accept it. Even in Ireland, where there are far more foreign people than was the case when I was young.

It is my perception that many Irish people are far too quick to comment on people's dress styles, mannerisms and way of life generally. I believe I have a right to express that view, and you can express yours. It is also the view of my Finnish-born wife, who finds a lot of Irish people narrow-minded and parochial to the point of absurdity, but she takes it in good humour and prefers to use the world "whimsical" where I would use "weird".

My daughter, who has lived in Dublin for nearly 20 years, is still regularly appalled at the "casual racism" and "lack of cop-on" that she finds sadly common in everyday life in Ireland.

I've always found Irish people to be the complete opposite. In fact I've grown up here with the sense that it's just not the done thing to belittle people. S'pose it depends on your social circle as much as anythng. I find English people to be very two faced and quick to disparage and pick faults with others, very ready to make a cheap joke at others' expense and there's a tendency to be demeaning in their sense of humour and way of talking about people.. Not every English person I know, but enough of them to give the impression that it could be a cultural thing. Ive often cringed at harsh personal remarks my English acquaintances have passed about people in public (which would cover friends making PDAs). I don't want to fec any English people off here, I'm actually married to one and he has said this himself, but I'm sure plenty of people will not agree because it isn't really endemic to any one nationality, is it?

FullblownRose · 20-11-2012 09:38AM

Hang on..cheap jokes, demeaning and belittling people,it's boards.ie.....oops

Neewbie_noob · 20-11-2012 09:43AM

No

Oranage2 wrote: »

In another country and I've noticed it's very common for young boys and men aswell as females to hold hands or have their arms around members of the same sex. At first I thought it was a tad strange until someone explained that actually it's not homosexual at all and just a display of friendship.

So this got me thinking that wouldnt it be nice to able to do this back home, whether it was going down the street holding hands with your BFF or even just walking on the beach with arms around each other in a none homo erotic just simply a platonic way.

SO people of AH, do you hold hands with a friend of the same sex and/or would you like too?

It's early, misread the poll :P Ehh, not between a guy and a guy or a gal and a gal in a platonic way, no. Only between people in a romantic way, two guys and two girls can do this, I'v nothing against homosexuality from either gender, but doing it platonicaly is a bit weird.

counterlock · 20-11-2012 09:53AM

I once held my friends hand but this seal kept following us around shouting something at us.

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