Why do women want a man who can make her laugh?

Giselle · 13-11-2012 11:49PM

Daveysil15 wrote: »

My friend said she would like a man with Tommy Tiernan's sense of humour with Daniel Craig's looks.

Wouldn't we all.

jonsnow · 13-11-2012 11:51PM

Wibbs wrote: »

Yea cos he was the Comedian(tm). That archetype will get more than the Wallflower(tm), but can't trump the Goodlooking(tm) so easily. The humourous(tm) socially confident guy doesn't come across as trying to overcompensate so can often trump the lot.

Absolutely.But the socially confident humorous guy is generally better looking (which helps with the social confidence with women thing) and has the full deck as opposed to the comedian who is usually not as conventionally attractive and is doubling down on his one ace card

Fizzlesque · 13-11-2012 11:52PM

af_thefragile wrote: »

It was more about why is it so important for a man to be funny/make the girl laugh that its one trait almost all women mention as what they'ld like in their man?

Why does it take precedence over intelligent, deep, thoughtful, kind, caring etc.

I don't think it takes precedence. I think it's in addition to being kind and caring. Kind and caring are sort of automatic anyway, aren't they? Surely people don't need to mention basic kindness when describing attractive traits in a partner.

It's probably because it's not one of those qualities that would be a given, when describing the kind of person you'd like to meet, that it gets a mention at all.

zyanya · 13-11-2012 11:53PM

Thought of something else - because a man who is not afraid of laughing at himself shows great self confidence.

And I'd trade the Daniel Craig looks for Jude Law, Ryan Gosling, Jose Maria de Tavira or Gael Garcia (taller, though).

irish son · 13-11-2012 11:54PM

I think being be able to make a girl laugh is very important because you cant be serious with each other all the time. Girls like a guy to make them laugh and a guy feels really good when she finds him funny. Its really just a kind of flirting.

I think women do find men who make them laugh more attractive but also they subconsciously find better looking guys funnier, say if an average looking and a good looking guy said the same thing women would find what the good looking guy said funnier or more interesting.

The King of Moo · 13-11-2012 11:55PM

Rigol wrote: »

As above, they don't.

Put a hilarious average looking guy beside a rich good looking guy and see who goes home with her.

That's a false dichotomy. Why didn't you mention the rich man's personality? Doesn't he have any? If not, the hilarious guy will get the attention, unless his joking comes from insecurity.

af_thefragile wrote: »

But why would you wanna make little jokes all the time and be a comedian just to get on with a girl?

Why would you not want someone who likes to think and wonder about the big and small things in life, experience new things and all those cheesy stuff like that?

Me: "Hey, did you see in the news that they've declared pizza a vegetable!? Have you seen this? Have you heard about this? What's up with that? I mean, what next: meatloaf is a good source of fibre!? Those clowns in Congress have done it again! And another thing..."

Her: *puts dressing gown back on over negligée* "I'M GOING TO SLEEP!!"

It's not about constantly telling jokes, being "on." Rather it's about sharing a connection, a common point of view.

jonsnow wrote: »

I remember reading frank skinners first autobiography where he said that birds always said that they were attracted to funny men and he would have them in stitches but then they,d go back home with his better looking mates and shag them instead.Its an advantage being funny but more often than not it doesn't overrule being goodlooking.

That's the funniest thing I've heard in a while!

phasers · 13-11-2012 11:57PM

af_thefragile wrote: »

But why would you wanna make little jokes all the time and be a comedian just to get on with a girl?

Why would you not want someone who likes to think and wonder about the big and small things in life, experience new things and all those cheesy stuff like that?

The point I'm trying to make is that it's not about making jokes all the time, it's about having a natural rapport with someone and enjoying their company. Haven't you ever had a conversation with someone where no jokes were exchanged but you had a laugh because you were just enjoying being with them?

Who says you can't have a laugh with a guy while they think and wonder about stuff, and experience new things? When a woman says they want a man who can make them laugh they don't mean 24/7 jokes!

Larianne · 13-11-2012 11:58PM

Giselle wrote: »

Wouldn't we all.

No.

Smidge · 13-11-2012 11:58PM

A friend of mine is with their partner almost 20 years and he is no Brad Pitt looks wise(think the polar opposite)is not wealthy nor professionally successful and they have had their FAIR share of up's and down's.

To this this day he can still make her crack up with laughter, I'm talking tears streaming down her face.
I think that's why they are still together tbh as it has helped him get out of a lot of trouble with her over the years

Gongoozler · 14-11-2012 12:00AM

Giselle wrote: »

Wouldn't we all.

Very much not.

Tommy Tiernan does nothing but scream apparently, and Daniel Craig, well I didn't realise he was meant to be good looking. That's news to me.

The King of Moo · 14-11-2012 12:02AM

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

Sometimes I just wonder how people don't 'get' things.

Of all the things to not understand about human nature or relationships....

How the OP views the hu-man ritual of flirting.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZ6KWfZz4BY

Scanlas The 2nd · 14-11-2012 12:03AM

Making a woman laugh at herself most definitely works. That's sexy humour.

Giselle · 14-11-2012 12:06AM

Larianne wrote: »

No.

Thats fine, I can manage alone

The King of Moo · 14-11-2012 12:07AM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

Making a woman laugh at herself most definitely works. That's sexy humour.

I take the more direct route and laugh at them myself. It's quicker and saves a lot of work.

Wibbs · 14-11-2012 12:15AM

jonsnow wrote: »

Absolutely.But the socially confident humorous guy is generally better looking (which helps with the social confidence with women thing) and has the full deck as opposed to the comedian who is usually not as conventionally attractive and is doubling down on his one ace card

Not nearly so much IME anyway JS. While YMMV I've found social confidence/maturity had remarkably little correlation with handsomeness. Subjective or otherwise.

Madam_X · 14-11-2012 12:17AM

tommyboy2222 wrote: »

They don't.

It just sounds less shallow than "I want a man i find attractive".

Rigol wrote: »

As above, they don't.

Put a hilarious average looking guy beside a rich good looking guy and see who goes home with her.

This just in: no woman who finds sense of humour/wit highly attractive actually does, it's all a lie. And there's me thinking I genuinely found such a trait really appealing! :eek:
Thanks for getting into my brain and telling me what's what.

Red Hand · 14-11-2012 12:18AM

The King of Moo wrote: »

How the OP views the hu-man ritual of flirting.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZ6KWfZz4BY

Bravo, sir! I bet you get all the ladies!

Wibbs wrote: »

Not nearly so much IME anyway JS. While YMMV I've found social confidence/maturity had remarkably little correlation with handsomeness. Subjective or otherwise.

IME JS YMMV

A few more abbreviations and you will have enough letters to make an anagram of Jimmy Saville.:pac:

What in your opinion, is social confidence in a person?

The King of Moo · 14-11-2012 12:21AM

Red Hand wrote: »

Bravo, sir! I bet you get all the ladies!

Don't nothing bring the bitches to the yard like a Star Trek: The Next Generation Youtube Clip Party.

*sets up 3D chess board, pours "synthohol"*

irish son · 14-11-2012 12:32AM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

Making a woman laugh at herself most definitely works. That's sexy humour.

And then she gives you a playful push and says something like "shut up" or "no I don't" and then smiles and looks in your eyes. You know your in then :cool:

Rarely happens me these days but when it does

Reindeer · 14-11-2012 12:34AM

af_thefragile wrote: »

But why would you wanna make little jokes all the time and be a comedian just to get on with a girl?

Why would you not want someone who likes to think and wonder about the big and small things in life, experience new things and all those cheesy stuff like that?

As stated earlier. Women(and men) don't necessarily want to wed a comedian. The aspect of being able to make someone laugh is more profound than simply cracking a joke. It has to do with being upbeat. It has to do with how clever a person is. It has to do with intelligence. It has to do with how well a person can interact. It has to do with how a person can see and interpret the world - noticing how ridiculous or silly some things are. It has to do with charm. One who possesses these traits tends to be a pleasant person to be around.

kowloon · 14-11-2012 12:40AM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

Making a woman laugh at herself most definitely works. That's sexy humour.

Particularly if you can get everyone else in the room to laugh at her too. They love that.

kraggy · 14-11-2012 12:46AM

Madam_X wrote: »

It's an attractive trait.

Attractive as in, "he makes me feel warm and fuzzy, I could hang out with him all day" or "I want him inside me IMMEDIATELY!"?

Treha · 14-11-2012 12:46AM

irish son wrote: »

And then she gives you a playful push and says something like "shut up" or "no I don't" and then smiles and looks in your eyes.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eTfniWEVTY

validusername1 · 14-11-2012 01:32AM

Because if he can make me laugh, it's like he 'gets' me.. People go on about needing to have things in common with someone for a relationship to work & I agree, but to me, that doesn't mean same taste in music/movies etc, to me that means having a similar sense of humor.. If you have that in common, it just works. Plus I like just messing around and not being serious so if a guy makes me laugh, it means I'm enjoying myself..

af_thefragile · 14-11-2012 01:40AM

validusername1 wrote: »

Because if he can make me laugh, it's like he 'gets' me.. People go on about needing to have things in common with someone for a relationship to work & I agree, but to me, that doesn't mean same taste in music/movies etc, to me that means having a similar sense of humor.. If you have that in common, it just works. Plus I like just messing around and not being serious so if a guy makes me laugh, it means I'm enjoying myself..

So its more "I want someone I can get along with" than "I want someone who can make me laugh"...?

irish son · 14-11-2012 01:49AM

Treha wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eTfniWEVTY

Ok, you got me, I'm actually Dawson. My life is so complicated, which beautiful girl will I have sex with?

Sinfonia · 14-11-2012 04:54AM

af_thefragile wrote: »

So its more "I want someone I can get along with" than "I want someone who can make me laugh"...?

It's really more "I don't want someone who can't make me laugh and/or makes me cry".

Not just "I want someone who makes me laugh and everything else is a secondary concern".

Sorcha16 · 14-11-2012 05:03AM

Imagine that, women wanting to be with someone fun -whatever next?

Maximus Alexander · 14-11-2012 05:05AM

af_thefragile wrote: »

It was more about why is it so important for a man to be funny/make the girl laugh that its one trait almost all women mention as what they'ld like in their man?

Why does it take precedence over intelligent, deep, thoughtful, kind, caring etc.

How are these mutually exclusive? If anything you need to be pretty intelligent, deep and thoughtful in order to be witty. Unless you're with someone who is into fart jokes.

There are plenty of people who think of themselves as intelligent, deep and thoughtful, but are in fact just distant, standoffish and anti-social.

I would suggest wit is actually a pretty good marker for intelligence.

Ihatecuddles-old · 14-11-2012 05:06AM

I want a guy with my sense of humour. Who can cheer me up and put a smile on my face or make my ears water from laughing.

It's also nice if you can make him do the same. It's those moments that make my heart do little flutters and you feel a bit of magic.

I'd take an average looking funny guy over a handsome rich guy any day.

Why do women want a man who can make her laugh?

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