Is sex addiction ever a valid excuse for cheating?

B.A._Baracus · 19-10-2012 02:14AM

K-9 wrote: »

At least they have some excuse. I wouldn't trust somebody who cheated, not reliable as a friend, somebody who cheats sexually will cheat on you in some other part of life.

Totally agree.

K-9 wrote: »

Being addicted to sex is an excuse for cheating, same as heroin addiction is an excuse for robbing a handbag.

Really? ... Are you actually serious?
Because the reality of it is, the people who use excuses totally out-weigh people who have the addiction. Whatever addiction it may be.

But lets talk about the addiction itself. So a man, who is in a relationship or even married, sleeps with other women because of his "addiction" - has an "excuse"? ... Rather than racing home and giving the wife one, no, its an "excuse" to seek else where?

HeyThereDeliah · 19-10-2012 02:41AM

Lust is a good reason for cheating.

K-9 · 19-10-2012 03:36AM

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

But lets talk about the addiction itself. So a man, who is in a relationship or even married, sleeps with other women because of his "addiction" - has an "excuse"? ... Rather than racing home and giving the wife one, no, its an "excuse" to seek else where?

As much as the heroin addict or alcoholic has some excuse to get their fix.

Rabies · 19-10-2012 03:54AM

Gauss wrote: »

It seems like a fairly convenient excuse for the cheater to use but could it ever be a valid excuse. If alcohol addiction is a disease then is sex addiction a disease?

How is alcohol addiction a disease?
You don't catch it or get infected by it. You consume it regularly by choice until the body becomes dependent on it for it "buzz"

B.A._Baracus · 19-10-2012 04:30AM

K-9 wrote: »

As much as the heroin addict or alcoholic has some excuse to get their fix.

No, k-9.
Quite frankly what world do you live on?
A heroin addict needs that certain substance in their body. An addiction. They'll do what it takes to get the next fix. To enter a foreign substance into their bodies.

So called "Sex addicts" can masturbate.

Armin_Tamzarian · 19-10-2012 04:39AM

Rabies wrote: »

How is alcohol addiction a disease?
You don't catch it or get infected by it. You consume it regularly by choice until the body becomes dependent on it for it "buzz"

No, but I guess it could be classified as an illness.

Alcohol, coke, sex, whatever, something inside the person is driving them to pursue these things to satisfy a need.
This obviously doesn't completely remove all culpability.
Still, it goes some way to explaining the person's actions.

No, they shouldn't have cheated and it doesn't make it right.
Yes, it someway mitigates what has happened, the culprit was face with fighting a stronger urge than non-sex addicts.

Chuck Stone · 19-10-2012 06:53AM

'Disease'.

Lol.

gobnaitolunacy · 19-10-2012 08:07AM

Is that like sexlexia?

hoodwinked · 19-10-2012 08:17AM

Sound of Silence wrote: »

What guy is not addicted to sex?

A guy with a dog ugly wife!

then its called porn addiction!

Dravokivich · 19-10-2012 08:17AM

I don't get how "Sex Addicts" have to cheat. Sure, would they not be getting all the sex from whoever they are with no?

hoodwinked · 19-10-2012 08:19AM

Dravokivich wrote: »

I don't get how "Sex Addicts" have to cheat. Sure, would they not be getting all the sex from whoever they are with no?

see above! :pac:

Dravokivich · 19-10-2012 08:25AM

hoodwinked wrote: »

see above! :pac:

A few options off the top of me noggin:

- Paper bag, if ya want to be rude about it
- wear a blind fold, if you want to pretend its something kinky you are into
- comment on the colour relationship between the curtains walls and carpets and start considering options for redecorating the room.

gbee · 19-10-2012 08:33AM

Mickey H wrote: »

That's a brilliant idea. You could make a fortune from pr0n.

It's called the 60's

Giselle · 19-10-2012 08:56AM

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

So called "Sex addicts" can masturbate.

Its a compulsive behaviour and I don't think it works quite like that, as there is a pattern of rewards associated with acting it out, that having a little self love doesn't give the person. Its not just about orgasm.

Like other compulsive behaviours, I think it has the capacity to make the sufferer miserable and to ruin their life, and by extension their partners and families lives.

I'm sure anybody who's life is dominated by the compulsion to satisfy an unreasonable need, and who is ultimately doomed to never feel 'done', will tell you that its a very real problem and one they have little psychological control over. I'd feel sorry for everyone in its orbit tbh.

People who pretend to have it to excuse cheating are the lowest.

CruelCoin · 19-10-2012 09:00AM

Never an excuse.

Also, alcoholism is not a disease. That's just idiots who can't say no.

K-9 · 19-10-2012 09:50AM

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

No, k-9.
Quite frankly what world do you live on?
A heroin addict needs that certain substance in their body. An addiction. They'll do what it takes to get the next fix. To enter a foreign substance into their bodies.

So called "Sex addicts" can masturbate.

I'd be skeptical myself too. Probably more akin to gambling addiction!

CdeC · 19-10-2012 10:01AM

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

What the f**k is sex addiction anyways?

Sure ask your average woman they'll say "Most blokes are always gagging for it" - so arent I viewed as a sex addict too? So is every other guy on this planet?

Most blokes are gagging for it but when you can't start your day until you get blown in a toilet by a stranger than you know you have a problem.

If it's a crutch that is interfering with your life and happiness than it is an addiction and also everyone treats it like a joke so that makes it even harder.

UCDVet · 19-10-2012 10:06AM

CruelCoin wrote: »

Never an excuse.

Also, alcoholism is not a disease. That's just idiots who can't say no.

There is a lot of medical research that suggests otherwise. There appear to be genetic markers that correlate with alcoholism.

http://alcoholism.about.com/cs/alerts/l/blnaa18.htm

I think it's a huge oversimplification to say 'That's just idiots who can't say no.' - my Grandmother suffered from Alzheimer's disease; was she just an idiot who couldn't remember stuff?

I get that it's hard to acknowledge things we can't easily see. If a kid is born with one leg, people look at him and go 'Oh - he's only got one leg!' and they can immediately acknowledge that problems that would go along with only having one leg.

Now, ignoring high-tech prosthetic limbs - it'd be really silly to say, 'Anyone who can't run an 8minute mile is lazy' and apply it to the kid with one leg. He's got *ONE* leg. Likewise, you wouldn't expect him to play football at the same level as his two legged peers with equal experience. People with one leg might be able to do all of those things; but surely they have different learning curves, require different types of assistance, and aspire to different levels of competence.

But when someone has an abnormality we can't see, so long as we don't understand it well enough/can't easily verify it with near certainty, a lot of people will refuse to acknowledge it (and, to be fair, some people will claim to be afflicted by it for attention or whatever personal motivations they have).

sbsquarepants · 19-10-2012 10:09AM

Shryke wrote: »

We should all be screwing in mad orgy huts, sucking on berries and titties, chewing weird leaves and generally getting ourselves killed in stupid fashion. If we were doing all that we'd be a lot happier and the planet wouldn't be destroyed.

I was all on for joining your cult shryke, untill the end bit. After my weird leaf fuelled orgies, i prefer to go home and have a nice cup of tea, i don't want to be killed in and fashion stupid or genius.:D

Armin_Tamzarian · 19-10-2012 05:44PM

CruelCoin wrote: »

Also, alcoholism is not a disease. That's just idiots who can't say no.

Ridiculous statement, bit offensive too.
You're basically saying that addiction doesn't really exist.

Is sex addiction ever a valid excuse for cheating?

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