children??

lennyloulou · 18-10-2012 08:42PM #1

would you discipline/give out to other people's children?
my cuz has 2 lunatic kids who proceed to dismantle my house every time they arrive...7 and 4 yrs
my cousin and partner dont bat an eye lid.. just continue to chat as normal while we are up and down asking the kids to mind X, put down Y...they pull at our dog which i fear could bite as he is not used to kids, dont say thank you when we give them a treat in fact refuse anything to drink but coke which we dont have, also some toilet accidents even with the 7 yr old.... the parents are oblivious, just ignore them, often stay until 11pm visiting on a school night
the very minute adults start to talk they start to scream, shout , pull at ornaments..anything to get attention
am i being mean.. i dont have kids- am i out of touch? when i was their age i was made behave in another persons house

biko · 18-10-2012 08:42PM

tldr

TeddyTedson · 18-10-2012 08:44PM

Oh Noes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh2sWSVRrmo

Gongoozler · 18-10-2012 08:44PM

Tell them to fcuk off out of your house until they can control their children, and learn some respect.

MadYaker · 18-10-2012 08:45PM

biko wrote: »

tldr

no paragraphs

Stained Class · 18-10-2012 08:46PM

If my 7 year old behaved like that she'd get a clip round the ear.

admiralofthefleet · 18-10-2012 08:50PM

nope. and i wouldnt accept anyone telling my child off either

Frank Black · 18-10-2012 08:52PM

I feel your pain. Got the same issue with the sister in law's 3 year old kid. Patents acts like there's nothing untoward happening as the kid runs through our house like a feckin whirlwind. His favourite pastime is banging stuff off other stuff. We'd be in the kitchen having a coffee while 'Damien' runs upstairs. All you can hear is (our) things being whacked off other things. Usually my sister in law will just throw her eyes up and go 'there's Damien again'. I just look at her and wonder if she plans on going up to see what damage he's doing. He treats the house like a giant playground.
I've bit my tongue for the sake of 'in-law harmony' but I've taken to locking all the doors in the house other than the living room whenever they call around.
Drives me mental.

marcsignal · 18-10-2012 08:57PM

lennyloulou wrote: »

my cuz has 2 lunatic kids who proceed to dismantle my house every time they arrive...7 and 4 yrs

give them something to play with, like a knife and a toaster

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater · 18-10-2012 08:57PM

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

nope. and i wouldnt accept anyone telling my child off either

Thats fair enough if your child has manners and the person telling them off is just being unreasonable.

If the child has no manners and is behaving like a little gob****e then I'd be telling the parent off.

Nodster · 18-10-2012 08:58PM

Your house/Your rules

girl in the striped socks · 18-10-2012 08:59PM

I have asked Parents to stop their kids wrecking my house or they wouldn't be welcome again. I was left with no other choice because it was just say it straight out or watch my house get wrecked. I don't particularly care if they were insulted, it's my house & I'd like to think if kids are going to wreck it then they will at least be my own.
I can't stand parents who sit back & let their kids run riot. They are complete dickheads in my book.

AnonoBoy · 18-10-2012 09:03PM

Teach the dog to bite small people.

They won't come back.

admiralofthefleet · 18-10-2012 09:04PM

deccurley wrote: »

Thats fair enough if your child has manners and the person telling them off is just being unreasonable.

If the child has no manners and is behaving like a little gob****e then I'd be telling the parent off.

i would mind my own business

Uriel. · 18-10-2012 09:05PM

I avoid these kind of tricky situations by keeping the curtains closed and ignoring the doorbell.

I literally never answer the door, unless I am expecting someone.

Also useful for survey, charity and marketing parasites

Potential-Monke · 18-10-2012 09:06PM

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

i would mind my own business

Outside the house.

phasers · 18-10-2012 09:06PM

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

i would mind my own business

So if some brats were trashing your house you'd just sit there and let them?

Insanity.

actuallylike · 18-10-2012 09:07PM

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

i would mind my own business

It's his house they're wrecking, it is his business..
...
and the dog's of course.

admiralofthefleet · 18-10-2012 09:08PM

phasers wrote: »

So if some brats were trashing your house you'd just sit there and let them?

Insanity.

i would ask the parents to get them to stop but i wouldnt tell the children off myself, as per the op

scwazrh · 18-10-2012 09:10PM

biko wrote: »

tldr

It's only 10 lines! You have serious concentration issues

Yamanoto · 18-10-2012 09:11PM

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

i would mind my own business

Your prerogative, though if feral kids are impacting upon you and yours, I'd imagine their behaviour may prove difficult to ignore.

Grayson · 18-10-2012 09:12PM

I know a couple who are the exact opposite with their children. The kid is just over a year old and they have him trained so that if food spills, they have him clean it with a napkin. That kid is going to be a nervous wreck.

Honestly OP, I don't know what you could do. If you mention their children or parenting skills to any parent, they'll probably take it really badly. I can't think of any parents I know who wouldn't take it as an insult. maybe you could get them to read this and

samina · 18-10-2012 09:15PM

My youngest aged 6 has 1 friend like this. He comes into the house and run riot. I throw him out tell him he doesn't behave like that in my house and he will usually apologise. He does it every time he comes round so he clearly learns nothing but he know she won't get away with it here. I won't have my kids thinking it acceptable behaviour. So in short yes I would say something to both parents and child if the need arose. Not in a nasty way though.

lennyloulou · 18-10-2012 09:19PM

thanks for all the advice..... it puts me off having kids!!! haha!
poor dog was taken by the 2 of then out near the road yesterday , they ran out the door quietly( both kids and dog not used to road) the Dad remained chatting relaxed to my partner- not a bother!!!i am a nervous wreck calling them
yep i am biting my tongue- i think the dad likes the change of scenery and sees his visit as time to relax and chat.
might take up the idea of not answering the doorbell!

Satts · 18-10-2012 09:27PM

Life is too short. The next time they come to the door tell them to fcuk off.

Red Pepper · 18-10-2012 09:34PM

Go to your cousins house and wreck the f*cking place! Especially the kids rooms and their toys.
Next time they come to visit, say you will only entertain them in your garden. They are not allowed inside the house.
That kinda sh1t sickens my hole.

up for anything · 18-10-2012 09:47PM

black francis wrote: »

Got the same issue with the sister in law's 3 year old kid. Patents acts like there's nothing untoward happening as the kid runs through our house like a feckin whirlwind...........

I've bit my tongue for the sake of 'in-law harmony' but I've taken to locking all the doors in the house other than the living room whenever they call around.
Drives me mental.

Why don't you get your partner to say something to his/her sister to avoid disturbing in-law harmony.

lennyloulou wrote: »

would you discipline/give out to other people's children?
my cuz has 2 lunatic kids who proceed to dismantle my house every time they arrive...7 and 4 yrs
my cousin and partner dont bat an eye lid.. just continue to chat as normal while we are up and down asking the kids to mind X, put down Y...they pull at our dog which i fear could bite as he is not used to kids, dont say thank you when we give them a treat in fact refuse anything to drink but coke which we dont have, also some toilet accidents even with the 7 yr old.... the parents are oblivious, just ignore them, often stay until 11pm visiting on a school night
the very minute adults start to talk they start to scream, shout , pull at ornaments..anything to get attention
am i being mean.. i dont have kids- am i out of touch? when i was their age i was made behave in another persons house

Yes, I do tell off other people's children if they are in my house. I treat them the same as I treat mine.

Why don't you put the dog in another room when they are there and make it strictly out of bounds for the dog's sake? Tell them that if they go in to him or let him out they will have to go home.

Pottler · 18-10-2012 09:49PM

lennyloulou wrote: »

would you discipline/give out to other people's children?
my cuz has 2 lunatic kids who proceed to dismantle my house every time they arrive...7 and 4 yrs
my cousin and partner dont bat an eye lid.. just continue to chat as normal while we are up and down asking the kids to mind X, put down Y...they pull at our dog which i fear could bite as he is not used to kids, dont say thank you when we give them a treat in fact refuse anything to drink but coke which we dont have, also some toilet accidents even with the 7 yr old.... the parents are oblivious, just ignore them, often stay until 11pm visiting on a school night
the very minute adults start to talk they start to scream, shout , pull at ornaments..anything to get attention
am i being mean.. i dont have kids- am i out of touch? when i was their age i was made behave in another persons house

No - just no. Not happening. I decided several years ago to be honest and forthright when dealing with people. I tell it like it is, pretty much. In this case, it's sit them down and stfu or get out. My house, my rules. I don't mind kids playing, but being rude and destructive is not on. I also expect a thank you when appropriate, or else I'm getting sniffy.

Ghost Buster · 18-10-2012 09:52PM

Yes I do. My house, my rules....

and Im a dad of two.....

It can be done politely and tactfully...but if that doesnt work... I havent encountered this scenario yet.

Madam_X · 18-10-2012 09:59PM

I'd try just to say it to the parents, but if it came to it I'd tell the kids to behave. I know it's not on most of the time to discipline other people's children, but there's a line - and the kids in the OP have crossed it. It's unrealistic to state you'd never ever tell someone else's kid to behave. What about if minding them? I called my babysitter a bitch when I was six

and she gave out sh1t to me, and rightly so.

namloc1980 · 18-10-2012 09:59PM

OP you just need to tell them that they need to control their kids and that you don't want them calling around so late. Sure it will be awkward but fuk it, it's your house/your rules. It'll be better in the long run if you tell them how it is straight up.

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