Why do people cheat on their partners?

SEANoftheDEAD · 28-08-2012 06:21PM

crazy cabbage wrote: »

To answer your question we will nead more info than he had unprotected sex while drunk with a stranger.

He did confide in you which means he clearly trusts you.

Either that or he was working an angle, thinking about the above with the OP and threw the idea out there to see if it'd ever be possible.

The xmas parties are getting booking around now, no harm in planning ahead.

3ndahalfof6 · 28-08-2012 06:23PM

mauzo wrote: »

I cheated on my boyfriend more times than I'll admit.

He was violent and I was scared to leave. 3 of the 4 years we were together were spent with me cheating whenever I got the chance. PRobably an attention thing at the time. Can't say to be honest.

not violent enough.

mod:

banned.

TeddyTedson · 28-08-2012 06:25PM

Fromthetrees wrote: »

No sir,

this is most certainly a thinly veiled 'I have girlfriend post'.

that would be "had" sir
Did you not read the rest of my thinly veiled post, I cheated on her...

joke btw.

mauzo · 28-08-2012 06:25PM

3ndahalfof6 wrote: »

mauzo wrote: »

I cheated on my boyfriend more times than I'll admit.

He was violent and I was scared to leave. 3 of the 4 years we were together were spent with me cheating whenever I got the chance. PRobably an attention thing at the time. Can't say to be honest.

not violent enough.

Trust me, he was plenty violent.

I'm the first person to admit it was wrong, no matter the circumstances. Horrible thing to do to someone and I'd hope if I ever felt the need to cheat in future I'd have the decency and respect to tell my partner how I feel or leave him.

1ZRed · 28-08-2012 06:30PM

I've never cheated on anyone I was with because I think if you are ever in a place where you want to cheat, what's the point of being in a relationship?
I would sooner break up with someone right then and there then go behind their back because I don't think anyone should be played like that.

Colmustard · 28-08-2012 06:31PM

3ndahalfof6 wrote: »

not violent enough.

WTF

opinion guy · 28-08-2012 06:32PM

3ndahalfof6 wrote: »

not violent enough.

Reported.

Mauzo -I had a friend in your situation so I know how much courage it takes to get out. I don't think you have anything to feel bad about.

3ndahalfof6 · 28-08-2012 06:32PM

1ZRed wrote: »

I've never cheated on anyone I was with because I think if you are ever in a place where you want to cheat, what's the point of being in a relationship?
I would sooner break up with someone right then and there then go behind their back because I don't think anyone should be played like that.

there and then.

dr.bollocko · 28-08-2012 06:33PM

3ndahalfof6 wrote: »

not violent enough.

Banned.

Eve_Dublin · 28-08-2012 06:35PM

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see above

Reindeer · 28-08-2012 06:37PM

I can see it as an evolutionary measure - ensuring you have the highest opportunity to add to the inevitable 7 billion people on this rock. And civilization spends much of it's time fighting and trying to come to grips with what we've evolved to become. I blame God.

mauzo · 28-08-2012 06:37PM

opinion guy wrote: »

3ndahalfof6 wrote: »

not violent enough.

Reported.

Mauzo -I had a friend in your situation so I know how much courage it takes to get out. I don't think you have anything to feel bad about.

Thank you, it still doesn't excuse what I did though. Tis all in the past now sure!

I'd be heartbroken if someone did that to me. And verydisappointed if I ever did it again, I don't think I ever could but you just don't know until you're faced with the temptation.

crazy cabbage · 28-08-2012 06:40PM

Reindeer wrote: »

I blame God.

God doesn't give a sh1t.

linky

Micky Dolenz · 28-08-2012 06:43PM

frag420 wrote: »

She was a bee keeper?? Cool!!

More like the keeper for the Roscommon junior b team

Long term monagomy is unnatural for some. Over half of the worlds male population don't practice it.

mackg · 28-08-2012 06:52PM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

We all end up alone, never seen a double coffin.

http://www.thisisstaffordshire.co.uk/Husband-wife-buried-double-coffin-killed-head/story-15979462-detail/story.html

icescreamqueen · 28-08-2012 06:58PM

Guill wrote: »

I am a man, I didn't cheat on my GF, didn't cheat on her when she was my fiance, now she's my wife and I don't cheat on her.

Awww so sweet. You have any nice single brothers??

opinion guy · 28-08-2012 07:11PM

crazy cabbage wrote: »

God doesn't give a sh1t.

linky

That was very irritating

3ndahalfof6 · 28-08-2012 09:01PM

Hi MAUZO, I was wrong for saying what I said, it just hit close to me as I was on the receiving end of being trampled on,(being dedicated to the cause)

I am happy you got out of your situation and I hope you can get into a relationship where you feel comfortable and happy,

for me it is not so easy once bitten, hide in the corner,

to the rest of the folks on this thread I apologies if what I posted was wrong, I know you guys are sound at the best of times (foot in mouth for me)

mauzo · 28-08-2012 09:11PM

3ndahalfof6 wrote: »

Hi MAUZO, I was wrong for saying what I said, it just hit close to me as I was on the receiving end of being trampled on,(being dedicated to the cause)

I am happy you got out of your situation and I hope you can get into a relationship where you feel comfortable and happy,

for me it is not so easy once bitten, hide in the corner,

to the rest of the folks on this thread I apologies if what I posted was wrong, I know you guys are sound at the best of times (foot in mouth for me)

I totally respect where you're coming from.

Thanks for the apology, I'm sorry to hear what you went through.

zcorpian88 · 28-08-2012 09:37PM

blueyes12 wrote: »

I suppose this is a silly question but for the life of me I just can't understand why men cheat on their gf! A male friend of mine confided in me that he recently slept with someone else on a night out, a one night stand! He says he loves his girl, whom I also know! But how the hell can he love his girl and cheat, needless to say I had a few things to say to him but jeeze if your not happy get out! I just don't understand it, if your happy you don't stray, drunk or not. Blaming the demon drink is a poor excuse.

Maybe someone on here has a few things to say regarding the matter!

Blaming drink is a poor excuse, your friend is careless and a fool and doesn't deserve the girlfriend he has. Doesn't matter how drunk you are, his mind was still alert and semi-functional, if he had any respect or love for the girl at all he'd have thought of what it would do to her. Drink or no drink the guy has a brain, use your common sense.

If he wasn't happy with the girl he is with then try and work on fixing the relationship or jump ship. Better than carrying around a guilty conscience. Very careless arsehole thing to do which will leave her shattered. The truth gets out sooner or later.

Svetti Arss · 28-08-2012 10:55PM

Anal always with the anal.

blueyes12 · 28-08-2012 11:08PM

mauzo wrote: »

3ndahalfof6 wrote: »

Hi MAUZO, I was wrong for saying what I said, it just hit close to me as I was on the receiving end of being trampled on,(being dedicated to the cause)

I am happy you got out of your situation and I hope you can get into a relationship where you feel comfortable and happy,

for me it is not so easy once bitten, hide in the corner,

to the rest of the folks on this thread I apologies if what I posted was wrong, I know you guys are sound at the best of times (foot in mouth for me)

I totally respect where you're coming from.

Thanks for the apology, I'm sorry to hear what you went through.

I would like to thank you for your honesty regarding my original post and commend you for being so honest with your personal experiences, I also know how hard it is to leave a violent partner as I got rid of mine nearly 3 years ago, my friend whom I wrote original post about helped me out big time. He attended court with me when I had to get a barring order and he also stayed with myself and my child for a few weeks after just to make sure we were safe!
This would attribute to why I can't turn my back on him now, although I don't condone or accept what he has done I have to be there for him as he was for me.

Ive just left him after a number of hours listening to him and his dilemma. He is riddled with guilt but also realised that he has to come clean with his girl about what happens a few weeks ago, he doesn't think relationship will survive this and to be honest, maybe it's best for them both.

Thanks again and well done on getting out, I know it was the hardest thing I ever had to do so I can understand where you are coming from.

pragmatic1 · 28-08-2012 11:10PM

Because no matter how good looking someone is eventually sex with them gets boring.

ronano · 28-08-2012 11:10PM

It's lousy, if you're not happy in relationship you get out of it, no need to cheat at all. The classy option is called not being a dick

mfceiling · 28-08-2012 11:19PM

Funny I met a lad I haven't seen in a while last night.

Asks me was I holidays. Yeah just back on Saturday from Barcelona and France I says. Did you see the whores in Barcelona on the street? I did pass them with herself and the kids one evening coming home from having our tea.
Did you go off with them he asks? Eh...no...I was with herself and the kids...how or why the f*ck would I when I've saved all year for this holiday for myself and the family.

He then tells me he was flat out with them when he was there....he has a missus and 2 kids..who I've met and adore him...and he's out with whores!!

marzic · 28-08-2012 11:24PM

mfceiling wrote: »

Funny I met a lad I haven't seen in a while last night.

Asks me was I holidays. Yeah just back on Saturday from Barcelona and France I says. Did you see the whores in Barcelona on the street? I did pass them with herself and the kids one evening coming home from having our tea.
Did you go off with them he asks? Eh...no...I was with herself and the kids...how or why the f*ck would I when I've saved all year for this holiday for myself and the family.

He then tells me he was flat out with them when he was there....he has a missus and 2 kids..who I've met and adore him...and he's out with whores!!

HE MUST BE A FCUKING LEGEND, IF LEGEND MEANS ANYTHING ANYMORE!

saiint · 28-08-2012 11:29PM

if you pay for it
its not cheating
its a business transaction :P

1ZRed · 28-08-2012 11:39PM

saiint wrote: »

if you pay for it
its not cheating
its a business transaction :P

You have cheated though. You bought the fish instead of fishing for it. Real men earn what's theirs

:pac:

zcorpian88 · 28-08-2012 11:46PM

blueyes12 wrote: »

I would like to thank you for your honesty regarding my original post and commend you for being so honest with your personal experiences, I also know how hard it is to leave a violent partner as I got rid of mine nearly 3 years ago, my friend whom I wrote original post about helped me out big time. He attended court with me when I had to get a barring order and he also stayed with myself and my child for a few weeks after just to make sure we were safe!
This would attribute to why I can't turn my back on him now, although I don't condone or accept what he has done I have to be there for him as he was for me.

Ive just left him after a number of hours listening to him and his dilemma. He is riddled with guilt but also realised that he has to come clean with his girl about what happens a few weeks ago, he doesn't think relationship will survive this and to be honest, maybe it's best for them both.

Thanks again and well done on getting out, I know it was the hardest thing I ever had to do so I can understand where you are coming from.

Its good that he had your back when you were going through a tough time, and you are repaying the favour for being there for him after his mess up, that's what friends are for I would do the same thing but I'd still say if it was my friend that he was careless and a fool, call it tough love or whatever.

He is a good guy for being there for his friends in that regard but my opinion won't change. The girlfriend might find it in her to forgive him if they are that close but he may take the risk rather than living with the guilt, I wouldn't be able to look her in the eye if it was me, I'd fold under the pressure. Good luck to him anyway even if most people's criticism is harsh.

marzic · 28-08-2012 11:47PM

1ZRed wrote: »

You have cheated though. You bought the fish instead of fishing for it. Real men earn what's theirs

:pac:

http://peat.s3.amazonaws.com/photos/kitty-and-horse-fisherman.jpg

Why do people cheat on their partners?

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