Why do people cheat on their partners?

blueyes12

I suppose this is a silly question but for the life of me I just can't understand why men cheat on their gf! A male friend of mine confided in me that he recently slept with someone else on a night out, a one night stand! He says he loves his girl, whom I also know! But how the hell can he love his girl and cheat, needless to say I had a few things to say to him but jeeze if your not happy get out! I just don't understand it, if your happy you don't stray, drunk or not. Blaming the demon drink is a poor excuse.

Maybe someone on here has a few things to say regarding the matter!

Napper Hawkins

Not a thing.

Chuck Stone

"God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time."

Robin Williams.

Tonyandthewhale

Many of the same reasons women cheat more than likely.

Corvo

No point in asking us. Ask the penis. He's the boss.

3hn2givr7mx1sc

Why do women cheat on their bf?

dj jarvis

jasus here we go - AMAB thread

just as well the fairer sex would never dream of cheating

your thread title should really be why do PEOPLE cheat ,
but then that would not convey your agenda ?

good luck with this one:eek:

shopaholic01

Probably for the same reasons women cheat on their boyfriends - opportunity, boredom, 'grass is greener on the other side' syndrome etc. etc.

crazy cabbage

^^^

Same happens the other way around aswell

dont be sexist now

minidazzler

Why do women cheat on their boyfriends?

In general I'd guess is because the thrill of picking someone up for a one night stand is completely different to taking your girlfriend out.

If I am with someone I am with them though, I don't feel the need to cheat, but I am a flirt.

senorwipesalot

Because we"re genetically programmed to get out there and multiply.

(now, back to my ironing)

le la rat

Be playing them tricks. Da roof da roof da roof is on fire

super_furry

Why do men cheat on their boyfriends?

blueyes12

I never said women don't cheat of course they do my question is purely trying to understand what the hell my mate is at, surely he can't love his girl if he willingly had unprotected sex with a complete stranger!

TeddyTedson

Temptation and alcohol usually I guess.

Birneybau

Inbuilt desire to procreate as much as possible.

A woman can only be pregnant once at a time, a man doesn't have to wait.

Also, alcohol

Corvo

blueyes12 wrote: »

I never said women don't cheat of course they do my question is purely trying to understand what the hell my mate is at, surely he can't love his girl if he willingly had unprotected sex with a complete stranger!

Duuuuurrrrty!

shopaholic01

blueyes12 wrote: »

I never said women don't cheat of course they do my question is purely trying to understand what the hell my mate is at, surely he can't love his girl if he willingly had unprotected sex with a complete stranger!

Your friend is an idiot.

crazy cabbage

blueyes12 wrote: »

I never said women don't cheat of course they do my question is purely trying to understand what the hell my mate is at, surely he can't love his girl if he willingly had unprotected sex with a complete stranger!

:eek:

bikerjohn

senorwipesalot wrote: »

Because we"re genetically programmed to get out there and multiply.

(now, back to my ironing)

Yep you got it in one^^^^^^^:D

minidazzler

blueyes12 wrote: »

I never said women don't cheat of course they do my question is purely trying to understand what the hell my mate is at, surely he can't love his girl if he willingly had unprotected sex with a complete stranger!

My biggest problem with it is that he did it unprotected and didn't tell his girlfriend who he probably doesn't use condoms with. He is opening her up to a huge risk. What a fcuking cnut your friend is.

frag420

A man is only as faithful as his options!!

TeddyTedson

Actually a girl once started chatting me up in a infamous Dublin nightclub smoking area. I told her I had a girlfriend and her response was that she basically, "so what" and that said, "I thought all guys cheat".
She'd be a keeper...
...thinly veiled I once got chatted up post:D

frag420

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Actually a girl once started chatting me up in a infamous Dublin nightclub smoking area. I told her I had a girlfriend and her response was that she basically, "so what" and that said, "I thought all guys cheat".
She'd be a keeper...
...thinly veiled I once got chatted up post:D

She was a bee keeper?? Cool!!

blueyes12

minidazzler wrote: »

blueyes12 wrote: »

I never said women don't cheat of course they do my question is purely trying to understand what the hell my mate is at, surely he can't love his girl if he willingly had unprotected sex with a complete stranger!

My biggest problem with it is that he did it unprotected and didn't tell his girlfriend who he probably doesn't use condoms with. He is opening her up to a huge risk. What a fcuking cnut your friend is.

Yes what a fuking prick he is, and as I already mentioned I had many a words over this but it happens every ****ing wk end, both men and women

BraziliaNZ

Because sex usually becomes stale after a while with the same person and sometimes they cannot resist temptation when present with the opportunity to sleep with someone different. It's exciting and feels different and fresh and all that stuff.

Scanlas The 2nd

blueyes12 wrote: »

I never said women don't cheat of course they do my question is purely trying to understand what the hell my mate is at, surely he can't love his girl if he willingly had unprotected sex with a complete stranger!

The same reason it's hard to resist a bar of chocolate when you are on a diet. You want the best for yourself and know that eating the chocolate is not in your best interests, but it tastes so good it's hard to resist.

TeddyTedson

frag420 wrote: »

She was a bee keeper?? Cool!!

oh buzz off:p

Fromthetrees

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Actually a girl once started chatting me up in a infamous Dublin nightclub smoking area. I told her I had a girlfriend and her response was that she basically, "so what" and that said, "I thought all guys cheat".
She'd be a keeper...
...thinly veiled I once got chatted up post:D

No sir,

this is most certainly a thinly veiled 'I have girlfriend post'.

Fromthetrees

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Actually a girl once started chatting me up in a infamous Dublin nightclub smoking area. I told her I had a girlfriend and her response was that she basically, "so what" and that said, "I thought all guys cheat".
She'd be a keeper...
...thinly veiled I once got chatted up post:D

No sir,

this is most certainly a thinly veiled 'I have girlfriend post'.

AskMyChocolate

blueyes12 wrote: »

I suppose this is a silly question but for the life of me I just can't understand why men cheat on their gf! A male friend of mine confided in me that he recently slept with someone else on a night out, a one night stand! He says he loves his girl, whom I also know! But how the hell can he love his girl and cheat, needless to say I had a few things to say to him but jeeze if your not happy get out! I just don't understand it, if your happy you don't stray, drunk or not. Blaming the demon drink is a poor excuse.

Maybe someone on here has a few things to say regarding the matter!

Personally, Blue-eyes (because i would presume that was how you intended to spell it), I would agree with you. But, I'm not so sure you are in the right forum.

Unless one or the other was wearing ass-less pants, I'm really not sure how we could help you.

Have you considered trying the PI forum, or at a push, The Ladies Lounge?

We're ass-less pants people here.

Don't ya'see?

Maybe, talk to Mr.Fallon.

Choco

Fromthetrees

STUPID ****ING DOUBLE POST RUINING MY DAY.

Guill

I am a man, I didn't cheat on my GF, didn't cheat on her when she was my fiance, now she's my wife and I don't cheat on her.

Why do dickheads cheat on their partners? should be the thread title.

opinion guy

blueyes12 wrote: »

I never said women don't cheat of course they do my question is purely trying to understand what the hell my mate is at, surely he can't love his girl if he willingly had unprotected sex with a complete stranger!

Did you ask him the awkward question ?
i.e. how is your sex life with the girlfriend ?

Not that that is an excuse but it may be a reason

crazy cabbage

blueyes12 wrote: »

Yes what a fuking prick he is, and as I already mentioned I had many a words over this but it happens every ****ing wk end, both men and women

What age group are couple in?
How long are they going out?
Troubles in relationship (that you m?ightn't even know about)?
trouble with his life in general?
How much alchol did he have? (which is a mind altering substance lets not forget)

To answer your question we will nead more info than he had unprotected sex while drunk with a stranger.

He did confide in you which means he clearly trusts you.

Hardonraging

The grass is greener .... the thing is .. it's not always greener, but if you want to find out you'll have to move the cow's to another field !! and then open the gate so you can get in to said field at said grass !!

And by the time you've gotten in there it'll prob turn out the grass has a bad insect problem ... and you cant bring that back to the other field then !!

crazy cabbage

TeddyTedson wrote: »

oh buzz off:p

ok but i will bee right back


i will let myself out

dj jarvis

Guill wrote: »

I am a man, I didn't cheat on my GF, didn't cheat on her when she was my fiance, now she's my wife and I don't cheat on her.

Why do dickheads cheat on their partners? should be the thread title.

+1
but then it would not be a all men a crunts thread - deny it all she wants , but if it was not man bashing the title WOULD have be gender neutral

El Weirdo

Edited thread title to try and prevent the men v women shit storm that this could very well become.

Scanlas The 2nd

I read somewhere that men and women who live together and sleep in the same bed lose the chemistry because as it signals you are in the company of a family member. So sex becomes crap.

AskMyChocolate

le la rat wrote: »

Be playing them tricks. Da roof da roof da roof is on fire

I believe it's spelled "Dem" hones.:)

How dead am I?

English teacha in tha house.

Say Yeahh.

Choco

Thumby

OP I would say your mate cheated purely and simply because he is a guy, but that would just be a load of sh*te. The truth is both men AND women do it. Some just because they can and they know they can get away with it. Second reason is that the cheater be they male or female feel like they are missing something in the relationship and look elsewhere for it. Both are as inexcusable as each other. The fact that your mate didn't bother using protection suggests to me that he is in the first category of cheaters. I'm sure there are other reasons as well but i agree with the poster that said if they are with one person, they are with that one person, end of. You OP are bang on when you said if you don't want to be with your partner then get out of the relationship. Mistakes can also happen but genuine mistakes wher someone cheats (as in it only goes so far as a quick snog as cheater instantly regrets it) as few and far between. Your mate needs a smack upside the head and a good kicking for what he has done/is doing to his gf imo.

asherbassad

Because it's fun!
It's exciting, sleazy and sordid.
It's even better when the girl you're cheating with knows you are attached.
The sense of her power is an afrodisiac.

I cheated on an ex. She was nice, attractive, kind, but she was also possessive and jealous and a bit prim. I cheated on her with a girl who dressed like a porn star, fishnet stockings, fcuk-me-heels, huge boobs, tarty makeup, etc and she thought it was great fun shagging other womens men.

It was exciting, that's all I can say.

Thumby

Excuse my typos i'm on my phone and the buttons are teeny tiny, plus i can't go back and edit my post on my phone.

0066ad

I think, someone has the hots for his friends girl

Priori

asherbassad wrote: »

Because it's fun!
It's exciting, sleazy and sordid.
It's even better when the girl you're cheating with knows you are attached.
The sense of her power is an afrodisiac.

I cheated on an ex. She was nice, attractive, kind, but she was also possessive and jealous and a bit prim. I cheated on her with a girl who dressed like a porn star, fishnet stockings, fcuk-me-heels, huge boobs, tarty makeup, etc and she thought it was great fun shagging other womens men.

It was exciting, that's all I can say.

Right. Well, there you have it OP. From a conscience-less perspective that is.

3ndahalfof6

I think it should be made happen, then couples will either stay together or go their separate ways,

I was dedicated to the cause, I used to give my mates a very hard time when they did it,

23 years into a marriage I got siht on, now I look back at all of the wasted opportunities I missed out on because I was dedicated to the cause,

the bottom line is if you see it and you like it and they like you pump it up, you never know it could be someone you might be more compatible with,

a lot of people stay in relationships because of the fear of ending up alone, and as soon as a better or more inclusive relationship comes along it is bye bye see ya later gaiter.

Scanlas The 2nd

3ndahalfof6 wrote: »

I think it should be made happen, then couples will either stay together or go their separate ways,

I was dedicated to the cause, I used to give my mates a very hard time when they did it,

23 years into a marriage I got siht on, now I look back at all of the wasted opportunities I missed out on because I was dedicated to the cause,

the bottom line is if you see it and you like it and they like you pump it up, you never know it could be someone you might be more compatible with,

a lot of people stay in relationships because of fear of ending up alone, and as soon as a better or more inclusive relationship comes along it is bye bye see ya later gaiter.

We all end up alone, never seen a double coffin.

blueyes12

crazy cabbage wrote: »

blueyes12 wrote: »

Yes what a fuking prick he is, and as I already mentioned I had many a words over this but it happens every ****ing wk end, both men and women

What age group are couple in?
How long are they going out?
Troubles in relationship (that you m?ightn't even know about)?
trouble with his life in general?
How much alchol did he have? (which is a mind altering substance lets not forget)

To answer your question we will nead more info than he had unprotected sex while drunk with a stranger.

He did confide in you which means he clearly trusts you.

Both are in their early 30's
Been in relationship for a few years now and I'm not really too sure if other problems are going on personally

But thanks for the replies, as I'm knew to this and wanted to get it out there as I'm the only one that knows about this

Icyseanfitz

for da secs :pac: nah people are generally just idiots

3ndahalfof6

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

We all end up alone, never seen a double coffin.

no profit in that, plus it would be a whore of a thing to carry.