Hugging the Irish aul fellow

davet82 · 02-07-2012 12:31PM

hug the ma but its a akward nod for the aul fella

hugs (drunken) are for irish world cup goals, i got one for st.ledgers goal at the euros, it maybe brazil before i get another one

saiint · 02-07-2012 12:35PM

men dont show emotions
but their D*cks do

barney 20v · 02-07-2012 12:38PM

I used to never hug my father.... then he got sick and i watched the man i adored fade into a shadow of himself

The day he died i spent 14 hours non stop by his bed hugging him and minding him like he used to mind me.
I was 26 at the time and here i am 4 yr later still wishing i had hugged him every day i had him.

Plazaman · 02-07-2012 12:40PM

mikemac1 wrote: »

Showing emotion is weakness OP
This includes crying at funerals

Be the strong, silent type

Just the way of it I suppose in Ireland
I doubt the Brits are any different, it's not just an Irish thing

In fact you could say the Brits take this further as their funerals can be quite small, not such an event
Event is the wrong word but just what I can think of

Good on you old chap, push them emotions away, I say. Bottle them up and let them fester away inside you until the day when all that pent up emotion drives you to the top of a tall building in your town with a rifle. Then they will explode with such a furious anger, it'll make you all the better a marksman.

Me? I'm a wuss, all my family lives in different parts of the world so when I eventually see them I hug them all, men, women and children.

Lollers · 02-07-2012 12:47PM

barney 20v wrote: »

The day he died i spent 14 hours non stop by his bed hugging him and minding him like he used to mind me.
I was 26 at the time and here i am 4 yr later still wishing i had hugged him every day i had him.

Sorry to hear that buddy, glad you were there for your dad with those hugs when he needed them the most.

rgmmg · 02-07-2012 12:53PM

A couple of years ago, my Dad (not the emotional type) dropped me off at Dublin Airport. As I got my bag out of the boot, he got out of the car and said "Come here" and gave me a big hug. It was awkward but heartfelt. He hasn't done it since, but reading some of the regrets people have on here who don't have the opportunity to do so to their Dad's due to loss, illness or otherwise, I am going to give him a hug when I see him next month. He won't be around forever but I wish he was.

barney 20v · 02-07-2012 12:55PM

Lollers wrote: »

Sorry to hear that buddy, glad you were there for your dad with those hugs when he needed them the most.

Yea thanks buddy, ,for gods sake make the most of both your parents if ya lucky enough to still have them.

Funglegunk · 02-07-2012 01:25PM

I hugged my Dad on my sister's wedding day. Then we got drunk together. It was ace.

norrie rugger · 02-07-2012 02:11PM

I actually kinda feel sorry for those that would not feel comfortable hugging their father.
I can understand it from the father's perspective but not from younger people.

there is a lot that can be communicated in a hug that may not be spoken.

This thread reminded me of

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nvW6nuQ2B0s

Anyone that does not feel the sadness in this song is lost TBH

nelly17 · 02-07-2012 02:17PM

barney 20v wrote: »

I used to never hug my father.... then he got sick and i watched the man i adored fade into a shadow of himself

The day he died i spent 14 hours non stop by his bed hugging him and minding him like he used to mind me.
I was 26 at the time and here i am 4 yr later still wishing i had hugged him every day i had him.

I cant remember ever hugging my Dad as an adult, he died when I was 16 I wish I did hug him more.

Plumpynutt · 02-07-2012 02:22PM

I hug the aul' fella now and again, it's not that often but he's certainly not an "emotional statue" like some people have described here

cocokay · 02-07-2012 02:28PM

i hug my parents every time i see them and every time i leave. used to do it on n off growing up, less in my teens when i "hated" them lol but since i moved out of home 8 yrs ago i make the most of every time i see them and say i love u a lot more too, don't care if im the first to say it or i sound sappy, life is too short.

ottostreet · 02-07-2012 02:33PM

This thread makes me feel sad.

And nervous cos I want to hug my Dad but the thoughts of going about it!

Rubberlegs · 02-07-2012 02:34PM

Never really hugged my Dad as such, used to give him a quick kiss when saying goodbye to him. He often used to just put his arm around my shoulder, I'd give anything to have that again. The day he died I sat in the bed with him, with my arm round his shoulders. Anyone that still has their Dad, make the most of him. It sucks when they're gone:(

Conall Cernach · 02-07-2012 02:38PM

I haven't hugged either of my parents since I was about 9. I'm just not one of those touchy feely types and neither are they to be honest. They'd probably freak out as much as me. My nephew keeps trying to hug me and I have to tell him to bugger off. He's 19 now so he does it just to annoy me. I think if my da was on his death bed his final words would be "Don't forget to water the tomatoes."

AEDIC · 02-07-2012 02:39PM

ottostreet wrote: »

This thread makes me feel sad.

And nervous cos I want to hug my Dad but the thoughts of going about it!

Well - look at it this way...what would make you feel more sad? Your father passing away without you getting the chance to hug him, or that slightly awkward feeling of hugging him for the first time.?

I have hugged (and continue to do so) both of my parents all of my life, buddies have often said 'I wish I had the same relationship with my parents that you have with yours etc...'

They are my parents ffs.... its not gay or feminine or weak to express your love, affection and admiration for your parents in any way...least of all a hug.

If it doesnt feel comfortable for people to do it or if their relationship with their parents isnt in the place where its a comfortable thing to do then fair enough, but I certainly wont be stopping any time I can, because there WILL come a time when I cant....

mikom · 02-07-2012 02:41PM

Upon first glance at the title I thought this thread was about ****....

Lando Griffin · 02-07-2012 02:52PM

^ You sir must have a very "odd" relationship with your Aul lad.

Roadend · 02-07-2012 03:11PM

Lando Griffin wrote: »

^ You sir must have a very "odd" relationship with your Aul lad.

Or a great relationship with his lad

Feisar · 02-07-2012 03:52PM

I don't feel the need to hug the old man every time I meet him. As has been said we aren't continental. We shake hands before I head off, I'm home every fortnight or so. We hug the odd time if something significant crops up. He has always been there for me in the past and will be for as long as he's around, couldn't ask for a better Dad, although he has his faults.

Vicar in a tutu · 02-07-2012 05:34PM

Only benders hug their Da's.

Mr. CooL ICE · 02-07-2012 05:54PM

I hug my father. **** what anyone thinks. I live 2 hours from my parents and visit them about once a month and first thing I want to do when I come in the front door after a 2 hour drive in the pissing rain is hug both of them.

I feel sorry for anyone who is uptight about it. I really do. Its only a hug ffs

Agricola · 02-07-2012 05:56PM

The continentals slobber all over each other at the drop of a hat. Its meaningless really. But when two Irish men press each other to their bosoms, the ground shakes and thunder rolls. Its an event.

Real Life · 02-07-2012 06:44PM

I hug my father if im going away somewhere for a while, always did with no problems for either of us and i certainly wouldnt consider myself an emotional person. i think you would have to be very insecure to have a problem doing it, i dont see what the big deal is, i love my parents and i let them know that.

da_shivsta · 02-07-2012 08:51PM

me and my daddy hug sometimes, i say "love you daddy" on the phone when i'm hanging u the odd time. I'm back home after finishing college, so we don't hug every day,, just if I'm off somewhere or he's drunk. he brought me up on his own, I'm very close with him. he hugs my cousins (his nieces) etc. when he sees them - but not his sisters, my brothers, or any other males. I guess it's not just a generational thing but a gender thing.
i remember once when i was out in my first year of college, i'd only had one drink, but I hadn't left home long. I was missing dad all that day, and I rang him specially to tell him. now I said we were close, but we're still Irish like! so that was unusual, and I did feel a bit hesitant - normally i'd have a reason other than that to ring. but I'll never regret that because I'm sure he was missing me too. and it broke the awkwardness!

JupiterKid · 02-07-2012 08:55PM

I have a fantastic relationship with my Dad. I'm 37 and he's 72. We haven't always seen eye to eye but he loves me and my sisters with all his heart and we've hugged each other many times. He raised me after my mum died young when I was barely in my teens. He's been the best Dad anyone could wish for.

To all of yous who have never hugged your aul fella - go and do it now before it's too late and you're full of regrets. Life's way too bloody short to spend it as an emotional statue.

Mickey Dazzler · 02-07-2012 09:00PM

if you really want to show your father how much you care you should go down on him.

Palytoxin · 02-07-2012 09:10PM

Never hug him at all, and neither of us mind. It'd be a bit weird and awkward tbh.

Snowie · 02-07-2012 09:15PM

Lando Griffin wrote: »

Of all the 30 odd years of my life I never remember any time myself and the aul fellow hugged. Having moved a good distance from home and rarely get home to see the parents. My father is an emotional statue a bit like his father and probably all my fore fathers. When it comes to his sons a certain stuborness comes into play. Anyway this weekend when I was saying goodbye instead of shaking his hand I just gave him a great big hug. It felt great especially when he hugged back. What is it with Irish fathers and sons that it feels awkward to show emotions either way.

I hug booth my parents always well if i haven't seen them in a while these days Im pretty privileged because i get to live with them as an adult

MultiUmm · 02-07-2012 09:33PM

It took the death of my granddad a few months ago for myself and my dad to hug each other. It was the the night after the funeral when the afters were over and we were at home, he told me he was proud of myself and my brother for how we helped out over the course of the few days and it just felt like a natural instinct for me to hug him at that moment.

It was a poignant moment and always will be in my memory. Haven't hugged him since.

Hugging the Irish aul fellow

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