Who pays for bridesmaids' & groomsmen's hotel room?

Ickle Magoo · 22-05-2012 12:17PM

seamus wrote: »

Typically you pay for any costs that the bridemaids/groomsmen have which is beyond the normal cost of a wedding.

Or more simply, if you insist on them having/wearing/using/doing something then you pay for it.

^^ This.

As our wedding was in a different country to some and city to other bridesmaids/groomsmen, we paid for their rooms.

Ultimately I think it comes down to where your wedding is being held and thus the necessity of having to have rooms - it was something always factored into our basic wedding costs as we didn't like the idea that those who had already given time in dress fittings and writing/giving speeches should also be left considerably out of pocket for the privilege.

tinkerbell · 22-05-2012 01:10PM

^ this. I think you should pay if it's in a different city / country than where your bridal party live. Quite often if it's in another location, the bride and groom want the bridal party to all stay at the venue the night before. Add that to staying the night of the wedding, it all adds up. If you were a normal guest you wouldn't need to stay 2 nights.

A friend of mine was bridesmaid a while back and they got married up the country, 2 to 3 hour drive away from where they lived. Bride and groom expected all bridal party to stay in hotel both nights and the price of the rooms was astronomical - for 2 nights it was around €500. Add that to a wedding present, drink, etc. It was just so expensive. In their case, the b&g also wanted people to stay the 3rd night but they just said no.

Add that to a wedding present, drinks, cost of travel etc and you're talking nearly €800, it's just insane.

circleskane · 22-05-2012 01:12PM

I think there is definitely wisdom in the comment that said to try come to an arrangement with the hotel for multiple room bookings. that 8 free frooms with the bridal suite deal sounds excellent. do you know which hotel it was for?

I was at a wedding recently enough where there was a 'wedding rate' on the rooms - if you are in fact the bride i'm sure there is room for a deal ?

xflyer · 22-05-2012 04:22PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Please tell me where people are being "preachy" and "pendandic", at least no one is patting themsleves on the back about shelling out rooms for "the main charachters"

That's precisely the attitude I'm talking about. If you've nothing constructive to offer why bother to post at all? It was our wedding and we wanted to best day we could organise for everyone involved. No patting on the back involved just offering our experience.

Pathetic!

blondie29 · 25-05-2012 09:50AM

I've been bridesmaid 3 times and all the times paid for my own accommodation except the last time as hotel gave the night of wedding free although we had to pay for night before and after. It was my bro's wedd down in tipp so would have been paying for it either way.

I would never expect bride n groom to pay for bridal party accommodation there's enough expense. Turn down roll if you cannot afford.

I'm getting married next year and we will not be paying for bridal party staying over.

Who pays for bridesmaids' & groomsmen's hotel room?

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