Is everything about sex?

al28283 · 12-04-2012 12:02PM

Ficheall wrote: »

Yet with that post you've conveniently just informed a few hundred nerdy guys that you're into gaming, female, and of a doable age...

What does that have to do with anything?

Ficheall · 12-04-2012 12:15PM

al28283 wrote: »

What does that have to do with anything?

Well, given that we're talking light-heartedly about attracting people for sex, I was hinting that, perhaps, a hobby like knitting would not pique as many 'interests'...

Ó tharla go bhfuil muid ag caint go haerach faoi daoine a mhealladh le haghaidh gnéas, bhíos ag smaoineamh go bhfuil seans ann nach dtarraingneofá an méid céanna suim da ndeirfeadh sí gur thaithin cniotáil leí...

Panrich · 12-04-2012 12:16PM

theg81der wrote: »

Children aren`t about sex, ok you have sex to have them, but the time and effort you put into them is not about sex.

It is not all about the sex but you have hit the nail on the head. It is all about the genes and the proliferation of your genes in preference to others. In order to ensure your genes survive, you need to procreate and have sex, and this also means that you must nourish and care for your offspring. The fact that we die and are replaced by younger stronger versions of ourselves is replicated across all of nature. Look at flowers and plants for a good example. Their whole reason for living is to produce seeds to create more versions of themselves.

al28283 · 12-04-2012 12:18PM

Ficheall wrote: »

Well, given that we're talking light-heartedly about attracting people for sex, I was hinting that, perhaps, a hobby like knitting would not pique as many 'interests'...

OK, you're sexually attracted to people who play games you mean? well that's you inferring, not her implying. Like you providing an Irish translation comes across as insufferably pretentious though you may not mean it that way.

aquaman · 12-04-2012 12:26PM

Sex is the meaning of life so many are searching for.

It is why we are here.

Our whole reason for being here is as a vessel for our genes, to carry them and continue them through reproduction.

corktina · 12-04-2012 12:33PM

in terms of mankind as a whole, yes, thats what its about...well, reproduction and evolution . Survival of the species.

Doesn't really matter though, because the Race is expanding so quickly, it wont be able to support itself much longer and a horrible disease is coming which will wipe most of us out .

Or do you prefer fairy-stories about the Kingdom of Heaven?

Or maybe you shouldn't worry about it and just fornicate ?

(Got a feeling the last option will be most popular.)

Ficheall · 12-04-2012 12:40PM

al28283 wrote: »

OK, you're sexually attracted to people who play games you mean? well that's you inferring, not her implying. Like you providing an Irish translation comes across as insufferably pretentious though you may not mean it that way.

Ah, it makes sense now - I was wondering what you were getting so het up for.
Fine - I'm not a "gamer" and have never even owned a games console, but given that it's an internet forum (which was initially set up for Quake players) it's not unreasonable to assume that there is a reasonably high percentage of posters who might be into their gaming.
It was, however, only a light-hearted comment.
Carry on.

Tuigim anois - ní raibh fhios agam an fáth go raibh tú ag gearáin.
Ceart go leor - ní "gamer" mé agus ní raibh ríomhaire cluichíocht agam riamh, ach ó tharla gur fóram idirlíne é (a thosnaíodh le haghaidh imreoirí Quake), ní bheadh sé míréasúnta glacadh leis go céatadán árd de mbaill boards a bheadh suim mór acu i gcluichí ríomhaire.
Ach ní raibh mé ach ag greannaíocht.
Lean oraibh.

Logical Fallacy · 12-04-2012 12:45PM

It's not about sex because sex is not essential to individual survival. It may be linked to individual happiness but it's not something you need daily in order to live.

Your mates argument is flawed as he is placing a species wide requirement for sex as a motivating factor for an individual.

Go a month without sex and you won't die. Go a month without water and you will. As such, the need for water trumps the need for sex on an individual level. Your mates argument is flawed and I have a strong suspicion that he/she is an idiot.

corktina · 12-04-2012 12:49PM

Go a month without sex? Did any boardsie NOT do that ever?

OneArt · 12-04-2012 12:52PM

Everyone thinks it because after years of sexual repression hypersexuality has become normal.

I'd really rather not have it, even kissing weirds me out a bit.

Sex is a big part of life but it's not the only thing. It's one of the basic instincts like sleep and hunger which people are just hyping up to be the be all and end all. Give me steak and a snooze over the bumping uglies any day!

LH Pathe · 13-04-2012 12:42AM

Sex is the underlying motivation for everything. It is the great corruptor.. Your friend is right; most people just attend things or pretend to be into stuff for the opportunities that might arouse from it

cianisgood · 13-04-2012 12:48AM

I don't think so, gay people can't reproduce they still do stuff.

44leto · 13-04-2012 12:55AM

Sometimes I think it is and we are that base.

We could decide to be celibate and seek wisdom like a lot of the monks and "holy" people. But alas you would then give up a big part of your humanity. This quote is put down to Hitler, "The only perversion is celibacy" something like that.

stupidusername · 13-04-2012 01:04AM

I would go as far to say that everything we do is motivated by a need to be happy and to make others happy.

but yeah that argument about sex was made before by some big philosophical person. there was a thread about it in here not so long ago if I remember correctly.

44leto · 13-04-2012 01:05AM

Freud I would say.

Princess Peach · 13-04-2012 02:15AM

I don't think it is all about sex.

I never see my boyfriend, but I will in 4 months time. And we are planning of having sex, but we are planning on doing lots of other activities also, because we like to do other things.

And this part of the OP doesn't really make sense

I had a conversation with some friends where we argued about if there is anything that you do that is not ultimately because it will benefit you in gaining a sexual partner.

I already have a partner so the stuff I do is just for me then.

--LOS-- · 13-04-2012 02:23AM

No ofc it's not, what about when you have someone then how can it be about sex

IM0 · 13-04-2012 02:25AM

subconsciously probably yes in a '7 degrees of seperation' kind of way

ToddyDoody · 13-04-2012 04:51AM

How can it be? I've had my testicles removed

Agent Smith · 13-04-2012 05:06AM

Doc wrote: »

Is everything we do just about having sex?

Are we here on the planet solely to reproduce as much and as often as we can?

What say you After Hours is it all about horizontal shenanigans or is there more to this grate big world of ours then interlocking genitals?

Theres also smoking in the Dark afterwards...

Davidius · 13-04-2012 05:36AM

If the question is whether we subconsciously plan all of our actions as a means of maximising the likelihood of having sex, I would guess not but I'm not a biologist. I doubt the subconscious is all that capable of planning anything like that, and it really is just that the action stimulates the person in some way.

It may happen that some of the things that stimulate us are those that increase one's survivability and prospects as a mate, hence genes that somehow motivate people to do certain things or take to certain interests get passed on. But that wouldn't imply that the genes are wiring you with the express purpose of getting laid. How it increases your prospects would be a function of the environment and other genes present, and under certain conditions it might have a negative effect.

It also seems plausible to me that we could pick up certain genes that manifest as motivations or inclinations to act a way that has never really benefited us in terms of survivability or finding a mate. Something that might just not be detrimental enough to have been removed from the population, and that could motivate people to take to certain hobbies or behaviours. Such things wouldn't really be characterised by the goal of having sex.

So I would guess no, not everything is about sex based on a naive understanding of evolution and biology.

Snowie · 13-04-2012 07:26AM

Xgf used to give me blow jobs while I played gran tourismo 4 on my ps2 have you ever driven the nurinburg while trying to get a sub 8.30 min track time ?

theg81der · 13-04-2012 07:28AM

Panrich wrote: »

It is not all about the sex but you have hit the nail on the head. It is all about the genes and the proliferation of your genes in preference to others. In order to ensure your genes survive, you need to procreate and have sex, and this also means that you must nourish and care for your offspring. The fact that we die and are replaced by younger stronger versions of ourselves is replicated across all of nature. Look at flowers and plants for a good example. Their whole reason for living is to produce seeds to create more versions of themselves.

I don`t agree this is what was putting me off having a child. I would have happily adopted but the process is too long and costly. I`d admit my motives for having a child are selfish - I love children and they recharge my batteries. So much bad stuff going on and negative things, I needed the positives.

Feisar · 13-04-2012 07:47AM

Number one is survival, after that it's procreation. As in the continued survival, that's where the sex comes in.

ntlbell · 13-04-2012 10:21AM

cianisgood wrote: »

I don't think so, gay people can't reproduce they still do stuff.

since when is knocking the stuffing out of someones brown not having sex?

The King of Moo · 13-04-2012 11:43AM

There are three main motivating factors in life:

1. Food

2. Sex

3. Thanks

Most of our life is geared towards pursuing these things, and attempting to figure out ways of using possession of one or both to attain one of the others, eg cook a nice meal for sex, get lots of thanks for free coke and hookers.

13-04-2012 08:56PM

Sex is the last thing on my mind. It's usually a smoke or a sandwich.

Right after I have blown the beans.

Is everything about sex?

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