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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389
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rebelwoman wrote: »Me neither. I keep mine hidden until I have got to know someone and I explain why its not on public view. Most men dont have a problem with it.
I am going to sound like an old fart but I think that it has become the accepted norm that people want to put photos of themselves everywhere - I blame camera-phones
. I guess that I prefer real friends to virtual ones. I find it very normal that a woman would withhold a photo. 0 -
Signed into POF for the first time in ages. (My profile still hidden, been hidden since I started dating the lady I've been posting about over the last month)
Her profile is active again, and updated with recent photos from last week.
She doesn't waste any time at all! :eek:
Dunno if that makes me uncomfortable or comfortable.
I know I shouldn't care but can't help think about it I guess. Feels like I committed an awful lot of time and money, guess I expected if it didn't work out, it'd be a while before she sought a "replacement" so to speak. NOPE!
Maybe she gets five dates deep with every guy, enjoying the company and being treated like a princess for a while, then moves on?
My opinion is yoyo-ing all over the place in my head now. It it weird I feel that way? I'd like to remember in a certain way, but her less than 24 hour profile re-activation and refresh makes me feel like I am monster or something. :pac:
Uuugh.0 -
Signed into POF for the first time in ages. (My profile still hidden, been hidden since I started dating the lady I've been posting about over the last month)
Her profile is active again, and updated with recent photos from last week.
She doesn't waste any time at all!
Dunno if that makes me uncomfortable or comfortable.
I know I shouldn't care but can't help think about it I guess.
It's really sickening alright man
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Signed into POF for the first time in ages. (My profile still hidden, been hidden since I started dating the lady I've been posting about over the last month)
Her profile is active again, and updated with recent photos from last week.
She doesn't waste any time at all!
Dunno if that makes me uncomfortable or comfortable.
I know I shouldn't care but can't help think about it I guess.
Then think about it and let those thoughts run their course.
Anyway, when you get chatting to someone else, I'm sure you won't care all that much!0 -
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Signed into POF for the first time in ages. (My profile still hidden, been hidden since I started dating the lady I've been posting about over the last month)
Her profile is active again, and updated with recent photos from last week.
She doesn't waste any time at all!
Dunno if that makes me uncomfortable or comfortable.
I know I shouldn't care but can't help think about it I guess.
Sorry to hear about all this mate. Here would be me feeling sorry for myself for not being able to get chatting to someone properly then get a date but jaysus I'm starting to wonder if I'm cut out for this at all or not as I dunno how I'd handle it going through what you are.
If only we could turn off our emotions until it was safe to turn them back on again. 0 -
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Haha you should so punk her some how!!Signed into POF for the first time in ages. (My profile still hidden, been hidden since I started dating the lady I've been posting about over the last month)
Her profile is active again, and updated with recent photos from last week.
She doesn't waste any time at all! :eek:
Dunno if that makes me uncomfortable or comfortable.
I know I shouldn't care but can't help think about it I guess. Feels like I committed an awful lot of time and money, guess I expected if it didn't work out, it'd be a while before she sought a "replacement" so to speak. NOPE!
Maybe she gets five dates deep with every guy, enjoying the company and being treated like a princess for a while, then moves on?
My opinion is yoyo-ing all over the place in my head now. It it weird I feel that way? I'd like to remember in a certain way, but her less than 24 hour profile re-activation and refresh makes me feel like I am monster or something. :pac:
Uuugh.0 -
icescreamqueen wrote: »Haha you should so punk her some how!!
Haha, wouldn't be something I'd do at all! I guess I feel extra crappy, like I was "used up" or something. Despite it being perfectly okay for her to decide to stop dating and move on of course!
I'm trying really hard to be positive about what happened, but since noticing her new profile, I just feel crap. How it "ended" was quite lovely really, I should think of that and just move on, but it seems tainted or something now. The whole thing now seems like I wasn't good enough. Which is also fine for her to think that!
Guess I'm just a wee bit upset, probs be for a day or two. I'll chin up soon enough though I'm sure.
Thread needs more success stories to help! Get out there and find dates for yourselves to give me comfort folks! :pac: 0 -
Signed into POF for the first time in ages. (My profile still hidden, been hidden since I started dating the lady I've been posting about over the last month)
Her profile is active again, and updated with recent photos from last week.
She doesn't waste any time at all! :eek:
Dunno if that makes me uncomfortable or comfortable.
I know I shouldn't care but can't help think about it I guess. Feels like I committed an awful lot of time and money, guess I expected if it didn't work out, it'd be a while before she sought a "replacement" so to speak. NOPE!
Maybe she gets five dates deep with every guy, enjoying the company and being treated like a princess for a while, then moves on?
My opinion is yoyo-ing all over the place in my head now. It it weird I feel that way? I'd like to remember in a certain way, but her less than 24 hour profile re-activation and refresh makes me feel like I am monster or something. :pac:
Uuugh.
Sorry to hear that but try not to think of it as a bad reflection on you because it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. Except one thing maybe - your reference to treating her 'like a princess' and to money spent suggests that you might have paid for all the dates?0 -
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Dunno if that makes me uncomfortable or comfortable.
I know I shouldn't care but can't help think about it I guess. Feels like I committed an awful lot of time and money, guess I expected if it didn't work out, it'd be a while before she sought a "replacement" so to speak. NOPE!
It is a pity it didn't work out. I would be a bit gutted too if they were on the site so quickly afterwards, but on the other hand they are free to move on.
Did you pay for all of the dates? Whatever about offering to pay for the first date, if you did the asking out, I think you should not feel you have to pay for the other ones. I know it could be awkward bringing it up, but I think it would be very reasonable going havles, unless there is a huge income disparity or something like this in which case some other ratio could be more suited (though I think you are not well off from what you have said).
You sound lovely so I doubt you did anything wrong.
Edit: Oops I was writing that while Hollypink and Grumpy posted 0 -
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GrumPy, you're doing a great job trying to stay positive and that's definitely the best thing to do. Give yourself a bit of time to feel a bit down (and miffed) but don't waste time considering her motives or what you might have done differently. I used to over-analyse every thing that went askew and blame myself, while when ending it with other people I knew it had very little to do with them and more with what I thought I wanted/where I was at the time. People make all kinds of decisions for all kinds of reasons - many of them wrong! Good news is you seem like a really nice guy, with no doubt lots of great dates to come 0
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AnnyHallsal wrote: »GrumPy, you're doing a great job trying to stay positive and that's definitely the best thing to do. Give yourself a bit of time to feel a bit down (and miffed) but don't waste time considering her motives or what you might have done differently. I used to over-analyse every thing that went askew and blame myself, while when ending it with other people I knew it had very little to do with them and more with what I thought I wanted/where I was at the time. People make all kinds of decisions for all kinds of reasons - many of them wrong! Good news is you seem like a really nice guy, with no doubts lots of great dates to come
Thanks for the really positive post AnnyHallsal!
I'm considering throwing my profile back online too. Next person I may meet, will be the third attempt at online dating. Third time lucky maybe? Gotta stay positive! :pac:0 -
Thanks for the really positive post AnnyHallsal!
I'm considering throwing my profile back online too. Next person I may meet, will be the third attempt at online dating. Third time lucky maybe? Gotta stay positive! :pac:
You're doing something right anyways
I'm currently at 0 dates so you're doing good :P 0 -
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Grumpy mate, it's not worth torturing yourself over this girl. Judging by your posts you sound like a nice chap. Block her from Facebook/POF etc. Out of sight and out of mind.
It sucks and you've every right to feel upset/pissed off given how much time and effort you've put into it.
Come to the beers and get drunk as a fookin' skunk. Good times are promised. 0
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