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35 and on the shelf

  • 26-02-2012 03:43PM
    #1
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    35 and on the shelf.
    Anyone else feel like that?
    My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
    Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
    Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
    Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.


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  • #2
    kylith
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,745 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    Why not join a club or something? It's a good wasy to meet people and make friends.


  • #3
    FatherLen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,808 ✭✭✭FatherLen


    i am 23


  • #4
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    kylith wrote: »
    Why not join a club or something? It's a good wasy to meet people and make friends.

    Already am a member of 3 clubs.
    Making friends isn't the problem, its more that they are emigrating or don't have the disposable income to socialise due to mortgages and kids.


  • #5
    44leto
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,137 ✭✭✭44leto


    It doesn't sound that bad of a life.

    I'm on the shelf and pretty happy there, but I know I could get off it as well, I still may.

    As for baggage, what is wrong with baggage, to me that is life experience and you are 35 so I am sure you have some, be it emotional or ............


  • #6
    Cicero
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,144 ✭✭✭✭Cicero


    If you keep thinking that way it will certainly become a self fulfilling prophecy for you...think you need to broaden ure horizons a bit more...theres many people out there much older than 35 having more fun than what you describe.....


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  • #7
    gcgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,044 ✭✭✭gcgirl


    Life is what you make it, i am not far from hitting 37 and life is good


  • #8
    kylith
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,745 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    Already am a member of 3 clubs.
    Making friends isn't the problem, its more that they are emigrating or don't have the disposable income to socialise due to mortgages and kids.
    Well, sort of keeping them locked up in your cellar I don't know what you can do. Make more friends, maybe?


  • #9
    cosanostra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 888 ✭✭✭cosanostra


    Just give up that's the best way


  • #10
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,808 ✭✭✭✭smash


    Get a mortgage and kids. You'll fit right in then.


  • #11
    jester77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,264 ✭✭✭✭jester77


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.
    Anyone else feel like that?
    My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
    Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
    Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
    Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

    I'm the same age as you and it's nothing like that at all. Think you are hanging out with the wrong type of friends. I have friends who fall into all the categories you labelled and we have a blast.


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  • #12
    Pacifist Pigeon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 504 ✭✭✭Pacifist Pigeon


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.
    Anyone else feel like that?
    My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
    Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
    Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
    Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

    I would say, lucky you, especially the no mortgage part. Buy a house now while they're cheap, not like your stupid friends who took out excessive mortgages at the wrong time.


  • #13
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,152 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.
    Anyone else feel like that?
    My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
    Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
    Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
    Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

    41 and enjoying the shelf, especially when I look at people who have failed relationships and kids.


  • #14
    chirogirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 227 ✭✭chirogirl


    sounds like you've insecurities. So what, you're 35 , single and have no baggage. You've got it made!
    I'm soon to be 38, on the shelf and have baby baggage.
    Maybe join groups, night school, or even go travelling, do something to enrich your life.


  • #15
    Celly Smunt
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭Celly Smunt


    Why not just enter somewhere illegally next week?,since you have no ties or anything else start fresh,the worst that can happen is you get thrown back here and then onto somewhere new.


  • #16
    Serenity Squeaking Signpost
    Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭ Serenity Squeaking Signpost


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.
    Anyone else feel like that?
    My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
    Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
    Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
    Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

    whats ur point ? Do you want to meet someone with no baggage your age ? Or are you complaining about everyone leaving ? Or that everyone drinks too much ?

    Strange .

    I think your only option to find a lady with absolutely no baggage will be hard but i heard there is one asleep ( roughly 35years) you will have to scale some walls kill a dragon and awake her with a magic kiss ..


  • #17
    muckisluck
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 320 ✭✭muckisluck


    Much better to be left on the shelf than locked in the wrong cupboard!!


  • #18
    Celly Smunt
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭Celly Smunt


    Serenity Squeaking Signpost wrote: »

    I think your only option to find a lady with absolutely no baggage will be hard but i heard there is one asleep ( roughly 35years) you will have to scale some walls kill a dragon and awake her with a magic kiss ..

    Or maybe just a ride?


  • #19
    bnt
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,245 ✭✭✭✭bnt


    The "failed relationship" bit may need a little rethink: out of your teens, you're not likely to find a partner who hasn't had a failed relationship or two. But I agree with other posters here: the whole "marriage + 2.4 children" thing has become a rat race, and I'm also happy to sit on the sidelines. Go ahead, call me one of those "perpetual adolescents" if you like, just because my life doesn't look like a health insurance commercial. :cool:

    Government resting upon the will and universal suffrage of the people has no anchorage except in the people's intelligence.

    — Grover Cleveland



  • #20
    Dunny
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,985 ✭✭✭Dunny


    FatherLen wrote: »
    i am 23

    21

    FACE!:cool:


  • #21
    AngryBollix
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭AngryBollix


    Dont get married, buy a house or have children.EVER


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  • #22
    homerjay2005
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,346 ✭✭✭✭homerjay2005


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.
    Anyone else feel like that?
    My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
    Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
    Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
    Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

    so what exactly are you saying?

    you want kids?
    you want a mortgage?
    your jealous as youve not had a failed relationship?
    you crave debt and emotional baggage?

    f*ck everybody else to be honest, go out and enjoy yourself and count yourself lucky you dont have those things above....

    its the people who have kids and mortgages that are on the shelf, if they jump off it, they have nothing. at least you can do what you want and only you can direct your life.

    mortgage with lots kids = overrated and its about time that people started to move on from old fashioned times.


  • #23
    Big Nasty
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,066 ✭✭✭✭Big Nasty


    There are women out there of the same age that don't have any baggage. Not many mind you but they're out there all the same. I met my wife when I was 32 and she 35. We've both travelled, had relationships with people from different countries and different creeds and now are very comfortable in ourselves knowing what we want out of life. I.e. we've both been there and done that and have no kids from previous relationships.

    Life is good and neither of us have any 'what if's'


  • #24
    Ellis Dee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,510 ✭✭✭Ellis Dee


    What an old-fashioned and outmoded concept "on the shelf" is! We're living in the 21st century and no one listens to the Holy Joes and Holy Biddies any longer, so you can get jiggy-jiggy fairly easily. And with no wife at home to monitor your comings (pun intended) and goings, you are FREEEEEEEEE;);) - not "on the shelf". Now, get your act together, shove some condoms in your pocket and go out to a pub or disco and make hay while the sun shines.:):):)
    There are plenty who would envy you.:)


  • #25
    patwicklow
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,936 ✭✭✭patwicklow


    Your only 35 im 41 and single again and loving it, the freedom is great go were i want do what i want at a drop of a hat, enjoy it man dont worry about the flock of sheep at the other side of the field.


  • #26
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    Stone free. Sums me up.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vT_2mDBIyKg


  • #27
    dxhound2005
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 24,787 ✭✭✭✭dxhound2005


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.
    Anyone else feel like that?
    My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
    Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
    Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
    Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

    Tell them about your colourful past or how you want us to riot and burn like the Greeks. That will take their minds of the recession for a little while.

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=77011734


  • #28
    ejmaztec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,369 ✭✭✭✭ejmaztec


    Take consolation OP, that somewhere else in the universe, there's at least one person in the same position as you.


  • #29
    Micky Dolenz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,079 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.


    Change your deodorant. desperation turns the wimmins off.


  • #30
    dvpower
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,182 ✭✭✭dvpower


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Should be boom times in your line of work.


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  • #31
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    Micky Dolenz wrote: »
    Change your deodorant. desperation turns the wimmins off.

    No, they like the smell of want.


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