35 and on the shelf

Johnny Foreigner

35 and on the shelf.
Anyone else feel like that?
My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

kylith

Why not join a club or something? It's a good wasy to meet people and make friends.

FatherLen

i am 23

Johnny Foreigner

kylith wrote: »

Why not join a club or something? It's a good wasy to meet people and make friends.

Already am a member of 3 clubs.
Making friends isn't the problem, its more that they are emigrating or don't have the disposable income to socialise due to mortgages and kids.

44leto

It doesn't sound that bad of a life.

I'm on the shelf and pretty happy there, but I know I could get off it as well, I still may.

As for baggage, what is wrong with baggage, to me that is life experience and you are 35 so I am sure you have some, be it emotional or ............

Cicero

If you keep thinking that way it will certainly become a self fulfilling prophecy for you...think you need to broaden ure horizons a bit more...theres many people out there much older than 35 having more fun than what you describe.....

gcgirl

Life is what you make it, i am not far from hitting 37 and life is good

kylith

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Already am a member of 3 clubs.
Making friends isn't the problem, its more that they are emigrating or don't have the disposable income to socialise due to mortgages and kids.

Well, sort of keeping them locked up in your cellar I don't know what you can do. Make more friends, maybe?

cosanostra

Just give up that's the best way

smash

Get a mortgage and kids. You'll fit right in then.

jester77

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

35 and on the shelf.
Anyone else feel like that?
My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

I'm the same age as you and it's nothing like that at all. Think you are hanging out with the wrong type of friends. I have friends who fall into all the categories you labelled and we have a blast.

Pacifist Pigeon

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

35 and on the shelf.
Anyone else feel like that?
My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

I would say, lucky you, especially the no mortgage part. Buy a house now while they're cheap, not like your stupid friends who took out excessive mortgages at the wrong time.

Liam Byrne

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

35 and on the shelf.
Anyone else feel like that?
My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

41 and enjoying the shelf, especially when I look at people who have failed relationships and kids.

chirogirl

sounds like you've insecurities. So what, you're 35 , single and have no baggage. You've got it made!
I'm soon to be 38, on the shelf and have baby baggage.
Maybe join groups, night school, or even go travelling, do something to enrich your life.

Celly Smunt

Why not just enter somewhere illegally next week?,since you have no ties or anything else start fresh,the worst that can happen is you get thrown back here and then onto somewhere new.

Johnny Foreigner

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

35 and on the shelf.
Anyone else feel like that?
My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

whats ur point ? Do you want to meet someone with no baggage your age ? Or are you complaining about everyone leaving ? Or that everyone drinks too much ?

Strange .

I think your only option to find a lady with absolutely no baggage will be hard but i heard there is one asleep ( roughly 35years) you will have to scale some walls kill a dragon and awake her with a magic kiss ..

muckisluck

Much better to be left on the shelf than locked in the wrong cupboard!!

Celly Smunt

Serenity Squeaking Signpost wrote: »

I think your only option to find a lady with absolutely no baggage will be hard but i heard there is one asleep ( roughly 35years) you will have to scale some walls kill a dragon and awake her with a magic kiss ..

Or maybe just a ride?

bnt

The "failed relationship" bit may need a little rethink: out of your teens, you're not likely to find a partner who hasn't had a failed relationship or two. But I agree with other posters here: the whole "marriage + 2.4 children" thing has become a rat race, and I'm also happy to sit on the sidelines. Go ahead, call me one of those "perpetual adolescents" if you like, just because my life doesn't look like a health insurance commercial. :cool:

Dunny

FatherLen wrote: »

i am 23

21

FACE!:cool:

AngryBollix

Dont get married, buy a house or have children.EVER

homerjay2005

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

35 and on the shelf.
Anyone else feel like that?
My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

so what exactly are you saying?

you want kids?
you want a mortgage?
your jealous as youve not had a failed relationship?
you crave debt and emotional baggage?

f*ck everybody else to be honest, go out and enjoy yourself and count yourself lucky you dont have those things above....

its the people who have kids and mortgages that are on the shelf, if they jump off it, they have nothing. at least you can do what you want and only you can direct your life.

mortgage with lots kids = overrated and its about time that people started to move on from old fashioned times.

Big Nasty

There are women out there of the same age that don't have any baggage. Not many mind you but they're out there all the same. I met my wife when I was 32 and she 35. We've both travelled, had relationships with people from different countries and different creeds and now are very comfortable in ourselves knowing what we want out of life. I.e. we've both been there and done that and have no kids from previous relationships.

Life is good and neither of us have any 'what if's'

Ellis Dee

What an old-fashioned and outmoded concept "on the shelf" is! We're living in the 21st century and no one listens to the Holy Joes and Holy Biddies any longer, so you can get jiggy-jiggy fairly easily. And with no wife at home to monitor your comings (pun intended) and goings, you are FREEEEEEEEE;);) - not "on the shelf". Now, get your act together, shove some condoms in your pocket and go out to a pub or disco and make hay while the sun shines.:):):)
There are plenty who would envy you.:)

patwicklow

Your only 35 im 41 and single again and loving it, the freedom is great go were i want do what i want at a drop of a hat, enjoy it man dont worry about the flock of sheep at the other side of the field.

Johnny Foreigner

Stone free. Sums me up.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vT_2mDBIyKg

dxhound2005

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

35 and on the shelf.
Anyone else feel like that?
My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

Tell them about your colourful past or how you want us to riot and burn like the Greeks. That will take their minds of the recession for a little while.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=77011734

ejmaztec

Take consolation OP, that somewhere else in the universe, there's at least one person in the same position as you.

Micky Dolenz

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

35 and on the shelf.

Change your deodorant. desperation turns the wimmins off.

dvpower

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.

Should be boom times in your line of work.

Johnny Foreigner

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Change your deodorant. desperation turns the wimmins off.

No, they like the smell of want.

nice_very

ejmaztec wrote: »

Take consolation OP, that somewhere else in the universe, there's at least one person in the same position as you.

*puts hand up* that would be me, exactly the same age and situation as Johnny..

lets be friends Johnny

Jen Pigs Fly

I'm 21, no shelf for me!

el diablo

xxxJennyxxx wrote: »

I'm 21, no shelf for me!

Wow, you're great.

Nodin

xxxJennyxxx wrote: »

I'm 21, no shelf for me!

...yet.

ejmaztec

nice_very wrote: »

*puts hand up* that would be me, exactly the same age and situation as Johnny..

lets be friends Johnny

You could hold the other end of his banner during the rioting.

latenia

Why not go to Eastern Europe and pick up a sexy subservient 20 year old wife?

the keen edge

I'm still on the shelf too!.

If I reach a grand old age I'd say no man will of knocked one out as many times as I will of had.

I kinda wish I kept a numerical record of the amount of times. I suppose I could start counting from today and estimate the historical amount, but the final tally would always be in doubt.

Dying a bachelor will be bad enough, I don't my integrity questioned as well.

Jen Pigs Fly

el diablo wrote: »

Wow, you're great.

You're just jealous

Nodin wrote: »

...yet.

My hope is by the time I'm 35 I'll have a few kids running around!

Seomra Mushie

Why do people want to have kids? Srsly?

I just want cats. And dogs.

Seomra Mushie

xxxJennyxxx wrote: »

I'm 21, no shelf for me!

For now...

Them years, they do roll by quickly!

ejmaztec

latenia wrote: »

Why not go to Eastern Europe and pick up a sexy subservient 20 year old wife?

It gets a bit fraught when she insists that her family moves in as well, and you end up dismembered under the patio when they're partying with the life assurance proceeds.

dee.

35 is still young, you have a long time ahead of you..stop worrying and enjoy life. The shelf isn't so bad! The right one will come along.

As some have said, it would be much worse if you were 35 and had failed marriage, kids, etc.

dee.

Seomra Mushie wrote: »

Why do people want to have kids? Srsly?

I just want cats. And dogs.

mikom

xxxJennyxxx wrote: »

I'm 21, no shelf for me!

Ohhh and I'd say you're top shelf as well with your sexy username with all the triple X's in it...........

mattjack

Seomra Mushie wrote: »

Why do people want to have kids? Srsly?

I just want cats. And dogs.

You can't give birth to cats or dogs.

Seomra Mushie

dee. wrote: »

Oh, she's my icon!

Seomra Mushie

mattjack wrote: »

You can't give birth to cats or dogs.

Well, the thread isn't necessarily about giving birth, and if it is, the OP might need to be studied, as I think it might be a world first! :P

JustAThought

Aaaw: don't be so blue! It's shyte but at least you still have options for the future even if te present is a bit f'd up. I know what you mean & it's hard to meet a new " gang" to have a bit of craic with: keep trying & don't give up ; the alternative isn't great!

forfuxsake

latenia wrote: »

Why not go to Eastern Europe and pick up a sexy subservient 20 year old wife?

Myself and most of my friends have sexy Eastern European wives and they far from subservient....

Finneen

smash wrote: »

Get a mortgage and kids. You'll fit right in then.

Then with negative equity, you'll really fit in!