Depressed and p****d off at work- should i chuck it in?

DeadlyByDesign · 23-02-2012 05:39PM #1

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

Big Nasty · 23-02-2012 05:40PM

Many of us feel like that on a daily basis - don't quit yet, hold on until you find something better dude!

In before 'you're lucky to have a job anyway'.

nickcave · 23-02-2012 05:41PM

move on, do something better.

Otacon · 23-02-2012 05:41PM

Yes.

But tell us where it is so we can go for the open spot!

lastlaugh · 23-02-2012 05:41PM

Can you pretend to fall down and put in a big claim before you go I think that is a good corse of action to take in your prediciment?

My name is URL · 23-02-2012 05:41PM

If your job is depressing you then quit. Why keep yourself in that situation?

Iang87 · 23-02-2012 05:41PM

yes then tell them hire me

Irishchick · 23-02-2012 05:43PM

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here.

Your in the wrooooong place! Turn back while you still can!!

Nothingbetter2d · 23-02-2012 05:44PM

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

apply for other jobs then if u get one (confirmed in writing) then quit current job.

Please Kill Me · 23-02-2012 05:44PM

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

TBH, only you can answer that! It depends on how bad it is, what your state of mind is etc. I was in a job that went really bad after a while and I had 2 years of being bullied, victimised and generally just had a sh!t time of it. I ended up on medication for depression and the doc suggested that for my own peace of mind, and my health - that I should change my circumstances. So I went in and jacked it up. I'm 6 months out of work, the bills are backing up a bit, but I'm generally happier in myself and even the missus and kids say I'm a different person.

Catxscotch · 23-02-2012 05:44PM

Yeah just quit. If you are not enjoying work and moping around, you are just dragging your colleagues down with you. Get Out!!

Nothingbetter2d · 23-02-2012 05:46PM

Please Kill Me wrote: »

TBH, only you can answer that! It depends on how bad it is, what your state of mind is etc. I was in a job that went really bad after a while and I had 2 years of being bullied, victimised and generally just had a sh!t time of it. I ended up on medication for depression and the doc suggested that for my own peace of mind, and my health - that I should change my circumstances. So I went in and jacked it up. I'm 6 months out of work, the bills are backing up a bit, but I'm generally happier in myself and even the missus and kids say I'm a different person.

with a username called "please kill me" you dont inspire confidence

Shryke · 23-02-2012 05:49PM

If it's seriously affecting you then maybe quit? You won't be as well off financially but your mental health is more important than affording a nice holiday. You say there's no progression and you know you can't stand the place... it's pretty straight forward. Other peoples opinions are worth dirt when it comes to your own life. Make the decision yourself.

hondasam · 23-02-2012 05:51PM

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

If you are really unhappy and hate the thoughts of going into work then pack it in.
Take a little time out and find a job that will make you happy.There is more to life than getting up every morning and doing a job you hate.

justme7136 · 23-02-2012 05:51PM

Take the leap, the grass is always greener, go for it

And if it doesnt work out come back here with another sob story for some more useless advice :eek:

DeadlyByDesign · 23-02-2012 05:54PM

Shryke wrote: »

If it's seriously affecting you then maybe quit? You won't be as well off financially but your mental health is more important than affording a nice holiday. You say there's no progression and you know you can't stand the place... it's pretty straight forward. Other peoples opinions are worth dirt when it comes to your own life. Make the decision yourself.

great advice thanks a million

longhalloween · 23-02-2012 05:55PM

Go for it, start a new company.

Soon enough you'll be back on your feet.

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater · 23-02-2012 05:58PM

I feel your pain mate, I honestly do.

Go for it, but make sure not to pack in your current job before you know there's something out there for you.

If you're fed up now, believe me you'll be twice as fed up if you can't get off the dole.

Seachmall · 23-02-2012 06:02PM

MCMLXXV wrote: »

don't quit yet, hold on until you find something better dude!

Honestly I think most people do this and 30 years later are still holding on for something better.

If you want to do it you should do it.

No time like the present.
Tomorrows the first day of the rest of your life.
Etc.

Gummy Panda · 23-02-2012 06:04PM

Maybe try not to be fulfilled by your job and treat it like a necessary evil before you do other stuff. I've seen this in others and instead of quitting they took up night courses and got their feeling of achievement through them instead.

Ironman76 · 23-02-2012 06:14PM

Please Kill Me wrote: »

TBH, only you can answer that! It depends on how bad it is, what your state of mind is etc. I was in a job that went really bad after a while and I had 2 years of being bullied, victimised and generally just had a sh!t time of it. I ended up on medication for depression and the doc suggested that for my own peace of mind, and my health - that I should change my circumstances. So I went in and jacked it up. I'm 6 months out of work, the bills are backing up a bit, but I'm generally happier in myself and even the missus and kids say I'm a different person.

This.

Same thing happened me, its one thing being pissed off in a job, its another being depressed. My missus said I was like a new person when I left my last job. Some companies just give f**kwits senior positions. They have ZERO people skills and couldnt manage a cup of tea. Some could do with a f**king hiding to be honest.

OP if youre depressed leave. You will be more focused and determined. You will NEVER regret leaving a job youre pissed off in.

MungBean · 23-02-2012 06:17PM

Find another job before you quit, as bad as it is working a job that doesnt make you happy its bliss compared to being stuck on welfare.

Tomk1 · 23-02-2012 06:38PM

Try for redundancy.

Why not start doing web design in your part-time, do a few sites for voluntry groups that you support to build up your self-worth. Then in time move company or self-start a company with a few others. Nightcourse??

I had a Job which I loved, but thought promotion (R&D) was the way to go, and with all the added benifits seemed the right way to go, after the first year it started getting boring, eventually I didn't feel like going in and would skip a few days, no reason, no sick note, just knock it off the holidays. If the boss brought it up, I would ask for a raise which I got. I still got my work done and would did 10 hour days.
If your seeking promotion, sometimes it's not the way to go.

BTW You can't just quit as then you cannot claim benifit and would only advise that as a last resort for health reasons. Are there any other roles/jobs in the company that you would like to try, even at less pay, I'm sure when it comes down to it most bosses understand, one thing I do regret is not saying to the boss that I needed something more challenging to do.

milehip1 · 24-02-2012 03:36AM

if you dont care anymore then the shoes on the other foot and you have the power,

go nuts, have some fun, f*ck with peoples heads,
blackmail you boss for sexual harrasment a la Amercian Beauty,
show up with your head half shaved and tell everyone you're buying your haircut in instalments, start calling everyone chief in an Swedish accent

who knows maybe you'll start to feel better about the job and win that long sought after promotion(thats a long shot but you'll deffo feel better)

pragmatic1 · 24-02-2012 03:46AM

If its makingyou unhappy and depressed start looking for another job. Life is too short to waste it doing something that makes you miserable.

Guill · 24-02-2012 03:48AM

Hey OP,

I was in the exact same postion as you. I worked for 6 years in a company and loved it, but somewher in the middle of m term i started to not like it as much, then hate it, then drear it and eventually found it depressing to get out of the bed every morning.

Even the wife noticed that my humour was mostly terrible during the week.

When I had decided i didn't like it as much (after the 1st three years) I started applying for jobs elsewhere, just as the economy nose dived. With the economy all but dead, an mme having no qualifications, it took me the next three years of misery looking for a job. I debated packing it in and everytime it came back to the fact that I needed the money and had responsibilites and bills.

Got a new job last sept. and it's going great. I took a pay cut, have more responsibilites and have to work 3 cycle shift to make the same money as i was before, but, as my wife would tell you I am a change happy man.

It was hard, i could easily tell you to keep slugging away but I know for myself, I would never go back to that situation again. You just have to ask yourself what would your quality of life be if you were out of work for X amount of time.

ToddyDoody · 24-02-2012 04:00AM

How about a Career break / sabattical? You'll loose money now but might gain in the longrun as you might be able to stick it for longer if u take a break. Hopefully your employer will grant it and save you the job for when you want to return.

FGR · 24-02-2012 04:11AM

You work to live..not the other way around.

If work is bringing you down then don't tolerate it. Pack it in. There's always another option.

Jake187 · 24-02-2012 04:15AM

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

.....I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".
I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

Well man, its just about weighing up the odds. Your financial situation working against your financial situation by not working. You know yourself. If you look for another job you'd be waiting months and months (Illregardless of weather you stick the dead end job or looking while on the dole) So your choice has to be financially based.

Cú Giobach · 24-02-2012 09:16AM

Jake187 wrote: »

Well man, its just about weighing up the odds. Your financial situation working against your financial situation by not working. You know yourself. If you look for another job you'd be waiting months and months (Illregardless of weather you stick the dead end job or looking while on the dole) So your choice has to be financially based.

For lots of people it's not just about money.
Years ago I was in the same boat as the OP, I made a decision one morning, wrote out my notice and handed it to HR all in the space of 10 mins. This was before the boom and admittedly it was hard for a while but now when I look back it was the best decision I ever made and though poorer than I would have been if I had stayed with that company, I have a quality of life now that many would die for. Freedom!!!

DeadlyByDesign · 24-02-2012 10:57AM

Thanks for all the replies guys. I was up till 3 am last night designing a website for a potential client. When the clock hit 3 am I was tired but felt satisfied that I done a great job. I then started thinking that this could be my job. That I should bite the bullet, take the risk and set up and go at it on my own.

I know I have bills to pay but everyone in ireland is in the same boat. Ill be honest....the resignation letter is sitting on my desktop right now. Just need to email it now...finger hovering over send button

Depressed and p****d off at work- should i chuck it in?

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