Depressed and p****d off at work- should i chuck it in?

DeadlyByDesign

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

Big Nasty

Many of us feel like that on a daily basis - don't quit yet, hold on until you find something better dude!

In before 'you're lucky to have a job anyway'.

nickcave

move on, do something better.

Otacon

Yes.

But tell us where it is so we can go for the open spot!

lastlaugh

Can you pretend to fall down and put in a big claim before you go I think that is a good corse of action to take in your prediciment?

My name is URL

If your job is depressing you then quit. Why keep yourself in that situation?

Iang87

yes then tell them hire me

Irishchick

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here.

Your in the wrooooong place! Turn back while you still can!!

Nothingbetter2d

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

apply for other jobs then if u get one (confirmed in writing) then quit current job.

Please Kill Me

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

TBH, only you can answer that! It depends on how bad it is, what your state of mind is etc. I was in a job that went really bad after a while and I had 2 years of being bullied, victimised and generally just had a sh!t time of it. I ended up on medication for depression and the doc suggested that for my own peace of mind, and my health - that I should change my circumstances. So I went in and jacked it up. I'm 6 months out of work, the bills are backing up a bit, but I'm generally happier in myself and even the missus and kids say I'm a different person.

Catxscotch

Yeah just quit. If you are not enjoying work and moping around, you are just dragging your colleagues down with you. Get Out!!

Nothingbetter2d

Please Kill Me wrote: »

TBH, only you can answer that! It depends on how bad it is, what your state of mind is etc. I was in a job that went really bad after a while and I had 2 years of being bullied, victimised and generally just had a sh!t time of it. I ended up on medication for depression and the doc suggested that for my own peace of mind, and my health - that I should change my circumstances. So I went in and jacked it up. I'm 6 months out of work, the bills are backing up a bit, but I'm generally happier in myself and even the missus and kids say I'm a different person.

with a username called "please kill me" you dont inspire confidence

Shryke

If it's seriously affecting you then maybe quit? You won't be as well off financially but your mental health is more important than affording a nice holiday. You say there's no progression and you know you can't stand the place... it's pretty straight forward. Other peoples opinions are worth dirt when it comes to your own life. Make the decision yourself.

hondasam

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

If you are really unhappy and hate the thoughts of going into work then pack it in.
Take a little time out and find a job that will make you happy.There is more to life than getting up every morning and doing a job you hate.

justme7136

Take the leap, the grass is always greener, go for it

And if it doesnt work out come back here with another sob story for some more useless advice :eek:

DeadlyByDesign

Shryke wrote: »

If it's seriously affecting you then maybe quit? You won't be as well off financially but your mental health is more important than affording a nice holiday. You say there's no progression and you know you can't stand the place... it's pretty straight forward. Other peoples opinions are worth dirt when it comes to your own life. Make the decision yourself.

great advice thanks a million

longhalloween

Go for it, start a new company.

Soon enough you'll be back on your feet.

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater

I feel your pain mate, I honestly do.

Go for it, but make sure not to pack in your current job before you know there's something out there for you.

If you're fed up now, believe me you'll be twice as fed up if you can't get off the dole.

Seachmall

MCMLXXV wrote: »

don't quit yet, hold on until you find something better dude!

Honestly I think most people do this and 30 years later are still holding on for something better.

If you want to do it you should do it.

No time like the present.
Tomorrows the first day of the rest of your life.
Etc.

Gummy Panda

Maybe try not to be fulfilled by your job and treat it like a necessary evil before you do other stuff. I've seen this in others and instead of quitting they took up night courses and got their feeling of achievement through them instead.

Ironman76

Please Kill Me wrote: »

TBH, only you can answer that! It depends on how bad it is, what your state of mind is etc. I was in a job that went really bad after a while and I had 2 years of being bullied, victimised and generally just had a sh!t time of it. I ended up on medication for depression and the doc suggested that for my own peace of mind, and my health - that I should change my circumstances. So I went in and jacked it up. I'm 6 months out of work, the bills are backing up a bit, but I'm generally happier in myself and even the missus and kids say I'm a different person.

This.

Same thing happened me, its one thing being pissed off in a job, its another being depressed. My missus said I was like a new person when I left my last job. Some companies just give f**kwits senior positions. They have ZERO people skills and couldnt manage a cup of tea. Some could do with a f**king hiding to be honest.

OP if youre depressed leave. You will be more focused and determined. You will NEVER regret leaving a job youre pissed off in.

MungBean

Find another job before you quit, as bad as it is working a job that doesnt make you happy its bliss compared to being stuck on welfare.

Tomk1

Try for redundancy.

Why not start doing web design in your part-time, do a few sites for voluntry groups that you support to build up your self-worth. Then in time move company or self-start a company with a few others. Nightcourse??

I had a Job which I loved, but thought promotion (R&D) was the way to go, and with all the added benifits seemed the right way to go, after the first year it started getting boring, eventually I didn't feel like going in and would skip a few days, no reason, no sick note, just knock it off the holidays. If the boss brought it up, I would ask for a raise which I got. I still got my work done and would did 10 hour days.
If your seeking promotion, sometimes it's not the way to go.

BTW You can't just quit as then you cannot claim benifit and would only advise that as a last resort for health reasons. Are there any other roles/jobs in the company that you would like to try, even at less pay, I'm sure when it comes down to it most bosses understand, one thing I do regret is not saying to the boss that I needed something more challenging to do.

milehip1

if you dont care anymore then the shoes on the other foot and you have the power,

go nuts, have some fun, f*ck with peoples heads,
blackmail you boss for sexual harrasment a la Amercian Beauty,
show up with your head half shaved and tell everyone you're buying your haircut in instalments, start calling everyone chief in an Swedish accent

who knows maybe you'll start to feel better about the job and win that long sought after promotion(thats a long shot but you'll deffo feel better)

pragmatic1

If its makingyou unhappy and depressed start looking for another job. Life is too short to waste it doing something that makes you miserable.

Guill

Hey OP,

I was in the exact same postion as you. I worked for 6 years in a company and loved it, but somewher in the middle of m term i started to not like it as much, then hate it, then drear it and eventually found it depressing to get out of the bed every morning.

Even the wife noticed that my humour was mostly terrible during the week.

When I had decided i didn't like it as much (after the 1st three years) I started applying for jobs elsewhere, just as the economy nose dived. With the economy all but dead, an mme having no qualifications, it took me the next three years of misery looking for a job. I debated packing it in and everytime it came back to the fact that I needed the money and had responsibilites and bills.

Got a new job last sept. and it's going great. I took a pay cut, have more responsibilites and have to work 3 cycle shift to make the same money as i was before, but, as my wife would tell you I am a change happy man.

It was hard, i could easily tell you to keep slugging away but I know for myself, I would never go back to that situation again. You just have to ask yourself what would your quality of life be if you were out of work for X amount of time.

ToddyDoody

How about a Career break / sabattical? You'll loose money now but might gain in the longrun as you might be able to stick it for longer if u take a break. Hopefully your employer will grant it and save you the job for when you want to return.

FGR

You work to live..not the other way around.

If work is bringing you down then don't tolerate it. Pack it in. There's always another option.

Jake187

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

.....I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".
I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

Well man, its just about weighing up the odds. Your financial situation working against your financial situation by not working. You know yourself. If you look for another job you'd be waiting months and months (Illregardless of weather you stick the dead end job or looking while on the dole) So your choice has to be financially based.

Cú Giobach

Jake187 wrote: »

Well man, its just about weighing up the odds. Your financial situation working against your financial situation by not working. You know yourself. If you look for another job you'd be waiting months and months (Illregardless of weather you stick the dead end job or looking while on the dole) So your choice has to be financially based.

For lots of people it's not just about money.
Years ago I was in the same boat as the OP, I made a decision one morning, wrote out my notice and handed it to HR all in the space of 10 mins. This was before the boom and admittedly it was hard for a while but now when I look back it was the best decision I ever made and though poorer than I would have been if I had stayed with that company, I have a quality of life now that many would die for. Freedom!!!

DeadlyByDesign

Thanks for all the replies guys. I was up till 3 am last night designing a website for a potential client. When the clock hit 3 am I was tired but felt satisfied that I done a great job. I then started thinking that this could be my job. That I should bite the bullet, take the risk and set up and go at it on my own.

I know I have bills to pay but everyone in ireland is in the same boat. Ill be honest....the resignation letter is sitting on my desktop right now. Just need to email it now...finger hovering over send button

Show Time

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

Jack it in and go on the dole so. I have friends with young families who hate been on the dole and would be more then happy to swap with you.

swimming in a sea

Show Time wrote: »

Jack it in and go on the dole so. I have friends with young families who hate been on the dole and would be more then happy to swap with you.

he didn't say anything about going on the dole, he wants to start his own business.

For the op I was in the same situation a few years ago did 5 years in a place I hated, only the yes men got promotion, not that promotion would have made me stay, anyway if I had stayed much longer it would have damaged me. 3 years on in a job I like 20lbs lighter(not eating do deal with stress any more).
only thing i don't know if your a family man or not, but i was single so if you are or at least don't have kids well then make a break for the door.

DeadlyByDesign

Show Time wrote: »

Jack it in and go on the dole so. I have friends with young families who hate been on the dole and would be more then happy to swap with you.

This is not the impression I want to give. I am not doing it because I am lazy. I want to start my own thing and be happy in my own skin.

Park Royal

There is something very satisfying in getting a weekly salary/wage.....


When the going gets tough the tough get going......


But if your already doing sloppy work , I would be worried you would

not have what it takes , to go it alone....?....

You would need to be at a level that impresses customers/ clients and

your employer......

But only you can answer these matters........reminds me of the joke of

the birds heading south for winter and one bird remains on too long

finally the bird gets going realising it is getting very cold, flies higher and higher until he gets ice on his wings and starts to fall to ground, hits the ground with a thud right into a heap of cow dung, he realises he is getting warmer due to the heat of the dung and feels better , so much so ,he starts to tweet merrily away, until a cat comes along and eats him....

moral of the story if your up to your arm pits in "sh1t" its sometimes better not to tweet......( keep your mouth shut)

Cianos

Doing something you love for a living sounds great, but it will change it for you, when it's your only source of income, especially if you're finding it hard to get by. There are plenty of real world problems that come in to play that you can't foresee now. No matter how good a designer you are, there's also the business side of it, which will throw you until you get a grip on it, if at all.

You actually have it quite well - you may dislike what you currently do, but you have the luxury of another option. Most don't have this, so I wouldn't feel too bad for yourself if I were you. I'm not saying don't quit, I'm saying to roll with it for a while and see if plan B is actually a viable option. The last thing you want is to quit for Plan B, then realise that Plan B was worse than Plan A.

Show Time

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

This is not the impression I want to give. I am not doing it because I am lazy. I want to start my own thing and be happy in my own skin.

Ah sorry well best of luck and i hope it works out well for you.

martomcg

Not to burst your bubble mate but web design is a very small cake with a lot of ppl looking for a slice. Its made even harder with these companies like "1&1mywebsite" and others that offer much cheaper solutions to businesses.

If you can do it in your spare time to suppliment your income then by all means do but as a career path I wouldnt be so optimistic.

As alot of others said here its about weighing up how long you can go unemployed for before you start regretting leaving the job. If you feel you'd never regret leaving and even be happier on the street then by all means leave but if you've a family to support then financial security and providing for them should come first.

Look for other opportunities on the QT and jump at them when they present themselves!

blaze1

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

I just need some advice here. I am 31 years old and have been in my current position about 6 years with no sign of progression. Lately my quality of work has been slipping up and I have been getting into trouble over it. This is mainly down to be mind numbingly bored at what I do.

I am tempted to pack it in and find something else. I am just worried I wont in todays climate, but I honestly cant stand it here. If I was to do it I would try and start my own company (web design) as that is something i love doing.

I am just concerned as I dont want people to think "oh well for him throwing away a job when there are thousands looking for them".

I have spent 6 years in something i am now not starring to like, i just want to do something that makes me happy.

I actually thought someone had hacked my life and wrote that.

Dublin Chick

So did you email the letter????????????

DeadlyByDesign

its still sitting on my desktop! Ahhh.....I need to just go for it!

Johnny Foreigner

Leave your job. It will be the best thing you ever do.
No job is worth sacrificing your mental and physical health for.
Its better to die living, than to live dying inside.

Please Kill Me

Nothingbetter2d wrote: »

with a username called "please kill me" you dont inspire confidence

PMSL! It doesn't mean anything, just popped into my head when I registered.

mikemac1

Web design is an area full of part timers and nixers

Even if you are the best you'll be undercut by people who don't need the money to make a living like a student working for beer money

Nothing wrong with taking a risk but try and work on your web design for the next few months and build up a portfolio and reputation.

It's great you found something you love, now the next thing is to make this earn you a living.

So keep the web design going and spend your evening and weekends at it or whatever suits and I would hang on in your job until summer.

Sunny day, sun is shining and most every job have asshole teamleaders, good staff getting passed over for promotion and bosses who subscribe to never waste a good reccesion and set ridiculous workloads while they feck off to the golf course in the afternoon
Ok, I've gone a bit too far but grass isn't greener in the next company

I've not saying stay and ruin your mental health.
Just build up this web design and keep the paycheque for the next few months at least until summer

splashthecash

dude - if its affecting you mentally, its not worth it...bottom line.

i was made redundant in 2009, found a job eventually after about 8\9 months and absolutely hated it. there was no support in place to train\mentor me into the position and was dealing with a team of engineers that expected me to tell them what needed to be done next. I was there for only 2 weeks and was always the last to leave the office, had to travel 2 hours each way to get to it and was really suffering. I'm normally a very happy guy but this badly hit me...i was depressed, couldn't eat and was losing weight (lost about half a stone in a week and a half), couldn't sleep.

To add more pressure on me, my wife was pregnant at the time but we both agreed that just leaving was the best option. There is more to life than work and it did cross my mind what people would say but your well being is the most important thing.

At the end of it all, i found another job relatively soon afterwards and in hindsight, it was the best thing ive ever done career wise.

Chin-up and take the plunge....we're not all made for every job.

Dublin Chick

DeadlyByDesign wrote: »

its still sitting on my desktop! Ahhh.....I need to just go for it!

Ok I don't think that you should send it. You will feel better in the knowledge that you will not be there forever. Take the weekend to have a really good think about things and maybe see some of the positives of the job to include a regular wage. I know how you feel and you have lost interest. Maybe if you try to get motivated again and take pride in doing a good job you can turn this around whilst you look into other things. You will find that if your proformance improves so will people attitudes towards you and you won't be afraid of getting in trouble all the time?

Please don't send it till you have had the weekend think. I mean do you have enough money to live and pay bills for the forseeable future and maybe more?