why do immigrants want to follow their own culture more

I went to Cyprus a few years ago and it was like a sunnier version of England. It was full of English pubs with English people inside them watching football and cheering on Manchester United.

simply simple wrote: »

but this culture love is sometimes hard for kids as they are born n brought up in the new country and parents are trying hard to teach their culture,why? u love your culture but your kids culture is the new country as they are born there,why try hard to teach then your culture,some does this to an extent that kids rebel against their parents and their culture

Well when it comes to language, many parents want their children to be able to speak the language of their home country, in part so they can communicate with relatives, and maintain those connections. No matter how hard parents try though, language almost always dies out by the third generation.

St.Spodo wrote: »

We Irish, as a people, are famous for that. Our ancestors who emegrated to America were often keen to be seen as hyphenated Americans. If anyone should be complaining about this, it shouldn't really be us.

Hm, not necessarily. The Irish were treated as a distinct ethnic group, by virtue of both their low socio-economic status and their Catholicism - especially in New England. So this wasn't really a choice.

Third and fourth-generation Irish people in the US have picked up hyphenated identity, Irish dance, etc., but that doesn't mean they don't see themselves as Americans.

I lived abroad for 12 years,it takes a while before we integrate our own beliefs with our new ones,personally I found ways to exist with both cultures and became very proud of my own Irishness while not disrespecting my new one,Some people who have children would become alarmed if there children start to lose there language and culture and object to them adapting the mainstream culture of there new country as a lot of children will forget and reject that, so they start just being with like minded people of there own culture and wont mix or integrate and end up creating ghettos.

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

I know exactly what you mean.
I am London-Irish and feel exactly the same.
I never felt I belonged in England, I always felt Irish.
We are an ethnic minority, part of the Irish diaspora of immigrant children who grew up with a hybrid hypenated identity; a mixture of the two cultures.
But unlike American-Irish we couldn't call ourselves British-Irish due to the Troubles, and the history of conflict between Britain and Ireland.
Our parents brought us up believing in the utopia they felt homesick for, and so we never felt we belonged and returned.
Its common for children of the diaspora to become political and polarised when they return. For example take hard line political views like Republicanism, this is so they feel a sense of belonging to a group. It fills the gap of feeling displaced from their home.
The problem we have as hybrids is that we only feel Irish when we are accepted by the Irish born.
During Italia 90 I experienced prejudice from Dubliner's and was called a plastic paddy for supporting the Republic of Ireland. I then pointed out that half the team were born in England, and I was as Irish as they were.
I then asked the man abusing me why he was wearing Liverpool football shirt if he hated the English so much? He shut up then.

I get the same whenever I say I am Irish or when I say I support Kilkenny in hurling. They think that I don't have a right to support the team I do. I say the same as you in response about them supporting English teams. It is great over here though!

Of course not in all countries but I think that a lot of cultures that miss their homeland are cultures that have experienced war and oppression. I don't have much to back this one up but just what I was thinking.

alandublin33 wrote: »

I think being proud of your heritage and culture it a great thing for everyone , but I dont think being proud of your culture should mean "sticking to your own" and isolating yourself and your family from society .

Having lived as a foreigner in Ireland, it's not like natives are falling all over themselves to hang out with newcomers - they have their own sets of friends and networks already. This is perfectly normal - it's been the case in pretty much every country I've lived in. Most of my friends when I've lived abroad have been other foreigners (not from my home country necessarily), largely because we are the ones who are looking to make new friends and connections. When I lived in Dublin, the few Irish people I ended up hanging out were themselves recent arrivals there who didn't know anyone either.

I also have to wonder how many people who complain about migrants sticking to their own have lived in another country where you had to learn or use a language that wasn't your own all day. I'm a native English speaker, and when I lived in Spain, I would get home and be so drained from having to function in another language all day, that it was often a relief to socialize with other native English speakers in the evening. You may call that 'sticking to my own', but I call it sanity preservation.

Finally, I wish people would stop insisting that migrants incorporate, without being clearer about what they are supposed to do. Incorporate into what? As long as people speak the language, pay their taxes, and obey the law, who cares what language they speak at home or with friends, or who they choose to socialize with outside of work?

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alandublin33 wrote: »

ok first of all I wasnt making a hate speech , the inverted commas were to let you know thats what other people would say " stick to .... " and i wasnt sayin that immigrants have to totally adopt a new culture , but be opened minded when they interact with the locals , one more thing , who the fcuk pissed on your cornflakes today ?

Who said you were making a hate speech?