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Why is sexism such a difficult topic?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,559 ✭✭✭Millicent


    smash wrote: »
    When this thread is done, can it please be the last of its kind on ah?

    Why though? AH has continued to make progress with casual sexism since I started in 2010. I'd like to see that carry on.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,315 ✭✭✭✭amacachi


    Millicent wrote: »
    That's probably a part of it actually. However, there is still a massive disparity that can't solely be put down to that.

    I erred slightly now I look at it--women are actually 3 per cent more likely to be primary teachers, but still, that's surprising when you see that 85% of women are primary teachers.
    I don't understand the second paragraph. As for the first, without some statistics it's impossible to say one way or the other.

    [/quote]And the Civil Service and marriage point is a valid one too. The differences now may be just the recalibration of that system swinging back into place.

    However, women can still legally be paid less than a male counterpart because of taking maternity leave. I can understand this from a capitalist point of view, but considering that men haven't the same entitlement to paternity leave, the choice for work women is, don't have children, get back to work quickly after giving birth or accept that you will be paid less and are less likely to be promoted because you did what is natural to humans and had a child. It's almost like they are punished career-wise and financially for having children.[/QUOTE]
    Only if they took unpaid maternity leave no?
    I would say with the current unemployment figures that for the under 30s (including unemployed) that women are paid more on average more than men. It's not something I see as a problem with any system though, just bad luck in this case.
    When there was a report published a few years ago it said women were paid on average just over 80% as much as men. It didn't take into account hours worked. Once it did it was over 90%. That still didn't account for the fact that few hours means more likely to be part-time and less overtime on average making the paygap tiny despite the fact that one would expect due to old practices for men to be higher.
    It's easy to spin statistics.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,082 ✭✭✭Feathers




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,559 ✭✭✭Millicent


    amacachi wrote: »
    I don't understand the second paragraph. As for the first, without some statistics it's impossible to say one way or the other.

    I provided you statistics from the CSO. :confused: You made an assumption, and I kind of made an assumption, but the fact that there is such a disparity isn't explained by the fact that men are likely to be more senior in those positions.
    amacachi wrote: »
    Only if they took unpaid maternity leave no?
    I would say with the current unemployment figures that for the under 30s (including unemployed) that women are paid more on average more than men. It's not something I see as a problem with any system though, just bad luck in this case.
    When there was a report published a few years ago it said women were paid on average just over 80% as much as men. It didn't take into account hours worked. Once it did it was over 90%. That still didn't account for the fact that few hours means more likely to be part-time and less overtime on average making the paygap tiny despite the fact that one would expect due to old practices for men to be higher.
    It's easy to spin statistics.

    No, it is even if they take paid maternity leave, IIRC. Gimme a couple of minutes--I'm trying to locate a source for that.

    And no, women are not paid more on average than men.

    And who's spinning statistics? Read the CSO report.
    The report shows that women’s income in 2009 was around 73% of men’s income. After adjusting for the longer hours worked by men, women’s hourly earnings were around 94% of men’s

    It's got a bit to do with the professions of each gender but that's problematic as it still splits the genders into "male" and "female" job roles.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,962 ✭✭✭✭dark crystal


    Millicent wrote: »

    However, women can still legally be paid less than a male counterpart because of taking maternity leave. I can understand this from a capitalist point of view, but considering that men haven't the same entitlement to paternity leave, the choice for work women is, don't have children, get back to work quickly after giving birth or accept that you will be paid less and are less likely to be promoted because you did what is natural to humans and had a child. It's almost like they are punished career-wise and financially for having children.

    I would say it's also a safe assumption (correct me if I'm wrong) that women tend to hold down part time jobs more than men, due to familial comittments.

    This would have an obvious effect on statistics where it comes to differing rates of pay overall.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    Millicent wrote: »
    Why though? AH has continued to make progress with casual sexism since I started in 2010. I'd like to see that carry on.
    Honestly? It got boring a long time ago, causes nothing but angst either. Threads about sexism pop up constantly. Already 2 closed in the last 2 days.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,218 ✭✭✭✭Bannasidhe


    Feathers wrote: »
    Women and men do have equal rights? :confused:

    Regarding slavery, I think it's the fact that the historical angle clouds the debate — we're in a society were women are enfranchised, can stand for election & enjoy the same rights as men. While there may still need to be attitudinal change, a focus on historical guilt angle makes men more likely to dismiss the topic as, as you say, this is completely out of their hands.

    You don't care if men feel guilty or not — fine. So what are the aims of the feminism campaign? Presumably, since women have equal rights, it's about changing attitudes & gender stereotypes. This involves engaging men in the discussion, since it's their attitudes that you want to change.

    So, yes there is the 'tone fallacy' & you don't care if men feel guilty, but when the one area that is now the most important to achieve change is in attitude, it becomes more important to engage men in the discussion.

    You believe women and men are equal yes? So you see no need for feminism to still exist.

    Yet, there have been many posters here, male and female, who feel that although things have improved enormously full equality has not yet been achieved. Some would also be concerned that these achievement having been made in a short period of time and will be rolled back unless we are vigilant.

    In my life time - and I am merely middle aged not old- we have seen the end of the marriage ban, sex discrimination act, equal pay act, criminalisation of inter-marriage rape, rights extended to married women re shared ownership of the marital home, women, girls can no longer be shut away in Magdalene Laundries and contraception. The Ireland my granddaughter was born into is a very different Ireland to the one I was born into and my grandmother was born into an Ireland where women didn't even have the vote- feminism played a great role in forcing those changes. I want to make sure it never changes back.

    People who feel like I do not only believe feminism is still needed but that it has a vital role to play in building and maintaining a more equatable society.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,082 ✭✭✭Feathers


    B0jangles wrote: »
    I think the Jewish americans who experienced 5 o'clock anti-semitism might disgree with you on that one.

    Sorry, excluding the only religious group that could also qualify as under the term 'racism'! :pac: You know what I mean though, I'm not saying that discrimination didn't happen for a whole load of people in America in the 60s.

    What I'm saying is that with civil rights movements, you're looking at a minority group vs a majority group. With sexism today in Ireland, the dynamics are different — one, women are if anything a slight majority & two, sexism also happens against men.


  • Posts: 0 Roy Yummy Grenade


    smash wrote: »
    Millicent wrote: »
    Why though? AH has continued to make progress with casual sexism since I started in 2010. I'd like to see that carry on.
    Honestly? It got boring a long time ago, causes nothing but angst either. Threads about sexism pop up constantly. Already 2 closed in the last 2 days.

    Honestly ? Dont like it dont read it :) they didnt get closed cause they were boring ..........


  • Posts: 0 Roy Yummy Grenade


    Feathers wrote: »
    B0jangles wrote: »
    I think the Jewish americans who experienced 5 o'clock anti-semitism might disgree with you on that one.

    Sorry, excluding the only religious group that could also qualify as under the term 'racism'! :pac: You know what I mean though, I'm not saying that discrimination didn't happen for a whole load of people in America in the 60s.

    What I'm saying is that with civil rights movements, you're looking at a minority group vs a majority group. With sexism today in Ireland, the dynamics are different — one, women are if anything a slight majority & two, sexism also happens against men.

    geniunely interested in actual cases of sexism against men in ireland (apart for parental rights and the diet coke ad they have been used ad nausem) please ?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,315 ✭✭✭✭amacachi


    Millicent wrote: »
    I provided you statistics from the CSO. :confused: You made an assumption, and I kind of made an assumption, but the fact that there is such a disparity isn't explained by the fact that men are likely to be more senior in those positions.
    You said women are 3% more likely to be teachers, re-read your post. :pac:
    Find some statistics with how many teachers from each gender have been around long enough to be principals to prove your fact.


    No, it is even if they take paid maternity leave, IIRC. Gimme a couple of minutes--I'm trying to locate a source for that.

    And no, women are not paid more on average than men.

    And who's spinning statistics? Read the CSO report.



    It's got a bit to do with the professions of each gender but that's problematic as it still splits the genders into "male" and "female" job roles.
    Again, 94%, higher than the 90 something I mentioned. That's per hour and I would've thought the fact that women work less hours than men would lead to a couple of conclusion; they are more likely to work part time (lower pay per hour) and less likely to work overtime (more pay per hour). That would explain quite a bit of that 6% if not all of it.

    I didn't say women were paid more than men, I said under 30. Male unemployment in that age group is massive and growth in unemployment for that age group for males has been massive in the last few hours.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,559 ✭✭✭Millicent


    smash wrote: »
    Honestly? It got boring a long time ago, causes nothing but angst either. Threads about sexism pop up constantly. Already 2 closed in the last 2 days.

    But these sorts of threads have contributed massively to the culling of the "All Irish women are ugly" sorts of threads on AH, or "Irish women are bitches" ones. That to me is a positive thing. It's AH. This week it's sexism. Next week will be dole week. It's how the place operates. :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    Honestly ? Dont like it dont read it :) they didnt get closed cause they were boring ..........
    Well the last thread was doing ok until a few people kicked off, you being one of them!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,082 ✭✭✭Feathers


    Bannasidhe wrote: »
    You believe women and men are equal yes? So you see not need for feminism to still exist.

    Yet, there have been many posters here, male and female, who feel that although things have improved enormously full equality has not yet been achieved. Some would also be concerned that these achievement have been made in a short period of time and unless we are vigilent they will be slowly rolled back.
    In my life time - and I am merely middle aged not old- we have seen the end of the marriage ban, sex discrimination act, equal pay act, criminalisation of inter-marriage rape, rights extended to married women re shared ownership of the marital home, women and girls can no longer be shut away in Magdalene Laundries and contraception. The Ireland my granddaughter was born into is a very different Ireland to the one I was born into and feminising played a great role in forcing those changes. I want to make sure it never changes back.

    People who feel like I do not only believe feminism is still needed but that it has a vital role to play in building and maintaining a more equatable society.

    I'm not saying that things are perfect or that there's no need for either vigilance or for improvement. What I am saying is that the feminist movement worked extremely well for the hard changes — the legislative changes that brought about equal pay, marriage ban, etc.

    For the softer attitudinal changes, I think that a focus on the individual issues from both sides will work better. It's about engagement with men & women, getting them to look at the issues, not shouting loudly about it. But I see a lot of people turned off these issues by the weight of history of feminism changing the focus of the discussion.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,559 ✭✭✭Millicent


    amacachi wrote: »
    You said women are 3% more likely to be teachers, re-read your post. :pac:

    Crap--sorry! Meant school managers. I'm tired. :o

    amacachi wrote: »
    Find some statistics with how many teachers from each gender have been around long enough to be principals to prove your fact.

    That would take hours of research so, eh, no. :D It's school managers though. I made a mistake. Surely that would be a role governed on qualifications, not necessarily just seniority?

    amacachi wrote: »
    Again, 94%, higher than the 90 something I mentioned. That's per hour and I thought the fact that women work less hours than men, are more likely to work part time (lower pay per hour) and less likely to work overtime (more pay per hour would explain quite a bit of that 6% if not all of it.

    No, that's after adjusting for longer working hours. When you take into account women working part-time roles, women earn 73% of what men do.
    amacachi wrote: »
    I didn't say women were paid more than men, I said under 30. Male unemployment in that age group is massive and growth in unemployment for that age group for males has been massive in the last few hours.

    There is a difference between men and women unemployed under 30:
    For the 20-24 age group, about a third of men and just over a fifth of women were unemployed in 2011

    The gap gets smaller over that age, but it's a fair point.


  • Posts: 0 Roy Yummy Grenade


    smash wrote: »
    Honestly ? Dont like it dont read it :) they didnt get closed cause they were boring ..........
    Well the last thread was doing ok until a few people kicked off, you bring one of them!

    Emm ok ??? :/ i think i get what ur saying


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 71 ✭✭hardbackwriter


    Feathers wrote: »
    B0jangles wrote: »
    I think the Jewish americans who experienced 5 o'clock anti-semitism might disgree with you on that one.

    Sorry, excluding the only religious group that could also qualify as under the term 'racism'! :pac: You know what I mean though, I'm not saying that discrimination didn't happen for a whole load of people in America in the 60s.

    What I'm saying is that with civil rights movements, you're looking at a minority group vs a majority group. With sexism today in Ireland, the dynamics are different — one, women are if anything a slight majority & two, sexism also happens against men.

    geniunely interested in actual cases of sexism against men in ireland (apart for parental rights and the diet coke ad they have been used ad nausem) please ?


    It's a lot less socially acceptable for men to make a complaint about sexist treatment so they tend not to, on top of that , men are less likely to make a song and dance about things when they feel agrieved


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    It's a lot less socially acceptable for men to make a complaint about sexist treatment so they tend not to, on top of that , men are less likely to make a song and dance about things when they feel agrieved
    I think it's more the fact that women are more emotional than men so they find it harder to brush it off and not take it to heart.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,082 ✭✭✭Feathers


    geniunely interested in actual cases of sexism against men in ireland (apart for parental rights and the diet coke ad they have been used ad nausem) please ?

    Sexism, or "men's rights" angle of issues?

    Obviously stuff like suicide & mental health is probably the biggest issue for men, but it's not so much sexism as just an area that men are getting really let down by the services offered or the culture around mental health.

    Parental rights obviously covers family courts as well as paternal leave, so is a huge one IMO.

    Insurance premiums for years were extortionate until the EU stepped in & a good example re sexism. Lots of mild sexism in the form of old biddies being disparaging regarding your knowledge of anything domestic.

    Then you've areas like education, esp in literacy IIRC, that boys are coming out worse in year-on-year.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 378 ✭✭Bigtoe107


    The pay gap is an interesting debate statistics now show women in the 16-30 age group get paid more than men but this changes dramatically to a point where older men get paid more.

    Also women get paid more per hour worked than men do, the pay gap arises due to men working longer hours and taking less leave.

    Also not meaning to be inflammatory but this thread is extremely female centred as if sexism is simply a female problem although it is a very interesting read and its good exposure to intelligent opinions which at times differ from my own


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,315 ✭✭✭✭amacachi


    Millicent wrote: »
    That would take hours of research so, eh, no. :D It's school managers though. I made a mistake. Surely that would be a role governed on qualifications, not necessarily just seniority?
    In my secondary school it went purely on seniority if the next teacher in line wanted it. Same filtered through for Year Head positions.
    No, that's after adjusting for longer working hours. When you take into account women working part-time roles, women earn 73% of what men do.
    I haven't come across the link but as far as I remember the last time I read a CSO report on the matter they corrected for the number of hours worked but not the situation. Someone working fulltime will get paid more than someone parttime and someone working overtime will get more per hour than someone who doesn't work overtime.
    There is a difference between men and women unemployed under 30:

    The gap gets smaller over that age, but it's a fair point.
    And I have no problem with that, as it is the system is pretty much fair and at the moment women are making better advantage of it. I would argue the education system slightly favours females but nowhere near to the extent that it explains their superiority in average results.
    I remember a few years ago the government was sponsoring a FAS scheme to get women into the construction industry because they were "underrepresented". Basically it involved giving them more money than men during the apprenticeship stage. I was against that and would be against anything similar to encourage men to become teachers.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 71 ✭✭hardbackwriter


    smash wrote: »
    It's a lot less socially acceptable for men to make a complaint about sexist treatment so they tend not to, on top of that , men are less likely to make a song and dance about things when they feel agrieved
    I think it's more the fact that women are more emotional than men so they find it harder to brush it off and not take it to heart.


    More emotional ? , I thought that women and men are the same , isn't that the goal, to tear apart traditional definitions of gender


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,313 ✭✭✭✭K-9


    Seachmall wrote: »
    Well, I'm not sure where you're getting that from but this part,

    "best advice we can give women is stay indoors"

    Is pretty good advice when there's a serial rapist prowling the streets.

    Actually no, there's just as much, if not more logic in putting a curfew on men. After all they knew the attacker was a male so Sutcliffe being out and about would stick out far more if only women are allowed outside.

    All men going about their day to day business? Needle in a haystack.

    Mad Men's Don Draper : What you call love was invented by guys like me, to sell nylons.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,218 ✭✭✭✭Bannasidhe


    Feathers wrote: »
    I'm not saying that things are perfect or that there's no need for either vigilance or for improvement. What I am saying is that the feminist movement worked extremely well for the hard changes — the legislative changes that brought about equal pay, marriage ban, etc.

    For the softer attitudinal changes, I think that a focus on the individual issues from both sides will work better. It's about engagement with men & women, getting them to look at the issues, not shouting loudly about it. But I see a lot of people turned off these issues by the weight of history of feminism changing the focus of the discussion.

    The next generation can do that if they want. I'm still part of the generation that was born in an Ireland where women had few rights, girls were advised to be being nurses but never doctors/ secretaries but not the boss/ teachers but not lecturers. Forget the army, Navy, airforce, fire service - women had been allowed to join the Guards in 1959 or keeping a civil service job after marriage. Thanks to the women who came before me a world was available to me that was denied to my mother.

    I had my share of battles - yes I was part of the Pro-Choice campaign in the 80s (I once got chased down Patrick St in Cork by some of the H Block protesters. Some of them called me a 'baby murder' to which I responded ' and you lot prefer to wait until people are born to blow them to bits'. I may have broken a world sprint record that day), I was also there for the horror that was AIDS and had to confront the sexism that was rampant among the gay male community at the time. I was around for the divorce campaign. I was there during the heady days of Mary Robinson's campaign to be president. I am still here for marriage equality.

    My experience and my life have shaped me. So I will continue to confront and not use the softly softly offendy no-one approach. If my granddaughter chooses this - then hopefully it will mean there is no need to keep demanding, protesting, shouting and explaining over and over again.


  • Posts: 0 Roy Yummy Grenade


    Feathers wrote: »
    geniunely interested in actual cases of sexism against men in ireland (apart for parental rights and the diet coke ad they have been used ad nausem) please ?

    Sexism, or "men's rights" angle of issues?

    Obviously stuff like suicide & mental health is probably the biggest issue for men, but it's not so much sexism as just an area that men are getting really let down by the services offered or the culture around mental health.
    Not really sexism though? Although agree with u in that some major research into young male suicide needs to be done and soon

    Parental rights obviously covers family courts as well as paternal leave, so is a huge one IMO.
    As i said its been done to death in this thread

    Insurance premiums for years were extortionate until the EU stepped in & a good example re sexism. Hmm again not really check the reason they changed it its to do with age and sex and good it has.

    Lots of mild sexism in the form of old biddies being disparaging regarding your knowledge of anything domestic.
    Thats more agesim

    Then you've areas like education, esp in literacy IIRC, that boys are coming out worse in year-on-year.

    I think that maybe because kids arnt being read too enough .again not really anything to do with sexism .

    Have u ever been refused something because of your gender felt sidelined or ridiculed or made to feel unsafe because of it that to me is sexism


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    K-9 wrote: »
    Actually no, there's just as much, if not more logic in putting a curfew on men. After all they knew the attacker was a male so Sutcliffe being out and about would stick out far more if only women are allowed outside.

    All men going about their day to day business? Needle in a haystack.

    Him appearing in a city full of women, while yes he would stick out, it'd mean to be found the city would have to be fully patrolled. if women weren't allowed out, but men were, then there's much less a chance of another attack happening, assuming he was attacking women on the streets.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    Bigtoe107 wrote: »
    Also not meaning to be inflammatory but this thread is extremely female centred as if sexism is simply a female problem
    To be honest, it's how all sexism threads are.

    The general consensus among a lot of women is that apart from fathers rights and diet coke ads, men don't suffer any sexism.

    But that's the reason for this thread, and as has been said, people only really care about their own position within society.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,298 ✭✭✭✭later12


    Feathers wrote: »
    Originally Posted by later12
    Who here has said that the explicit goal of feminism is the promotion of gender equality without reference to sex?
    Really? I've just read through a 36 page thread, I don't want to go back to the start of it again... :( I'll dig something out I guess.
    Any luck?
    Feathers wrote: »
    The difference to your animal example is that women's rights are defined in binary opposition to men's rights.
    No, and I think this is the basis of the misunderstanding.

    In promoting an improvement of women's condition in social, labour political and personal life, feminists are sometimes using deficiencies in women's respective positions with respect to men as a reference point to what is possible, and sometimes they are not using men as a reference point at all.

    To continue with my equine example. A centre involved in the rehabilitation of racehorses might wish to promote the welfare of ex-racehorses to a level that is enjoyed by lovingly cared-for riding club ponies, but there is no inherent assumption that riding club ponies do not face welfare problems of their own in certain instances.
    Do you find that your weighted concern for horses brings you into confrontation with those from the donkey or even zebra welfare societies ?
    Not at all. And there is no reason why it should. Donkey enthusiasts such as those who volunteer for the donkey sanctuary tend to fully appreciate the fact that we all have our own affinities, usually based on one's own history and experience.

    Why does this matter? Because I feel that those who care for human welfare most appreciate the same thing. We must understand that it is impractical to expect that no human being will find the cause of particular individuals (the homeless/ travellers/ beaten men/ beaten women/ rape victims/ the abused/ single fathers/ single mothers/ men/ women) to be particularly endearing.

    Millicent has already spelled out the basis of her feminism which I think some of us who call ourselves feminists find may dwarf the basis for our own feminism.

    I admit I feel myself a bit of a sham calling myself a feminist compared to some of the women on this thread, but from my own experience as a man growing up in a predominantly female household, I saw the ways which my older sisters and my mother had to struggle in a way that would have seemed grotesque to us as boys. We all bring our own individual experiences to the table; these experiences define our identity. These experiences define our interests, our affinities and our worldview. They define what we can relate to.

    I cannot much relate to the issue of fathers' rights, for example, but in my own small way I can relate to women who feel themselves inhibited by perceptions of their gender. That's a very personal thing. We all have our personal causes. It is unrealistic and incoherent to lump all of us, and our respective specialist interests, in together.
    also, do you mainly focus on female or male race horses
    Male. Usually castrated. They tend to be the most forgotten, least apparently useful, most underdog, and most intriguing.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 71 ✭✭hardbackwriter


    Bannasidhe wrote: »
    Feathers wrote: »
    I'm not saying that things are perfect or that there's no need for either vigilance or for improvement. What I am saying is that the feminist movement worked extremely well for the hard changes — the legislative changes that brought about equal pay, marriage ban, etc.

    For the softer attitudinal changes, I think that a focus on the individual issues from both sides will work better. It's about engagement with men & women, getting them to look at the issues, not shouting loudly about it. But I see a lot of people turned off these issues by the weight of history of feminism changing the focus of the discussion.

    The next generation can do that if they want. I'm still part of the generation that was born in an Ireland where women had few rights, girls were advised to be being nurses but never doctors/ secretaries but not the boss/ teachers but not lecturers. Forget the army, Navy, airforce, fire service - women had been allowed to join the Guards in 1959 or keeping a civil service job after marriage. Thanks to the women who came before me a world was available to me that was denied to my mother.

    I had my share of battles - yes I was part of the Pro-Choice campaign in the 80s (I once got chased down Patrick St in Cork by some of the H Block protesters. Some of them called me a 'baby murder' to which I responded ' and you lot prefer to wait until people are born to blow them to bits'. I may have broken a world sprint record that day), I was also there for the horror that was AIDS and had to confront the sexism that was rampant among the gay male community at the time. I was around for the divorce campaign. I was there during the heady days of Mary Robinson's campaign to be president. I am still here for marriage equality.

    My experience and my life have shaped me. So I will continue to confront and not use the softly softly offendy no-one approach. If my granddaughter chooses this - then hopefully it will mean there is no need to keep demanding, protesting, shouting and explaining over and over again.


    Your passion is admirable but try not to view those who don't seem bothered enough to row in behind you as an opponent , not everyone is a determined ideologue , doesn't make them intolerant


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    Have u ever been refused something because of your gender felt sidelined or ridiculed or made to feel unsafe because of it that to me is sexism
    Are you taking the piss?

    Refused something because of being male? How about access to your child. Or access to competitive insurance prices.

    Ridiculed because of being male? How about attitudes like "you must be gay" because you're not into the same 'manly' thing as some others? And let's not forget flippant comments about penis size, like the one you made in the last thread about sexism!

    Made feel unsafe? Practically every time one of these threads pop up. Say one wrong thing and before you know it you're a sexist pig with a week ban! Or in the real world, how about the fact that a group of women can punch a man but if you defend yourself you'll be done for it!


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