Have you cheated on a partner?

Never been cheated on as far as I am aware (but how would you know like? Might have been... not bothered really if I was though).

As far as I am concerned I have never cheated on anybody either. But some people disagree with that... You have to take into account what you consider to be 'cheating' and that other people may have a different definition. Also when you consider someone to actually be your 'partner'... there's a bit of ambiguity involved with both those terms is there not?

I was cheated on by a horrible mess of a girl my mates gave me abuse over being with. I just walked away.

Never cheated meself...

ToxicPaddy wrote: »

An ex cheated on me constantly, I found out, so cheated on her.. sex was great with the ex so I didnt care, just kept it going..

Eventually I told her I knew she was cheating and with who, she denied it, I provided a witness, she nearly dropped with the fright, didnt know what to do, so then I announced that I was cheating on her for the last few months since I found out but only kept it going with her cause she was handy for sex.

Again, sitting there, completely shocked and didnt know what to say.

The dumped her.. she burst out crying and started claiming she loved me and didn't want me to finish it.. talk about one messed up girl :rolleyes:

Lessons learned, but would rather not go through them again thanks..

You both sound lovely.

I have come close a few times but haven't quite crossed that line... I have never been cheated on though.

Sindri wrote: »

Sociopaths can't do research, do your research.

That's just what a sociopath would say.

Did you just have a hard time deciding between these two amazingly witty responses or is this an especially disjointed post?

hooradiation wrote: »

Did you just have a hard time deciding between these two amazingly witty responses or is this an especially disjointed post?

Did you just ask me a question?

stupidusername wrote: »

the only real ambiguity I see in terms is at what point you both decide you both don't want to go for anyone else.

Well yeah, that's where the ambiguity lies. Sometimes that point is implicit rather than expressly stated and sometimes different people infer it at different times.

I don't think what constitutes as cheating varies for that many people. assuming it's physical we're talking about.

I'm not sure about that. It's come up in threads on here before and apparently there is quite a range.

Although for me someone in tLL put it well before (Ickle Magoo I think) along the lines of "If you wouldn't want your partner to find out about it...")

stupidusername wrote: »

Hmmm.i would've been under the impression that most couples would have some sort of discussion about exclusivity,and so you'd know for sure from that point.

Well ideally, yeah, and obviously from that point people know (or should) for sure. But prior to that it can be ambiguous is what I mean. If that makes sense? There are plenty of people who while having not had that conversation yet would still consider themselves to be 'in a relationship' while the other party may not. It happens. Some people automatically consider that point to be after the first kiss regardless of anything else, some people consider it to be after sex, some people consider it to not be until they have said they love each other, others consider it to be when the conversation has actually taken place...

I must search for those threads so,i really can't see how cheating can mean different things. I realise there's different types and levels of cheating but surely any interest in someone else is cheating

I'll link them if I can find them. From what I remember some people only considered sex to be cheating, others a kiss, I seem to remember one person saying they considered the fact her fella was up dancing with a girl in a club when she wasn't there to be cheating... Then the topic of 'emotional cheating' came up in a tLL thread I think as well to further complicate things.

strobe wrote: »

Well ideally, yeah, and obviously from that point people know (or should) for sure. But prior to that it can be ambiguous is what I mean. If that makes sense? There are plenty of people who while having not had that conversation yet would still consider themselves to be 'in a relationship' while the other party may not. It happens. Some people automatically consider that point to be after the first kiss regardless of anything else, some people consider it to be after sex, some people consider it to not be until they have said they love each other, others consider it to be when the conversation has actually taken place...

I'll link them if I can find them. From what I remember some people only considered sex to be cheating, others a kiss, I seem to remember one person saying they considered the fact her fella was up dancing with a girl in a club when she wasn't there to be cheating... Then the topic of 'emotional cheating' came up in a tLL thread I think as well to further complicate things.

Well I guess as with many things it comes down to communication.

I remember a thread here a while back with a poll about how many had cheated and it was scary the amount that had. But that probably comes down to what the definition is

Nope, I never would. You don't love, appreciate, or respect your partner if you do.

My ex despises me because I ended things with him, and in the throes of abuse and insults he decides to tell me he cheated on me. Everything that came out of his mouth was designed to hurt me, which is pretty funny when you couldn't care less if they got a smack of an articulated truck. It's only plausible in the sense that he wasn't getting any off me, but you'd only have to look at the fcuker or spend two minutes in his company to realise he wouldn't get a ride in a stampede. I couldn't give a fcuk either way tbh.