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Should women value the relationship more?

  • 18-01-2012 02:51PM
    #1
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭


    IMO in order for a relationship between a man and woman to work well in all aspects the woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the man. Otherwise the woman tends to lose attraction for the man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

    So if a man values it more he would feel worse if it ended than the woman would feel.



    What are your thoughts on this?


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  • #2
    force eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,039 ✭✭✭force eleven


    Always thought it was 50-50 to work.


  • #3
    FatherLen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,808 ✭✭✭FatherLen


    i reckon it's a two way street.


  • #4
    Domitius Felix Invictus Aurelianus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 73 ✭✭Domitius Felix Invictus Aurelianus


    Womens views ina relationship are of little importance......IMO


  • #5
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,808 ✭✭✭✭smash


    They should be lucky to have me!


  • #6
    Frank Black
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,296 ✭✭✭Frank Black


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    IMO in order for a relationship between a man and woman to work well in all aspects the woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the man. Otherwise the woman tends to lose attraction for the man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

    So if a man values it more he would feel worse if it ended than the woman would feel.



    What are your thoughts on this?


    I've read this about 5 times and I still don't get it.


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  • #7
    chin_grin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,808 ✭✭✭✭chin_grin


    This thread immediately made me think of this.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qE41YPdPuis


  • #8
    K-9
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,305 ✭✭✭✭K-9


    black francis wrote: »
    I've read this about 5 times and I still don't get it.

    The man should have less interest in a relationship to keep the wimminz on their toes basically.

    More dating guru stuff.

    Mad Men's Don Draper : What you call love was invented by guys like me, to sell nylons.



  • #9
    The King of Moo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,207 ✭✭✭The King of Moo


    I'm not sure how a man would feel worse after a break-up than a woman if they were both equally committed to the relationship: maybe because he would have less support in terms of friends to talk to than a woman.

    But as the cliché goes, surely 'tis better to have loved [your girlfriend as much as she loves you] and lost [and felt worse than her afterwards], than never to have loved [her as much as she loved you] at all.

    There's always going to be some slight disparity in levels of affection and commitment between both members of a couple, but surely it's best to have as high and equal a level of affection as possible between both members.


  • #10
    du Maurier
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,198 ✭✭✭du Maurier


    black francis wrote: »
    I've read this about 5 times and I still don't get it.

    I'm not really getting it either!


  • #11
    RachaelVO
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,108 ✭✭✭RachaelVO


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    IMO in order for a relationship between a man and woman to work well in all aspects the woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the man. Otherwise the woman tends to lose attraction for the man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

    So if a man values it more he would feel worse if it ended than the woman would feel.



    What are your thoughts on this?

    Bet you're a catch...:rolleyes:


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  • #12
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    IMO in order for a relationship between a man and woman to work well in all aspects the woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the man. Otherwise the woman tends to lose attraction for the man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

    So if a man values it more he would feel worse if it ended than the woman would feel.



    What are your thoughts on this?

    If one doesn't value the relationship as much as the other, then it's going to end eventually.


  • #13
    girl in the striped socks
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 653 ✭✭✭girl in the striped socks


    That makes no sense. At all.


  • #14
    RachaelVO
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,108 ✭✭✭RachaelVO


    admiralofthefleet wrote: »
    a womans view in a relationship should always be through the kitchen window

    So she can see her OH in the dog house?


  • #15
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    Abi wrote: »
    If one doesn't value the relationship as much as the other, then it's going to end eventually.

    I doubt you have ever valued any of your relationships the exact same as the men. 50 -50 doesnt't work imo whereas 51-49 does work if man is 49.


  • #16
    Duggy747
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,295 ✭✭✭✭Duggy747


    RachaelVO wrote: »
    So she can see her OH in the dog house?

    Which he is constructing for the pet dog :pac:

    Anyways, as long as she isn't completely unhappy / bored then there shouldn't be much to be worried about.

    Unless the dirty bint is cheating on her fella.


  • #17
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 7,344 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Yeah right - because if your other half suddenly has gone off having sex with you it is because it is really the _relationship_ she has gone off. It could not be you and/or your aged and spare tyre insulated good looks or anything like that :)


  • #18
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    K-9 wrote: »
    The man should have less interest in a relationship to keep the wimminz on their toes basically.

    More dating guru stuff.

    No because it's just the way it works, nothing about keeping anyone on their toes. If the man needs the relationship more than the woman the woman simply tends to not want sex as much. It's just the way it is.


  • #19
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Yeah right - because if your other half suddenly has gone off having sex with you it is because it is really the _relationship_ she has gone off. It could not be you and/or your aged and spare tyre insulated good looks or anything like that :)

    It could be a million reasons but if a man values it more the sex will become infrequent and the naturally happy equilibrium will be turned into an unhappy one on both sides.


  • #20
    Logical Fallacy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,933 ✭✭✭Logical Fallacy


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    No because it's just the way it works, nothing about keeping anyone on their toes. If the man needs the relationship more than the woman the woman simply tends to not want sex as much. It's just the way it is.

    What are you basing this on?

    I reckon it's personal experience...because it sure as **** isn't science.


  • #21
    Sindri
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,059 ✭✭✭Sindri


    Every minute I have spent with prostitutes I have valued.

    And they were also great value money wise.


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  • #22
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    Logical Fallacy wrote: »
    What are you basing this on?

    I reckon it's personal experience...because it sure as **** isn't science.

    No wiki articles today I'm afraid. My opinion.


  • #23
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,000 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    I doubt you have ever valued any of your relationships the exact same as the men. 50 -50 doesnt't work imo whereas 51-49 does work if man is 49.

    Yes you are right its that simple:rolleyes:
    Scanlas can you enlighten us next on your latest Grand Unified Theory so we can stop spending money on this Large Hadron Collider malarky ?


  • #24
    Aoifey!
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,571 ✭✭✭Aoifey!


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    I doubt you have ever valued any of your relationships the exact same as the men. 50 -50 doesnt't work imo whereas 51-49 does work if man is 49.

    Ah, I see, well now it all makes sense...


  • #25
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    I doubt you have ever valued any of your relationships the exact same as the men. 50 -50 doesnt't work imo whereas 51-49 does work if man is 49.

    Yeah, you know, maybe you're right.


  • #26
    Sindri
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,059 ✭✭✭Sindri


    jaja321 wrote: »
    Such insight! :p

    Are you Spanish?


  • #27
    Wattle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,075 ✭✭✭Wattle


    Yeah lads but lets not forget that they feel more than we do:

    'My heart is so low
    As only a woman's heart can be
    As only a woman's heart can now'


  • #28
    28064212
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,155 ✭✭✭✭28064212


    IMO in order for a relationship between a woman and man to work well in all aspects the man must value the relationship at least slightly more than the woman. Otherwise the man tends to lose attraction for the woman and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.
    IMO in order for a relationship between two men to work well in all aspects the first man must value the relationship at least slightly more than the second man. Otherwise the first man tends to lose attraction for the second man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.
    IMO in order for a relationship between two women to work well in all aspects the first woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the second woman. Otherwise the second woman tends to lose attraction for the first woman and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.
    Should I continue? It starts getting complicated when you go up to polyamorous relationships. And all of the statements are at least as accurate as what you posted

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  • #29
    nozzferrahhtoo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,369 ✭✭✭nozzferrahhtoo


    Ah I get it. Post egregious and unsupported nonsense in the guise of "opinion" in order to make people miss wiki and thereby heighten peoples anger and suspicion towards the new Internet Piracy Laws. I like it.


  • #30
    K-9
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,305 ✭✭✭✭K-9


    Abi wrote: »
    Yeah, you know, maybe you're right.

    :D

    That 1% makes all the difference.

    Mad Men's Don Draper : What you call love was invented by guys like me, to sell nylons.



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  • #31
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    The relationship issues thread seems to be full of women gone off their partners and only seeing them as friends, or men having been dumped by their partners because they weren't attracted to them anymore. Seems to be a spike in these situations lately! Maybe the OP is one of them?


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