Is marriage worth it?

John Doe1 · 09-01-2012 06:58PM #1

Im 21 and am very much unmarried. What is your experience of marriage and would you recommend it or would you steer a young man as myself clear of such an arrangement:D

guitarzero · 09-01-2012 07:00PM

Kobe Bryant.

Next.

Motorist · 09-01-2012 07:00PM

John Doe1 wrote: »

Im 21 and am very much unmarried. What is your experience of marriage and would you recommend it or would you steer a young man as myself clear of such an arrangement:D

Seems to be worth it from a tax credit point of view.

Other than that, Im out of my depth.

Feeona · 09-01-2012 07:02PM

Ye askin'?

stupidusername · 09-01-2012 07:02PM

John Doe1 wrote: »

Im 21 and am very much unmarried. What is your experience of marriage and would you recommend it or would you steer a young man as myself clear of such an arrangement:D

Are there degrees of how married a person can be now?

I say don't do it. sure what harm can that do ya? none I tell ya. whereas getting married can. problem solved.

Biggins · 09-01-2012 07:03PM

For me, yes.

TeddyTedson · 09-01-2012 07:03PM

Do what you want brah.

mikemac1 · 09-01-2012 07:04PM

Tax credits :pac:

My parents told me April used to be always the busiest month of the year for marriages as the tax year was April-April
They might have been lying but sounds believable to me

sgb · 09-01-2012 07:06PM

When you are single a married life seems very attractive

When you are married a single life seems very attractive

John Doe1 · 09-01-2012 07:09PM

Feeona wrote: »

Ye askin'?

aye, hows about it then?;)

Monokne · 09-01-2012 07:12PM

I'm 27 and getting married soon so will let you know.

What SBG says is very true though - you always want what you can't have. When I was younger I always found when I was single I wanted a lady, and once I got into a relationship I realised there were times I wanted to be single.

Luckily I've been through this before when I was in less fulfilling relationships so I kind of saw it coming with this girl. Dunno if that helps!

Shenshen · 09-01-2012 07:12PM

John Doe1 wrote: »

Im 21 and am very much unmarried. What is your experience of marriage and would you recommend it or would you steer a young man as myself clear of such an arrangement:D

I'm 37 and married.
If you have to ask that question, I personally would advise you to stay well clear of matrimony.

Get married when you want to, and when you have someone who wants it too, not a moment sooner. It's a lot like sex in that respect.

mickydoomsux · 09-01-2012 07:12PM

sgb wrote: »

When you are single a married life seems very attractive

No it doesn't. I'm a single guy in my late 20's and getting married would be the single worst thing that could happen in my life besides having kids.

**** that noise.

Heroditas · 09-01-2012 07:15PM

Why do people assume you're better off with tax credits if you're married?
If both husband and wife are working, there is no benefit WRT taxes.

DoesNotCompute · 09-01-2012 07:15PM

Motorist wrote: »

Seems to be worth it from a tax credit point of view.

+1

Bullseye1 · 09-01-2012 07:15PM

Not at 21. But when you have experienced alittle more of what life has to offer you might consider it. Preferably when your in your mid 30's.

DoesNotCompute · 09-01-2012 07:17PM

Heroditas wrote: »

Why do people assume you're better off with tax credits if you're married?
If both husband and wife are working, there is no benefit WRT taxes.

Depends on how much both of ye are earning, and which tax assessment you go for (joint assessment, seperate assessment, or seperate treatment).

Frank Black · 09-01-2012 07:17PM

Probably depends who you get married to.

Dotrel · 09-01-2012 07:18PM

guitarzero wrote: »

Kobe Bryant.

Next.

Plenty to beat that:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_most_expensive_divorces

Interesting that Guy Ritchie the only man on the list to receive a settlement ( and he was hardly a gold-digger anyway).

Apparently pre-nup's aren't even legal in Ireland.

Heroditas · 09-01-2012 07:19PM

DoesNotCompute wrote: »

Depends on how much both of ye are earning, and which tax assessment you go for (joint assessment, seperate assessment, or seperate treatment).

Perhaps.
Both me and my wife are PAYE and paying the top band of tax.
Actually, after the last budget, it showed that a couple who individually earn €50k each were better off than one spouse earning €100k because of the universal social charge (or something similar to that figure)

Sindri · 09-01-2012 07:20PM

About a 1/2 of marriages end in divorce.

Plus you give up all your power to a woman who becomes increasingly insane and divorced from reality as they age (due to hormonal imbalances).

And all Irish women are neurotic so I'd have to say no.

mattjack · 09-01-2012 07:20PM

John Doe1 wrote: »

aye, hows about it then?;)

Can I be page boy ?

stupidusername · 09-01-2012 07:21PM

Sindri wrote: »

About a 1/2 of marriages end in divorce.

In America, yes. In Ireland?

Local-womanizer · 09-01-2012 07:21PM

Dotrel wrote: »

Apparently pre-nup's aren't even legal in Ireland.

They are legal,just not legally binding. A judge may take some aspects of it into consideration but only if it is fair and not taking the complete piss.

Sindri · 09-01-2012 07:23PM

stupidusername wrote: »

In America, yes. In Ireland?

In Ireland it's 0.7%.

Motorist · 09-01-2012 07:25PM

Local-womanizer wrote: »

They are legal,just not legally binding. A judge may take some aspects of it into consideration but only if it is fair and not taking the complete piss.

Ha can't wait to tell that to my mate who is a complete miser and has been talking about pre-nups for the last 5 years for when he marries his girlfriend.

dvpower · 09-01-2012 07:26PM

mikemac1 wrote: »

Tax credits :pac:

My parents told me April used to be always the busiest month of the year for marriages as the tax year was April-April
They might have been lying but sounds believable to me

The middle of the year would be a better time to get married from a tax allowances pov (or just before the end of the tax year). That way you can be jointly assessed for a full year that you got married at the end of.

Charlie McCreevy got rid of most of these advantages 'though.

Local-womanizer · 09-01-2012 07:30PM

Motorist wrote: »

Ha can't wait to tell that to my mate who is a complete miser and has been talking about pre-nups for the last 5 years for when he marries his girlfriend.

Don't tell him, let him arrange a pre-nup, let them get married then sleep with his wife,video it and send it to him. When he files for divorce he will be sickened to find out his prenup is worthless and you will all have a great laugh then!

Plus you get the ride.

Win-win for everyone!

XenaLady · 09-01-2012 07:31PM

There is no good reason to get married nowadays unless you are deeply religious or want to please your relatives who just want to have a good party.
Save the money or take off for a holiday in Hawaii with the other half instead, itll give you more nice memories than one stressful day that really doesnt count in the relationship anyway.

Local-womanizer · 09-01-2012 07:33PM

XenaLady wrote: »

There is no good reason to get married nowadays unless you are deeply religious or want to please your relatives who just want to have a good party.
Save the money or take off for a holiday in Hawaii with the other half instead, itll give you more nice memories than one stressful day that really doesnt count in the relationship anyway.

Actually if you have kids and are male then it gives you more rights than if you were not married to your partner, ie not having to apply for guardianship if your partner passed away.

When it comes to single fathers rights in this country it really is arse about face...

Dotrel · 09-01-2012 07:34PM

Sindri wrote: »

In Ireland it's 0.7%.

It's the begrudgery that keeps it so low.

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