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Why do [some] guys cheat on their long term girlfriends - bored, or not in love?

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  • #92
    yupyup7up
    Closed Accounts Posts: 845 ✭✭✭yupyup7up


    I'm in my mid 20s, I reckon it's a better laugh to stay single and ride all around you.

    No nagging, more shagging ;)


  • #93
    HeisenbergBB
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 97 ✭✭HeisenbergBB


    Women cheat just as much as men. Men just get caught more. Mainly because a girl is far more likely to rat a guy out to his girlfriend if she knows he's cheating than another girl. I dont understand why.

    My Girlfriend instantatly hates any guys if she finds out they have cheated on their girlfriends. But has laughed off some of her own female friends cheating on their boyfriends. And alot more of her friends have cheated then mine.

    I know one american girl who was engaged and waiting until mariiage to have sex. While her fiancee was back in the states she lost her virginity with my friend and was riding him for a few months. The Whoor!!


  • #94
    sensibleken
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,650 ✭✭✭sensibleken


    I know far far far more women that have cheated than men. When I was in my early 20s I was with loads of women who turned out to have boyfriends or husbands. Often I would get the excuse 'oh but theyre not here' or 'but theyre abroad so its ok'


  • #95
    MagicSean
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,897 ✭✭✭MagicSean


    I think the ops question was more about why people cheat instead of just leaving the relationship and living a single life. The answer is cowardice and selfishness op.


  • #96
    jaja321
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 793 ✭✭✭jaja321


    Men cheat. Women cheat. Mostly people cheat because they are unhappy with the person they are with for whatever reason. I think it’s incredibly insulting to men to say that men are ‘programmed that way’; that they have no self-control and can’t help but cheat. Just as insulting as blaming women’s liberation. For the most part, people cheat because they are unhappy in their relationship.


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  • #97
    Ellis Dee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,512 ✭✭✭Ellis Dee


    Variety is the spice of life.:):):)


  • #98
    Nothingbetter2d
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,037 ✭✭✭Nothingbetter2d


    would you eat a ham sandwich & nothing else every day for the rest of your life even if other food was freely available?


  • #99
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,060 ✭✭✭✭biko


    jaja321 wrote: »
    Men cheat. Women cheat. Mostly people cheat because they are unhappy with the person they are with for whatever reason. I think it’s incredibly insulting to men to say that men are ‘programmed that way’; that they have no self-control and can’t help but cheat. Just as insulting as blaming women’s liberation. For the most part, people cheat because they are unhappy in their relationship.
    QFT


  • #100
    Jaxxy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,297 ✭✭✭Jaxxy


    Cheating happens and it happens a lot. The prevalence can be explained and excused in a plethora of different ways but personally I believe that the fault lies with the cheater, 100%.

    If I'm unhappy in my relationship because I'm not being fulfilled sexually, because I'm not getting enough attention or because my relationship isn't balanced then it's my job to communicate that to my partner. If matters remain unresolved and I'm not getting what I need, I leave.

    If I cheat it's my fault, not his. My boyfriend is of the same opinion. We share this little thing called respect, and from what I've observed it seems to be seriously lacking amongst friends in relationships and amongst some people posting here.

    If you cheat it's your prerogative, but it's still all down to you.


  • #101
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    I think people cheat because they're not happy, not because they're not happy with their relationship. How many who cheat are serial cheaters? It seems a little delusional to say it's down to the relationship of the person they're with solely.


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  • #102
    Fear Uladh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 810 ✭✭✭Fear Uladh


    Jaxxy wrote: »
    Cheating happens and it happens a lot. The prevalence can be explained and excused in a plethora of different ways but personally I believe that the fault lies with the cheater, 100%.

    If I'm unhappy in my relationship because I'm not being fulfilled sexually, because I'm not getting enough attention or because my relationship isn't balanced then it's my job to communicate that to my partner. If matters remain unresolved and I'm not getting what I need, I leave.

    If I cheat it's my fault, not his. My boyfriend is of the same opinion. We share this little thing called respect, and from what I've observed it seems to be seriously lacking amongst friends in relationships and amongst some people posting here.

    If you cheat it's your prerogative, but it's still all down to you.

    This, times a trillion.


  • #103
    Logical Fallacy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,933 ✭✭✭Logical Fallacy


    cloptrop wrote: »
    men are programmed that way

    I've never really seen a decent argument for this opinion tbh. It's basically stating that biological drive can completely overcome sociological and psychological factors...which makes no sense. If it were true we'd all be killing each other a lot more.

    People cheat because they want to **** someone and don't have the willpower or social grace to not do so.

    It's really that simple.


  • #104
    MagicSean
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,897 ✭✭✭MagicSean


    Nothingbetter2d wrote: »
    would you eat a ham sandwich & nothing else every day for the rest of your life even if other food was freely available?

    But why would you commit yourself to that ham sandwich if you knew you couldn't keep that commitment?


  • #105
    Gilldog
    Closed Accounts Posts: 118 ✭✭Gilldog


    mmmm, infidelity ham.


  • #106
    recylingbin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,001 ✭✭✭recylingbin


    Chuck Stone wrote: »
    "God gave man a penis and a brain but only enough blood supply to run one at a time".

    Robin Williams.
    If there's a more sickening c*nt on the planet than robin williams...etc


  • #107
    Gilldog
    Closed Accounts Posts: 118 ✭✭Gilldog


    recylingbin wrote: »
    If there's a more sickening c*nt on the planet than robin williams...etc

    you'll make him a ham sandwich?


  • #108
    Jake Rugby Walrus666
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 528 ✭✭✭Jake Rugby Walrus666


    Fear Uladh wrote: »
    This, times a trillion.


    This, times 8,457.


  • #109
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    Jake Rugby Walrus666 wrote: »
    This, times 8,457.

    This, plus one


  • #110
    Eric Cartman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,247 ✭✭✭✭Eric Cartman


    Monogomy is an archaic idea drilled into us from centuries ago , people are inherintly polygamous, si its no surprise that prople 'cheat'


  • #111
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 23,497 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Human nature, primitive urges to ensure species doesn't die out, some don't act on the urges some do.

    In many cases the long term girlfriends may be drab enough yokes not into the bjs etc so when a nicer looking thing comes along with a glint in the eye many would be tempted.


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  • #112
    Benny_Cake
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,105 ✭✭✭Benny_Cake


    Eric Cartman wrote: »
    Monogomy is an archaic idea drilled into us from centuries ago , people are inherintly polygamous, si its no surprise that prople 'cheat'

    I think if people were inherently polygamous then more people would, in fact, be polygamous. Most people who want a relationship want it to be monogamous, but there will be some who will want to be monogamous but sleep with other people, which isn't really possible.


  • #113
    Jake Rugby Walrus666
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 528 ✭✭✭Jake Rugby Walrus666


    stupidusername wrote: »
    This, plus one


    QFT.


  • #114
    recylingbin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,001 ✭✭✭recylingbin


    cos some women are hotter thsn the one you settled for.


  • #115
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    People cheat for the very simple reason people do most things, because if feels good, at least initially, the very same reason people eat junk food.


  • #116
    Benny_Cake
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,105 ✭✭✭Benny_Cake


    Eric Cartman wrote: »
    Monogomy is an archaic idea drilled into us from centuries ago , people are inherintly polygamous, si its no surprise that prople 'cheat'
    RoverJames wrote: »
    Human nature, primitive urges to ensure species doesn't die out, some don't act on the urges some do.

    In many cases the long term girlfriends may be drab enough yokes not into the bjs etc so when a nicer looking thing comes along with a glint in the eye many would be tempted.
    recylingbin wrote: »
    cos some women are hotter thsn the one you settled for.

    There are a lot of smooth pimp daddies on After Hours I see - what's the secret guys? :rolleyes:


  • #117
    recylingbin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,001 ✭✭✭recylingbin


    Benny_Cake wrote: »
    There are a lot of smooth pimp daddies on After Hours I see - what's the secret guys? :rolleyes:
    I have a huge internet penis.


  • #118
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    Eric Cartman wrote: »
    Monogomy is an archaic idea drilled into us from centuries ago , people are inherintly polygamous, si its no surprise that prople 'cheat'

    To the best of my knowledge monogomy was designed by men to ensure every man could work hard and earn a wife. Men were the power base and they collectively figured "well one woman is better than none, at least in this system I'm pretty much guaranteed one woman". Of course the studs might not have been so happy with this arrangement but then studs were the minority so the power lay with your average Joe's.

    I think for the majority of humans monogomy is not an equilibrium ( or natural long term) state to be in hence all the cheating and trouble that comes with it.


  • #119
    Benny_Cake
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,105 ✭✭✭Benny_Cake


    It should also be pointed out that given the roughly 1:1 ratio of males to females that has persisted throughout history, you could argue that monogamy I'd perfectly natural for humans.


  • #120
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    Benny_Cake wrote: »
    It should also be pointed out that given the roughly 1:1 ratio of males to females that has persisted throughout history, you could argue that monogamy I'd perfectly natural for humans.

    Fairly weak reasoning, find some animal that has roughly 1:1 ration with men/women and it would be natural to pair up monogomously.


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  • #121
    Eric Cartman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,247 ✭✭✭✭Eric Cartman


    Benny_Cake wrote: »
    Eric Cartman wrote: »
    Monogomy is an archaic idea drilled into us from centuries ago , people are inherintly polygamous, si its no surprise that prople 'cheat'


    There are a lot of smooth pimp daddies on After Hours I see - what's the secret guys? :rolleyes:

    Use your sociopathic tendancies to convince women your really a top bloke wholl be nice , pretend to have money and fancy up your job title , be a bit of a **** and never buy them anything or give off any impression that you want them there, then show them where the bus stop is in the morning after your done. :pac:

    In reality i think while most people like the idea of monogomy , at some point inost peoples lives they give in to their urges and cheat on someone , it might just be kissing a co worker at an office do when your in your 20s , or full on cheating on your wife later in life , but most people do it at some point


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