Ladies with anger problems?

Azureus · 10-11-2011 06:54PM

I'd be pretty laid back-its really hard to get me worked up or angry, but when I am I will rant the ears off anybody for 20 mins then be done with it. Lifes too short to be permanently pissed at stuff. My mates had a bet awhile ago to see who could wind me up the most (I was unaware they were doing it on purpose) and none of them succeeded. Thought it was hilarious when I found out but I think its actually stubborness that keeps me calm as opposed to some zen spirit. I dont like anything getting the better of me enough to annoy me.

Jenneke87 · 10-11-2011 11:50PM

Out of nowhere I can get angry at the fact that it's messy somewhere and once that happens, everything starts to aggrevate me and then I just snap.....:mad:

perri winkles · 11-11-2011 12:14PM

My friend call my anger my 'rage blackouts' ::o

I am quite a hot headed person by nature, I get angry very easily, but often i just rant and rave for a few minutes and then forget about it. I don't hold onto things or dwell.

Problem is I can lose my cool with someone then go back to normal a few minutes later. I often forget that other people don't forget things as essily as I do! Really need to work on it, I do kinda hate this part of my personality

Liberal Irishman · 13-11-2011 01:11AM

It's funny, we are so far apart in many areas but deep down, we are all the same!!!

Missmiddleton · 29-11-2011 10:30PM

i tend to store it all up until some poor unsuspecting person rubs me up the wrong way, not purposely of course

Posy · 30-11-2011 02:31AM

I tend to be pretty chilled out, especially in work (I can be a grumpy, uncommunicative b*tch in the morning- but I'm like that all mornings, to be fair) but I don't get angry very often. I work with the public, who can be pretty aggressive sometimes, but I rarely lose my cool, it's just not worth it. When I want to vent, I just go to 'Ranting and Raving' and let it out there! I don't shout often either, but I have a very loud voice so I probably never feel like I need to!

Ninaluna wrote:

I hate being told I'm just 'emotional' when I'm angry-there's a big difference :mad:

When a woman is annoyed about something, or in a temper, some men saying 'Time of the month, eh love' :rolleyes: is not the ideal way to diffuse the situation. :P

Kanoe · 30-11-2011 03:31AM

I only get angry when I'm tired or if I'm hungry or when I'm píssed off.

ICANN · 30-11-2011 10:14AM

People I know regularly tell me that I'm really patient etc. but I definitely am not on the inside!! I get really angry I just don't show it at all. I hate that the things that make me angry are stupid things like if I'm stuck walking behind someone who's walking like a snail or someone who shoves past me in a queue.

watna · 30-11-2011 10:30AM

I don't get properly angry that often but when I do I really lose my temper and it lasts for days until I rant a number of times and it all goes away. While I'm angry I'm like a demon stomping around the place. It really is very rare though!

People who know me well know if I've lost my temper then it's pretty serious.

Kanoe · 30-11-2011 03:24PM

watna wrote: »

People who know me well know if I've lost my temper then it's pretty serious.

I actually have the opposite problem, people really don't take me seriously when I get angry, they usually just rip the pish and have a giggle which is all grand and well but makes me wonder what I have to do before they realise I am actually angry, most of the options take up way too much energy than I've got and most of the time I couldn't be bothered trying to get someone to understand. I'm more inclined to be silent and angry as a result, I'm one of those people who is more inclined to cut someone out of their life rather than speak to them ever again.

Posy · 30-11-2011 09:34PM

Just to add, I can identify with the other sufferers of CBS (Chrinic B*tchface Syndrome).
I have often been asked 'what's wrong' or told I look like I'm in a bad mood, when I'm not really thinking about anything. I'll have to start practicing my fake 'beauty pageant' smile. :rolleyes: :pac:

jaffacakesyum · 30-11-2011 09:44PM

I can't remember the last time I got angry with someone apart from with myself.

whydoibother? · 30-11-2011 10:19PM

I think some women go out of their way to get angry about stuff. They kind of stew over stuff. I used to know one person who I think is in a perpetual state of either anger/worry over seriously minor crap. I think I may even have offended her myself on occasions because I would say something and she would start to physically quiver in front of me. I think it's rage.

I generally had no clue what I'd said wrong. I think she reads things into innocent comments which were never intended as insults and looks for ways to twist them so that she get offended. It reminds me of the classic comedy scenario where a girl asks "should I wear my green dress or my red dress?" "I really like your green dress". "So what's wrong with my red dress?" We're talking that level of nonsense.

As for things that make me angry - obvious certain nasty digs (to be carefully differentiated from the above which are imagined nasty digs) and poor service when I've paid for something. Thankfully I don't get angry very often at all. I can nearly always spot when someone's trying to wind me up and when you know they're trying it's a million times harder for them.

Kanoe · 01-12-2011 01:46AM

whydoibother? wrote: »

I think some women go out of their way to get angry about stuff. They kind of stew over stuff. I used to know one person who I think is in a perpetual state of either anger/worry over seriously minor crap. I think I may even have offended her myself on occasions because I would say something and she would start to physically quiver in front of me. I think it's rage. I generally had no clue what I'd said wrong. I think she reads things into innocent comments which were never intended as insults and looks for ways to twist them so that she get offended. It reminds me of the classic comedy scenario where a girl asks "should I wear my green dress or my red dress?" "I really like your green dress". "So what's wrong with my red dress?" We're talking that level of nonsense.

As for things that make me angry - obvious certain nasty digs (to be carefully differentiated from the above which are imagined nasty digs) and poor service when I've paid for something. Thankfully I don't get angry very often at all. I can nearly always spot when someone's trying to wind me up and when you know they're trying it's a million times harder for them.

sounds like she just doesn't like you. she may even hate you for some unknown to all but yourself, kind of reason.

you mean winding people up like that?

whydoibother? · 01-12-2011 01:52AM

Kanoe wrote: »

sounds like she just doesn't like you. she may even hate you for some unknown to all but yourself, kind of reason.

you mean winding people up like that?

Yeah, that's what I mean. Oh I strongly suspect she doesn't like me, but she does seem to rage about all kinds of other things/people too. And it's kind of disappointing for someone to just decide they don't like you without having done anything to them, but I accept she is quite entitled to.

Kanoe · 01-12-2011 01:57AM

whydoibother? wrote: »

Yeah, that's what I mean. Oh I strongly suspect she doesn't like me, but she does seem to rage about all kinds of other things/people too. And it's kind of disappointing for someone to just decide they don't like you without having done anything to them, but I accept she is quite entitled to.

I was only having a go at winding you up O_o
Maybe there is something in it though. I can think of one or two people who would just set me off by being in the same room as them. Ah, but I love being in a perpetual state of anger.

whydoibother? · 01-12-2011 02:01AM

Kanoe wrote: »

I was only having a go at winding you up O_o
Maybe there is something in it though. I can think of one or two people who would just set me off by being in the same room as them. Ah, but I love being in a perpetual state of anger.

There's definitely something in it.

But do you have a reason for feeling like that about those people? As in, have they done something to you, made digs at you etc.? Or is it just something natural about them that they can't help that just irritates you?

Kanoe · 01-12-2011 02:07AM

whydoibother? wrote: »

There's definitely something in it.

But do you have a reason for feeling like that about those people? As in, have they done something to you, made digs at you etc.? Or is it just something natural about them that they can't help that just irritates you?

Think it's a case of familiarity breeding contempt, I would know them pretty well. It's a little bit like listening to someone eat very loudly, I just have to get out of there before I accidentally lean over and punch them in the face. And them being the kind to eat louder just to make it worse and finding it funny. yanow?

whydoibother? · 01-12-2011 02:10AM

Kanoe wrote: »

Think it's a case of familiarity breeding contempt, I would know them pretty well. It's a little bit like listening to someone eat very loudly, I just have to get out of there before I accidentally lean over and punch them in the face. And them being the kind to eat louder just to make it worse and finding it funny. yanow?

Yeah, I think I know what you mean. Sometimes over-familiarity means people are less worried about causing offence and say things they never would to someone else. It could be criticism, or even just offering unwanted opinions.

Ladies with anger problems?

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