Biphobia.

I think bisexuality is one of the most abused identities in the sense its been completely hijacked by a generation of young girls who want to seem cool and edgy. I mean the level of 'bisexual' teenage girls I know who would balk at the thought of being friends with me if they knew I was a lesbian would make you laugh. I just tend not to take people seriously who say they are bisexual, are under the age of 20 and have never gone out with anyone of the same gender.

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

To be honest, this sort of attitude contributes to the bi-phobia that people experience in Ireland.

I prefer to call it Bi-facepalmobia.


It's much like Chuchoter describes, but when they're done talking you do this

Chuchoter wrote: »

I think bisexuality is one of the most abused identities in the sense its been completely hijacked by a generation of young girls who want to seem cool and edgy. I mean the level of 'bisexual' teenage girls I know who would balk at the thought of being friends with me if they knew I was a lesbian would make you laugh. I just tend not to take people seriously who say they are bisexual, are under the age of 20 and have never gone out with anyone of the same gender.

The thing is probability dictates a lot of them actually are, don't question their... currently identified? sexuality because they're a dick. Anyone I knew when they were a 16 year old out there shithead that I still know or know of has grown out of all that idiocy (bar one) but yet they're all still bi.

There are a lot of social constructs that define how people act when it comes to sexuality, a lot of girls thinks they have to act like that to be anyway gay, or just join those sort of groups so they can feel accepted when it comes to their sexuality, just take peoples word for it when it comes to sexuality, the worst thing you're doing is massaging an ego, question it on the other hand and you could be doing an awful lot worse.

My GF is bi, and she gets really pissed off when people don't acknowledge that she finds guys attractive. I don't really understand it, because I don't find men sexually attractive, but hey, I have people I fancy that she doesn't 'get' either. That's what it boils down to, in the end. Who you fancy. Lucky for me, the main person she fancies is moi, which is convenient.

I'll freely admit when we first got together many years ago, I was intimidated by her being bi, and I did make stupid jokes and probably really horrible comments. Thank God she never really put up with them, and called me out on it.

I can understand how, if you've been burned badly by someone in the past it's easy to tar everyone who has that 'label' with the same brush- that goes for sexuality, religions, races, etc. And the younger generation of women who will happily kiss their female friends for kicks in nightclubs but who will freak (and I mean FREAK) if you offer to buy them a drink or something while they're out in the George or wherever have gone some way to further this idea of 'promisicuous' bisexuals. But it's false, that's not what bisexuality is, just like leathermen aren't what gay men are all about, nor are 'dykes on bikes' the main category or lesbian. And hey, if some of those women are trying to figure out their sexuality that way, why not? Believe me, if I was 17 again and had the chance to snog some of the girls in my year "for a laugh" I'd be well up for it. Less so now, but pffft! Hormones are hormones.

The older I get the less inclined I am to care about other people, and in that I mean care about what they like, who they like, or what way they live their lives. Hell, a few weeks ago I was asked was I polyamorous! If someone had asked 20, or even 25 year old me that question I would have been freaked out and disturbed at the thought. Now I just kind of went "Well, no." and then secretly admired their energy for being able to keep multiple relationships successfully on the go!

I'm only 18 and two years ago I came out as being bi. I was never in the closet stage and as I had always been open minded and unafraid of being controversial, I told my friends and family straight away. My family accepted it without disapproval, with a few snide comments from my siblings, but no outrage.

I have always been a tomboy and unknowingly had been sexually attracted to women before I actually realized my sexuality. I matured sexually at an early age and so did the games I played with my friends. Now when I think back at the games and the way I felt when I was close with a girl, I realize that my body and subconscious mind already knew of my sexual orientation even though I did.

I faced a couple of awkward moments when few of my female friends were unsure of what it meant and I had to tell them that I'm not sexually attracted to them. They assumed that I would be, because their idea of homosexuality was crooked.

I just got out of a relationship with a guy (who was also bi), but even when I was with him, my family still acknowledged my bisexuality. I'm one of the lucky few.

But others kept telling me that they had known it was just a phase and that now I had finally gotten over it. It angered me because I felt as if they were not taking bisexuality and me seriously.

Even as I write this, I know that there will be a few people that will read this and will not take me seriously because of my age and the fact that I have mentioned my heterosexual relationship.

I also want to address the statements that bisexuals always prefer one of the sexes. That's incorrect. Of course, there are many that steer a bit left or right, which is normal. But there are some that really don't care about the gender of the other person, but the individual qualities such us looks and personality.

I have found that I steer a bit more to the female side, but it doesn't change the fact that I find men sexually attractive.

I know that people like me give a bad name to bisexuals because I also happen to be open-minded about sexuality. I would love to have a threesome one of these days, but that doesn't mean that I want to have two partners at the same time. Even with my fear of commitment, I stay faithful to those I commit to.

I hope any of my ramblings made sense and added to this thread in any way. I'm just looking for a place to socialize with people that face same difficulties and with those who I can discuss my opinions with.

Thanks for reading if anyone did. (: