Could you be in a lasting relationship with your complete opposite?

dark crystal · 25-10-2011 02:46PM #1

I remember being very much in love with someone years ago who was my complete opposite.
He was conservative, I was pretty liberal. He was a catholic, I was an atheist. He loved dogs, I loved cats. He preferred music, while I preferred TV. He was a spender, I was a saver.

We were madly attracted to each other and the sex was great, but beyond that, we had very little in common.

Anyway, it ended after a few years and I'm now with someone much more like me and am very happy.

Question is, is there realistically much chance of surviving a relationship where the two of you are really quite different? I know a few married couples who are nothing like each other and wonder what chance they have longterm of staying together.

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was the complete opposite of you and how happy were you?

Full.Duck · 25-10-2011 02:50PM

Im in a relationship now with my complete opposite and ive never been happier. We have feck all in common but that makes for lots to talk about.

RichieC · 25-10-2011 02:50PM

The conservative was the spender?

yep, sounds about right.

mikom · 25-10-2011 02:52PM

dark crystal wrote: »

I remember being very much in love with someone years ago who was my complete opposite.
He was conservative, I was pretty liberal. He was a catholic, I was an atheist. He loved dogs, I loved cats. He preferred music, while I preferred TV. He was a spender, I was a saver.

You like potato and I like potahto,
You like tomato and I like tomahto
Potato, potahto, Tomato, tomahto,
Let's call the whole thing off

And you did.

dark crystal · 25-10-2011 02:58PM

RichieC wrote: »

The conservative was the spender?

yep, sounds about right.

Ah yeah, he liked the gee gees - a lot.

Spunge · 25-10-2011 02:59PM

An atheist liberal on boards. :eek:

Tallon · 25-10-2011 03:00PM

I could deffo only date a Woman

25-10-2011 03:02PM

Didn't last with my complete opposite, she was beautiful, young and a nice person

ejmaztec · 25-10-2011 03:04PM

I've been in a lasting relationship with my complete opposite since the first time that I saw my reflection in a mirror. It was love at first sight.:P

jester77 · 25-10-2011 03:05PM

Absolutely... but I still haven't found what I have been looking for.

Seeing as I am plump, don't like cooking, don't like cleaning, am lazy and so on... then she would have to be slim, fantastic cook, likes to keep the place tidy and has no problem getting up early on the weekends to cook me brekkie...

where are you

candy-gal1 · 25-10-2011 03:06PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xweiQukBM_k

all depends on where your strengths together are, if its purely mostly physical then it may not last, but you never know

i myself have to have it 50/50, getting on/liking someone physically and emotionally tbh

minidazzler · 25-10-2011 03:06PM

Depends on the differences. If they don't love sex as much as I do, I'm gone. If they listen to only sh1te music, not as a guilty pleasure, I'm out. If they are overly religious, I'm out. If they don't drink, I'm out. If they are homophobic, racist or otherwise prejudice against people (except those god damned Italians) for no reason, I'm out. So yeah, I wouldn't date or go out with someone if they were my complete opposite. I'm pretty awesome why would I want to go out with someone less awesome than I?

theTinker · 25-10-2011 03:07PM

Yes I believe it can last.

I think a person's opposite can really balance things out. My gf is so flighty and unplanned, I have serious doubts about her surival rate if we break up lol. On the other hand, She stops me from being a serious ole prude who does nothing but budget, plan, fix, and all the non fun parts of life.
We're going to amsterdam shortly. I want to pay off our CC debt. lol. She keeps things interesting alright

bronte · 25-10-2011 03:08PM

No. I'd go mad.

stupidusername · 25-10-2011 03:11PM

I can't imagine how it could last. One of the great things about being in a relationship is the feeling that the other person thinks much like you do,and feels the same as you about many things.it's the basis for friendships too

danniemcq · 25-10-2011 03:12PM

i'd like to think so but my feelings towards psychics and astrology mean that any time my OH would say oh my horoscope/stars/mystic neighbour/palm readers/mediums (you know the type of them ... con artists)said this would mean me rolling on the ground pissing myself laughing.

I don't think that could work. and if they tried to hide it from me and read/do it in private then they are lying to themselves and therefore not in a happy relationship.

They would be much better with some other dillusional person so they can live in their own little land together*

*this story may be based on actual events

charlietheminxx · 25-10-2011 03:13PM

I've been in a relationship with my total opposite and it didn't end well....

You're much better off when you're with someone who has some similar interests and attitudes. Obviously differences between you are necessary in a relationship and keep things interesting, but I think you have to at least be able to relate to eachother/agree on some stuff!

OneArt · 25-10-2011 03:17PM

Well I know I certainly could never go out with someone who was dead. Conversation for one thing would be a nightmare.

Anyone · 25-10-2011 03:18PM

I'm a bit of a cúnt, so yeah, a complete opposite would actually be nice.

Snakeblood · 25-10-2011 03:20PM

Anyone wrote: »

I'm a bit of a cúnt, so yeah, a complete opposite would actually be nice.

A dick?

MungBean · 25-10-2011 03:24PM

Full.Duck wrote: »

Im in a relationship now with my complete opposite and ive never been happier. We have feck all in common but that makes for lots to talk argue about.

Fixed that for ya.

Shivers26 · 25-10-2011 03:26PM

My OH is my total opposite. We are very happy and it keeps it interesting.

I think our core values are what we have in common but personality wise, interests etc are total opposites.

Chuck Stone · 25-10-2011 03:40PM

Was with a girl a good while back and when she said something remotely intelligent I would say 'who were you talking to today?'

Oh lordy forgive me for my cruelty.

We first met through a shared view
she loved me
and I did too.

Mike Skinner.

VenusPlays · 25-10-2011 03:41PM

My complete opposite would be such an arrogant asshole

But that's never stopped me before, so sure why not?

WindSock · 25-10-2011 03:42PM

That would mean they have blonde hair and be a genuine chocolateface. No make up!

Kasabian · 25-10-2011 03:43PM

Nope, it would appear that I am one of those people that cannot have a lasting relationship with anyone.

Uriel. · 25-10-2011 03:46PM

Kasabian wrote: »

Nope, it would appear that I am one of those people that cannot have a lasting relationship with anyone.

Seems to be the same for me. I get bored easily

few cans? · 25-10-2011 04:06PM

i couldn't be in a relationship with someone who didnt enjoy a few cans

hondasam · 25-10-2011 04:28PM

Kasabian wrote: »

Nope, it would appear that I am one of those people that cannot have a lasting relationship with anyone.

Opposites attract, if two people are very alike then it's boring.
Couples should have different interests and be able to do their own thing. Most people will have one thing in common.

Abi · 25-10-2011 05:03PM

hondasam wrote: »

Opposites attract, if two people are very alike then it's boring.
Couples should have different interests and be able to do their own thing. Most people will have one thing in common.

I dunno, I had nothing in common with my ex and that didn't end well. Once you see how shit it is at the other end of the spectrum, you can appreciate being able to do things together.

Kasabian · 25-10-2011 05:05PM

hondasam wrote: »

Opposites attract, if two people are very alike then it's boring.
Couples should have different interests and be able to do their own thing. Most people will have one thing in common.

I am only attracted to the complete opposite it's just that I have so many lairs to my own personality I or they eventually get bored.

Could you be in a lasting relationship with your complete opposite?

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