How come Irish people don't date like in other countries?

jameshealy19 · 08-09-2011 07:22AM #1

Sunnyisland · 08-09-2011 07:35AM

james healy 19 wrote: »

How come Irish people don't date like in other countries?

You will have to expand on that there question

what do you mean

Pompey Magnus · 08-09-2011 07:35AM

In fact we date in the continental European style which is now the dominant system across the world of dd/mm/yyyy as opposed to the American style of mm/dd/yyyy or the Chinese system of yyyy/mm/dd

wolf moon · 08-09-2011 07:46AM

jameshealy19 wrote: »

How come Irish people don't date like in other countries?

Probably because of the recession parents of a girl - even if they manage to make a deal with man's family - are unable to pay for him.

Kadongy · 08-09-2011 07:52AM

jameshealy19 wrote: »

How come Irish people don't date like in other countries?

because it would be like inconvenient. They could just go like somewhere local

MugMugs · 08-09-2011 08:04AM

Kadongy wrote: »

because it would be like inconvenient. They could just go like somewhere local

Exactly.

Other countries are mainly on Continents so it's handy for them to nip away on a date. All we have is England and a long trip to France.

theteal · 08-09-2011 08:08AM

because in these hard times, getting a drunken ware and dropping the hand is a lot easier on the finances!

real answer: . . .ehhhh, we do. . .

G86 · 08-09-2011 08:13AM

They do.

Unless they're 14 and just looking for the shift.

minidazzler · 08-09-2011 08:15AM

I have one friend who tries to insist that the "her friends w/ our friends" works when one wants to get off with a girl. I insist that thinking that makes him an idiot, it's alot easier to talk and in fact get laid if it's one on one, because there is less posturing for friends so all that energy can be saved on being the best you there is. I refuse to do the friends going out thing together anymore because it's just plain sad with lots of awkwardness and juvenile joke.

So yeah, dating does exist here, it's just expensive

AnnyHallsal · 08-09-2011 08:16AM

Because we're ugly, inhibited pigs.*

No, no. Because romantic Ireland's dead and gone.

*This is a joke

Azureus · 08-09-2011 10:40AM

The Irish do go on dates like other countries, you're just not invited.

orourkeda · 08-09-2011 10:44AM

Down with this sort of thing

smash · 08-09-2011 10:45AM

We do date... It usually consists of a bit of dinner and then getting so drunk you can hardly walk. Possibly followed by some form of fumbling sex, the likes of which you'd see on a gorillas in the mist documentary.

pipelaser · 08-09-2011 11:10AM

Because the place is so bloody small that you're bound to be seen by acquaintances or neighbours, they'll end up coming to the table for a chat and end up sitting down with you. Even if the ****ers know exactly whats going on!

I'm living in London and happily Internet Dating away, there's no way you could do this in Ireland! You would be seen online by some girl you vaguely know, your mates would find out through the grapevine, they would sign up and gain access to you profile, they would print out a copy and hang it up in the local, you would be ridiculed!:pac:

jonnyfingers · 08-09-2011 11:16AM

pipelaser wrote: »

I'm living in London and happily Internet Dating away, there's no way you could do this in Ireland! You would be seen online by some girl you vaguely know, your mates would find out through the grapevine, they would sign up and gain access to you profile, they would print out a copy and hang it up in the local, you would be ridiculed!:pac:

I did this exact thing to a friend of mine who was on an internet dating site!

But back on topic, of course the Irish date. We just don't always go to dinner or something like they do in the movies. Personally I went to the cinema, a gig, met for drinks or a coffee with a few of my girlfriends. That's what a date is, getting to know the other person.

One thing I hate is the American style dating where the girl is dating several guys at once and a date is more like a job interview. That's just pathetic.

biko · 08-09-2011 11:17AM

jameshealy19 wrote: »

How come Irish people don't date like in other countries?

What other countries? You're referring to US?

krissovo · 08-09-2011 11:22AM

I love the German system, shag like a rabbit with non committal one night stands to release the sexual urges and have "dates" to select your future partner.

funloving · 08-09-2011 11:23AM

hate the formality of dates and the guy who thinks he has to pay for your dinner/drinks/taxi etc on...

this has nothing to do with romance and it's no indicator of a guy's level of interest in you simply because he's spending money on you...

Down with this (at least for me...)

smash · 08-09-2011 11:26AM

funloving wrote: »

Down with this (at least for me...)

You go down on the first date?

TheZohanS · 08-09-2011 11:28AM

funloving wrote: »

hate the formality of dates and the guy who thinks he has to pay for your dinner/drinks/taxi etc on...

this has nothing to do with romance and it's no indicator of a guy's level of interest in you simply because he's spending money on you...

Down with this (at least for me...)

All you have to say is "no, I'm paying for this". Most of the girls I've dated have taken turns with taxis, drinks etc.

Malari · 08-09-2011 11:35AM

We do, but we don't usually refer to it as "dating". You say your are seeing someone, or going out with someone, etc. Not "dating" someone.

As another poster mentioned, dating in the American sense also seems to imply that you can be meeting several people at once, and here that's not really very common. Once you start seeing someone, exclusivity is generally assumed.

jester77 · 08-09-2011 11:54AM

Bring back the dowry

funloving · 08-09-2011 12:05PM

TheZohan wrote: »

All you have to say is "no, I'm paying for this". Most of the girls I've dated have taken turns with taxis, drinks etc.

of course I do and I find your answer a bit simplistic...I am just saying this form of conventional dating is not really for me

AllYourBass · 08-09-2011 12:07PM

smash wrote: »

We do date... It usually consists of a bit of dinner and then getting so drunk you can hardly walk. Possibly followed by some form of fumbling sex, the likes of which you'd see on a gorillas in the mist documentary.

I usually start with the drunken fumble, and then move onto the dinner and drinks as a form of apology.

TheZohanS · 08-09-2011 12:17PM

funloving wrote: »

of course I do and I find your answer a bit simplistic...I am just saying this form of conventional dating is not really for me

Ah well if it's not for you then it's not for you. My answer might be a bit simplistic but in reality the solution is in fact simple. I think some women tend to over analyse the whole dating process, I've heard conversations of female friends and the thought and effort, and questions that go through their minds regarding a date is immense.

funloving · 08-09-2011 12:30PM

TheZohan wrote: »

Ah well if it's not for you then it's not for you. My answer might be a bit simplistic but in reality the solution is in fact simple. I think some women tend to over analyse the whole dating process, I've heard conversations of female friends and the thought and effort, and questions that go through their minds regarding a date is immense.

you're right..the thoughts and efforts are immense and too much emphasis is put on it...

Bipolar Joe · 08-09-2011 12:36PM

Clue us losers in, would ya?

RichieC · 08-09-2011 12:47PM

Dates... where the woman finds out if you have enough money for her. I rather meet people naturally and more honestly.

py2006 · 08-09-2011 12:52PM

I find the whole dating thing a bit odd and false at times. I don't like the game around it. This is more to do with blind dates, meeting somebody from a dating site etc.