Do you know someone who is asexual?

4leto · 03-09-2011 09:31PM

How would you know you have met them? I usually assume those that don't wish to sleep with me have to be assexual, its the only explanation.

So there is a lot more then 1%

There are a lot of famous historical figures, Isacc Newton, Florence Nightingale, George Bernard Shaw and many more.

Also it can happen for medical reasons, some women become so after birth, depression and sometimes head trauma can also do the trick.

But I doubt its something people blabber about, they just have no interest to an aversion to sex.

Wasn't it hitler who said

"Celibacy the only perversion"

adocholiday · 03-09-2011 11:21PM

whoopsadaisydoodles wrote: »

I'd say the jedwards could be.

I often said this too. People say they're gay but I get the impression that they are completely asexual.

Also know a guy who is a lovely bloke and gets loads of female attention but I know for a fact that he has never been with or expressed a desire to be with anyone, male or female.

Esel · 04-09-2011 04:32AM

My name is URL wrote: »

So once there's a presence of lust & desire then it can't be called a hormonal imbalance or viewed as something which can be treated/reversed?

Reverse into this....

04-09-2011 04:19PM

adocholiday wrote: »

I often said this too. People say they're gay but I get the impression that they are completely asexual.
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Yeh I wouldn't have thought they were gay but they seem to be able to handle the female attention so well and where other boys their age would be living it up, they don't appear to be phased by it. I'm not getting my point across very well but I know what I mean

dashboard_hula · 04-09-2011 04:32PM

Common theory is that Arthur Conan Doyle wrote Sherlock Holmes as either gay or asexual. That's been replicated in the new BBC series, where the impression that comes across is that the mysteries and cases and challenges are what drives the character, and he doesn't really see much point in forming sexual connections. *

I'd regard an asexual person as someone who simply doesn't form sexual bonds and has no interest in sex. Someone who chooses not to do so is celibate.

*The other theory is that Sherlock Holmes is as gay as all get out and pines for Watson. But that could be wishful fangirling.

TheAceAxolotl · 22-09-2011 02:45AM

later10 wrote:

I can't imagine being asexual. I think it would be worse than losing my sight or hearing.

So if you were asexual, you would give up your sight and/or hearing to become sexual? Rubbing bottoms together is the pinnacle of pleasure in this life? I think even many sexuals would disagree, even if they would not want to be asexual themselves.

And the advantages of being asexual are so long indeed. I could show you a very long list if you like. I'm not trying to convert you but just showing how amazing you did not ever perceive the sheer aghast stupidity in your comments.

mike1972 wrote:

Surely a lot of people who appear to be asexual may be just suffering from some kind of hormone deficiency ?

my name is url wrote:

No, that's not really what I'm getting at. Do you think asexuality can be treated? I just think it's interesting that people can say that one is treatable but the other not.

stripysocks85 wrote:

I don't think it can be no. I don't know of anyone who is asexual, but I looked it up there and Wikipedia gives a short list of people who have apparently claimed to be asexual. I imagine it's similar to homosexuality, in that, you are born with it or you're not. I guess if it's to do with a hormone imbalance, then hormones could be injected to counteract this...... I don't know to be honest.

We have many many testimonies of users on AVEN who tried the utmost hormone sex drive treatments with no positive(as in affirmation) results.

We also don't know, even in our modern times, what in the human body is the root of human sexuality in the first place, so too much speculation is open for what could change sexuality, if possible, with medicine or surgery. And also point out that a sex drive (which hormones may affect) is not the same thing as sexual attraction, which I'm very skeptical hormonal fluctuations would have much affect on.

KnifeWRENCH · 22-09-2011 02:50AM

Up until I was like 16 I was very much asexual. Didn't have any interest in either sex and couldn't understand why people were always talking about girlfriends and boyfriends and stuff. I just didn't see the appeal.

Then, all of a sudden out of nowhere, I developed interest in both.

Son Of A Vidic · 22-09-2011 04:07AM

stripysocks85 wrote: »

Do you think homosexuality can be 'treated' or 'reversed'?!

This might help.

Son Of A Vidic · 22-09-2011 04:09AM

Top of the asexual list for me has got to be Daniel O'Donnell.

ArphaRima · 22-09-2011 04:38AM

Top of the asexual list for me has got to be Daniel O'Donnell.

He's riding your granny right now.

randylonghorn · 22-09-2011 04:57AM

Corvus Maximus wrote: »

This might help.

How does it work?

They put in in their shoes and it makes them limp?!

Seachmall · 22-09-2011 09:14AM

adocholiday wrote: »

I often said this too. People say they're gay but I get the impression that they are completely asexual.

I think one of them may actually be gay. I don't know which one but if you see them in an interview one is generally more reserved than the other, I get the impression the loud one is genuinely gay.

EachSmallChime · 22-09-2011 09:23AM

I have a good friend who has never shown any interest whatsoever in either sex. Always kind of thought it was weird but then you just accept it as who they are

22-09-2011 09:29AM

This thread shows how much more intrusive modern society is and how much information we had access to. If some people have a very high sex drive it surly follows that some people have a low sex drives, I tend to think having no interest what so every is probably very rare, but having only a mild interest could be common enough.

While I don't think society in the past was wonderful by any means, modern society puts a lot of pressure on people to be 'something' or else you are odd.

Sherlock Holmes lived with Dr Watson ( and always refereed to him as Dr Watson ) Two men living together permanently in a non sexual relation was considered un remarkable in Victorian time, yet in today's society unless it was a gay couple it would be considered odd.

Lord TSC · 22-09-2011 10:07AM

Its weird. I, personally, am not the type of guy to go "Pwhaor, look at the knockers on that one!" or anything like that. I tend no to talk like that and get uncomfortable in such discussions of the opposite sex.

But because I don't, I know some people think I must be gay. Because I don't reaffirm my straightness on a regular basis, some people take that up as me being gay :S

Don't get me wrong. I have a filthy mind. But I just am not the type to talk in a sexualised way, and a lot of people take that up as me being gay/asexual/etc. Just cause someone doesn't talk about or show huge interest in sex does not mean they don't enjoy, lust or crave sex.

Wibbs · 22-09-2011 10:15AM

Yep I know a guy who is. Never had any real interest in bumpin uglies with anyone and as he aged any passing interest left. Doesn't seem to worry the chap either. I suppose if you never felt like that, then it's no loss.

seamus · 22-09-2011 10:34AM

Yeah, I know one girl like that. She had a couple of boyfriends when she was in her teens, but even then I never got the impression that she was ever particularly enamoured with them, and she never really had a breakup that hurt her in any way.

As we progressed to college, she seemed practically disinterested in the whole business of pulling and scoring and to the best of our knowledge she hasn't gone out with or even kissed anyone in a few years. Her overall interest seems to have died as she's gotten older. She's an attractive girl, friendly and outgoing, no shortage of men who find her attractive, but she looks at men like she's watching traffic go past, no interest at all.

She could be gay of course, but there's no particular reason why she wouldn't have come out to at least one of her mates, they would all be very supportive. She wouldn't be particularly feminine, but she's not butch either. I would rank her straight down the middle in that regard - enjoys looking at shoes, but also plays rugby and GAA.

1% sounds about right to me.

Truley · 22-09-2011 10:45AM

Yep I definitely know a few people I suspect are asexual.

Spread · 23-09-2011 03:03AM

Danielle O'Donnell and Ms Cliff Richards

Spread · 23-09-2011 03:08AM

mariaalice wrote: »

This thread shows how much more intrusive modern society is and how much information we had access to. If some people have a very high sex drive it surly follows that some people have a low sex drives, I tend to think having no interest what so every is probably very rare, but having only a mild interest could be common enough.

While I don't think society in the past was wonderful by any means, modern society puts a lot of pressure on people to be 'something' or else you are odd.

Sherlock Holmes lived with Dr Watson ( and always refereed to him as Dr Watson ) Two men living together permanently in a non sexual relation was considered un remarkable in Victorian time, yet in today's society unless it was a gay couple it would be considered odd.

Lemon entry my dear Watson!

starlit · 23-09-2011 03:43AM

Unheard of not possible! ugh!

LH Pathe · 23-09-2011 04:33AM

doovdela wrote: »

Unheard of not possible! ugh!

then i hate to break it to you, but I'm trisexual

Pdfile · 23-09-2011 06:14AM

John Doe1 wrote: »

Apparently 1 percent of people are asexual. Have you over met anyone who could be?

anything you cn get sexual... jasus thats most of us.

Orando Broom · 23-09-2011 11:05AM

Robert Plant.

Wattle · 23-09-2011 01:06PM

I think I'm celibate rather than asexual. It's been 5 years since I've slept with a woman. I'm in my early 40's so my sex drive has kind of fallen away. I only masturbate once a week now. The rest of the time sexual feelings just aren't there. I'm ok with it because it used to be like being chained to a maniac. I would like to have a relationship at some stage and maybe my cock would get re-animated. I'd say there's only a 50/50 chance that I'll ever get laid ever again in my whole life.

23-09-2011 01:12PM

Wattle thats very sad I hope you meet someone, I went through a long period on my own before I meet someone and at the time I though I would never meet anyone ever again.

Wattle · 23-09-2011 01:16PM

Thanks but that's the thing I'm not that bothered about it really. If it happens great. If it doesn't that's ok.

Scealta_saol · 23-09-2011 08:01PM

I definitely think they've portrayed/written this guy as asexual...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sheldon_Cooper

Fluorescence · 23-09-2011 08:13PM

Yahtzee from Zero Punctuation described himself as asexual. I would imagine the percentage of the population is higher than 1% though, but it's hard to tell because someone could say they're not fussed about it and then furiously **** to redtube at night :pac:. Who knows?

Scealta_saol · 23-09-2011 08:19PM

fluorescence wrote: »

Yahtzee from Zero Punctuation described himself as asexual.

Really? That I didn't know... But hard to get a read on someone who talks really fast online....

Do you know someone who is asexual?

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