A question for ye fine folk of After Hours.....

castletownman · 02-09-2011 11:40PM #1

Girl I've been seeing for the past two months or so told me tonight that she doesn't like doing anything for her birthday.

Her birthday is in two weeks time.

Should I take it as a cue (excuse) to be stingy and not do anything for her, in turn respecting her wishes? Or should I treat her to a romantic night etc. and run the risk of her getting annoyed for going to the effort despite her saying she doesn't like celebrating birthdays?
(I make her sound like a miserable yoke but she really isn't)

In before blast her with piss/ bitches be trippin' etc.....

Bipolar Joe · 02-09-2011 11:41PM

Do nothing. If she's serious she's happy. If she's not it'll teach the mook a lesson in honesty.

PseudoFamous · 02-09-2011 11:41PM

Tie her to a chair for her birthday, she won't have to do anything.

hondasam · 02-09-2011 11:41PM

Respect her wishes, do nothing. ignore her completely. wait for her reaction.

Sonics2k · 02-09-2011 11:41PM

Blast her with cake!

stupidusername · 02-09-2011 11:42PM

Assume she meant what she said.if she didn't well then she'll be upset but you can swiftly tell her not to be playing games

bigneacy · 02-09-2011 11:42PM

castletownman wrote: »

Girl I've been seeing for the past two months or so told me tonight that she doesn't like doing anything for her birthday.

Her birthday is in two weeks time.

Should I take it as a cue (excuse) to be stingy and not do anything for her, in turn respecting her wishes? Or should I treat her to a romantic night etc. and run the risk of her getting annoyed for going to the effort despite her saying she doesn't like celebrating birthdays?
(I make her sound like a miserable yoke but she really isn't)

In before blast her with piss/ bitches be trippin' etc.....

It's a test OP.

Whisk her off to Paris and propose to her. That'll learn her.

AnamGlas · 02-09-2011 11:43PM

Less is more

The King of Moo · 02-09-2011 11:43PM

How about a nice night in, a few small bells and whistles (perhaps literally if she likes them), and maybe cook her something she likes as part of that?

It'd be cheap and fairly hassle-free so she wouldn't be too mad about it, and no matter how she says she doesn't want a fuss, she'd probably be mad if you did nothing.

Or just show her this thread as proof of how much she means to you

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Logical Fallacy · 02-09-2011 11:43PM

Cook dinner and ****.

Could be any other night but she can't play the old "I can't believe you didn't nothing for my birthday" thing some folk like to play.

LETHAL LADY · 02-09-2011 11:43PM

Assuming you are serious she is testing you. Will you pass or will you fail?

epgc3fyqirnbsx · 02-09-2011 11:44PM

People who don't like doing anything for their birthday just don't like a fuss, ie a house or bar full of people looking at tghem waiting for them to say something profound
You still need to mark it though or it'll be your nads on a platter

Temptamperu · 02-09-2011 11:44PM

Shes lying she wants a big to do.... bitches be crazy.

castletownman · 02-09-2011 11:44PM

Thanks for the advice chaps! Sneaky trip to the cinema it may be so

Chuck Stone · 02-09-2011 11:45PM

Lol, easy one.

DO NOT IGNORE HER BIRTHDAY.

EVER.

Andromeda_111 · 02-09-2011 11:45PM

It depends on how you really feel about her. If you like her enough then make an effort to give her a night that she would love, try to make her feel special. Maybe she just means she doesn't like a lot of fuss but there's not many people on earth that don't like to be made feel special on their big day

castletownman · 02-09-2011 11:46PM

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Lol, easy one.

DO NOT IGNORE HER BIRTHDAY.

EVER.

Message loud and clear

flutterflye · 02-09-2011 11:48PM

Do something and get her something, but don't make a big deal out of the fact that it's her birthday.
Do something more memorable than an average night with her, but not over the top either.

VenusPlays · 02-09-2011 11:48PM

Noone I know that has ever said this has meant it or ever thrown a hissyfit if a party or outing is arranged in their honour.

Girls in particular like to play this 'ah you dont have to make a fuss about little old me' game while secretly hoping you are going go the ends of the earth for a rare, made by deaf mute blind nuns, type gift.

Not me, I will say straight up that I want diamond encrusted diamonds.

castletownman · 02-09-2011 11:50PM

OasisGirl wrote: »

It depends on how you really feel about her. If you like her enough then make an effort to give her a night that she would love, try to make her feel special. Maybe she just means she doesn't like a lot of fuss but there's not many people on earth that don't like to be made feel special on their big day

Judging by your username I assume your a girl, so I'll throw this suggestion at you and see what you think.

She's never been to Croker and is mad into GAA (plays football and camogie) so I was planning on bringing her up to Croker for the camogie finals on Sunday week (her birthday is the following week). Bring her to the GAA museum, treat her to a meal on the way home. Good subtle birthday gift?

cesc77 · 02-09-2011 11:53PM

Ffs do not fall for this.

you are inside the 6 month bubble.

She woves you but you cannot,I repeat CANNOT ignore this birthday sh1te/carryon if you wish to see this "lady".

You picked her.

Fckin precious princesses fcuk lads heads up.

Evil bstards

some of them:)

cesc77 · 02-09-2011 11:58PM

VenusPlays wrote: »

Noone I know that has ever said this has meant it or ever thrown a hissyfit if a party or outing is arranged in their honour.

Girls in particular like to play this 'ah you dont have to make a fuss about little old me' game while secretly hoping you are going go the ends of the earth for a rare, made by deaf mute blind nuns, type gift.

Not me, I will say straight up that I want diamond encrusted diamonds.

Dont play poker then,eh?

AJ:pac:

Andromeda_111 · 03-09-2011 12:00AM

castletownman wrote: »

Judging by your username I assume your a girl, so I'll throw this suggestion at you and see what you think.

She's never been to Croker and is mad into GAA (plays football and camogie) so I was planning on bringing her up to Croker for the camogie finals on Sunday week (her birthday is the following week). Bring her to the GAA museum, treat her to a meal on the way home. Good subtle birthday gift?

You assume right! That sounds like a really nice thing to do. It's something different rather than a meal and a movie and it's something she loves so you have to be on to a winner. Just one other piece of advice though, don't forget to do something on the day of her birthday too, no matter how small, marking the occasion on the day counts

I'm sure you'll be rewarded for your efforts

castletownman · 03-09-2011 12:05AM

OasisGirl wrote: »

You assume right! That sounds like a really nice thing to do. It's something different rather than a meal and a movie and it's something she loves so you have to be on to a winner. Just one other piece of advice though, don't forget to do something on the day of her birthday too, no matter how small, marking the occasion on the day counts I'm sure you'll be rewarded for your efforts

Cheers for the feedback

I'm sure I'll think of another nice gesture to mark the actual day.
I'd be charming like that

WinstonOno · 03-09-2011 12:05AM

just give her a good rodgerin

castletownman · 03-09-2011 12:21AM

WinstonOno wrote: »

just give her a good rodgerin

Great advice :pac:

OneArt · 03-09-2011 12:29AM

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

Cook dinner and ****.

Could be any other night but she can't play the old "I can't believe you didn't nothing for my birthday" thing some folk like to play.

Won't the dinner get cold though?

brummytom · 03-09-2011 12:33AM

This has nothing to do with anything but you said the word birthday repeatedly OP and it's my 18th birthday today (as of half an hour ago).

Take her for a meal, but nothing to over the top. Just a nice meal.

Musicman2006 · 03-09-2011 12:33AM

Go out with the lads and leave the moany aul yoke on her own so!

number10a · 03-09-2011 12:34AM

I genuinely :mad:*HATE*:mad: my birthday. Not because I'm old and don't like seeing the years go by - I'm only 24 - it's just something I inexplicably dislike, like pineapples or centipedes. I want it to pass without comment.

Maybe she's the same and genuinely doesn't want to ever acknowledge it.

But more likely, she's not. If she just said it in passing, she's lying. Whenever I say it to someone, I have to repeat it about a hundred times so they'll actually believe me because no one ever does. So if she's not gotten accustomed to having to do this, she's lying.

MugMugs · 03-09-2011 12:38AM

Make her cook you steak and give you a Blowjob. Chicks love that kinda romantic sh1t on their birthdays.

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