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Should watching porn stop when you're in a relationship?

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  • #122
    flutterflye
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,538 ✭✭✭flutterflye


    willmunny1990 wrote: »
    then your not human

    What am I then?!
    You'll need to realise that everyone is different, and just because you think something is true, doesn't make it so.


  • #123
    Jam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 269 ✭✭Jam


    The woman is basically a sexual terrorist. Do not give into her demands! She want to control how, when, and to what you orgasm to. Wait- maybe she's a sexual fundamentalist?

    She's over-reacting. Porn is perfectly acceptable as a substitute when she's unavailable/unwilling. It's when you prefer the porn over her that it could be an issue.


  • #124
    dresden8
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,291 ✭✭✭dresden8


    Whatever your thoughts about porn it is clear that yer wan is a violent bully and you are best rid.

    I doubt our female defenders here would be so quick to jump to your defence if you had stormed in and smashed up her stuff, right or wrong.

    She's a psycho.


  • #125
    hatrickpatrick
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,798 ✭✭✭✭hatrickpatrick


    BTW could I point out that IMO the porn question is completely and totally irrelevant here.

    There is no excuse for destroying your property and getting violent. Another of society's hideous double standards - if a guy acted this way it would almost definitely be labelled domestic violence, but when a woman does it, "Oh well he must have done something to deserve it"

    Feck's sake


  • #126
    Saila
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,751 ✭✭✭Saila


    Seanbeag1 wrote: »
    I think you're missing my point. Women can create the fantasy. Men need to see it.

    ok then, I can do both! - so suck them apples :p


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  • #127
    MagicSean
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,897 ✭✭✭MagicSean


    Saila wrote: »
    ok then, I can do both! - so suck them apples :p

    Anything you create is recycled from something you've seen or done.


  • #128
    pragmatic1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,573 ✭✭✭pragmatic1


    When men watch porn they arent doing much thinking never mind comparing women in them to their partners.


  • #129
    Saila
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,751 ✭✭✭Saila


    Seanbeag1 wrote: »
    Anything you create is recycled from something you've seen or done.

    I see, so what your saying is women are from a different planet literally, and in their fantasies they have never used memory to make the fantasy :confused:
    either way the original point is lying in flames somewhere!


  • #130
    Teyla Emmagan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,638 ✭✭✭Teyla Emmagan


    pragmatic1 wrote: »
    When men watch porn they arent doing much thinking never mind comparing women in them to their partners.

    Good news!


  • #131
    booboo88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,107 ✭✭✭booboo88


    westendgirlie wrote: »
    Agree with LyndaMcL & Aoifey! on this one. Don't know if their outlook comes with relationship experience but mine does.

    I don't feel threatened by the females in porn and Girlies, if you've never seen a porn, take it from me that most of their anatomy is not real! Movies are made up in bits and pieces and edited for viewing pleasure. Like Pierce Brosnan who's on right now. I'm having nawtee thoughts and he's dressed!!!

    Dunno about the other girlies on here but I think about sex.........a lot. And if men are disgusting for watching somebody elses ideas then I really won't be going to heaven for some of the ideas I have thought of myself :p
    I used to be like that, but then got with my now ex boyfriend,
    I actually woke up to him fapping to porn, while i was asleep in bed:confused:
    now i dont have a problem with porn, but dont bloody do it in my bed or my laptop ffs :mad:

    but hold the freaking phone, she actually threw the laptop off the wall?????


    get out while you still have something to fap with:eek:


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  • #132
    tan11ie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,056 ✭✭✭tan11ie


    booboo88 wrote: »
    I used to be like that, but then got with my now ex boyfriend,
    I actually woke up to him fapping to porn, while i was asleep in bed:confused:
    now i dont have a problem with porn, but dont bloody do it in my bed or my laptop ffs :mad:

    but hold the freaking phone, she actually threw the laptop off the wall?????


    get out while you still have something to fap with:eek:

    Oh it just gets better! I haven't laughed so much in ages.:D


  • #133
    Acacia
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,816 ✭✭✭Acacia


    OP, clear your history, ffs, that was a rookie mistake. I think your gf maybe over-reacted, but you really shat on yourself by trying to pay off the little brother, thus deceiving her and making yourself look like you'd done something terrible when you really didn't.

    I don't think watching pr0n should stop once you're in a relationship, but clearly your gf does. Maybe explain that it's nothing to do with how attractive she is and how much you love her, it's just something some people do and it's not a big deal. But antics like not admitting you were looking at it just make you look immature and deceptive , tbh.


  • #134
    jill_valentine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,090 ✭✭✭jill_valentine


    Don't have an issue with porn, and that chick is a loony. Get far, far away.

    Trying to pay off the bro was dumb and wrong though, not cool.


  • #135
    MagicSean
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,897 ✭✭✭MagicSean


    Saila wrote: »
    I see, so what your saying is women are from a different planet literally, and in their fantasies they have never used memory to make the fantasy :confused:
    either way the original point is lying in flames somewhere!

    Either you're being deliberately obtuse or you suffer from some form of mental retardation. Either way I don't really give a ****. It's not my research your flaming.


  • #136
    Sky King
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,431 ✭✭✭Sky King


    Dump her conservative ass (after one last ride).

    Oh and the kick the **** of her dip**** brother (after one last ride).


  • #137
    Mint Sauce
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,293 ✭✭✭✭Mint Sauce


    Not sure whats worse, your chick throwing your laptop against the wall, you paying off the brother, or him hanging you out to dry.

    Next time, set your browser to automatically clear your history after each use.

    ;)


  • #138
    flutterflye
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,538 ✭✭✭flutterflye


    I have issues with porn that I'm not bothered going into right now.

    But in regards to watching porn in a relationship-
    I would be hurt if my husband were to watch porn instead of coming to me.
    If I'm not there or not in the mood, I have no problem with him looking at it to de-horny himself or whatever.

    If a girl finds it to be unacceptable for the guy to watch porn, then she has that right, just as he has the right to want to watch it.
    So, either a compromise is needed, or the guy stops watching porn, or the girl learns to deal with it.
    If none of those options are possible, well then maybe the relationship isn't going to work.


  • #139
    Jam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 269 ✭✭Jam


    flutterflye wrote: »
    But in regards to watching porn in a relationship-
    I would be hurt if my husband were to watch porn instead of coming to me.
    If I'm not there or not in the mood, I have no problem with him looking at it to de-horny himself or whatever.

    In his hypothetical defense, it depends how accommodating you are. If you're turning him down more often than not, then it's just easier, practically and emotionally (rejection is still rejection) to masturbate. That and it get's tiring being instigator.


  • #140
    Donald Draper
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22 ✭Donald Draper


    Your girlfriend sound like a horrible conservative cnut. Tell her to go fcuk herself then punch her in the ovaries.


  • #141
    flutterflye
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,538 ✭✭✭flutterflye


    Jam wrote: »
    In his hypothetical defense, it depends how accommodating you are. If you're turning him down more often than not, then it's just easier, practically and emotionally (rejection is still rejection) to masturbate. That and it get's tiring being instigator.

    Huh???!!!

    What has any of that to do with any of my post? :confused:
    I just said that if he was watching porn instead of coming to me, I would be hurt.
    Clearly there would be a problem in the relationship if that were happening.
    In your scenario, instead of the "easier" option of getting into the habit of using porn all the time, I would hope that he would discuss the issue with me so that we could get the relationship back on track.


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  • #142
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,152 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    She threw a laptop against the wall ?

    Seriously ?

    I'd get my ass outa there ASAP.


  • #143
    up for anything
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,791 ✭✭✭up for anything


    Donald Draper wrote: »
    Your girlfriend sound like a horrible conservative cnut. Tell her to go fcuk herself then punch her in the ovaries.

    Read your post back to yourself and see what you sound like! :mad:

    As my father would say, you are neither big nor clever. :rolleyes:


  • #144
    ardinn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,249 ✭✭✭ardinn


    flutterflye wrote: »
    Huh???!!!

    What has any of that to do with any of my post? :confused:
    I just said that if he was watching porn instead of coming to me, I would be hurt.
    Clearly there would be a problem in the relationship if that were happening.
    In your scenario, instead of the "easier" option of getting into the habit of using porn all the time, I would hope that he would discuss the issue with me so that we could get the relationship back on track.

    Look sometimes you just want to rub one out - its no reflection on you, so get over it!
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    http://slaneyfishing.com




  • #145
    Reiss Avfc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 53 ✭✭Reiss Avfc


    I find that if you're actually getting some you shouldn't really need the porn? There should be a poll on who watches more porn, single or men in a relationship. Married men don't count..


  • #146
    flutterflye
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,538 ✭✭✭flutterflye


    ardinn wrote: »
    Look sometimes you just want to rub one out - its no reflection on you, so get over it!

    Ah yeah, the odd time's grand sure.
    I'm more talking of a regular kinda thing.
    Anyway, what do you mean get over it?!
    I'm not in a relationship with you, so you don't need to worry your little head ;)


  • #147
    jill_valentine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,090 ✭✭✭jill_valentine


    flutterflye wrote: »
    you don't need to worry your little head ;)

    Jaysus, I hope this was intentional.


  • #148
    Resi12
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,034 ✭✭✭Resi12


    Why was she even snooping in the first place? Seriously I would leave, what a nutjob..

    If she has anything like Sex & The City on DVD you should throw them against the wall leaving! :pac:


  • #149
    flutterflye
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,538 ✭✭✭flutterflye


    jill_valentine wrote: »
    Jaysus, I hope this was intentional.

    Note the ;)


  • #150
    tallaghtmick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,724 ✭✭✭tallaghtmick


    willmunny1990 wrote: »
    milfs came up on the history now she thinks in after older women!she seems to think its just as bad as cheating which i cant understand i did ask her to watch it with me but she finds porn "sick"

    Sillyness right there.....I tell everyone im into milfs:pac:


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  • #151
    Donald Draper
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22 ✭Donald Draper


    up for anything wrote: »
    Read your post back to yourself and see what you sound like! :mad:

    As my father would say, you are neither big nor clever. :rolleyes:

    I am quite big and pretty clever.


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