Unrequited Love

Love is...

Holding her hair back as she drunkenly vomits on your shoes.
When you prefer to jerk off to your wife instead of porn.

Any more?

Unrequited love is ass. Not much more sucks emotionally than that.

Sound Bite wrote: »

can no1 tell me a story where the person they were in love with ended up with herpes, overweight, married to a lunatic wife or something?

Well I loved this girl who didn't love me back. She ended up pregnant and with a severe case of the Heeby-Jeebies!

Unfortunately, she didn't love me because it was ME who had given her both those things and fled to Mexico when I found out!

I have had this a lot myself on both sides. More so me being in the same situation as yourself too many times to count now I just don't bother any more as I actually find it harder to fancy people instantly like I used to I just let love takes its course. If we gel, click and get on well, chemistry brewing then unless that spark appears will I fall in love with someone gradually! For those on the other side of the fence, I let them down gently say it like it is and being honest with them that I don't have feelings for them and that I don't like them that way as I would rather we be friends, but if you don't want to be friends then I don't want to be friends or anything else with you then 'bye' but if they don't take no for an answer I will get thick with them to get off my back. Tough love and all that but in a friendly not so lovey kind of way. Anyway, OP, think the best thing you could do is move on that's what I always did. Don't leave any stone unturned! Just forget your unrequited love and move onto someone who fancies/likes you for you! A one sided relationship isn't healthy. So find a new 'love' but not necessary unrequited. It happens in time but you will meet someone you will love and loves you back when you least expect it!

I think just go out there have fun, not expecting to fall in love bam that's when it happens! If you are friendly/friends at first but don't stay in the friend-zone for too long otherwise you will fall into the trap of unrequited love. You need to get in there fairly quick after meeting, friendly and flirty at first but once you get to know the person go in for the kill declare your undying love if everything falls into place and you know that they like you then go for it! Clear your head of past 'unrequited loves' forget about them, they are in the past move on! Find someone new be your new motto but be free and easy and laid back about it! That special someone is out there for you! Don't expect it to happen when you expect it, it will happen when your life and happiness comes together and love happens when you least expect it! Good luck OP in searching for true love!

LighterGuy wrote: »

Its all situational. But for example, If I date someone for 2 years. I hold serious feelings for them after the first year. But even after 2 years they still dont share the same feelings for me? ... they never will.

So to be blunt ... the f**k with them. Your wasting your time. If you come to any other rationisation than that. You are an idiot.

I don't get that at all, ok it might be just an example but why would you stay with someone that long if you didn't love them, makes no sense at all


I think the term is used wrongly a lot, you can't use it if you haven't even being going out with the person imo, that is just not love.

You can’t control love, you cannot control who you fall in love with and you cannot control who falls in love with you, it just happens you cannot make someone magically fall in love with you. There has to be something that sparks them on to make them fall in love with you and you to fall in love with them. Love moves in mysterious ways! Love is a wonderful thing and love can only really happen unless you love yourself for you not necessary a vain way but love yourself for who you are! From deep within and having the uniqueness and confidence to carry it off too. Being happy is a good thing and that will attract potential partners! Looks, personality, chemistry, attraction and amongst other things aren’t the only means to end up with someone whether its unrequited or not (whereby both partners fall for each other). Time will sort itself out, wait and see!

All the best OP

Like it has being said, you can't really control who you fall in love with or end up really liking to put it another way. That said, if you did like I used to and wear your heart on your sleeve, then you are in for a world of hurt. The problem can be exasperated if you see the girl / guy often ( like in a classroom setting. )

In fact, my two worst doses of it were because said girl was in my class, be it in Secondary school or college. All I can say for the first case is that my then social ineptness and other people's sarcasm don't mix well at all and caused a really messy situation for me.

That said, I doubt I'd be the person I am today if it wasn't for that whole saga as it basically forced me to come out of my shell and open up my mind. So for that, I'm grateful.

I still never got with the girl though.

The truth me was that apart from wearing my heart on my sleeve, I was too scared to anything about it, I just watched from a distance while some the guy got the girl ( yes, this actually happened - though to be fair everyone I knew saw it coming so even I wasn't surprised either. )

if you haven't said anything to the girl / guy, then just go and say something. It might not well or it just might, you never know if you don't try. If it IS a no, then its best just to move on. Sure, it hurts like feck but time is a great healer.

Good luck OP

You have to learn the difference between love and infatuation, though. I remember one time I got hit so bad that I wrote her a letter by hand - something I hadn't done in years. By the time I'd written two pages I was over it: putting my thoughts down on paper showed me how irrational they were, and I shredded the letter straight away.

Four years man. Four years hopelessly in love.
I thought the intense passion of falling in love with someone was supposed to wane over time.
It doesn't.

It's not like I haven't had crushes on or scored anyone else in those four years, but the bottom line is that no matter what, she's always the last thing I think of before I fall asleep and the first thing in my mind when I wake up.

Even just when she says "hello" to me on a night out, I'm in a wildly excited and happy mood for the next week

JaxxYChicK wrote: »

Have you asked her out?

I wonder which would be the best opener, that he's been in love with her for four years or that he thinks about her a lot while in bed?