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Unrequited Love
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14-08-2011 1:32am#1
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Like it has being said, you can't really control who you fall in love with or end up really liking to put it another way. That said, if you did like I used to and wear your heart on your sleeve, then you are in for a world of hurt. The problem can be exasperated if you see the girl / guy often ( like in a classroom setting. )
In fact, my two worst doses of it were because said girl was in my class, be it in Secondary school or college. All I can say for the first case is that my then social ineptness and other people's sarcasm don't mix well at all and caused a really messy situation for me.
That said, I doubt I'd be the person I am today if it wasn't for that whole saga as it basically forced me to come out of my shell and open up my mind. So for that, I'm grateful.
I still never got with the girl though.
The truth me was that apart from wearing my heart on my sleeve, I was too scared to anything about it, I just watched from a distance while some the guy got the girl ( yes, this actually happened - though to be fair everyone I knew saw it coming so even I wasn't surprised either. )
if you haven't said anything to the girl / guy, then just go and say something. It might not well or it just might, you never know if you don't try. If it IS a no, then its best just to move on. Sure, it hurts like feck but time is a great healer.
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You have to learn the difference between love and infatuation, though. I remember one time I got hit so bad that I wrote her a letter by hand - something I hadn't done in years. By the time I'd written two pages I was over it: putting my thoughts down on paper showed me how irrational they were, and I shredded the letter straight away.
You are the type of what the age is searching for, and what it is afraid it has found. I am so glad that you have never done anything, never carved a statue, or painted a picture, or produced anything outside of yourself! Life has been your art. You have set yourself to music. Your days are your sonnets.
―Oscar Wilde predicting Social Media, in The Picture of Dorian Gray
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Four years man. Four years hopelessly in love.
I thought the intense passion of falling in love with someone was supposed to wane over time.
It doesn't.
It's not like I haven't had crushes on or scored anyone else in those four years, but the bottom line is that no matter what, she's always the last thing I think of before I fall asleep and the first thing in my mind when I wake up.
Even just when she says "hello" to me on a night out, I'm in a wildly excited and happy mood for the next week 0 -
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hatrickpatrick wrote: »Even just when she says "hello" to me on a night out, I'm in a wildly excited and happy mood for the next week
You're probably better off not getting the chance to bang her in this case as you would probably just suffer a gigantic heart attack or stroke.
God works in mysterious ways.0 -
hatrickpatrick wrote: »Four years man. Four years hopelessly in love.
I thought the intense passion of falling in love with someone was supposed to wane over time.
It doesn't.
It's not like I haven't had crushes on or scored anyone else in those four years, but the bottom line is that no matter what, she's always the last thing I think of before I fall asleep and the first thing in my mind when I wake up.
Even just when she says "hello" to me on a night out, I'm in a wildly excited and happy mood for the next week
Have you asked her out?0 -
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parker kent wrote: »Would somebody telling you they dedicate all their **** to you be the equivalent of a proposal? :pac:
Only if they promised to dedicate all **** to me forevermore, I can't abide by **** cheating. 0 -
Yup,
Was seeing a 'moth' there before xmas for a while, I moved away for work.. she's moved on (i think -she calls me bud now when we chat :mad:), shes still single but we dont talk much, moving back to college in a few weeks, i will definitly see her, but don't know if i can say anything..
Didnt realise i liked her that much..
Ive been filling the gap with random beores but its just not the same..0 -
You have to learn the difference between love and infatuation, though. I remember one time I got hit so bad that I wrote her a letter by hand - something I hadn't done in years. By the time I'd written two pages I was over it: putting my thoughts down on paper showed me how irrational they were, and I shredded the letter straight away.
At least you had the sense to hand write a letter and could see that it wasn't clever to post it.
Me? I was badly lead on by my unrequited love and it all ended badly (though it never really started! :pac:) I was going travelling a few days later and I wrote him an email declaring my feelings. An email! I was such a muppet. :rolleyes:
I'm home a few years now and I see him the odd time (with the same girlfriend as he had back then) and it does be a bit awkward but sure, I'll always have feelings for him, there's nothing I can do to change that. It's toughened me up a bit in the ole love life.
Still though, I'd nail him to the headboard if I got the chance.... 0 -
You have to learn the difference between love and infatuation, though. I remember one time I got hit so bad that I wrote her a letter by hand - something I hadn't done in years. By the time I'd written two pages I was over it: putting my thoughts down on paper showed me how irrational they were, and I shredded the letter straight away.
brilliant0 -
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Ah, I'm currently trying to resolve this. Last week or so the guy I'm seeing returned from holidaying with his family for a month, informed me he's in love with me and proceeded to ask me out. We've been meeting secretly for 8/9 months now and I'd like to keep it that way, it makes it unofficial and exciting. In the beginning I was more into him than he was into me, but oh how the tables have turned. Anyways he wants an answer and refuses to allow contact with him till i fully decide. Which predominantly means it'll all cease if I give him a negative response:(
So in a quest to decide I thought I'd seek the opinion of an older acquaintance who I would assume this might've happened to with the amount of experience he's had throughout his years. Didn't bring it up at all, instead skipped the talking part and proceeded into the bedroom. Yet the acquaintance noticed something different about me by stating that he thought I liked him more than I should. I know that whatever was different about me compared to the rest of our encounters clearly it wasn't initiated by him! So I left with absolutely no answers, lots of new questions, all of which i do not have the answer for.
Let the letter writing (and scraping) begin!:rolleyes:0 -
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Thanks guys, it's a crap feeling and one I'm too old for but anyhow...stupidusername wrote: »I don't really get this unrequited love thing. I mean having a crush on someone isn't love. I don't get how you can love someone you don't know that well.
He's been a good friend for years. I know him inside out 0 -
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