Ya startin'?!

CardBordWindow wrote: »

Walk away. Not worth the hospital bills/court case. (depending the outcome)

I had some wanker starting on me for no proper reason. He was arguing with someone and afterward their argument I spoke to the other guy. This meant I was the enemy. But despite the fact that he was much bigger than me, I stood my ground ... because his mate and a security guard were holding him back.

Anyways, a short time later, after I thought he'd calmed down, he follows me up the road. When I heard him shouting at me I just kept walking. Bad idea. He ran up behind me and caught me perfectly with a flying headbutt just as I turned around and then threw in a couple of kicks to the head for good measure.

Broken nose and cheeckbone and blood everywhere. Not fun, but at least the health insurance took care of the hospital bills.

later10 wrote: »

Is that supposed to mean that fighting is 'big'? I've never taken part in a physical fight in my life, that's something I was brought up to be proud of, not ashamed.

If a guy can talk his way out of physical aggression, using his intelligence, good for him.

Not questioning the different way we were brought up,frankly I dont agree with the way I was taught but I had bullies for years, my stepdad always told me to stand up to them, I didnt agree for a few years but when I did stand up to them, fair enough I got beat but I gave as good as I got, they never touched me again

Another pro tip: Never expect anyone to jump in and help you even if there your long time friends and there is A LOT of them. I guy was chasing someone I know with a metal pogo stick, and me being unable to throw a punch, simply stepped in front of him. Got a punch to the face. At this stage there were like a dozen people I knew standing there... To be fair there was two of them and most of my friends there were 16/17 whereas the scumbags were 20 - 25. Anyway, while on the ground I got a kick to the face. Still nothing.

Gillington wrote: »

Not questioning the different way we were brought up,frankly I dont agree with the way I was taught but I had bullies for years, my stepdad always told me to stand up to them, I didnt agree for a few years but when I did stand up to them, fair enough I got beat but I gave as good as I got, they never touched me again

Same here. I never had to put up with their **** again. I threw the punch in third year (Got bet later) and even in sixth year all I got was respect.

Like most I'll bend over backwards to avoid confrontation, but if they hit me and I'm confident I can take them and won't ever see them again I'll hit them back. That's only ever happened once in my adult life though.

Generally not a violent person, I talk me way out of (and into) most situations.

But there on Friday, I was a friend of a friends birthday. I was standing near the bar, chatting to a couple of people, herself was perched on a stool at the bar, with some lad chatting to her.

I heard something, and I turned round, and he threw the head at me! Barely landed it though, was the lightest touch, and I looked quizzically at him, thinking he fell or something. Then he goes and shoves herself off the chair, and goes to go forward again. Herself just lifts herself up, and throws a beautiful punch, and knocks the **** backwards!

At this stage, I'd lost it, and was going for him, only people were holding me back, and one of my friends had gotten inbetween us, and lifted yer man back by the neck telling him to calm down, and **** off. Which he does.

Still not entirely sure why it happened, think he was chancing his arm with her, and she pointed me out as her fiance, and he thought he was going to be the big man, bust the slightly smaller guy (me) and win the knickers off her.

only really had to stand up for mesen once, I was 15/16 some guy started on me took me to the ground and i fooked his **** up knocked his teeth out,

I have been in many scrapes but not for mesen, the 1 thing I detest is someone trying to belittle my friends or family, coming up to them and trying to pick a fight because they look weak,

this is the time I will explode and if he can not take me out he is in big fooking trouble,

once I seen a guy getting a kicking by about 10 guys his girl friend was screaming at them to leave him alone, now I dont know why but it was just impluse and I jumped into the middle of them pulling them off him,

I proceeded to ask them to back the fook up 10 on 1 is not cool, for some reason they did, they guy on the ground turned out to be a neighbour we are good mates to this day,

he can handle himself no probs and could then, he was just afraid his misses would get a few up sides the head,

I dont give a fook how big you are but if you start on my friends I will bite your fooking face off, in saying that if you start on me I tend to try to get out of it or walk away,

hit me and expect the worse, but this has never happened me to date in my 40+ yrs, omiting my 1st experience.

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

From a womans point of view I had to diffuse a fight with someone well able to kick seven shades of cack out of me.

Typical scenario in a nightclub slightly inebriated passing this excuse for a lady on the steps (she was sitting on the steps blocking everyone) and I accidentally trip on top of this crazy woman. She jumps up and puffs out her manly chest and starts ripping into to me. I just smile and say oh god Im so sorry. Anyhow she start shaping up to me f**king and blinding at me so I just keep saying how sorry I am and guess what it worked.

However about 10 minutes later I had to use the ladies and guess who I bump right into next in the queue crazy fighting woman so I did what any self respecting lady would do legged it.

So your username is ironic then...:)

I just follow Homer Simpson's advice,


Bart: Remember when Tom had you in that headlock and you screamed, "I'm a hemophiliac!," and when he let you go, you kicked him in the back?
Homer: Yeah.
Bart: Will you teach me how to do that?
Homer: Sure, boy. First, you gotta shriek like a woman and keep sobbing until he turns away in disgust. That's when it's time to kick some back. And then when he's lying down on the ground,...
Bart: Yeah.
Homer: Kick him in the ribs.
Bart: Yeah.
Homer: Step on his neck.
Bart: Yeah.
Homer: And run like hell.
 

Depending on what the person wants to pick a fight about then I would just walk away or just be calm and logical about it and talk calmly to the person and apologise for any reason for them to be upset and wanting a fight. I'd just ignore them and move on. Walk away, best thing anyone could do even though you be seen as a coward and walked all over it's better than having to deal with a fist fight that shouldn't happen! I don't care for act of violence its not worth it. If they want to get thick with me they can just shout at me I have no problems with that, if they want a fight then I'd let them fight with the nearest wall or pole! They obviously be fairly steamed up so why bother. I rather make peace...

later10 wrote: »

I could be wrong I've just often noticed that as a troublemaker comes closer to throwing a punch, his syllables become shorter.

This is a classic indicator of an imminent attack, as the adrenaline rush is reducing the blood supply to his higher-level brain functions. There are some vary good videos & books by Geoff Thompson dealing with this aspect of self-defence, and in particular how to recognise the moment just before an attack happens.

The best advice (not cowardly, just very sensible) is always to avoid physical confrontation no matter how much goading is taking place, but not to wait until you've been hit before you hit back. Recognise the moment before the attack happens and then attack pre-emptively. Far easier said than done, of course.

Most importantly, never hang about to allow it to kick off again. You may survive one attempted assault, but the next attempt will be far more serious (more assailants, greater level of violence). Life is not like the movies, the bad guys don't attack one-at-a-time.

Be at peace,

Z