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Any 20-25 year olds living away from home?

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  • #32
    danslevent
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 893 ✭✭✭danslevent


    I wish I could move out :(:/


  • #33
    jimmycrackcorm
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,372 ✭✭✭✭jimmycrackcorm


    45 and still living with Mammy. No one can make Irish stew like her..


  • #34
    OPENROAD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,692 ✭✭✭✭OPENROAD


    doovdela wrote: »
    I agree no matter how much you love your parents or how well you get on with them or not, you do tend to get on better with them when you aren't living at home! The relationship gets less strained!

    I love the independence too, lived on my own and lived with people. Prefer to live on my own but I like the bit of company so both are equally good in their own way but I do like my own space too!

    Personally wouldn't agree


  • #35
    Icyseanfitz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,571 ✭✭✭Icyseanfitz


    Acoshla wrote: »
    I was the same, my mother and father had a high enough joint income on paper that I got no grant, the fact that my parents are separated and Dad drinks his income while my mother also supports her father didn't matter, couldn't get a penny.

    this country does my head in at times, id like nothing more than to be out by myself earning a living but i cant get no help to do that, whereas jim scumbag who lives off the dole and doesnt want to do anything with his life seems to get everything :mad:


  • #36
    mackg
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    24 out of home since 18, independent since 20. Paid for college myself when I went back, my independence is important to me but I'm not so proud that I wouldn't ask for help if I really needed it. Thankfully up to this point I haven't.
    Whatever works for you is what you should do but I don't understand the live at home until you marry and replace your mammy with your wife school of thinking.


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  • #37
    T2daK
    Closed Accounts Posts: 328 ✭✭T2daK


    "Until you move out of the nest and support yourself, people will see you as a boy, not a man"


  • #38
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    OPENROAD wrote: »
    Personally wouldn't agree

    Really. For me it does. Its like when living at home for a year after leaving home for a few years and you come back and like not much to say when at home things get strained but at least if I had my own routine, working or studying and living away from home I have more to talk about and get on better with my mother cause its a case I haven't seen you in a few days but now I say if leave home again, my mother be lucky to see me once a week or every few weeks. Even once a month. 'Cause we are getting sick of each other. I don't like the fact she so nosey and watching me like a hawk, who you talking to where you going as if I were a teenager. Drives me up the wall. I can't do much without getting the third degree.


  • #39
    Abi
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    I was fired out of the house at about 17. Strict mothership + rebellious headstrong me was never going to work out. I matured early, met a long term then bf, and she couldn't handle that. As a result I did everything in my life arse about face, it sent me in a direction I'd regret.

    Always try to reason with a teenager rather than fight, they're more likely to make better life choices, instead of rebelling in every way they can think of.

    I wasn't even at 'home' @ 20-25. Throughout my teens and twenties I cant say with conviction that I've ever 'partied'. I got a weekends / whenever holidays came up job a at 16, from then on I wanted to be independant, and had a boyfriend that was serious about it. Everything in my life was in the fast lane, and I'll be still mopping up the mess for a couple of years.

    *tosses keys*

    Lime to the left. shovel to the right.


  • #40
    T2daK
    Closed Accounts Posts: 328 ✭✭T2daK


    doovdela wrote: »
    Really. For me it does. Its like when living at home for a year after leaving home for a few years and you come back and like not much to say when at home things get strained but at least if I had my own routine, working or studying and living away from home I have more to talk about and get on better with my mother cause its a case I haven't seen you in a few days but now I say if leave home again, my mother be lucky to see me once a week or every few weeks. Even once a month. 'Cause we are getting sick of each other. I don't like the fact she so nosey and watching me like a hawk, who you talking to where you going as if I were a teenager. Drives me up the wall. I can't do much without getting the third degree.

    I am not alone thank god


  • #41
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    mackg wrote: »
    Whatever works for you is what you should do but I don't understand the live at home until you marry and replace your mammy with your wife school of thinking.

    I think those days are long gone. Just that a lot of partners/married couples end up living with parents until they get a house sorted or when income is a factor.
    Same applies to those single often can't afford a place of their own or income is a factor for them.


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  • #42
    HUNK
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    Wish I could move out. Knowing me, it would be stressful as fnck. But in the end I need to be dragged away from home out of my comfort zone where I will be forced to work for everything and become independent. It would do me a world of good.

    ...well that, and my family is pretty fncking annoying.


  • #43
    phasers
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    I couldn't afford to live alone, and the idea of roommates disgusts me. I like living at home, my parents are cool. Plus they need the money my brothers and I hand up tbh.

    My Sister moved out at 17, and she came back at least 6 times for varying amounts of time. it wrecked my head, get out and stay out ffs.


  • #44
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    Abi wrote: »
    I was fired out of the house at about 17. Strict mothership + rebellious headstrong me was never going to work out. I matured early, met a long term then bf, and she couldn't handle that. As a result I did everything in my life arse about face, it sent me in a direction I'd regret.

    Always try to reason with a teenager rather than fight, they're more likely to make better life choices, instead of rebelling in every way they can think of.

    I wasn't even at 'home' @ 20-25. Throughout my teens and twenties I cant say with conviction that I've ever 'partied'. I got a weekends / whenever holidays came up job a at 16, from then on I wanted to be independant, and had a boyfriend that was serious about it. Everything in my life was in the fast lane, and I'll be still mopping up the mess for a couple of years.

    *tosses keys*

    Lime to the left. shovel to the right.

    It's those who grow up early and mature tend to leave the nest early!? Really for those who feel like going out into the real world and making a life for themselves. I am exempting college students in this case cause they leave home to study not necessary go out in the real world as such or go out working but they do gradually mature as years go by not saying that they don't or won't but won't really mature and go out in the real world and fend for themselves properly until the leave college.


  • #45
    mackg
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    doovdela wrote: »
    I think those days are long gone. Just that a lot of partners/married couples end up living with parents until they get a house sorted or when income is a factor.
    Same applies to those single often can't afford a place of their own or income is a factor for them.

    Not as prominent no doubt but I still know of a few people my age who went this route.


  • #46
    Acoshla
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,729 ✭✭✭Acoshla


    mackg wrote: »
    I don't understand the live at home until you marry and replace your mammy with your wife school of thinking.
    doovdela wrote: »
    I think those days are long gone.

    Nope! I know a 34 year old who lives with his parents, has never moved out, first time doing so will be when he gets married next month!


  • #47
    OPENROAD
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    doovdela wrote: »
    Really. For me it does. Its like when living at home for a year after leaving home for a few years and you come back and like not much to say when at home things get strained but at least if I had my own routine, working or studying and living away from home I have more to talk about and get on better with my mother cause its a case I haven't seen you in a few days but now I say if leave home again, my mother be lucky to see me once a week or every few weeks. Even once a month. 'Cause we are getting sick of each other. I don't like the fact she so nosey and watching me like a hawk, who you talking to where you going as if I were a teenager. Drives me up the wall. I can't do much without getting the third degree.

    Yup, definitely, my mum is my best friend, have always lived at home bar a couple of summers in London during college, always had my own independence also. Was still living at home at 29 when my mum got ill,8 years later, still at home, I'm a full time carer for her, I'm not sure I would have left home even if she hadn't got ill. Will never know though.


  • #48
    Redonblonde
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 60 ✭✭Redonblonde


    Moved out when I was 20...Always had a job in the summer to pay rent, bills and food. I worked in college too, about 160 per week was enough to cover my rent (70€) plus food, bills is cheaper when you live off Lidl and you live with other people/ boyfriend.

    Having said that I don't drink much and new clothes were a rarity as nothing tends to fit me and tears ensue.


  • #49
    starlit
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    Acoshla wrote: »
    Nope! I know a 34 year old who lives with his parents, has never moved out, first time doing so will be when he gets married next month!

    You serious? I say its the case of a 'kid-adult syndrome'!? Why he waiting till marriage before moving out of home is it under certain circumstances or is it that his parents are very religious or has certain values/principles or it just never happened and suited him to be at home for length of time? It be a hard adjustment! Think its better living on your own and live with a couple different people over time before committing to a partner/marrying them before moving in with them. I heard of someone who didn't leave home till 31 but couldn't manage living away from home yet they were only down the road from their own home they ended up moving back home again after 6 months!


  • #50
    Acoshla
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    doovdela wrote: »
    You serious? I say its the case of a 'kid-adult syndrome'!? Why he waiting till marriage before moving out of home is it under certain circumstances or is it that his parents are very religious or has certain values/principles or it just never happened and suited him to be at home for length of time?

    Parents would be quite old fashioned, I'd say the mammy looks after him fairly well, he's the youngest of a big enough family, younger by a good few years so he is her baby. He's been with the fiancée 6 years, and they've never lived together, I would no more marry someone without living with them!!


  • #51
    starlit
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    Acoshla wrote: »
    Parents would be quite old fashioned, I'd say the mammy looks after him fairly well, he's the youngest of a big enough family, younger by a good few years so he is her baby. He's been with the fiancée 6 years, and they've never lived together, I would no more marry someone without living with them!!

    Wow, most people I know lived with their partners a few years before they got married I know one were together 5 years before they got married but they shared a house for a couple of months while they were engaged so they did get a chance to live together before getting married at least.
    Ya I can imagine having old fashioned parents would want the youngest to live at home for a while before getting married. There have been couples who were together 8 years even more than 10 years and they all lived with their partners before getting married!


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  • #52
    Tayla
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    pragmatic1 wrote: »
    How the hell did you manage to buy a house at 18. Its people like you that I made a thread about.

    Myself and my partner bought it, it wasn't our intention to buy a house so early but a family member was moving and decided to sell the house at a much reduced price so it was too good an offer to pass up.

    We're not in negative equity and the mortgage is less than what rent would cost us so I don't know what thread you are referring to but i'm sure I don't fit that criteria.


  • #53
    phasers
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    Tayla wrote: »
    Myself and my partner bought it, it wasn't our intention to buy a house so early but a family member was moving and decided to sell the house at a much reduced price so it was too good an offer to pass up.

    We're not in negative equity and the mortgage is less than what rent would cost us so I don't know what thread you are referring to but i'm sure I don't fit that criteria.
    I think he means his thread about Afrocentric/militant hip hop


  • #54
    Tayla
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,158 ✭✭✭Tayla


    phasers wrote: »
    I think he means his thread about Afrocentric/militant hip hop


    Ah I thought it was going to be a mean thread.

    And also I take it back, I do fit the criteria!


  • #55
    carfiosaoorl
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    I moved out on my own at 17 and went through many hard years. Living alone at that age is just hard. I agree that partying is great fun but otherwise the day to day stuff is bleak. I know that all kids want to spread their wings eventually but I will always let mine know that they can stay in my house as long as they like.


  • #56
    Tayla
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,158 ✭✭✭Tayla


    One good thing about moving out when you're a teenager is getting to tell your parents that if they don't like your rules then get the hell out of my house!!


  • #57
    T2daK
    Closed Accounts Posts: 328 ✭✭T2daK


    this thread is half people showing off what age they moved out


  • #58
    later12
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    I moved out of my parents home at 12, was a playboy millionaire by 15, lost it all on black 42 when I was 16. I then lived on the streets and taught myself Irish dancing, becoming a world famous Riverdancer and the inventor of the post-it.

    Like all millionaire playboys, I now spend my days on online message boards gloating about how much more money I have than everyone else.


  • #59
    T2daK
    Closed Accounts Posts: 328 ✭✭T2daK


    later10 wrote: »
    I moved out of my parents home at 12, was a playboy millionaire by 15, lost it all on black 42 when I was 16. I then lived on the streets and taught myself Irish dancing, becoming a world famous Riverdancer and the inventor of the post-it.

    Like all millionaire playboys, I now spend my days on online message boards gloating about how much more money I have than everyone else.

    same here


  • #60
    Tayla
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,158 ✭✭✭Tayla


    T2daK wrote: »
    this thread is half people showing off what age they moved out




    Just because people say they have moved out early doesn't mean they're showing off or they're loaded or whatever, I would have had a lot more money staying living at my parents house however I had to move out when I was young for my own sanity and being broke but having my own space was priceless!

    I have a few friends with the nicest parents and who still live with their parents in their late 20's and have a great life at home, why would they bother to move out?


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  • #61
    amacachi
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    23 soon, still at home. Coupla years of college left and I'm gonna try and save to move down for 4th year. I've seen the kind of places I could get on the budget I would have for this year and I'd rather waste the 3-4 hours a day on commuting tbh.


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