The Rape of Men

curlzy · 18-07-2011 12:06PM #1

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/jul/17/the-rape-of-men

I found this article very interesting as I really had never considered this as a widespread problem for men. I'm not sure why but I thought I'd post this article and see what are your thoughts. Are you surprised? I haven't cut and paste the whole article as it's very long.

FatherLen · 18-07-2011 12:08PM

you find men being raped interesting????

Mr. Denton · 18-07-2011 12:08PM

I'm raped almost every weekend. Woman buys you one drink and then thinks she can have her way with you. :mad:

Mickeroo · 18-07-2011 12:08PM

curlzy wrote: »

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/jul/17/the-rape-of-men

I found this article very interesting as I really had never considered this as a widespread problem for men. I'm not sure why but I thought I'd post this article and see what are your thoughts. Are you surprised? I haven't cut and paste the whole article as it's very long.

Thats about men raping men. I thought you meant women raping men, which is never reported becaus the victims are usually so grateful afterwards.

etymon · 18-07-2011 12:12PM

yeah, have you never been to Coppers?

southsiderosie · 18-07-2011 12:14PM

Jesus Christ, that's the most disturbing article I've read in a long, long time. Sickening.

Killer Pigeon · 18-07-2011 12:15PM

Never trust a woman with a strap-on.

biko · 18-07-2011 12:16PM

Rape has been used by African rebels a long time to punish and demoralise the population.
It's a very effective way to scare people to do what you want.
In Congo and South Africa it could best be described as an epidemic.
Men, women and children, no-one is safe.

"In Africa no man is allowed to be vulnerable," says RLP's gender officer Salome Atim. "You have to be masculine, strong. You should never break down or cry. A man must be a leader and provide for the whole family. When he fails to reach that set standard, society perceives that there is something wrong."

Often, she says, wives who discover their husbands have been raped decide to leave them. "They ask me: 'So now how am I going to live with him? As what? Is this still a husband? Is it a wife?' They ask, 'If he can be raped, who is protecting me?' There's one family I have been working closely with in which the husband has been raped twice. When his wife discovered this, she went home, packed her belongings, picked up their child and left. Of course that brought down this man's heart."

Nodin · 18-07-2011 12:17PM

curlzy wrote: »

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/jul/17/the-rape-of-men

I found this article very interesting as I really had never considered this as a widespread problem for men. I'm not sure why but I thought I'd post this article and see what are your thoughts. Are you surprised? I haven't cut and paste the whole article as it's very long.

I knew it was used in places as a form of torture, but I have to say I found that article "illuminating" as to the extent of it.

tfitzgerald · 18-07-2011 12:19PM

I have to say I read the article and I found it interesting as well but I also found in frightening

MagicSean · 18-07-2011 12:20PM

Mickeroo wrote: »

Thats about men raping men. I thought you meant women raping men, which is never reported becaus the victims are usually so grateful afterwards.

Under Irish law a woman can't rape a man.

azezil · 18-07-2011 12:22PM

I figured it was being used as a form of torcher. Reading that article however made it sound even worse than I'd imagined. Fook :F

Standard Toaster · 18-07-2011 12:24PM

I'm not sure what's more disturbing, the frequency of rape & sexual violence, or the fact that so many male victims are outcast by their own families and communities. Humans are doomed.

mackg · 18-07-2011 12:25PM

3 times a day everyday for 3 years. Surprised he didn't try and top himself tbh.

smash · 18-07-2011 12:27PM

"A study of 6,000 concentration-camp inmates in Sarajevo found that 80% of men reported having been raped."

And I bet the soldiers that did it still consider themselves heterosexual.

Mickeroo · 18-07-2011 12:27PM

Seanbeag1 wrote: »

Under Irish law a woman can't rape a man.

Under Irish law a man can't rape a woman either. :pac:

Lux23 · 18-07-2011 12:27PM

According to the statistics in a report from the RCNI, 5.5% of cases that presented to forensic units in Ireland during 2009 were male. Its a high enough figure considering so many men wouldn't talk about this with their peers or family.

http://www.rcni.ie/uploads/MaleVictimsOfRapeInIrishContext.pdf

People joke about rape in prison all the time but how would a bloke react if his best friend came and told him he had been raped? It would be hard for some I would imagine.

cruiser178 · 18-07-2011 12:33PM

And he wasn't the only one. He watched as man after man was taken and raped. The wounds of one were so grievous that he died in the cell in front of him.

I never thought such a thing could happen, thats stuff of nightmares :eek:

WindSock · 18-07-2011 12:33PM

steve06 wrote: »

"A study of 6,000 concentration-camp inmates in Sarajevo found that 80% of men reported having been raped."

And I bet the soldiers that did it still consider themselves heterosexual.

A man doesn't have to be gay to rape another man.

GLaDOS · 18-07-2011 12:41PM

FatherLen wrote: »

you find men being raped interesting????

I found the article very illuminating

azezil · 18-07-2011 12:41PM

WindSock wrote: »

A man doesn't have to be gay to rape another man.

+1

Rape is not about sex, it's about voilence and imposing your dominance upon another.

krudler · 18-07-2011 12:43PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLWlBgj0uOc

gimmick · 18-07-2011 12:46PM

FatherLen wrote: »

you find men being raped interesting????

Mr. Denton wrote: »

I'm raped almost every weekend. Woman buys you one drink and then thinks she can have her way with you. :mad:

Mickeroo wrote: »

Thats about men raping men. I thought you meant women raping men, which is never reported becaus the victims are usually so grateful afterwards.

etymon wrote: »

yeah, have you never been to Coppers?

Killer Pigeon wrote: »

Never trust a woman with a strap-on.

Aww, bless. None of ye got any thanks for your hilarious inputs :rolleyes:

Mickeroo · 18-07-2011 12:49PM

gimmick wrote: »

Aww, bless. None of ye got any thianks for your hilarious inputs :rolleyes:

Yea, lousy eh?

WindSock · 18-07-2011 12:54PM

azezil wrote: »

+1

Rape is not about sex, it's about voilence and imposing your dominance upon another.

And its kinda where the fundamental problem lays with dealing with male rape in Africa. People assume that homosexuality is involved, or the cause and as it is a major taboo that means the issue won't get addressed.

Men get raped because of homosexuality, so let's make homosexuality illegal...

curlzy · 18-07-2011 01:02PM

Ok, I must admit I had a secondary motive for posting the link. I was curious to see if posters would find any humour in male rape, they seem to always find humour in the rape of females. I'm happy to see that it's not sexism/misogyny that prompts them to make these jokes (as there's jokes on this thread too), it's just crappy taste in jokes

. Also just want to say that's not an attack on the jokers, this is After Hours after all and poor taste in jokes is to be expected.

barone · 18-07-2011 01:04PM

Back at RLP I'm told about the other ways in which their clients have been made to suffer. Men aren't simply raped, they are forced to penetrate holes in banana trees that run with acidic sap, to sit with their genitals over a fire, to drag rocks tied to their penis, to give oral sex to queues of soldiers, to be penetrated with screwdrivers and sticks. Atim has now seen so many male survivors that, frequently, she can spot them the moment they sit down. "They tend to lean forward and will often sit on one buttock," she tells me. "When they cough, they grab their lower regions. At times, they will stand up and there's blood on the chair. And they often have some kind of smell."

thats some sick stuff,ive seen docu's on the congo but nothing this extreme,that article is an eye opener.

feel so sorry for all affected.

here is the documentary made

http://vimeo.com/10430187

LightningBolt · 18-07-2011 01:08PM

Genuinely felt ill reading that article, not because of the fact that the victims were male but more how the acts themselves were described.

The most interesting part I found was the aid agencies attitudes towards male rape. It seems from the article written that the vast majority of aid directed towards rape victims is intended to provide support for female victims only.

triseke · 18-07-2011 01:09PM

southsiderosie wrote: »

Jesus Christ, that's the most disturbing article I've read in a long, long time. Sickening.

Couldn't agree more. Its awful.

Mickeroo · 18-07-2011 01:16PM

curlzy wrote: »

Ok, I must admit I had a secondary motive for posting the link. I was curious to see if posters would find any humour in male rape, they seem to always find humour in the rape of females. I'm happy to see that it's not sexism/misogyny that prompts them to make these jokes (as there's jokes on this thread too), it's just crappy taste in jokes . Also just want to say that's not an attack on the jokers, this is After Hours after all and poor taste in jokes is to be expected.

I find humour in everything, meh. :pac:

(tha dave chapelle vid is hilarious)

Kotek Besar · 18-07-2011 01:21PM

WindSock wrote: »

A man doesn't have to be gay to rape another man.

You've gotta be at least little bi-curious, to stick your knob up another man's bum. Surely?

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