how well did you your parents know you as a teen?

cynder · 16-06-2011 04:51PM #1

how well did your parents know you as a teen?

Im all grown up now with kids of my own but my parents hardly knew me. I told them nothing about what was going on in my life. How about you?

At this point in time my 11 year old tells me everything but im sure that will change over the teen years.

timelessone · 16-06-2011 04:59PM

''hardley'' is spelt ''hardly''.

Kevin Duffy · 16-06-2011 04:59PM

I might ask my parents what the thread title means, it made my eyes go a bit funny.

Auvers · 16-06-2011 05:00PM

timelessone wrote: »

''hardley'' is spelt ''hardly''.

ffs

cynder · 16-06-2011 05:01PM

timelessone wrote: »

''hardley'' is spelt ''hardly''.

Can i use you as a spell checker from now on?

dammmmmmmm typos

chin_grin · 16-06-2011 05:01PM

Auvers wrote: »

for f*ck sake

FYP :pac:

Kylo Ren · 16-06-2011 05:03PM

Well this has started well....

stovelid · 16-06-2011 05:03PM

Cut to the chase.

You suspect that they;re doing yokes/drinking and want advice.

iamwhoiam · 16-06-2011 05:05PM

grindelwald wrote: »

how well did your parents know you as a teen?

Im all grown up now with kids of my own but my parents hardly knew me. I told them nothing about what was going on in my life. How about you?

At this point in time my 11 year old tells me everything but im sure that will change over the teen years.

How do you know ? I bet he / she doesnt ,:p

Seachmall · 16-06-2011 05:07PM

11? Have they started getting teh sechs? Shouldn't be long now...

I told my parents most things when I was a teen, the things I didn't tell them I'm pretty sure they knew anyway.

themadchef · 16-06-2011 05:11PM

iamwhoiam wrote: »

How do you know ? I bet he / she doesnt ,:p

Christ at 11? I was still rolling down grass banks with my mates till we thought we were going to get sick. Not getting up to mischief. Different world now i guess.

Wasint let to a disco till i was 16, worked like a slave all Summer to pay my way and if ididint tell my parents everything they'd have heard it elsewhere why? Because they wernt beered up and leaving us to our own devices at the weekends. They were hand on and in everything. She made it her business to know where i was and who i was with.

There is nothing, and i mean nothing i couldint tell my mother then and the same stands true today.

decisions · 16-06-2011 05:15PM

My parents still think I tell them everything.
Havent done that since I was 10 :pac:

iamwhoiam · 16-06-2011 05:16PM

themadchef wrote: »

Christ at 11? I was still rolling down grass banks with my mates till we thought we were going to get sick. Not getting up to mischief. Different world now i guess.

Wasint let to a disco till i was 16, worked like a slave all Summer to pay my way and if ididint tell my parents everything they'd have heard it elsewhere why? Because they wernt beered up and leaving us to our own devices at the weekends. They were hand on and in everything. She made it her business to know where i was and who i was with.

There is nothing, and i mean nothing i couldint tell my mother then and the same stands true today.

Why does everyone assume I mean that the 11 year old is up to no good? I didnt even imply it . I simply think that to say they tell you everything is naive .Every kid does mischief or things they shouldnt or messing or simply little things they dont tell .I grew up a long time ago , we were innocent and free but even at 11 I didnt tell that I would climb up the cliffs and hang off the edge .!
Mostly we find out and mosly we know but they dont tell everything .

old hippy · 16-06-2011 05:18PM

I tell my parents even less these days :eek:

flutterflye · 16-06-2011 05:24PM

Pretty soon everywhere he/she says they're going (the cinema, a mates house, McDonalds, school) will actually mean hanging around some street corner with a group of boys/girls doing things they shouldn't.

Midnight_EG · 16-06-2011 05:26PM

chin_grin wrote: »

Auvers wrote: »

for fuck sake

FYP :pac:

FYP

cosmicfart · 16-06-2011 05:30PM

me and the folks use to get butt naked out the back during the summer drinking flaggings of cider blasting out tha tunes with loads of smokes and yokes doing tha rounds, ah good times!

cynder · 16-06-2011 05:31PM

iamwhoiam wrote: »

How do you know ? I bet he / she doesnt ,:p

Thats one of the reasons i opened the thread....

im invisible · 16-06-2011 05:40PM

Midnight_EG wrote: »

chin_grin wrote: »

Auvers wrote: »

for fuck sake

FYP :pac:

Fixed Your Post

For Your Pleasure:cool:

TheZohanS · 16-06-2011 05:43PM

grindelwald wrote: »

how well did your parents know you as a teen?

Im all grown up now with kids of my own but my parents hardly knew me. I told them nothing about what was going on in my life. How about you?

At this point in time my 11 year old tells me everything but im sure that will change over the teen years.

I was having a great day...'til now...

OP how about you spare a thought for those of us that were adopted and never knew our parents.

iamwhoiam · 16-06-2011 05:43PM

grindelwald wrote: »

Thats one of the reasons i opened the thread....

Well , having been there a few times and infact been 11 myself I think there are things they dont tell .Not awful things but little messings, or sometimes to protect you .They might have bother in school or on the road and wont say cos you get upset . I know I did things at 11 that I would be horrified if mine did, ie cycling down hills, teasing swans , walking over ice etc etc .!! And I am sure mine did too at some stage and didnt come tell me .

cynder · 16-06-2011 05:46PM

TheZohan wrote: »

I was having a great day...'til now...

OP how about you spare a thought for those of us that were adopted and never knew our parents.

Sorry,

but what about your guardians did you tell them everything?

Elmidena · 16-06-2011 05:47PM

My dad didn't know too much, but used to tell Mum quite a bit. What I didn't tell her eventually came out anyway one way or the other, so I'd say fairly well overall.... though nobody seems to be actually answering this properly =s

cynder · 16-06-2011 05:49PM

I dont expect to be told everything, however she does tell me a lot now, like who she likes in school, and that a boy kissed her, she had a few boyfriends (that lasted no longer than 3 day), childish stuff really, but she tells me. The time to worry is when it stops being childish.

Seachmall · 16-06-2011 05:51PM

grindelwald wrote: »

I dont expect to be told everything, however she does tell me a lot now, like who she likes in school, and that a boy kissed her, she had a few boyfriends (that lasted no longer than 3 day), childish stuff really, but she tells me. The time to worry is when it stops being childish.

She'll have smoked her first cigarette by 14.
She'll have had her first drink by 15.
She'll have been stoned by 16.
She'll have had sex by 18.

You're welcome.

Abi · 16-06-2011 05:59PM

grindelwald wrote: »

At this point in time my 11 year old tells me everything but im sure that will change over the teen years.

Try to maintain that grindel, peer-pressure may send them down some roads and having a parent that they can talk to will be invaluable to them. You can guide them through stuff they might want to talk about but are afraid their friends will laugh at them if they're honest.

My Dad is a cool guy, but I never really would have approached him about anything because I felt he was fine being a dad, but mothers were for advice. I still perceive him this way and I'm in my thirties. Then there was my mother, no you couldn't really talk to her about anything. She was strict, and never really had a childhood / teenage years as she was treated harshly growing up. As a result, they would have known very little about me as a teenager, and I have to say it would have been nice to be able to have a chat with them about stuff.

I've watched parents of my friends balling screaming and shouting at them over stuff, believe me you get no where dealing with a teenager in that way. All it does is builds up resentment, and closes up the lines of communication between parent and son / daughter.

I think it's great that you're asking about this, and looking for the best way to handle things Grindle, in my house it was 'my way or the high-way' with my parents. If they can't talk to you, then they'll be forced to make choices on their own or that their friends have made.

Stay approachable and hear them out, then guide / offer advice and experience

im invisible · 16-06-2011 06:02PM

Seachmall wrote: »

She'll have smoked her first cigarette by 14.
She'll have had her first drink by 15.
She'll have been stoned by 16.
She'll have had sex by 18.

You're welcome.

what about piercings and/or tattoos?

Seachmall · 16-06-2011 06:04PM

im invisible wrote: »

what about piercings and/or tattoos?

She's 11, she could probably blend in with the Hell's Angels at this stage.

cynder · 16-06-2011 06:12PM

Haha, my mother was a hells angel...... During her teen years....

we also allow her to have a small glass of wine or west coast cooler so drink won't be too tempting later on..... I hope I've taught her enough about drugs though. Think she has a good head on her shoulders for that part.

--LOS-- · 16-06-2011 06:22PM

no and they know less now

Aoifey! · 16-06-2011 06:38PM

My parents thought they knew me, but they didn't.

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