Spanking

orchidsrpretty wrote: »

I have great memories or being chased by my mum with a wooden spoon around the house, the fun we used to have:rolleyes: She always ended up breaking the spoon off the kitchen counter in frustration when she couldn't catch me. My sister also has a imprint on a brush on her arm from childhood when my mum belted her with the brush. Didn't do us any harm, I think people are too PC nowadays. I don't hold it against my mum either, we were brats.

How is being against spanking PC. That phrase gets used way to much.

krudler wrote: »

I remember being in Dunnes one day a few years ago and a kid, who couldnt have been more than 4 or 5 was standing next to his mother and staring at the sweet counter, he reached over to pick up a bar or something and accidentally knocked a small stack of chewing gum or something like that, he even went "uh oh" and the cashier laughed, but his bitch of a mother grabbed him and punched him, not slapped, punched him square in the back of the head and screamed at him to not do stuff like that. Everyone around was shocked as she dragged the poor little guy away while he was roaring crying and the cashier looked close to tears herself. people like that make me fcuking sick, you do not punch kids. Couldnt help but think if that "uh oh" was more of a "I'm going to get a battering for this" expression from him.

**** like this gets to me.

Kids are gonna be kids. Now if he was screaming all over the place and refusing to shut the **** up like some kids so, a firm telling off and maybe a slap on the arse (not by my book though) would have been in order.

But kids knock **** over. These things happen.

I've also witnessed kids, the minute when they do something wrong in their parents presence automatically recoil to avoid the slap they just KNOW is coming. Sickening when you really think about the psychology behind it...

Get the very odd slap on the arse from a wooden spoon from my mother alright, could probably count them all on two hands. Contrary to the above, did it stop me doing the same thing again? Yes, you're damn right it did. That doesn't mean I didn't do other stuff that got me a smack but I definitely did not do the same things again after a wooden spoon.

The biggest weapon in her arsenal tough was threatening us with my father (although he was the gentle giant and never lifted as much as a little finger). The wooden spoon was bad but the thought of him coming after me with it was much worse :pac:

Dudess wrote: »

There can be a scenario where the child is being impossible, every non physical disciplinary method is attempted, the parent is at their wits' end, and they give the child a light slap on the bum/leg/hand/arm - and they hate doing it and feel like sh1t about it, but there is no other way to get through to the child who is being extremely badly behaved and would get "Little ****ing bastard" comments from many here.

It's disingenuous - actually ridiculous - to liken the above to cruelty, which involves beatings, torture, humiliation and a general domestic culture of fear.

Don't think anyone was, it was the example of a child dropping something and wincing waiting to be hit.

Jaysus, I hated the wooden spoon.

As for spanking:
"Some girls do, some girls don't".

Dudess wrote: »

There can be a scenario where the child is being impossible, every non physical disciplinary method is attempted, the parent is at their wits' end, and they give the child a light slap on the bum/leg/hand/arm - and they hate doing it and feel like sh1t about it, but there is no other way to get through to the child who is being extremely badly behaved and would get "Little ****ing bastard" comments from many here.

It's disingenuous - actually ridiculous - to liken the above to cruelty, which involves beatings, torture, humiliation and a general domestic culture of fear.

No ones talking about parents that occassionally give their kids a little smack when all other options have been exhausted. Its parents that use smaking regularly and are excessive.

That teaches kids that its ok to be violent to get what you want, even if the person you're hitting is much smaller than you. Also, you should respect authority figures who hit you.

Was never slapped or hit in any way by my parents. They thought it was wrong. Yeah my parents were quite progressive for Irish parents in many ways and I love them for that.
And I was a good kid, didn't turn into a spoiled brat and I grew up to be a pretty well adjusted adult. Or at least I think so

Don't have kids myself-child free by choice so maybe my opinion doesn't count for much- but I don't believe in parental corporal punishment in any form.
Lazy parenting and there's evidence that it does cause behavioral and cognitive problems in the child.

I would favour an outright ban as it is in other countries like Sweden, Denmark, Austria and a number of others.

My Parents would hit me when I was acting up. If my dad was really pissed off though he'd use his belt or something. My mom used the damn wooded spoon which killed on the knuckles.
But my Dad could often get carried away, he even boxed me in the face once and left me with a black eye(not a bad one though). But he'd always apologise later on when he'd calm down. Then anger in him would just take over though. He be caught up in it.
I was quite the troublesome lad at times,
but if I had kids I like to think I won't be hitting them - period.
There's better ways to punish kid in my opinion.
Hitting them just makes them angry and resent you.

I read the thread title, thought this is the thread for me!

Then I read the OP

/exits

funny that this thread came up actually because only last week i slapped my 4 y/o for the first time - i felt like s'hit afterwards because, in fairness, I did kind of slap him in anger ...however, i dont regret it and i think in the long run he wont reoffend.

basically, he was just being a little s'hit for ages, was fighting with his sister and every time that evening i tried to disipline him for his transgressions he made faces at me and laughed. i came in to the sitting room to find him jumping all over his sister with her crying and i told him that was it, he was being made stay in the other room. he started jumkping around going 'meh meh meh' at me and sticking his tongue out etc. i just saw red, grabbed his hand and gave him 2 sharp slaps across the back of it.

he went wild with crying (guess the shock of being slapped for the first time is fairly intense) - but in fairness when he calmed down we had a chat and he knew why he got it, he apologised and i told him i dont like slapping him but he was being exceptionally bold. i've reminded him since that a slap can be administered if he goes overboard and it's put him in his place quick enough.

the moral of the story...desperate times call for desperate measures. nothing was working any more, this got his attention fair quick and he hasn't forgotten it. if a kid's scared of nothing else (naughty step, up to his room, TV turned off or whatever) then it's time to step it up a notch...as badly as i'd like not to.

Dudess wrote: »

We get it: you're really sexy and horny and kinky and stuff. So you say on the net anyway...

I like it when Dudess is angry.