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Spanking

  • 30-05-2011 2:54pm
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    I got slapped by my parents up to about 12 years of age, it was always on the bum, never too hard. It was the actual humiliating of it that hurt me more than the pain!!!
    But it didn't do me any harm and was ony administered if I was cheeky.
    My mam always threatened me with the wooden spoon or washing my mouth out with soap and water.
    An ex gf got spanked by her mother up to 18. Yes it is true. On the bum but also across the face if she was cheeky. I witnessed on such incident and grabbed her mother's arm as she attempted to slap her a second time.
    I agree that parents should discipline their children with a smack if necessary.
    But they should never abuse their children with a hard spanking.
    Many parents don't really have any interest in their kids these days and therefore their children have no discipline.
    But that's not their fault, it is the fault of the parents.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,751 Saila
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    only the bollox could have posted this thread
    6 years ago :eek:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 389 LisaLee
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    I would get a slap on the arse or on the back of the leg if I was misbehaving.

    I always got one warning, if I chose to act the maggot then I got a slap.

    Physical discipline isn't necessarily wrong, as long as it's controlled. There is a big difference between physically disciplining your child and physical abuse.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,296 Frank Black
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    I was often beaten as a child and I can honestly say that other than the occasional headache and mild double vision it's had no effect on me what-so-ever.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,295 Duggy747
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    The wooden spoon was the most powerful weapon in any Irish Mammy's arsenal.

    I don't get Vietnam-esque flashbacks from being smacked and understood why I'd get hit. Being a little shìt was why so I don't see why people are so horrified with physical discipline (Not to be confused with actually battering your child, that's just abuse beyond words)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 stovelid
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    Yeah I was. In some ways, the received orthodoxy when I was a kid was almost that you had to smack kids for fear of them turning out bad. Now it seems to have swung in the other direction where even the thought of light smacking means a child will grow up brutalized and violent.

    I would hardly ever do it to my kids (boys) and the odd time I have it would have just been a smack on the arse as a last resort.

    That said, it's my right to do it if I please and I do find the hand-wringing that goes on about it a little OTT.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,745 laugh
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    Belted while standing on tippy toes army style.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 stovelid
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    Shit. Didn't see that it was a zombie thread.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,547 Agricola
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    I think I was, one time only though. There was always a real threat of violence from the mammy, (she was, and still is) a ferocious character! but she never really acted on it. I knew to never test her though.

    I think in some cases it is needed. My 21yr old cousin was always a little princess growing up. Her whole childhood was a case of being fawned over by my aunt and uncle and giving them endless lip and tantrums in return. Shes grown into a right cow that would go through ya for a shortcut, feckin vicious! Me mother always maintains thats where her parents went wrong, let her off with way too much and now they've created a monster.

    Never too old for a batturin' I say!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 stovelid
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    amywise9 wrote: »
    An ex gf got spanked by her mother up to 18. Yes it is true..

    Was the mother hot?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,725 charlemont
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    ..You'll get shanked and spanked and alley-ooped
    I admire true niggas like Dre and Snoop


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 717 Noodleworm
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    I think its a bit too easy to hit a child out of anger or frustration, and justify it by calling it a punishment.
    I don't want to loose my temper that way so I think I'd use other methods.
    The best way is apparently to praise a child when their really good and refuse to acknowledge them when their bad as they crave attention, but you really need patience of a saint to do that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,447 richymcdermott
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    I laughed before clicking this thread all i seen was spanking the bollox :pac::pac:


  • Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 35,945 dr.bollocko
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    Saila wrote: »
    only the bollox could have posted this thread
    6 years ago :eek:
    stovelid wrote: »
    Shit. Didn't see that it was a zombie thread.

    You're both clearly mental.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,128 Oranage2
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    Darnit - was hoping this thread was about BDSM


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,573 pragmatic1
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    Got hammered, belts and all. Didnt teach me a single thing. Doesnt work and is a bit twisted.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,001 opinion guy
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    In my opinion the associated guilt trip that was laid down was far more damaging than the slaps themselves


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,806 KeithM89_old
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    Never got spanked (by my parents :pac:), usually got a good solid boot to the face if i was bold.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,575 FlutterinBantam
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    Hmmm ..........bit disappointed with this thread.

    Was out in Rathfarnham taking out the folks from work, The Orchard was the name of the place.

    Hit on this cougar who, in fairness, after a few Malibu was 'up for it' , drippin' like a George Foreman grill.

    She took to the Flutt big time, and took a ride in the chariot to a casa near the Yellow House.

    Bitch has a set of spanks on her which were welded in .Tight as a worm's belt.

    The effort wasn't worth it , despite the flapping of elastic I lost interest and fcuked off home.

    Those fcuking Spanks should be banned.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,293 Mint Sauce
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    I got a good slap the odd time into my teens. I really was a little bollocks at times.

    Did me no harm at all.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 856 Karona
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    Got threatened and hit by the wooden sppon a couple of times. I also got a slap on the bum if i was being bold.

    My mother even went as far as packing my bags for the orphanage before i begged her to let me stay and that i would be good.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,674 Dangerous Man
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    All you people now have sexual issues.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,023 Fukuyama
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    Physical discipline is outdated. It should be reserved for animals now.

    Although it's necessary to draw a line between physical discipline and beating a child. A slap on the arse is not about hurting the child - but reaffirming they've done wrong. Kinds have the attention span of a squirrel with rabis ... a pat on the arse does the trick I guess.

    Still not a fan though - but I'll admit there's nothing wrong with it (up to the age of 10 or 11 that is).

    Talking to your kid and really giving them a wearing down with words is better. I was on the harsher end of the scale as a kid - didn't teach me diddly squat.

    Slapping is just lazy parenting IMO.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,023 Fukuyama
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    Hmmm ..........bit disappointed with this thread.

    Was out in Rathfarnham taking out the folks from work, The Orchard was the name of the place.

    Hit on this cougar who, in fairness, after a few Malibu was 'up for it' , drippin' like a George Foreman grill.

    She took to the Flutt big time, and took a ride in the chariot to a casa near the Yellow House.

    Bitch has a set of spanks on her which were welded in .Tight as a worm's belt.

    The effort wasn't worth it , despite the flapping of elastic I lost interest and fcuked off home.

    Those fcuking Spanks should be banned.

    I laughed so hard at this.

    Very well written. I don't even care if it's true! :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,023 Fukuyama
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    irish-stew wrote: »
    I got a good slap the odd time into my teens. I really was a little bollocks at times.

    Did me no harm at all.

    Did it do you any good though?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,148 orchidsrpretty
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    I have great memories or being chased by my mum with a wooden spoon around the house, the fun we used to have:rolleyes: She always ended up breaking the spoon off the kitchen counter in frustration when she couldn't catch me. My sister also has a imprint on a brush on her arm from childhood when my mum belted her with the brush. Didn't do us any harm, I think people are too PC nowadays. I don't hold it against my mum either, we were brats.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,620 enfant terrible
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    amywise9 wrote: »
    I got slapped by my parents up to about 12 years of age, it was always on the bum, never too hard. It was the actual humiliating of it that hurt me more than the pain!!!

    Its payback time.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 krudler
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    Dean0088 wrote: »
    Did it do you any good though?

    thats the bigger issue tbh, people can say "never did me any harm" all they want, but did a slap on the arse prevent them from acting the bollocks ever again? did it hell. slapping is just lazy parenting, also kids being slapped for just being kids gets on my wick no end, if a child is being an outright little fcuker and you've exhausted other means of discipline then ok, a slap on the arse wont kill it, but chances are it wont stop it from doing it again either.

    I remember being in Dunnes one day a few years ago and a kid, who couldnt have been more than 4 or 5 was standing next to his mother and staring at the sweet counter, he reached over to pick up a bar or something and accidentally knocked a small stack of chewing gum or something like that, he even went "uh oh" and the cashier laughed, but his bitch of a mother grabbed him and punched him, not slapped, punched him square in the back of the head and screamed at him to not do stuff like that. Everyone around was shocked as she dragged the poor little guy away while he was roaring crying and the cashier looked close to tears herself. people like that make me fcuking sick, you do not punch kids. Couldnt help but think if that "uh oh" was more of a "I'm going to get a battering for this" expression from him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 krudler
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    I have great memories or being chased by my mum with a wooden spoon around the house, the fun we used to have:rolleyes: She always ended up breaking the spoon off the kitchen counter in frustration when she couldn't catch me. My sister also has a imprint on a brush on her arm from childhood when my mum belted her with the brush. Didn't do us any harm, I think people are too PC nowadays. I don't hold it against my mum either, we were brats.

    really? :confused:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 587 fat__tony
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    I laughed before clicking this thread all i seen was spanking the bollox :pac::pac:

    i thought it'd be about spanking the monkey. :(


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,620 enfant terrible
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    krudler wrote: »
    thats the bigger issue tbh, people can say "never did me any harm" all they want, but did a slap on the arse prevent them from acting the bollocks ever again? did it hell. slapping is just lazy parenting, also kids being slapped for just being kids gets on my wick no end, if a child is being an outright little fcuker and you've exhausted other means of discipline then ok, a slap on the arse wont kill it, but chances are it wont stop it from doing it again either.

    I remember being in Dunnes one day a few years ago and a kid, who couldnt have been more than 4 or 5 was standing next to his mother and staring at the sweet counter, he reached over to pick up a bar or something and accidentally knocked a small stack of chewing gum or something like that, he even went "uh oh" and the cashier laughed, but his bitch of a mother grabbed him and punched him, not slapped, punched him square in the back of the head and screamed at him to not do stuff like that. Everyone around was shocked as she dragged the poor little guy away while he was roaring crying and the cashier looked close to tears herself. people like that make me fcuking sick, you do not punch kids. Couldnt help but think if that "uh oh" was more of a "I'm going to get a battering for this" expression from him.

    Ya the Irish mentality towards kids is pretty bad.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,573 pragmatic1
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    I have great memories or being chased by my mum with a wooden spoon around the house, the fun we used to have:rolleyes: She always ended up breaking the spoon off the kitchen counter in frustration when she couldn't catch me. My sister also has a imprint on a brush on her arm from childhood when my mum belted her with the brush. Didn't do us any harm, I think people are too PC nowadays. I don't hold it against my mum either, we were brats.


    How is being against spanking PC. That phrase gets used way to much.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,015 Mc Love
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    The wooden spoon - the greatest invention ever in the fight against brazen children.

    Me and my sister got it when we were younger, my parents got worse (belt/stick etc) and turned out ok.

    A lot of kids these days (even teenagers should have gotten smacked) should be smacked, the naughty step/corner is a load of tosh!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,032 DWCommuter
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    Noodleworm wrote: »
    The best way is apparently to praise a child when their really good and refuse to acknowledge them when their bad as they crave attention, but you really need patience of a saint to do that.

    Yes you need a lot of patience, but it does actually work.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,023 Fukuyama
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    Mc Love wrote: »
    The wooden spoon - the greatest invention ever in the fight against brazen children.

    Me and my sister got it when we were younger, my parents got worse (belt/stick etc) and turned out ok.

    A lot of kids these days (even teenagers should have gotten smacked) should be smacked, the naughty step/corner is a load of tosh!

    Any kind of thinking behind that other than 'Sure 'tis what my parents did with us! Derp!' ??


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,023 Fukuyama
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    krudler wrote: »

    I remember being in Dunnes one day a few years ago and a kid, who couldnt have been more than 4 or 5 was standing next to his mother and staring at the sweet counter, he reached over to pick up a bar or something and accidentally knocked a small stack of chewing gum or something like that, he even went "uh oh" and the cashier laughed, but his bitch of a mother grabbed him and punched him, not slapped, punched him square in the back of the head and screamed at him to not do stuff like that. Everyone around was shocked as she dragged the poor little guy away while he was roaring crying and the cashier looked close to tears herself. people like that make me fcuking sick, you do not punch kids. Couldnt help but think if that "uh oh" was more of a "I'm going to get a battering for this" expression from him.

    **** like this gets to me.

    Kids are gonna be kids. Now if he was screaming all over the place and refusing to shut the **** up like some kids so, a firm telling off and maybe a slap on the arse (not by my book though) would have been in order.

    But kids knock **** over. These things happen.

    I've also witnessed kids, the minute when they do something wrong in their parents presence automatically recoil to avoid the slap they just KNOW is coming. Sickening when you really think about the psychology behind it...


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 584 dizzywizlw
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    I was slapped, bleedin' deserved it too and I'm glad my parents did because I believe it helped me develop a better moral compass than a skaghead, which in this day and age is a good thing IMO.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,598 prinz
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    Get the very odd slap on the arse from a wooden spoon from my mother alright, could probably count them all on two hands. Contrary to the above, did it stop me doing the same thing again? Yes, you're damn right it did. That doesn't mean I didn't do other stuff that got me a smack but I definitely did not do the same things again after a wooden spoon.

    The biggest weapon in her arsenal tough was threatening us with my father (although he was the gentle giant and never lifted as much as a little finger). The wooden spoon was bad but the thought of him coming after me with it was much worse :pac:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 Dudess
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    There can be a scenario where the child is being impossible, every non physical disciplinary method is attempted, the parent is at their wits' end, and they give the child a light slap on the bum/leg/hand/arm - and they hate doing it and feel like sh1t about it, but there is no other way to get through to the child who is being extremely badly behaved and would get "Little ****ing bastard" comments from many here.

    It's disingenuous - actually ridiculous - to liken the above to cruelty, which involves beatings, torture, humiliation and a general domestic culture of fear.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,620 enfant terrible
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    Dudess wrote: »
    There can be a scenario where the child is being impossible, every non physical disciplinary method is attempted, the parent is at their wits' end, and they give the child a light slap on the bum/leg/hand/arm - and they hate doing it and feel like sh1t about it, but there is no other way to get through to the child who is being extremely badly behaved and would get "Little ****ing bastard" comments from many here.

    It's disingenuous - actually ridiculous - to liken the above to cruelty, which involves beatings, torture, humiliation and a general domestic culture of fear.

    Don't think anyone was, it was the example of a child dropping something and wincing waiting to be hit.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 starbelgrade
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    The best movie spanking scenes ever have to be the ones in "The Killer Inside Me" where Casey Affleck gets to spank the arses off both Kate Hudson and Jessica Alba.

    The lucky, fucking jammy bastard.

    Well worth downloading watching if you haven't seen it. Just keep the tissues handy as it's a very "sad" film. ;)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,311 K-9
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    Jaysus, I hated the wooden spoon.

    As for spanking:
    "Some girls do, some girls don't".

    Mad Men's Don Draper : What you call love was invented by guys like me, to sell nylons.



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,631 Hank Scorpio
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    once, and i deserved it


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,573 pragmatic1
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    Dudess wrote: »
    There can be a scenario where the child is being impossible, every non physical disciplinary method is attempted, the parent is at their wits' end, and they give the child a light slap on the bum/leg/hand/arm - and they hate doing it and feel like sh1t about it, but there is no other way to get through to the child who is being extremely badly behaved and would get "Little ****ing bastard" comments from many here.

    It's disingenuous - actually ridiculous - to liken the above to cruelty, which involves beatings, torture, humiliation and a general domestic culture of fear.
    No ones talking about parents that occassionally give their kids a little smack when all other options have been exhausted. Its parents that use smaking regularly and are excessive.

    That teaches kids that its ok to be violent to get what you want, even if the person you're hitting is much smaller than you. Also, you should respect authority figures who hit you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,710 Paully D
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    Yep I was and I deserved every one of the many I got too. Looking back it did me no harm and kept me on the straight and narrow.

    My kids will getting the same treatment if and when it's necessary, if/when I have kids.

    Too many kids get away with murder these days and soft parents who don't want to take any responsibility will look to blame it on something like ADHD. Amazingly ADHD didn't exist back in the day and similar behavior was easily solved with a smack of the wooden spoon or a similar item, what a surprise :rolleyes:


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    got the occasional smack. was deserved most of the time, but occasionally wasnt. when i have kids ill seek to remove the "occasionally wasnt" ones, but they'll still get a smack on the arse if theyre continually acting the maggot and refusing to listen to reason

    personally i think in this day and age the most effective method to deal with kids acting like brats is to take their favourite toys off them. growing up it wouldve had more impact on me to lose the snes for a week than to get a smack


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 283 pockets3d
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    Why is it deemed more appropriate to hit young infants than teenagers? Surely it should be the inverse?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,221 Greentopia
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    Was never slapped or hit in any way by my parents. They thought it was wrong. Yeah my parents were quite progressive for Irish parents in many ways and I love them for that.
    And I was a good kid, didn't turn into a spoiled brat and I grew up to be a pretty well adjusted adult. Or at least I think so :D

    Don't have kids myself-child free by choice so maybe my opinion doesn't count for much- but I don't believe in parental corporal punishment in any form.
    Lazy parenting and there's evidence that it does cause behavioral and cognitive problems in the child.

    I would favour an outright ban as it is in other countries like Sweden, Denmark, Austria and a number of others.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,620 enfant terrible
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    pockets3d wrote: »
    Why is it deemed more appropriate to hit young infants than teenagers? Surely it should be the inverse?

    And why do they stop when we are adults?, afraid they'll get a slap back the cowards.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 TeddyTedson
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    My Parents would hit me when I was acting up. If my dad was really pissed off though he'd use his belt or something. My mom used the damn wooded spoon which killed on the knuckles.
    But my Dad could often get carried away, he even boxed me in the face once and left me with a black eye(not a bad one though). But he'd always apologise later on when he'd calm down. Then anger in him would just take over though. He be caught up in it.
    I was quite the troublesome lad at times,
    but if I had kids I like to think I won't be hitting them - period.
    There's better ways to punish kid in my opinion.
    Hitting them just makes them angry and resent you.


  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 9,722 Twee.
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    Paully D wrote: »
    Too many kids get away with murder these days and soft parents who don't want to take any responsibility will look to blame it on something like ADHD. Amazingly ADHD didn't exist back in the day and similar behavior was easily solved with a smack of the wooden spoon or a similar item, what a surprise :rolleyes:

    Dragging off topic, but this **** pisses me off. ADHD is genuine. Bold kids are bold, kids with ADHD don't want to to be bold but they can't help it. How heartbreaking to hear a mother tell a child to behave, and all he can say back is "But Mammy, I don't WANT to be bold". I've lived in a home with ADHD and Tourette's, it's not always easy. My mother was heavily involved in the Tourette Syndrome Association of Ireland and I believe made a difference in so many lives. She would spend hours each day consoling mams and dads who were distraught with their kids. If the kids were just bold, they wouldn't need this help.


    Anyway on topic, I only remember getting slapped on the hand once, and I deserved it!


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